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Q. I love my fiance very much but thought keep entering my head about cheating on her with my ex or one of her friends. I dont know what to do? I love my fiance very much, we've been together for almost 7 months now and i asked her to marry me a co...
A. 13 June 2007: Mate, you got all the time in the world!
Get married to her if you want, but if you have only been seeing her for a short while, I'd say wait a bit longer. It's better to wait for a while incase things slip out of hand.
Just MPO. Good luck x... (read in full...)
Hooked up sex-wise with a guy on myspace... but it turns out he is married and has kids (his wife called me)!!!
Q. OKK, please dont label me as a homewrecker or a slut.. I recently got out of the army and i met this guy on myspace, i know pathetic, but he seemed really nice. In fact, he is better than nice, i think hes perfect(besides the whole cheating thing) ...
A. 13 June 2007: A MAN WHO SAID HE'S ONLY GOT 1 KID WHEN HE HAS THREE?! A MAN WHO LIED TO YOU? A MAN WHO CHEATED ON HIS WIFE?! You think this guy is WORTH IT?! Where do his priorities lie?
You want to be with this guy? he'll do EXACTLY what he did to his CURR... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend wants to get back into my life...
Q. My ex boyfriend have been trying to stay in contact with me. I answer his phone calls and I return his phone calls. He wants to get back together, still tells me he loves me and he apologizes for hurting me. I have moved on with my life along with ...
A. 13 June 2007: Well hun, in my opinion, a guy who hurts you ain't wroth it. But if you really and I mean REALLY want to get back with him, he needs to get his priorities right - which means that you need to tell him that the only way he's gonna get even close to ... (read in full...)
what do I do or tell her?
Q. My best friend is making me mad she always ask me if I'm seeing anybody and I'm afraid to tell her I am because she always wants there numbers then she will call them and it feels weird what do I do or tell her?...
A. 12 June 2007: Tell her your seeing someone but that you ain't gonna give her their number because you really like this guy and you don't want anything standing in the way of it.
You really need to tell her not to call them or talk to them anyway coz it just ain'... (read in full...)
I met this girl about 4 months ago and got to know her really well, and decided to ask her out. Unfortunately for me, I didn't know somebody else did, too.
Q. I met this girl about 4 months ago and got to know her really well, and decided to ask her out. Unfortunately for me, I didn't know somebody else did, too. She came clean with me though, and told me how she really didn't like this other guy, but ...
A. 12 June 2007: Tell her that when she feels really down and feels like cutting, to ring you and talk about it. You can talk to her and cheer her up. I used to cut myself but when I started ringing someone I trusted, it helped me through it and helped me to stop ... (read in full...)
What is your advice for how I might fix this neither are taking my calls.
Q. I have a good mate Todd who came to see me and told me he had fallen out with one of his best mates, Carl. He does not know this but Carl and I have seen each other casually for 2 years. Carl visited me and told me he had argued with Todd, but he ...
A. 12 June 2007: I would suggest leaving them both to cool down for a bit. They need time to sort it out themselves.
Maybe just text them both and say " look, I'm sorry about what I said, but like I said, I don't want to be in the middle here, thats all. I will... (read in full...)
Why is my ex suddenly contacting me?
Q. So, now my ex and I are at a point where I've tried getting over her and i was slightly successful (very recent breakup). But out of no where she begins to contact me once or twice a day for about 6 days straight. I'm here thinking, oh my god, maybe ...
A. 12 June 2007: I should think that she's telling your mates "I'm giving him distance to get over me" so that they don't think she's still hurting after the break up.
I reckon that she is saying this because she WANTS you to still like her ( as every girl want... (read in full...)
Pregnant and with a guy who wants me one minute and not the next! Any advice?
Q. my boyfriend of two years has been treating me like crap and telling me he doesnt want to be with me anymore...then when i am packing and just about ready to leave he cries to me and tells me that he was just mad and that he is really sorry! i am ...
A. 11 June 2007: He may just be stressed out about having another child.
Has he been like this before?
I say sit him down and talk to him about it. Say you don't know where you stand which is even more emotionally difficult because your hormones are all over the... (read in full...)
She's an online gf..is it possible to be in love with her as we have never even met??
Q. Heya guys, I love this gal but have neva met her. i chat to her on the fone and stuff but i have no idea of what she is like in real life so i guess my question is can i be in love with some1 i have never met ? Is it possible ? I'll be very grat...
A. 11 June 2007: Hey no problem! that's why we're here!
I suggest you tell your parents that she's coming to stay over or they will go nuts! But in answer to your question I think you should say to your parents that she's a pen friend maybe?
I'm sorry I don't pe... (read in full...)
He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...
A. 11 June 2007: Get outta there sweetness. No matter what you did wrong it should never result in violence.... (read in full...)
Feel scared of loving... any help?
Q. Can anyone tell me why do I feel so scared of loving another person? Is it because I have been hurt before? How should I go about solving this problem?...
A. 11 June 2007: Hunny, I think we've all been there. You just need to get more confident about yourself.
Tell yourself, you are worth more than any man.
If you act confident, you will get more boys attracted to you.
You just need to push your past behind you. ... (read in full...)
He says to me "I wish you were dead"... !
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs calls me names like schizo, stupid, and sometimes when he really tempers up he says " I wish you were dead". He had agression and anger problems, and it flares up on me because I dont stand up for myself and I keep it all ...
A. 11 June 2007: Eyeswideopen is right. Find someone who'll respect you. Get outta there girl. x Good luck x... (read in full...)
Can't stand my daughter's boyfriend... !
Q. I can't stand the sight or sound of my daughter's new boyfriend. She is 23, he is 21. How should I handle it with my daughter without pushing her into his life?...
A. 11 June 2007: Sorry doll, but she needs to make her own mistakes and learn from this on this one.
Unfortunatly, when someone says to another person who's in a relationship " he's not right for you" or " you know it won't last" they automatically say to them... (read in full...)
She's an online gf..is it possible to be in love with her as we have never even met??
Q. Heya guys, I love this gal but have neva met her. i chat to her on the fone and stuff but i have no idea of what she is like in real life so i guess my question is can i be in love with some1 i have never met ? Is it possible ? I'll be very grat...
A. 11 June 2007: It may be that you love the person you think she is, try not to get too wound into it. It is possible, but remember that you are only seein the outside picture.
Take care and have fun!
x... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me for my best friend about 3 weeks ago and I cannot get over her.
Q. My girlfriend dumped me for my best friend about 3 weeks ago and I cannot get over her........i still feel jealous, and kinda mad toward my friend....and I do not know how to get over her....I still love her and this hurts....her going out with my ...
A. 10 June 2007: HE'S NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND.
He would NOT go out with your ex if he was a good enough friends and he would care more about you.
You're worth more than that. You need to realise that they both abused your trust and have used you.
Ditch them. Tell t... (read in full...)
I think my gf is cheating on me. she takes her cell phone everywhere she goes, to the bathroom, even in the shower.
Q. I think my gf is cheating on me. she takes her cell phone everywhere she goes, to the bathroom, even in the shower. when i got the chance t look through her phone i saw text messages to another guy. now she claims that her and this guy are just ...
A. 10 June 2007: No. This is the part where you say to your girlfriend - if you don't stop textin this boy, then I don't want you in my life. She's taking advantage of your trust. She may claim to be " friends" with this guy but you don't text another guy while your ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me for another woman but he still keeps coming on to me for sex!
Q. hi im a first time user on here but just wanted to ask my exfiancee of 6 yrs has left me for another woman. he was open and honest about things he told be he had feelings for her and couldnt be with me. we have 2 young children together which h...
A. 10 June 2007: We can't say whether the relationship will last hun.
But this is where you need to put your foot down. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. You are being used. He is only coming back for your body. Tell him to come and see the kids all he wants but you will NOT be u... (read in full...)
We don't want the baby now! How can we stop this?
Q. my girlfrend is about 35 days pregnant? but we dont want baby now? is thr any way to stop her from not becoming pregnant? will it affect her in later age,if she stop now? wat medicine should she take...
A. 10 June 2007: Adoption or abortion is the only way.
You cannot get rid of a baby through medication like an illness.
You CANNOT stop a pregnancy on your own or through medication because it would be considered murder.
This is not an illness we're talking abou... (read in full...)
My bf treats me badly so I left and took the baby! Am I doing the right thing?
Q. i have just split up with my partner of 4 yrs, we had a baby girl in jan and since then he has been totally selfish going out all the time spending all our money, doing nothing in the house basically because he thought once i had a baby i wouldnt ...
A. 10 June 2007: It's true. As you say - if you let him back in, he'll walk on you like your the doormat.
He needs to get his priorities right. He needs to realise that he HAS to be there for you and the child and to do that, he needs to have baby time, you time... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is on my case because i always look at other females. Isn't this a normal thing for guys?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. Things have had their ups and downs and we have had more than our fair share of major rows and the like. The problem is my girlfriend is extremely insecure and always thinks I am looking at ...
A. 10 June 2007: Just coz you look at other girls, doesn't mean that you are gonna do anything with them!
She seems very insecure.
I mean, if she saw a guy that was good looking, she would look at him but it wouldn't mean anything. In the same way you would if... (read in full...)
Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!
Q. I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...
A. 10 June 2007: If you are scared by his ways, you need to tell someone.
Go to your tutor or another teacher you trust and tell them.
This ain't allowed.. by the sounds of things he's just acting all pally with you to get closer to you.
You need to tell someone... (read in full...)
I gave her a precise date amd time to decide whether she wants to get back with me..am I being unreasonable?
Q. I posted a question earlier, and things have changed a bit, and I would like to hear some advice from you all. I will recap the roots of my problems. I was sent an email saying my girlfriend was cheating on me. The email said I could find evide...
A. 9 June 2007: I don't think so. This gives her a time to think it through. It's not like you gave her 30 minutes and I think that if you didn't give her a deadline then she would keep ignoring you and taking you back when she felt like it.
Just don't pres... (read in full...)
He talks about how he loves his ex gf, but he likes me...should I just forget him?
Q. i really like this boy. he is 16 and i am 15 and i really like him in fact i think i might love him. he is all i think about and he says he likes me and he calls me cute but then in the same conversation he is saying how much he misses his ex and ...
A. 9 June 2007: Back off hunni, he's obviously not over this girl yet and you don't want to get wound up in this. You want a guy who likes you/ loves you and ONLY you.
You'll just get hurt if you try anything now.
See how it goes as mates first. Don't rush int... (read in full...)
I think I am pretty, clever and funny...so why can't I attract bf's like all my friends?
Q. im a 16 year old girl, and although i've done stuff with guys i've never actually been in a relationship! it hurts because nearly all of my friends now have serious boyfriends. they all say that im pretty, funny and clever... so why can't i attract ...
A. 7 June 2007: Believe me, it's better to wait for Mr. Right.
I went out with a number of guys in a very short amount of time and it really messed me up.
You're 16, you should get out there and have some fun. I assure you that your mates relationships won't be... (read in full...)
Are tattoos a turn-on or a turn-off for women?
Q. are tattoos a turnoff for most women? i have one tattoo at the moment, girls don't seem to mind that, but im looking at getting another one on my back, legs and my forearm.... do you think this would be enough to make some girls lose interest...
A. 6 June 2007: Most girl who are into rockers and motocyclists liek tattoos whereas girls who are more... well more into their work prefer clear skin...
I personally like a few tattoos but I'm not into loads and loads of them, I say get the forearm one but not ... (read in full...)
I still love him but he cheats on me so much! Should I take him back?
Q. Lastt nite my bf finished me bcuz he sed he wud end up gettin drunk on holidayy and cheatin on me he said he still loved me but he didnt wana hurt me by cheatin. i told him if he really loved me he would stop himself from cheatin whatever it takes n ...
A. 6 June 2007: Just an excuse to cheat in my opinion. If he loved you, he wouldn't be going to this place if he somehow knew he was going to be unfaithful.
Tell him to quit the b*llsh*t coz he just picks u up and drops you when he feels like it. Is that the kind... (read in full...)
He used me for sex, got me pregnant-I had an abortion and said I gave him chalmydia. But why don't I hate him?
Q. Why is it that I don't hate this man? After sleeping with him after he just split up with his girlfriend.. on a no strings basis i got attached and did and still do really like him. To cut a long story short he got back together with his girl...
A. 6 June 2007: Hey Sweet, Wow, what a situation!
It's good that you don't hate him. Hate only makes you angry and it just makes you feel worse. In my opinion, I don't think anyone should hate another person because it just leads to other problems, mainly to you ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling homesick and unsettled in this new country - I have lousy jobs and am not enjoying myself! If I go home, I feel people will see me as a failure - Help!
Q. Hey, Every1. I left for Austria Saturday and I'm missing home or feeling very unsettled at the moment. Wish I didnt have the job that I'm doing here which is waitressing and housekeeping but now I dont know what to do because I want to stay in ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hunni, you haven't been there long, you're bound to feel a bit out of place and unsettled.
Give it a bit more time, if you feel really really homesick after a few weeks or so, I'd say go back. Who cares if people question you? It's your deci... (read in full...)
We moved in together as friends w/ benefits, but now I'm in love with him! I told him and he's become cold and distant (except when he wants sex)!
Q. I think I've made a big mistake. I've been living with a guy for the past 3 years now. At first we made an agreement that we'd be friends "with benefits." Over time, things changed (for me.) I fell in love with him and want more of a commitment ...
A. 5 June 2007: I suggest, you get out there, meet new guys and then if there's one that you really want to get to know more then get talking and meeting up. This will show the guy you told you love that you don't care for him like that and he should stop being so ... (read in full...)
I told her that I love her and she says she's no good for me and to forget her! Why?
Q. i'm male 21 and i love a girl of 25. The tragedy is that she enjoys a lot talking with me, sharing his everything with me. Both of us don't give importance and priority to sex. I really love her and I will not be able to live without her. ...
A. 5 June 2007: I partly agree with DV1 about her not wantin to be tied down, but as a girl, I think she means that she doesn't want to be with you in that way.
Leave her for a while, see what happens, don't push it though.... (read in full...)
We've been together two years - he says he can't live without me, so why does he treat me like complete crap?? Should I just leave?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years, but he is always telling me its not working and treating me like sh*t. but then he tells me he can live without me. what should i believe and should i leave him?...
A. 5 June 2007: Sorry hunni, sounds like he just doesn't want to be alone.
Find a man who'll treat you with the respect.
TOTALLY agree with kenny. Tell him to cut the b*llsh*t or you're gonna leave him.
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We've been together two years - he says he can't live without me, so why does he treat me like complete crap?? Should I just leave?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years, but he is always telling me its not working and treating me like sh*t. but then he tells me he can live without me. what should i believe and should i leave him?...
A. 5 June 2007: Sorry hunni, sounds like he just doesn't want to be alone.
Find a man who'll treat you with the respect.
TOTALLY agree with kenny. Tell him to cut the b*llsh*t or you're gonna leave him.
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How do I tell him, I want to kiss him at my b'day party?
Q. There's a guy I like who I think likes me back. My birthday is coming up and some of our mutual friends are having a party for me and someone else. Now, my guy and I aren't dating but I really want him to know that I like him and I'd really like to ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hun, I wouldn't tell him on your birthday JUST INCASE you get rejected... I'm not saying you will but just to be on the safe side.
Maybe write him a letter?
Or sit him down, just you and him and say "We've been mates for some time now... and my f... (read in full...)
My gf stays over so late that it's affecting my ability to work! She promised to leave early, but doesn't and gets hurt when I have to ask her to go!
Q. It's a bit late right now, so I'll go ahead and cut to the chase. I've got a job that requires me to be up early, 3:30 am early, as I start at 5 am. My girlfriend and I, we made this promise that she wouldn't stay over past 9-9:30 on days when I ...
A. 5 June 2007: Sit her down, and say to her " I really REALLY don't want to hurt you by saying this, but sometimes I need you to leave a bit earlier, it's not that I don't want to see you, it's the fact that work is becoming more challenging and I need to get to ... (read in full...)
A four way problem, 3 boys and me - what do I do?
Q. im stuck between 3 boys i have like one from ages and been on and off with him for 3 yrs but its not going nowhere but i feel like i actually love this boy. the other one is very nice hes good lookin the lot but the thing is i havent lost my ...
A. 5 June 2007: I agree with the rest! you're 16 -17! You're young! have some fun!! Stay single for a while. You don't have to decide who you spend the rest of your life with right now!
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What products can I use for my greasy hair? And how do I make my chest appear bigger?
Q. Im a teenager and my hair goes greasy after 1/2 days after washing it. Really annoying, does anyone know anything to help prevent this products to help. Theres head and sholders (for greasy hair)?. Also I think my breasts are rather small does ...
A. 4 June 2007: I agree with flower girl, I think head and shoulders is probably your best bet.
For bigger chest, get a padded push up bra. Measure yourself and make sure you get the correct size tho.
Hope I helped.
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He seems to only like me when he's drunk! Is he worth it or should I let him go?
Q. Hey hey, The guy that I have been seeing for 7 months only lets himself go when he's drinking. When he's sober, he doesn't speak to me as often. And it's almost like he only likes me when he's drunk. He said from the beginning that he's not a bi...
A. 4 June 2007: Leave him, he ain't worth your time if you ain't worth his.
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He asked me to dress up nice for a surprise he is planning! Men - what could he be planning? How should I dress??
Q. Hey all, Not sure if this is the right place to ask about this, but my boyfriend wants me to dress up for our romantic night in. I have sorted, food, contapception and everything, but I dont know why he wants me to dress up. When i asked him, h...
A. 4 June 2007: Little black dress suits every occassion ;)
Have a lovely night.
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My parents are telling me that marriage is burdensome! Now I'm depressed about my upcoming marriage!!
Q. I am depressed because of my marriage coming near as my parents give me an impression that i am heading towards some kind of burdensome relationship to carry for my entire life as they had been doing it themselves.. I feel too much overwhelmed with ...
A. 4 June 2007: Hun, don't listen to them! It's your life and you're are gonna be with the man of your dreams! How can that be bad?
Their marriage may be burdensome but it doesn't mean the same for you!Now listen, you ARE gonna have a brilliant marriage, you ARE ... (read in full...)
My bf cheated on me with my best friend a few weeks ago - I just now found out! I love him, but don't want to have this happen again! Help!
Q. Okay just the other day I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend while I was on my cruise for Spring Break with my family. Like I said, it was spring break and now it is June 2 and i just now found out about it. They have be...
A. 4 June 2007: Hun, they BOTH betrayed you.
They BOTH deserve to NOT be part of you anymore.
You're better off without them, they obviously didn't think about you when they did it and they almost certainly didn't care.
Hunni, Get rid of both of them. Find a... (read in full...)
When he leaves for long trips, I panic! How can I stay calm and relaxed?
Q. hi there Iv been seeeing my bf almost a year and think the world of him Im in my 20s and him his early 30s. He has kids from a previous realtionship and do to work doesn't get to see them often (once a month for a few days.) He is my first ...
A. 4 June 2007: Hun... Do you trust him? I mean REALLY REALLY trust him? It sounds kinda like you really don't know whether he'll stick around for you or not. I understand that it may be becoz he ain't around an awful lot, but if you really don't trust him then I'm ... (read in full...)
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