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I'm 18 years old and I live on the Isle of Man :)
In my group of friends, I'm the person they turn to if they have a problem and I try to be there for them as much as possible.
I think I'm quite blunt in my answers to the questions on here, but I think it is needed under certain circumstances.
I have had couselling in the past, but I had bad experiences with cousellors who didn't know what they were doing. So I've learnt from their mistakes and I know how to talk to/help people.
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My friend got naked at a party to show my husband what a great body she has
Q. I used to think my husband and i were quite strong and that he loved me but now i am not so sure we had a party and my friend came, she has lost a lot of weight and looks real good now i on the other hand am over weight i am trying to lose it ...
A. 10 July 2007: Totally TOTALLY agree with Stina, ditch that friend!!
xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lump in he testical
Q. Does anybody believe in fate? I never until last week. I had a dream that my boyfriend died of testicular cancer, so the next time i saw him i decided to have a feel of his testicles to check that nothing was there and to my horror i found a hard ...
A. 10 July 2007: well, he needs to go the doctors as soon as possible, it's best to get it sorted and diagnosed sooner rather than later. You're doing the right thing by making him go to the doctors, just be there for him.
It could be a cyst, but it could be some... (read in full...)
I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?
Q. I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...
A. 9 July 2007: You should be proud of yourself, not many people have got that far without being pressured into sex at a young age.
I think you are doing the right thing and waiting to be with someone who you truely love.
Do it when you want to do it, not when oth... (read in full...)
Been in touch with a guy on the internet and after week hes' told me he loves me!
Q. hi evry body i have just know a boy from internet and after a week he told me that he love me shod i bleave him or not ?...
A. 9 July 2007: Hun, this guy's a creep. I'm sure that he's just saying it to gain your trust.
I say get rid... I honestly think that it wouldn't be wise to hang about with him.. I think he's out to cause trouble.
Take care xx... (read in full...)
Who do I feel attraction to gay guys? (when I'm female!)
Q. As far as I am aware, I am straight. However, over the last few years, I have started to realise a pattern in the people I feel attracted to. They are, more often than not, gay. I'm entirely for gays and see nothing wrong with it, but this is ...
A. 9 July 2007: A lot of people like watching these kind of videos.
It's nothing to worry about lovely, people find a certain attraction in this kind of thing, if that's what you want to do, then carry on. It's not up to anyone else.
I think that when you meet a n... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but I've had this crush on a female co-worker for a long time.
Q. I'm happily married but I've had this crush on a female co-worker for a long time. How do I make it go away? ...
A. 8 July 2007: Remind yourself of how happy your relationship with your wife is. This is just a crush, this is all it is, don't let a crush get in the way.
You took the vows of marriage with this woman, don't break them because of a crush.
Take care. xx... (read in full...)
I'm 27, he's 22. Is there a problem?
Q. hello, i met a nice young man who is 22 years old he is mentally mature and understands me he tells me that he likes me and wants a future with me.I like him too and we both like the same things .But iam 27 do you think the age difference is a ...
A. 8 July 2007: Nope. I don't think that this is a problem at all, if you're happy, then don't let other people's thoughts get in the way of that happiness.
Lots of age difference relationships work out.
My parents have been together for 26 years and they are 13 y... (read in full...)
Who do I feel attraction to gay guys? (when I'm female!)
Q. As far as I am aware, I am straight. However, over the last few years, I have started to realise a pattern in the people I feel attracted to. They are, more often than not, gay. I'm entirely for gays and see nothing wrong with it, but this is ...
A. 8 July 2007: Dr Pete said it all really. It's not uncommon, a fe wof my female friends have found themselves attracted to gay guys.
maybe you should look for a guy who's bi???
xx take care xx... (read in full...)
My head feels weird. Should I get it checked out?
Q. I have this odd feeling on the side of my head (temporalis). I dont think it is a headache. It feels like this odd feeling is pumping and moving around. When I walk and talk I could feel it. I was wondering what should I do? What is it? Should I be ...
A. 8 July 2007: Yeah, I think you need to go see your gp about it just to be safe.
Take care, try not to worry.
xx... (read in full...)
She pushes me away when her Dad's around.
Q. hi..my girlfriend is really close to her dead beat dad that probably wouldn't be around if it wasn't court ordered, and treats her older sister like shes nothing....she pushes me away when hes around treats me like im nothing when hes around and yes ...
A. 8 July 2007: Sit her down and talk to her about it without yelling.
She needs to know how you feel about it all.
If she doesn't stop when you've talked to her about it, I don't think she'll stop doing it and in that case you need to decide whether you want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admited that he thinks his previous crush is cute and that he still likes her!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are together for a month. But I am having a problem about him. It's because my boyfriend admited that he thinks his previous crush is cute and that he still likes her! And, I totally agree with him because his previous crush is ...
A. 8 July 2007: I think you should end it... If he has feelings for someone else and you are still together it's gonna get really rocky and ythere will be a lot of arguements ahead of you. For example - you'll wonder where he is, what he's up to all the time etc.
A... (read in full...)
How big of an age gap do you think is too big? I'm seeing a guy who's 25 years older.
Q. Just a quick question, How big of an age gap do you think is too big? I am seeing some one 25 years older than me.. is the difference too much?...
A. 7 July 2007: As the others have said, you're happiness is the only thing that matters. It doesn't matter what we think or what anyone thinks. My parents have been together for 26 years and they have a large age gap.
I'm with someone who's quite a bit older than... (read in full...)
I always need to be in a relationship... why?
Q. I'm the kind of girl who always needs to be in a long-term relationship (meaning I'm scared to be alone!). I realize this about myself but don't understand it... why am I like this? Why do I neglect maintaining friendships with others and spend ...
A. 3 July 2007: I used to be like this, you need time alone to re discover yourself. Spend a few months being single and work out that you don't need someone to feel secure.
Remember - you lasted before you started dating and now you can do it again. When you'... (read in full...)
Three nights ago he found out my age, now he's barely talking to me! Is he worth it?
Q. Heres the situation. Im 18 and I've been talkin to a guy online, we met last week and we got on real well. He's 32. I spoke to him 3 nights ago and he found out that I was 18. I've been texting him and talking to him online a bit but he's ba...
A. 29 June 2007: I think what rhythmandblues2 says is right, there is a huge age difference.
I think you should back off a bit coz it would seem that he doesn't like the idea of going out with someone so young.
Take care.x ... (read in full...)
We keep arguing, he clicks his fingers and I run back. What can I do?
Q. Hi guys i have an issue with my boyfriend...weve been together for nearly 2years and well he likes to be in denial about our arguments..but all we do is argue and im sick of it. Its complicated because i can get over things quite quickly because i ...
A. 29 June 2007: Time to end it by the sounds of things lovely.
I know it's hard, believe me, I know! But if you're constantly arguing and you're waiting around for him until he tells you to come back isn't a very happy or healthy relationship is it??
You don't wa... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be in a long distance relationship with someone you've never actually met?
Q. umm, my question is...is it strange to be in a relationship with someone you have never met?? i'v been in a relationship since august 2005 and we have yet to meet but are completely in love with each other. i think it is rididculous but at the same...
A. 29 June 2007: Nope, it's not strange... I happen to be in the same kind of relationship but I'm going to meet up with him next week.
Maybe arrange a date or go on holiday and meet up???
I think it would help your relationship and I think that it would be excit... (read in full...)
Is she serious about not wanting relationships? She flirts a lot
Q. I have friend who 53, she is a single mother and I have known her for 10 years. She is stunning and easily taken for 30'sh. We both decided long ago that we didn't want a romantic relationship with anyone anymore and have been happy with a close, ...
A. 29 June 2007: She's probably just having fun! She's single, she's allowed to flirt around and get some guys to chase her!!
I think she means it I think she's just probably having a bit of fun :)
Take care x... (read in full...)
If I dump him, no one will be my friend - but I don't love him.
Q. elloo I have been with my boyfriend for ages now. And it's the 5th time I've dumped him and I got back with him 3 days ago and i don't love him. But if i dump him nobody will be my friend. please help me quick xxx...
A. 28 June 2007: You can't just drag the guy along because you're afraid of what people will think.
Get it over with now so that he can recover from it quicker and if your friends go off you then they arn't understanding about the fact that you weren't in a happ... (read in full...)
I want to invite my friend to my wedding, but her partner is a pervert!
Q. Hi am 23 and getting married next year. I have a friend of mine who is in her 40's and I am very fond of her and of course due to this, invited her to my wedding. But the only problem is her partner. He's what you'd call a 'TitsPervert'. I was at a...
A. 28 June 2007: If he's getting too close, maybe you should speak to your friend about it. She's probably unaware to the fac that he's being like this with you and I think she should be warned.
Take her to one side and just tell her the truth, she should beli... (read in full...)
My best friend and her other friend leave me out. What can I do?
Q. hii im really depressed at the moment because my bes friend has got another friend who is really close to her they leave me out on things and i feel as if im not wanted i really like my best friend but am really depressed as i am not able to go ...
A. 28 June 2007: Take your best friend to one side and just say "Look, I'm feeling really left out at the moment, I feel like you don't want to hang out with me. If that's the case then just tell me" and she should understand if she's the best friend you think she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont buy my car, but I think she should
Q. I recently suggested to my girlfriend that she could buy my car off me in about a year or so when she has passed her test. She hasn't even started learning yet. The car itself is in perfect condition and everyone who sees it wished they had a car ...
A. 28 June 2007: If she don't want the car, she don't want the car, get someone else to buy your car. I'm sure if it's in the condition you say it's in you could find a willing buyer but don't try to force your girlfriend into buying yours if she's not interested, ... (read in full...)
I feel left out because all my mates have boyfriends.
Q. Well... i dont really have a problem but i really want a bf! i no its daft but all my mates have one and i am startin to feel left out! i dont want one but i think i need one to fit in! i feel stupid writin this but hey thats what your here for!...
A. 28 June 2007: Hey lovely,
I know how you feel, I think everyone's been there but now's the time to tell yourself that you don't need a man to be happy.
Count yourself lucky, relationships can be more trouble then they're worth, I can assure you that a lot of t... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and my period has stopped. What should I do?
Q. I have never had sex so why havent i had my periods for nearly 3 months now why?...
A. 28 June 2007: If you haven't actually started having any periods so far, don't worry coz it will come but for some people it can take them till their 18 to start, it varies.
If you have already started having periods and they have just stopped, I think you shou... (read in full...)
I'm continually nasty to her but I want to try our relationship again
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. After an initial period of no contact we started to meet up on occassion and had a friends with benefits relationship. We discussed our relationship and why it failed and if we could rekindle it. After a ...
A. 27 June 2007: You apologised by text? You verbally abuse her in the past and you apologise by text??
You need to go up to her and tell her how sorry you are, only then will you have a small chance.
If you want any chance at all, apologising to her in person i... (read in full...)
My ex is clinging to me; how do I tactfully create some distance?
Q. My ex still tells me he loves, wants to get back together, wants to come and visit and so forth. He knows how I feel. He countinues to tell me he loves me, wants to get back together and the process continues. I still love him but not enough to ...
A. 27 June 2007: Carina is right, you need to tell him straight off, you have to be cruel to be kind in this case otherwise he'll still think he's got a chance. You need to sit him down and say " I'm sorry but we will not get back together, we can't go on like this ... (read in full...)
Broke up with him because the sex was too painful... should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I broke it off with my boyfriend because sex with him was extremely painful. It was my first time and i felt he was not as gentle as i would have liked him to be. We never even kissed for he said he hates kissing and there was no fore play. wh...
A. 26 June 2007: I think it's time to leave him hun.
I believe that every relationship should be about a little bit of physical contact without it being sexual.
Every girl and most guys love just a little cuddle on the sofa or something, if you leave him, you can ... (read in full...)
Is the build up to sex supposed to get "comfortable" rather than exciting?
Q. Im 19 and i was just wondering if its common for people of all ages to find the build up to sex 'comfortable' rather than excitting and 'film like'?...
A. 26 June 2007: I'd say.. a bit of both...
It really depends on what makes it happen for you.
It's got to be comfortable in the way that it's not too much to start off with and it's not painful!
And exciting.. well it's a build up, not full throttle to begin wit... (read in full...)
Is it true that women don't like sex?
Q. I carry this predisposition about women that they don't like men, sex and any kind of male intimacy. May be based on my mom's attitude. Also i find it inadequate if the women i am having sex with doesn't like it or has a negative impression about it ...
A. 26 June 2007: Women enjoy sex when it's wanted and usually when it's with someone who shows them respect. Some women have been treated badly by men and therefore have the feeling that all men are like that.
However, there are many who don't think this and I thin... (read in full...)
I'm leaving town so I won't need to see them together. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. for the past few weeks i have been heart broken because i was dumped by a man who has decided to go back to the woman he got pregnant because he says it is the right thing to do because he wants his child to grow up with a mom and dad and not that ...
A. 26 June 2007: I've been there lovely, but you can't keep running away from it. I know it's hard but I don't think leaving town is the best thing for you.
I WOULD say however, maybe you should go on a holiday? get your mind back into gear, discover yourself agai... (read in full...)
My fiance wants sex every night and gets angry when I don't provide!
Q. dear cupid, i am in trouble. my fiance wants to have sex every night, and if i don't feel like having sex he gets really mad and it makes me so unhappy. it's not that i don't love him because i am very much in love with him, but sometimes i am t...
A. 25 June 2007: It's all about respect in a relationship and obviously he doesn't respect your wishes when you don't want to have sex.
I think you should find someone who deserves you hun, I know it's hard but leave him, I don't believe he cares for you enou... (read in full...)
I don't want to waken up in the morning and the guy I'm with thinks "oh my god" because I don't have my make up on! Help!
Q. I'm not braggin or anyfin but i do find myself quite attractive...dat is after a WHOLE HOUR in the morning doin my hair and make-up! The fing is, i'm obsessed wiv looking good, as most female teenagers are - in takin care wiv their appearan...
A. 25 June 2007: Hun, if they're decent enough, they won't care!!
xx... (read in full...)
He said he had an affair because he thought I was having one
Q. Hi, I really need some advice! I recently found out that my husband of 16 years-married since we were both 21-has been cheating on me for 6-7 months with someone I know( a mother up at our local school)-we have 2 children. He said because he felt I ...
A. 24 June 2007: WOAH! Time to get rid!!!
You don't have an affair coz you think your other half is having one!
I know it's probably hard but he's messed up big time on this one.
I really don't think this guy is worth it, I mean, if you thought he was having an af... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about losing my virginity but I feel pressured by my friends
Q. Im still a virgin at 14 but recently, all my friends have been losing it and I'm beginning to feel left out. I know you shouldn't give in to peer pressure but they go as far as to say "Put your hand up if your a virgin" and I find only I raise my ...
A. 24 June 2007: Be proud of it sweetheart!! Save it for someone you truely love. Don't give a toss about what anyone else does or what they say. It's your life and if they're gonna make you feel so left out like that then they're not good friends. They should ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with my best friend but he has a girlfriend
Q. i have fallen in love with my best friend we have been sleeping together for 4 months but he has a girlfriend what should i do...
A. 24 June 2007: Sorry hun, time to take the reality pill. He's using you. All guys like the idea of having two girls and this is exactly what he's getting. He's using you for extra sex - not because he has feelings for you.
Time to get rid of him. You and his part... (read in full...)
My ex left me with a lame excuse--now I need to get over him. Help!
Q. Hi, I need advice on how to get over my ex boyfriend, Jamie. He was my first love and two days ago he told me we 'lived too far apart' (he goes to school in my town but lives about a half hour away) and we could still be friends. It was actually the ...
A. 24 June 2007: I'm sorry to hear about this lovely, but he's not worth your tears. If he was man enough, he would have told you the truth ages ago. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "I'm worth more than that" because you are!
Visualise a box, put ever... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of getting my heart broken!
Q. Boy trouble! I really like this boy and I think he likes me to, but I don't want my heart to be broken again. If you were in this situation what would you do? Please help! ...
A. 24 June 2007: Life is full of risks lovely, I would say tell him how you feel. If he's as decent as you think he is, then it won't affect the relationship at all if he doesn't have the same feelings for you. If it does make him turn away by telling him then he's ... (read in full...)
I was a virgin and now he wants to be f*** buddies! I'm so confused, please help!
Q. I just lost my virginity early yesterday morning roughly 4am (we were at a wedding before). I really liked him and I met him briefly before. It wasn't sore but I bled a little--I didn't tell him I was a virgin...do you think he might have known? ...
A. 24 June 2007: As yummy mummy said - If you want a guy who's commited, don't go down that route. Keep in mind that he's only using you for your body and that he doesn't actually have respect for you as a human being.
I suggest that you stay away from this guy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 17 years older than I--I worry about how other people see us!
Q. I'm dating a man 17 years older than me. I really like this guy but sometimes I wonder how people view us as a couple. I think it personally doesn't matter but I would like to know what other peoples' views on this are? ...
A. 24 June 2007: My parents have 13 years in age difference and they've been together for 26 years!! A lot of relationships with age differences work out better than relationships with a small age difference. Not really sure why but it seems that way!
Don't worr... (read in full...)
I might be a little bit taller than the guy I like--is this a problem?
Q. I met this guy yesterday and I really like him. I think we may be the same height or I'm just a tiny bit taller. But people always say that it looks stupid when the girl is taller than the boy. I'm really worried that I'll grow even more, and beco...
A. 24 June 2007: Hun, if it's only a tiny bit of height difference, I assure you that probably no one has even noticed!! I know a few couples who are like that and no one says anything because they know that they are happy together!
At the start of the rela... (read in full...)
My mother thinks the waiter likes me--what do I do now?
Q. I go to this restaurant all the time and I always see this young waiter that works there, who is about the same age as I--17 going on 18. Well, my mom keeps saying that he is always looking at me, and seems glad when he sees me there. My mom says...
A. 24 June 2007: Maybe you should go up to him while he's walking somewhere near your table and just say " hey, can we have some more drinks over here? sorry, what's your name?" and then when he says his name just say "Oh hey nice to meet you _____, I'm ____" maybe ... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 23 June 2007: I wanna go to London!!! I'm going there anyway soon hopefully! whoop!!
Go on Andrew, be the friend we all think you are!!
hehehe!!
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: HAHA Dr pete!!
He better do or I'm not goin!!
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: Andrew's it is then!!
Sounds fun!
I'll bring the wine!
x
PS I wanna see Andrew's reply to all this haha... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: Ace idea!!! I'm in!... (read in full...)
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