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writes:my best friend went out with this guy who asked me out i dont know what to do should i say yes or no , will it wreck my friendship?
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Hey,
If you think there is a risk of your friendship being wrecked if you go out with this guy, I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't even mention it to your friend.
I would tell this guy that you don't want to risk ruining yout friendship with so and so and I'm sure that if he's a nice guy, he'll understand.
Another problem with dating him is that there will be an awkwardness when you, your friend and him go out together or meet up on the off chance and you will probably spend the entirety of the relationship wondering whether his feelings towards your friend have been lit up again.
It just seems like it wouldn't work out anyway you look at it so I wouldn't risk it, hun.
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): I think that the very fact you have to ask if it will ruin your friendship means there is a more than likely chance that it will. Obviously, you friend felt something for this guy or you would not have to ask. If you go out with the guy she will feel betrayed.I was in a similar situation. When I was in high school, my best friend kept trying to convince me to go out with one of our friends. I was not keen to but she kept working on me about it. I think she convinced herself to like him. Then, one night a bunch of us were all together and he and I had a moment and then he just kissed me in front of her. Instintly, I kissed back. She got so upset with me and wouldn't talk to me for weeks. The end result. Me and the guy didn't stay together because it upset so many of our friends and we weren't really hot about each other in the first place.Bottom line. Don't date your friends' exs. Its really bad form. Unless you think the guy is the love of your life, it not worth it.
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reader, getsomg  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 fisrt thing to do is ask your bestfriend if it is okay with her. if she doesnt have any feelings whatsoever left foe him then it is okay. then you two can team together and find his true intentions of him dating his ex's bestfriend if they are geniue like he really like you. then honey goodluck, dont keep a man waiting.
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