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*emini85
writes:hi ,im 22, i first met a guy 23 yrs old at the night i wnet out with my friend we locked eyes exchanged numbers.. then after few attempts of going out for a drink one day.. we finnaly made it.. he told me he had a baby by another lady .. and i seemed put off . i still fancied him but not in the relationship way as i was only after a one night stand with i think he was 2. well we kicked IT.. but only to find out he had given me an infection,after taht night we only exchanged few txt until he only txt to say we shold meet, i replied no. but enjoyd my self .. now his called to say he wants a relationship .. but he doesnt know he gave me an infection , but his sooo good looking im attracted to him..and i told him ill think bout it as im not sure.. he askd me 2 plssssssssss think or a relationship , what should i say. should i come out clean and ell him wot happnd and ..or really comfused help
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reader, gemini85 +, writes (13 September 2007):
gemini85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi guys we used protection babies.well ive been adviced to do a chck up so i found out that its a viginal thrush which is what most women have occationaly ,may have not from him maybe i reacted to the cDom.it is not serious as it is hardly contracted by male partners .. the gp suggested that also bcos i havent had sex in a while dat may be another cause but that for ur help as im taking treatment..now back to the question because of this fact question remains should i let him go.
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reader, gemini85 +, writes (13 September 2007):
gemini85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi guys we used protection babies.well ive been adviced to do a chck up so i found out that its a viginal thrush which is what most women have occationaly ,may have not from him maybe i reacted to the cDom.it is not serious as it is hardly contracted by male partners .. the gp suggested that also bcos i havent had sex in a while dat may be another cause but that for ur help as im taking treatment..now back to the question because of this fact question remains should i let him go.
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reader, jaimeamour22  +, writes (13 September 2007):
hi sorry to hear about you bad one nighter , personally if this guy has got a kid a nice std and what ever baggage he aint owrth having a relationship with , he sound like he gets around and you could end up witha broken heart another notch on the bed post and maybe landed with a kid if your not using protection , and his saying to youthink of a relationship sounds like he is a bit of a user and abuser thats a form of emotional blackmail .... but look we all make mistakes and i think you should walk away but you know anyway what you must do xxx jaime
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 TELL HIM ABOUT THE INFECTION. Why would you even need to question this, Unless you are not sure he gave it to you, and you are worried you gave it to him.
As for a relationship...no, not yet. Figure out what you would want in a partner and see if he meets that, then get to know him. I think you should both abstain from sex, as with all the precautions out there you could have used in this day and age, it happened.
However, I do not think you would be a good partner for him nor him you. The fact that you would not be honest about the STD tells me that you don't really think about other people's safety, nor your own.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (12 September 2007):
He's not good relationship material, stay away from him. By all means tell him he infected you and that for his protection as well as others he needs to get it taken care of.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (12 September 2007):
 I agree with the anonymous female reader. This guy is telling you he wants a relationship so that he can get you in bed again.Obviously this guy is bad news if he gave you an STD, you should tell him about the STD and stay away. I hope you learned your lesson, about sleeping with someone you hardly know and not using any protection. That was stupid!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): You tell him IMMEDIATELY that you got an STD from him. Both you and him need to get treated. Seeing how he deals with some other woman and whatever children he has fathered you do not need to be in a relationship with him. Just drop it. It is a ashame you were infected by him but dont over look that and still cling to him. Be more caring of yourself and stay away from him, the other women he deals with and drama with children. Don't be confused by your emotions look at what has happened by having sex with a random guy and how now your sex organs are diseased by a guy who probably knows he has something but didnt bother to tell you and i am guessing didnt even suggest a condom either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Seriously, he gave you an STD and you're afraid of telling him?? That is retarted. This guy is obviously a player. He wants sex, gives you an std, tries getting you do meet him again for sex I am sure, then you say no so he then claims he wants a relationship. He even has a baby with another woman. Player alert!! Wake up. A lot of these kind of men will say anything in attempts to get you to bed again. Also since he is soooo good looking that also adds to my assumption that he's a player. Had he mentioned that he wanted a relationship before you refused him? Him telling you that he wants a relationship after only meeting you once says it all...he's lieing.
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