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I think I'm quite blunt in my answers to the questions on here, but I think it is needed under certain circumstances.
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Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...
A. 21 July 2008: Then there's nothing stopping you :) Go for it :D
xx... (read in full...)
Is our age gap really such a big deal if I'm 23 and she's 16?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female. We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok???...
A. 21 July 2008: If it isn't a problem, don't make it a problem.
If you're both happy then go for it, but you might wanna get her to have a talk with her parents about it first.
Age is only a number.
If you act maturely about this there shouldn't be a problem.
Be... (read in full...)
I can't sleep. I can't keep calm. I can't afford to get it wrong. I can't afford to fail. What? Oh. My driving test, of course!
Q. This isnt about relationships but please help! I have my driving test on friday and im so scared becasue i cant afford to fail it, mainly because the test centre is closing down, so i wont be able to do another test there, i cant afford any more les...
A. 21 July 2008: Right. One thing is for sure. If you walk in like this you will NOT pass. I'm sorry but I'm not going to beat around the bush.
You need to listen to some soothing music, drink a warm drink with malt in it to help you sleep, eat lots of fruit, go o... (read in full...)
I get criticism for dating a white guy! Will marriage be an issue?
Q. I am an african american female. i am currently dating a white guy who i really seem to like but i get a lot of criticism from friends and family, not really bad things just teasing. His family all love me and they are the coolest people. He makes ...
A. 21 July 2008: Aww that's so great to hear :) Well done, it's not easy standing up to your family and doing what is right.
No problem, anytime!
All the best for dating and the wedding!:P
Stand by your man!
:)
Take care xx... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a man to ejaculate from anal stimulation?
Q. is it possible for a man to ejaculate from anal stimulation,if he is fingered anally?...
A. 20 July 2008: Yes, there is a g spot in a guy's anus so a lot of men find it arousing to be fingered there whilst having intercourse.
Take care x... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...
A. 20 July 2008: Hey hun... I just read another one of your questions about the copper coil.
It says in that question that when you told your boyfriend that you could be pregnant and miscarry through no fault of your own, that he went off in a huff with you and didn... (read in full...)
I get criticism for dating a white guy! Will marriage be an issue?
Q. I am an african american female. i am currently dating a white guy who i really seem to like but i get a lot of criticism from friends and family, not really bad things just teasing. His family all love me and they are the coolest people. He makes ...
A. 20 July 2008: Sorry anonymous reader underneath who says that a white person would be nailed to the cross on this site if they asked the same question because I DEFINITELY would never "nail them" and I'm absolutely POSITIVE that other aunts wouldn't do it ... (read in full...)
He only comes to see me when I have money, why can't I leave him? Is this love?
Q. I need to know why am I doing this repeated. My boyfriend, he fights with me over money, takes every penny I have to the last drop just to get what he wants. Realised now that he is married with a 1 year son and he claims to be married bcos of his s...
A. 18 July 2008: Hun, get out of there.
Realise your self worth.
If one of your friends came to you and asked what they should do, what would be your advice - the same as ours I'd expect - to leave him.
When you think of your ideal guy, I bet you wouldn't des... (read in full...)
My ex made my girlfriend think I cheated on her, what do I do?
Q. A few days ago I went exes (we're just friends now) place had a few beers and was I too wasted to drive home. I called my girlfriend to ask her give ride home. When she got to the house (she wasn't too happy that I was drunk) my ex told her come ...
A. 18 July 2008: If you didn't cheat on her and what you have said is true, the only thing you can really do now, is (like I said before) to talk to her.
When she saw you two together, it would have been a big shock to her and she would have been very very upse... (read in full...)
My ex made my girlfriend think I cheated on her, what do I do?
Q. A few days ago I went exes (we're just friends now) place had a few beers and was I too wasted to drive home. I called my girlfriend to ask her give ride home. When she got to the house (she wasn't too happy that I was drunk) my ex told her come ...
A. 17 July 2008: Firstly, why are you going round to your ex's to drink excessive amounts when you're taken? You seriously think this was a good idea in the first place especially when your girlfriend isn't there?!
It's just out of bounds to go round to your ex's... (read in full...)
The constant male attention she receives is causing me some self-confidence issues...
Q. Hello everybody, I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love very much...however the constant male attention she receives is causing me some self-confidence issues. I'm not exactly the worlds best looking bloke, so how do I deal with better lookin...
A. 16 July 2008: Emilyanswers is so right!
Whenever you see these other guys, just think to yourself " Haha losers! She's mine! She chose me!!" If she wanted another guy she'd have gone off with them wouldn't she, but she wants to be with YOU and ONLY you :)
Take ... (read in full...)
Six months dating her, do things that she likes, she does not want to have sex, as much as I do, I am feeling neglected, how do I let her know, I may go elsewhere?
Q. Been with this girl for 6 months now and sex between us has slowed down to the point that it is unhealthy. In the last month and 1/2 we had sex like 3 times. When ever I start to make an advance on her she tells me that she doesn't want to get ...
A. 16 July 2008: Have you even talked to her about this?
Have you thought that something might be upsetting her?
It may be because you're constantly trying to impose sex on her, have you thought about that?
She may not feel respected or want to give you sex beca... (read in full...)
What does 'falsetto' mean?
Q. hey!!! i got a question! what does a falsetto mean![lol] im listening to one of my favorite songs by the dream and all he mensions is how his gurl talkin in a falsetto!?!? can any one tell me plezzzzzzz!!! ...
A. 16 July 2008: It's when a guy sings, but he sings at a very high pitch... you know like the guy from the bee gees? With his really high pitched squeaky kind of voice? That's a falsetto. It's mainly guys who do it.
xx... (read in full...)
I lashed out at my son...how can I apologize?
Q. I'm really upset and don't know what to do, i just came home from work to find that my seven year old son had left his bikes outside after repeadedly telling him to bring them in when he is finished riding, and one of them ( mongoose) was stolen ...
A. 16 July 2008: I remember once when I was about seven years old and i smashed my Dad's glasses when i had a football in the house.
He did the same thing and sent me to my room and I cried the entire afternoon but then my mum came up later on to tell me that he w... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable and shy dancing at clubs!
Q. My bf keeps trying to get me to dance at clubs but I am sooo shy and scared of doing it. I don't really know how to dance at clubs either. I've tried watching other people and copying there moves but most people seem to dance 'dirty' and I don't ...
A. 16 July 2008: If you don't want to dance, you ain't gonna dance.
You should always take this kind of approach because otherwise someone will always get what they want.
Talk to your boyfriend and say that you feel a bit pressurised into doing something you don'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always stays mad at me!
Q. My b/f like says he is in love with me but he stays mad at me even over litle stuff... Is it something I'm doing??? Or am I a bad girlfriend?...
A. 16 July 2008: Yes, please give us more details and we'll be able to help you more.
I'm sure that it isn't because you're a bad girlfriend though.
xx... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 15 July 2008: Woah. What a bitch!!
She'll get what's coming to her hun, just concentrate on yourself now, you don't need people like that... I have a lot more to say on the matter but I don't think people would accept the language I would be prepared to use!... (read in full...)
Cheap boyfriend who won't share - should I just move on to someone who doesn't put money first?
Q. I am 46 and broke, my previous husband took me to the cleaners, I became homeless and had to live with another family for 6 months until I got on my feet. I have now managed to do this and have met a man who is wealthy. He won't pay for meals when ...
A. 13 July 2008: This isn't the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with is it?
A guy who doesn't care abour your welfare but his ex wife's?
Get out of their hun, you deserve better that that! You've had a rough time already with your previous husband,... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my best friend I really like him. Secondly, I'm having problems getting over my ex.
Q. The first part of the problem is that I like my best friend. He's been my best friend for a few years now and I don't know exactly how to tell him I like him, but I know I need to. The second part is that I just can't seem to get over my ex. I've ...
A. 13 July 2008: I'm not trying to be offensive or anything but I'd hold back on telling your best friend that you like him because it seems to me that you are looking for a new crush to get over your ex boyfriend.
I think you need time on your own so that you can ... (read in full...)
My best friend's ex wants me!
Q. my best friend went out with this guy who asked me out i dont know what to do should i say yes or no , will it wreck my friendship?...
A. 13 July 2008: Hey,
If you think there is a risk of your friendship being wrecked if you go out with this guy, I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't even mention it to your friend.
I would tell this guy that you don't want to risk ruining yout friendship with so and s... (read in full...)
His girlfriend doesn't treat him right. Do you think I have a chance with him?
Q. I am a curious about this man i have been talking too, he is finalizing his divorce, and he has three kids, and he lives with his girlfriend whom does not treat him right, he caters to her and she just doesn't treat him right, with us talking and ...
A. 13 July 2008: I agree with LazyGuy.
Well, let's face it, this guy doesn't seem to have a very good track record with women does he?
I see that you repeat the fact that "his girlfriend doesn't treat him right". Do you have an evidence of this? Or atleast an examp... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 13 July 2008: What she said was extremely insensitive and heartless - I probably would have reacted in the same way.
I would maybe try to talk to your friend and say something like "I'm sorry for slapping you, but what you said was really insensitive and inap... (read in full...)
What is a safe time frame, to have sex without a condom, after your period?
Q. Is doing sex after 21 days of periods safe without condom? ...
A. 13 July 2008: I would suggest that you use one anyway. There is always the risk of pregnancy, even when you're on your period.
It's better to be safe than sorry.
Take care xx... (read in full...)
I'm auditioning for a play, any advice to calm down nerves?
Q. Hey, It's not a relationship problem but I was wondering whether anyone had any advice for calming nerves and to feel confident as I'm auditioning for Les Miserables this evening!! Any advice would be great! ...
A. 12 July 2008: Thank you all for the advice, the audition went well and I really enjoyed the experience. All your help really encouraged me thank you :)
xxx... (read in full...)
This guy wants me to send him naked pictures of me
Q. this guy wants me to send him pictures either nude or somewhat nude i dont want to be nude at all not even in bra and underwear i really like himm but i dont want to do it. what do i do?...
A. 12 July 2008: If he's a decent guy, he'll understand when you say that you don't feel comfortable sending him pictures of you. If he gets angry or horrible about it, then you know that this guy's an *sshole.
Have you told him that you don't like the idea of it? ... (read in full...)
I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend does not want to stop having sex...
Q. Im 17 and my bf is 23. i am 7 months pregnant and he does not want to stop having sex. i get tired and just wanna be loved. be4 i got pregnant we would have sex 5 times a day and he loved it but i cant do it anymore. hes the only person im allowed ...
A. 11 July 2008: Sorry to be blunt, but you shouldn't have brought a baby into this world if this guy is as controlling as you have said he is.
However, I will not dwell on this point.
I don't think it's the fact that he sees you as a silly kid that is causing ... (read in full...)
My friend hates my boyfriend. I have to choose.
Q. Hi. My friend made me dump my b/f because she made it clear she plain hates! him. I love him, but i'm torn i half now, not knowing i have him. I hate choseing! Friend or boyfriend, friend or boyfriend?!?!!? aaaaahhahahahahahahhhhhhh!!!!!!...
A. 10 July 2008: I would usually say that friends come first no question but under these circumstances, this is not what I'm going to say.
If she was a true friend, she would not make you decide between her and your boyfriend.
How does your relationship with thi... (read in full...)
We're far apart. He gave me a teddy bear with his aftershave on it! What can I give him to help him remember me?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 7 mouths who I met at University. We are both really happy and have a good strong relationship together. We are both on holiday from university for the summer (four months long). The hard thing is we both live very far apart ...
A. 8 July 2008: Any time :D xxx... (read in full...)
We're far apart. He gave me a teddy bear with his aftershave on it! What can I give him to help him remember me?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 7 mouths who I met at University. We are both really happy and have a good strong relationship together. We are both on holiday from university for the summer (four months long). The hard thing is we both live very far apart ...
A. 8 July 2008: You could do yeah, spray it with your perfume ( nothing too strong and don't put too much on it! haha)
I'm sure he'll love anything you give him and I'm sure that he'll love the book.
xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told his family I cheated on him, when it was the opposite, now they treat me badly, help?
Q. SORRY ITS SO LONG BUT PLEASE READ! im really confused about whether its a good idea to stay woth my boyfriend, we were together for 2 and a hlaf years and then 1 night i was out with my friends when one of my boyfriends friends came up to me showi...
A. 8 July 2008: Right, I'm going to be honest with you and I really hope I don't cause offence.
It seems to me that this relationship is based on a pile of lies and deceit and I'm not sure whether you can actually move on from this.
I'm sure that when you think of... (read in full...)
Why would he cry over me asking if he's cheated?
Q. hello everyone, The other day, i asked my boyfriend, if he has ever cheated on me or even thought about cheating on me. For some odd reason he started crying, and said he would never ever cheat on me. But for some reason i cant help to think th...
A. 7 July 2008: I have a friend who used to do this to his gilfriend and he made her very insecure and in the end they split because of it.
I have a little bit of further advice for you if you would like it...
I think that you maybe should talk to him a bit more... (read in full...)
Which boy should I reject? My ex or this other guy?
Q. there is this guy that i like and he also likes me. we make each other laugh all the time and we always hang out. But there is this other guy that i was going out with in the past and he says we still go out but i don't really like him as much as i ...
A. 6 July 2008: I think you know the answer here hun, you should go with the one you feel most comfortable with and it seems to me that you'd like to be with the other guy rather than your ex.
If your ex is a player and that's not what you want, then don't get with... (read in full...)
We're far apart. He gave me a teddy bear with his aftershave on it! What can I give him to help him remember me?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 7 mouths who I met at University. We are both really happy and have a good strong relationship together. We are both on holiday from university for the summer (four months long). The hard thing is we both live very far apart ...
A. 5 July 2008: I like your idea, you could make a kind of photo book with a few pictures in it of both of you and write down some memories in it or some times that you found funny or some romantic moments and how you feel about him? And then you could decorate it ... (read in full...)
Why would he cry over me asking if he's cheated?
Q. hello everyone, The other day, i asked my boyfriend, if he has ever cheated on me or even thought about cheating on me. For some odd reason he started crying, and said he would never ever cheat on me. But for some reason i cant help to think th...
A. 5 July 2008: From what you have said, it would seem to me that he is very upset at the fact that you asked him about it and that you don't seem to trust him.
If he really had cheated, I think he would have been very defensive and angry - this is quite of... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Yay! Way to go, Andrew :)
Woop! Well done everyone!
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x... (read in full...)
My ex said I was too clingy...we messed around...and now he says he "kinda" likes me. What does this mean?
Q. Hello, Recently, my ex broke up with me in May. Yes, he dumped me because he thought I was scary (-_-), and We've been talking for awhile and became friends. Now, Its June, and I came to his house yesterday for help in math. I don't know why b...
A. 29 June 2008: Sounds to me like he's using you, hun.
I've been here before, it seems that he's just seeing how far he can go with you. If he did like you surely he would have said "Yeah, I like you a lot... how would you feel if we went out again?" or some... (read in full...)
What could this blood mean when I go to the bathroom?
Q. ah, so i was going to the bathroom and when i whiped there was blood on the toilet paper. i kept whiping and there was more blood. it wasn't even like red, it was more orangish. what could this be? i just finished my period yesterday so it can't be ...
A. 29 June 2008: Don't worry, it's just your period ending. It sometimes appears to stop and then come back very light (hence the lighter colour) for a day or something. It's natural so try not to worry about it! :)
Take care xx... (read in full...)
I am really unhappy when my boyfriend compared my looks and figure with movie actresses!
Q. I am really unhappy when my boyfriend compared my looks and figure with movie actresses. He complains that my boobs are small. I recently found out that he is always checking out movie actresses after we have watched the shows. He told me cos they ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hey,
As the others have said - get rid of this w*nker.
You're not happy in this relationship so why stay with him when you can be with someone who will treat you so much better? If he disappoints you and puts you down all the time, realise ... (read in full...)
I am obsessed about my appearance since I have been cheated on! Worried I might develop an eating disorder...
Q. since my boyfriend slept with another girl and we split up and got back together i have found myself constantly obsessing about my looks, before i see him i will make sure i look the best i possibly can even when we are doing things that require me ...
A. 26 June 2008: People who cheat often have a problem with themselves and it's rarely that it's because they've gone off their current gf/bf.
I don't think you should be with this guy. You clearly go out of your way to please some who cheated on you - why try ... (read in full...)
I was raped by my father's boss, what do I do?
Q. Please someone has to help me. I can't live with this anymore. when i was 10 I was raped by my Fathers Boss. His boss is also one of his good friends. My Dad and his co-workers had a party to celebrate their works aniversary. All my Dads fr...
A. 26 June 2008: I would suggest you talk to someone at your school - a teacher or a school counsellor. They will probably contact social services and they will talk to your Dad about what happened.
What ever you do, don't keep this to yourself. This guy could go a... (read in full...)
How can I built up my self confidence?
Q. Can anyone tell me how to work on my self-confidence and build up my self-esteem so that the next relationship or person that I date, I can believe myself as lovable and therefore make it work?...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi there,
I had the same kind of problem a few years ago and what really helped me is this:
Every day, look in the mirror and say or think
"I'm happy with the way I look, if anyone has a problem with that, then it's their problem and NOT ... (read in full...)
I want to go clubbing, but I'm not quite 18, help, please.
Q. I want to go clubbing, I'm 18 in one month, but all my friends are 18, In a month they wont be here, we are all goin away, so i do not want to miss out. Have you guys got any ideas how i can get in?...
A. 24 June 2008: I'm 17 and I got into a club last weekend, I didn't get asked for ID either.
Maybe you should all try and get into some clubs and see how far you get. If the guy at the door doesn't let you in, go to another place and keep trying.
Act confiden... (read in full...)
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