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writes: My ex and I are sex buddies, but we agreed to renew the situation in a month when we've both sorted our lives out and maybe get back together. In the meantime we're not exclusive, but we haven't spoken in over weeks. For two days in a row i've seen him sitting on the grass outside my school with some girl on his lap. What's he playing at? So we're not exclusive and he's being 'close' with some girl and hanging around where he knows i will see him. Am i missing the hint here? Is he hoping i'll see him and get the message? Or is he testing me to see if i'll get jealous and call him or whatever?
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reader, Smiler +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Hi sweetie
i have to say i have to agree with the other aunts here cause you agreed to the "not exclusive" thing, so in effect he's not doing anything wrong at all... i doubt he's trying to rub your nose in it either... i think you should talk when you renew things if you do renew things with him explain that your not happy with this not exclusive deal cause you don't like seeing other women all over him i think that personally if your in a happy relationship you should remain completely exclusive to each other and forget this open relationship stuff, it only leads to arguements and upset, but this is just my opinion i mean having an open relationship where you are both free to see others may well suit some people but me personally i couldn't stand that it would simply drive me nuts... and from what you have said in your letter you sound an aweful lot like me, so i would just be open and honest with him tell him how it makes you feel and how you want things to be if he loves you he will respect your honesty and you to can have a happy relationship where its just you two and no one else....
I hope my advice helps you a little.... Good Luck! and remember if you ever need anyone to talk to or just some more advice, i'm always here for you... feel free to email me ok. Would love to hear from you again...
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Well you have both said that your NOT exclusive, so the deal is you can date other people. If your not happy with this then I suggest you talk to him about being back as a couple sooner. Sounds as though he wants to sow his seeds then get back to you at a later date ?! Are you ready to hang around until he decides he has had his fill of other girls ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Sorry anonymous, but you agreed to a non-exclusive deal, and unless you specified beforehand 'no petting in public where you know I'll see it', he's fully within his rights to do so. Make sure to clarify that's something you're not comfortable with in advance the next time around.
He is, however, acting in very poor taste.
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