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writes: A few days ago I went exes (we're just friends now) place had a few beers and was I too wasted to drive home. I called my girlfriend to ask her give ride home. When she got to the house (she wasn't too happy that I was drunk) my ex told her come then it happen my ex jumped on me starting making out with me. My girl saw me and thinks I was cheating on her but I'm not.please and its not my fault? I been trying apology to my girlfriend for the whole time. But we some how got in a fight and I made her cry (I didn't mean to, it just happen) and her dad kick me out of the house. help
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 If you didn't cheat on her and what you have said is true, the only thing you can really do now, is (like I said before) to talk to her.
When she saw you two together, it would have been a big shock to her and she would have been very very upset. By you making her even more upset and getting angry with her, she's going to think that you got angry because you're guilty.
Sit her down and say "please, just listen to me for a minute..." and then explain what happened. I'm not enitrely sure she'll believe you though. I don't think I'd believe this story if my boyfriend told me this.
If she has questions, answer them truthfully.
If she's upset, undestand why.
Put yourself in her shoes, if you saw what she saw - her kissing her ex boyfriend after a drunken night together, would you take you back?
The only thing you can try is to talk to her, if this doesn't work, give her some space and try again. But if she really doesn't want anything to do with you after this point, I don't think there's anything more you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs there a way to regain the broken trust?
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (17 July 2008):
Firstly, why are you going round to your ex's to drink excessive amounts when you're taken? You seriously think this was a good idea in the first place especially when your girlfriend isn't there?!
It's just out of bounds to go round to your ex's house when you're in a relationship with someone else, you're asking for trouble.
It's all a bit strange to me, you get drunk at your ex's and then suddenly she jumps on you randomly? Hmm.... I think I'd be suspicious too if I were your girlfriend, I mean, let's face it, so far you haven't given her much reason to trust her, have you?
"Somehow we got in a fight" Is the "somehow" there because you don't want to tell us the specified reason because you're trying to seem like you did nothing wrong or is it that you made her cry or because you can't remember because you were too drunk?
You should NEVER get drunk at your ex's house, you probably shouldn't even be there if you're with someone else.
I think if you really want your girlfriend back, you should try and sit her down and talk to her and try to explain it without getting angry. She's done nothing wrong in all this so do NOT get angry with her. If she feels upset or angry, she's allowed to because clearly it's a very difficult ordeal for her. You getting into a fight with her and making her cry really won't have helped the situation. So listen to what she has to say, stay calm and maybe she'll give you another chance, but to be honest from what you have said, it's not looking good.
If you get her back, do NOT go round to an ex's house. ESPECIALLY not for drinks and getting "wasted".
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