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female
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41-50,
*ittty
writes:ok this is a biggie my mother in law told me my husband wants a divorce , so i went home to visit family and now my husband hardly talks to me im not gonna get a divorce to please his mother and his whole family is against me now, my husband is miserable im miserable, but his mom will not stay out of it shes worse than the mother in monster inlawi want to go home but dont know what i should do any suggestions, keep in mind hes my first for everything . i love him soo much..
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (16 April 2007):
 How awful that the family are like this and how dare she tell you what your husband wants! Talk about interferring!
What you didnt say is does your husband love you ? Does he want to stay with you... Just because shes said this doesnt mean its what your husband wants... he could just be in the middle of the woman he loves and his mother! What an awful place to be!
YOu say he doesnt talk to you, is that because he feels he has to do as his mother wishes and wants a divorce ?
Without knowing what your husband wants I cant offer too much advice, but if he doesnt want a divorce and he wants to try at this marriage then he has to shut the mother out and front her and tell her that he wants to make this work despite her intervention.
You really need to talk to your husband first and find out what he wants before you act. If he doesnt want this to work then you dont have a choice but to make a life for yourself without him. But if this is all just because of his mothers pressure, he needs to stand up for you and tell her that he wants you and that hes committed to his vows and she will have to lump it, yes it will be hard, but he chose to marry you, he must have loved you and shes just viscious, his mother would just have to accept it if that what he chose to do. And in time she would have to come round. As for the rest of the family, let them carry on, its small and narrowminded. They are not in your relationship you are and your husband chose you, so they have to accept his choice of partner or button their lips.
Dont let this mother bully you... she will get what she wants, you have a right to work out this marriage and tell her shes out of order. She will have to get used to it if its what your husband wants.
Good luck! Take care x
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