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writes:My bf keeps trying to get me to dance at clubs but I am sooo shy and scared of doing it. I don't really know how to dance at clubs either. I've tried watching other people and copying there moves but most people seem to dance 'dirty' and I don't want to dance like that.Any advice???
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (16 July 2008):
 Do you like clubs, but just can't dance or would you rather go somewhere else?
There's no point being there,if you can't have fun!
Just relax and enjoy the music, stand with your boyfriend and let your body respond to the music.
You could dance 'dirty' with your boyfriend, but if you're not comfortable with it, just bob and sway! The aim is to relax and have fun, if it doesn't work, suggest other ways of socialising and going out.
Is it worth trying clubs that play a different type of music, maybe one you could dance to without feeling you have to dance dirty to look like you dance well?
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reader, Tremor +, writes (16 July 2008):
 It does take a bit of time to warm up to the whole dancing scene. I still get a bit self concious about it, but it is fun once you loosen up a bit.
Don't worry about dancing dirty - I'm not keen on it either. Come and join the ranks of the 'flailers'! Just wave your arms about a bit and kinda bob up and down. It's worked for me.
And don't fret about how you look doing it or what people will think - remember that there is probably someone more drunk and more entertaining than your dancing could ever be.
Good luck!
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reader, bubbloo24  + ♥, writes (16 July 2008):
 If you don't want to dance, you ain't gonna dance.
You should always take this kind of approach because otherwise someone will always get what they want.
Talk to your boyfriend and say that you feel a bit pressurised into doing something you don't want to.
Don't do something because he wants you to do it. He doesn't control you.
Just talk to him about it, if he's a decent guy then I'm sure he'll understand and if he does get in a mood with you, then he obviosuly doesn't respect you at all and you should consider whether you want to stay in this kind of relationship.
Take care hun, i'm sure he'll understand :)
xx
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