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writes: Hiim a 19 year old girl whos had a bit of a "thing" with a guy for the last 8 months. We've recently started sleeping together, but always only when we're both drunk. Last night my friend heard him slagging me off and saying he has me wrapped around his little finger - how do i make it clear to him that he has no such power over me and that for me it really is just all about the sex?
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reader, sabu15  +, writes (19 December 2009):
It's just sex you and this guy don't love or really know where to start only drunkeness sets in an there will be feels of attraction 8 months of this i would be wondering myself!! Don't be a fool listen to your heart not your brain!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 But thats the problem, he does have some sort of power over you because if you truly respected yourself you would not condone this fella slagging you off and you would or ought to abstain from any sexual relations with him. Why do you need to just see him for sex? Isnt it nicer to be in a loving relationship and have fun, frienship and love all wrapped up in one instead of casual flingy sex? Are you not worth more than that? The way to make it clear as others have said is to stop having sex with him, its that simple. xXx
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reader, Smiler +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Hey sweetie
i'm afraid to say i have to agree with the other aunts here the only way to get your point across to him is stop having sex with him don't let him manipulate you get some self respect sweetie tell him to get stuffed, tell him straight that you have had your fun cause thats all it ever was FUN and move on
I hope my advice helps you a little.... Good Luck! and remember if you ever need anyone to talk to or just some more advice, i'm always here for you... feel free to email me ok. Would love to hear from you again...
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 June 2006):
 You have to be drunk to sleep with this guy? Wow, you should try totally sober sex with someone you truly love, it's the bomb! As far as the power thing, obviously he does if just saying what he said gets your panties in a bunch. Move on to greener pastures.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (6 June 2006):
 If your okay with just having the sex on and off with him then you should be able to tell him exactly that, and that he has now power over you. You seem happy that you are used as a sex buddy, and thats exactly how hes treating you, and thinks hes got you where he wants you. You have to tell him straight! Or is that you are looking for something else with this guy and your trying to keep him interested with you by having sex with him, in the hope that a realationship will form ? Doesnt sound like it will, so if it just sex then tell him how it is, what have you got to lose ?
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (6 June 2006):
Stop shagging him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): I think the only way you can make it clear to him that he has no power over you is by not having sex with him.
Men don't *generally* respect girls they can have casual sex with.
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