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... Send *weet-thing a private message | | | *weet-thing's profile:I'm a 38-year old artist who is a bit of a hopeless romantic. I've had a few long-term relationships, been married, separated, currently going through a divorce but have a wealth of friends and family around me to keep me centered and happy. When I fall in love, I don't play games. I like it all out there in the open and have always respected men that were honest with me.
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He said that he doesn't want to have sex b/c we're around each other too often. Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost two years. We were instantly attracted to each other and bonded so well. The first two months in our relationship we were intimate every evening and twice in the morning. It was great. ...
A. 16 August 2007: Stress can zap a man's sex drive quickly. The stress of being laid off, and still having bills come in that have to be paid could be playing a role here. Also it's not so much that you're around each other all the time, but that he feels pressured ... (read in full...)
He lied about kissing another girl! Now I feel like I can't trust him.
Q. hi there, i was wondering if i could have some advice about my current relationship. Basically, my boyfriend almost kissed a girl with whom he works with a few weeks ago. He said that they become very good friends and that he regreted what happened, ...
A. 16 August 2007: Have you asked him why he kissed that girl? He knows the answer. And it probably goes something like this; He's attracted to her. She may have made the first move. It fed his ego. He thought he could get away with it. Now he's feeling guilty ... (read in full...)
I feel like the passion is dead and do not want to make the mistake by getting married to a man I do not love.
Q. I am 31, working as a senior management in a small company. He is 37 working in medical field We have been together for 4 months and have been friends for 6 months prior to our relationship. It was not the smoothest ride in the beginning ...
A. 15 August 2007: Number one, him needing to divorce his wife has nothing to do with you. It has to do with the fact that his marriage is obviously dead and he no longer loves his wife. Number two, while he's gone, you should consider taking off a couple of days ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my ex I still love her dearly?
Q. I split up with my ex about 3 months ago and I still love her dearly, we still live together because we have a little boy together and we are still best friends. I have started seeing someone else but nothing serious and my ex asked me yesterday if ...
A. 15 August 2007: Well let's see, you still love your ex, you're still living with your ex, you're still close to your ex, and now she is telling you she wants to start the relationship over again? It doesn't sound like it ever ended to begin with. I say start ... (read in full...)
Am I right to be worried about him moving in with her?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend moved from another country to be with me 3 months ago. While he has been looking for a job etc he has been living with me and we get along so well. I'd like him to continue living with me but he feels it would be unfair to my ...
A. 15 August 2007: Tell your b/f that you question your friend's ability to behave herself and ask him not to move in with her. Then give her the names of a some women who could room with her and share the expenses. If your b/f doesn't feel right living with you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell them how embarrassed I feel about being bound and gagged. How do I get myself out of this funk?
Q. I'm 18, off to college in September, was enjoying a last carefree summer. Last Friday evening my boyfriend dropped me off at home around 10:00 after a date. He works nightshifts at a 24 hour supermarket. My parents were out for the evening and I ...
A. 15 August 2007: A good counselor will help you overcome these feelings of embarrassment. I think because you see yourself as a strong, athletic person your fear is displacing itself in the form of embarrassment. You have nothing to be embarrassed by, but fear is ... (read in full...)
My wife and I don't get along - would it be wrong to have sex with my ex?
Q. My wife cheated on me several times. We started to divorce but then we decided to give it another try. I must admit I hold onto a lot of resentment for all the lies and deciet along with her excuse that it was my fault she cheated. Things were good ...
A. 15 August 2007: Number one, you two should consider counseling to solve what's ailing your marriage. Number two, you should NOT have sex with another person while you are married, even though your wife clearly has violated this already. I believe she is treating ... (read in full...)
I told him I found out about his sexual chats w/ other girls - now we don't trust each other!
Q. I found chatting communication of my boyfriend and girls on the net. We just bought a house and talking about having kids. Those conversations, were recent and he was initiating them. To girls he chatted long time ago. Last year he had sexual ...
A. 15 August 2007: I would move on unless the two of you can agree that you've both sinned and promise not to let it continue. Of course, that's going to take alot of courage on your part and I'd probably be tempted to check up on him once or twice in the future just ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my partner to go on holiday with her father and our sons a regular basis without me?
Q. I am in love with a woman who at times is the highlight of my life. We have one son together and she has one son from a previous relationship. Is it normal for a woman to want to go away with her father and my sons on a regular basis( vacations, ...
A. 15 August 2007: I would start by asking her why she feels the need to go without you? I can understand her wanting to spend time with her Dad, one-on-one which could include his grandson but she could easily meet him for lunch or dinner each week so they can spend ... (read in full...)
Should I try to be friends with him or let it pass?
Q. Hi, I am 24 and have been married for nearly a year. I love my husband to bits and we are hoping soon to start a family but... there is a bloke who works in a shop on the next street who I walk past nearly everyday (I have to for work) and we always ...
A. 7 August 2007: I think you'd be playing with fire to try and have a friendship with this man. The fact that he's already asked you if you're single (and the fact that you somehow couldn't bring yourself to tell him you were married) shows that he's already ... (read in full...)
He put money in my card, when i had already told him what i wanted.
Q. should i be upset when my fiance ,who was told 3 months ago what i would like, doesn't get me a birthday gift and pops the money inside my card to buy something myself? i'm feeling justified in being incredibly disappointed and upset am i wrong?...
A. 5 August 2007: He's probably just not good at knowing what to buy a woman, what size you wear, or what you might specifically want. Case in point, I have bought my b/f some things for his b/d only to discover that I missed the mark completely. Major rejection ... (read in full...)
He blocked my car, threw my purse and phone on the floor and slammed doors... is my fiancee abusive?
Q. Is my fiance abusive? Last night I was cooking fries in a oil pot thing and my friend called to give me directions to her house. So, I had taken half of the fries out, and left the others in but unplugged it. Well my fiance came in livid because the ...
A. 5 August 2007: He does have a temper, I'll admit. But does he flare up over little things, or is there usually good reason? The situation you described seemed benign for such actions, but perhaps he doesn't like your friend because she is a bad influence on you. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to be friends with him or let it pass?
Q. Hi, I am 24 and have been married for nearly a year. I love my husband to bits and we are hoping soon to start a family but... there is a bloke who works in a shop on the next street who I walk past nearly everyday (I have to for work) and we always ...
A. 5 August 2007: Stay away. If you need a friend, it should be a female friend. No good will come out of this friendship because you have already admitted that your slightly attracted to him, and trust me, he wants more than just a friendship. Plus you've already ... (read in full...)
Do you think it is advisable that I voice my suspects to her? I don't want it to be an accusation, I want it to show her my solidarity. I really want to enjoy the evenings when it's the three of us.
Q. I started dating my boyfriend in February. He has been living with a very close friend (girl) ever since last summer. I get along with her very well if we're alone but sometimes if it's the three of us it gets a bit awkward. Lately I found out by ...
A. 3 August 2007: Nah, I would keep quiet about the knowledge. She may perceive you to have been snooping through her things to find out what she feels for your boyfriend. I would try instead, to hook her up with some single men, maybe friends of yours or your ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age, what do I do?
Q. Hey !!!! I am confused. I met this guy on myspace. i like him, he sounds like geniuine guy. hes a virgin and everything so im not scared of him being a pedophile. I have lied to him about my age. I said I was 16 when Im 14. hes an up and coming f...
A. 3 August 2007: Anyone can lie on myspace, even a pedophile. Until you meet them face to face, everything is an illusion. Since you still like another guy, maybe you should focus on him and just be friends with the myspace guy. Just like you lied about your age, ... (read in full...)
Should I continue loving my cousin, or should I ignore my feelings?
Q. me and my cousin haven't seen each other since we where really lil kids finally we meet again after 17 years i feel strongly connected to her. we play around bit wrestling tickling etc. i cant keep my eyes off from her. i do like her allot. i don...
A. 1 August 2007: You are just infactuated. I had a huge crush on one of my cousins when I was 14. It's not something you should pursue though. Just keep your eyes open, there are plenty of great gals out there that aren't related to you. ... (read in full...)
Sex at 14.
Q. Am i too young to have sex at 14 ?...
A. 1 August 2007: Yes. It would be best to wait a few more years.... (read in full...)
Why did he dump me and now, why suddenly, does he want me back?
Q. i'm 17 and about 3 months into my relationship my boyfriend dumped me for no reason... I went to school the next day and acted perfectly normal, if not better, and almost everyone freaked out knowing what had already happened. Well we promised we'd ...
A. 1 August 2007: Ask him. There in will lie your answer. Then you can decide if you want to bother with him anymore.... (read in full...)
Should I make him choose between her and I, or just leave him?
Q. i really dont know what to do! i'm seeing this very older guy.his 43 and i'm 22 when i met him he told me he wasn't married. then to come and find out he was living with this other woman and has 2 daughters.we still kept seeing each other and in the ...
A. 1 August 2007: Boy does this guy have the best of both worlds! He actually has two homes, two women who love him, and two sets of children to bounce back and forth with. His wife knows about you. You know about her. And he still hasn't filed for divorce? ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with the secure but unhappy relationship, or the new, uncertain relationship?
Q. what should i do i have a two boyfriends now,i dont know who really i choose,my 1st bf mamed vic,we have almost 1yr relationship but we lack of communiction and then now i dont feel any feelings for him,im not happy now to him.my second bf was jason ...
A. 1 August 2007: Go with Jason. Communication is a big thing in my books and if Vic is closed off that way, it's going to continue to make you feel like you're not really close. I married a "Vic" and believe me, he never changed. ... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend of a year cheated on me?
Q. Hi Well My Name Is Kristal and I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a couple months and he has ben cheating on me not sexually but in other ways why has he been doing this?? i am very sad i need to know??...
A. 1 August 2007: Boys at that age have a hard time settling down to just one female when there's so many to pick from. It's best not to get involved in any "serious" relationships until you guys are older and more stable. Men in their 30's and 40's can barely ... (read in full...)
How would I tell my mum if I accidentally got pregnant?
Q. Ok well here goes.. Im 14 nd ma bf is 15 nd we are havin sex. Im completly comfortable wit it. Ive discussed wat would happen if i got pregnant nd he said he would stay wit me nd help look afta da baby. But im still worried. If he does get me ...
A. 1 August 2007: I've got a better idea - get on the birth control Pill or continue practicing safe sex with your b/f and you won't have to have that much dreaded conversation with your mum. Having a baby will change your whole life, and believe it or not, it'll ... (read in full...)
should i go off to school or spend the rest of my life with him?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a month. he asked me out a week or so before he went to basic. he is amazing and i love him to death. i know it is crazy but i do. anyways the day he was on his way to basic he asked me to ...
A. 1 August 2007: Go to Germany, trust me you'll be able to attend college there even if you have to move some. There's always on-line classes available through certain universities, so don't deny yourself the chance to get a degree. It's a must these days. ... (read in full...)
Do guys like to date plain-looking female virgins or am I doomed?
Q. Do guys like to date plain female virgins ? I though i would find a man in high school nothing happened , then college but still nothing . I am about to graduate from college and then go to a career college . i fear i will find no guys there who are ...
A. 1 August 2007: Well, take a look at the latest magazines that men read. Do you see any plain females? I'm guessing "no" on the that one. I hate to say it, but men are visual. If you want to get noticed, you may have to jazz up your look a bit. The virgin part ... (read in full...)
Is this nightmare about my bf hurting me..coming true?
Q. Hi... i'm 17 years old... I have a great boyfriend now and we've been going out for almost half a year. I honestly think i'm in love with him and i love being around him. A while ago i had this really weird dream... where he was REALLY hurtng me... ...
A. 1 August 2007: I have a theory. If you tell someone about a dream you have, it won't come true. Of course, that makes about as much sense as actually beleiving these nightmares will come true. Your dreams are just acting out some deep-rooted fear you have that ... (read in full...)
I'm missing some excitement.
Q. I really need help to decide. I have a daughter to my partner of 8 years and we have lived together happily for over 7 years. He is relaible, dependable and everything a girl should need but there is no spark there no more. I have found myself ...
A. 1 August 2007: Ugh! The seven-year itch! I've had it. It's horrible. On the one hand, you hate to leave a perfectly good, stable, relationship - on the other hand when things grow stale it's like the kiss of death. I married at 19, and knew within 4 years that ... (read in full...)
I have a bump down there, do you think it's a std?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for about a month now and this morning I found a bump "down there" it hurts just to the touch. Do you think I got a STD from him? My next womens visit isn't for a month and they dont have any earllier appointments. ...
A. 1 August 2007: Well, where specificially this bump is located in the "down there" region I am not sure, but it could be a number of things. I could be a sebaceous cyst (totally harmless, kind of like a zit) or it might be something else. Most STD's manifest ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with wanting a baby at this age?
Q. I'm 14 and my bf is 15 and we have been having sex and i got worried that i was pregnant then i got my period. And now i want to have a baby! Is there something wrong with that? And how would i tell my mum? She would go crazy. I really Luv my bf an...
A. 1 August 2007: It's okay to "want" a baby, but by all means, WAIT until you're older. Having a baby is a huge, huge responsibility. You are only 14 and it will change your world in ways you can't even imagine right now! You have your whole life ahead of you. ... (read in full...)
Should i just go on strike?
Q. Taken for granted: I do 100% of the maintenance work, 90% of the cooking, my fair share of the cleaning and laundry, and more than half of the finances. Our point of contention is that she doesn't seem to notice what I do and gets her panties ...
A. 1 August 2007: Just sit down and talk to her about what you've told us and tell her point blank that you're tired of doing more of the work, and not being appreciated. Maybe she's so preoccupied with her career or the kids, that she's failed to notice the ... (read in full...)
Seen her text messages from another guy! How do I talk to her about this?
Q. Hi all. I have been with my girlfriend just over 3 months now and I am totally in love with her and I do really believe that she loves me and things are amazing most of the time. However I have a jealousy/trust issue. I checked ...
A. 1 August 2007: I wouldn't confront her at all right now, just use the information to see if there's anything going on. She won't be too happy about the fact that you've been snooping through her phone so wait and see if anything develops from these messages. For ... (read in full...)
I was doing great until my ex came back to town. How do I handle this?
Q. Well, my ex is officially back home from her trip of two weeks out of the country for school. I feel like I had been doing great the past week or two, but the last couple of days (realizing she would be home soon) have really set me back. In ...
A. 1 August 2007: Well don't feel bad, it's taken my b/f more than 2 yrs. to get over his ex. I came into his life at the 2 yr. mark and he still had hundreds of pics of her on his computer at home, and mementos all over the house to reminded him of their time ... (read in full...)
24 hours after we split-he's in bed with a herpes infested girl! How could he do that?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 6 months. We broke up late Friday night because he doesn't share his feelings with me.(he shares them with everyone else though...friends/family) On Monday, I went to talk with him to patch up the relationship and I ...
A. 1 August 2007: I think the relationship has ended on a perfect note. He's infected. You're not. He obviously has issues with communication, commitment and fidelity. You're better off without him. P.s. If you take him back now, not only will you be exposing ... (read in full...)
Why do i need the toilet when i have sex?
Q. this is an embarrassing question but why is it that every time i have sex i get the feeling that i need to go to the toilet? even if iv just been....
A. 30 July 2007: Has something to do with the pressure your uterus is putting on your bladder when you're turned on. It's normal. Don't worry about it. It's a good idea to flush out the pipes afterwards anyhow. ... (read in full...)
I want us back together and back to normal.
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have recently split up, we was together for a year and a half and we are both young.I love her still and she loves me still but she doesnt like the fact that I look at other girls. I want our relationship to be back to normal ...
A. 30 July 2007: Well here's a thought. You could stop looking at other girls. Or at least learn how to do it more non-challantly. Guys your age usually do the head jerk when a pretty woman walks by and that always annoys us, whether we're 18 or 47. Just be ... (read in full...)
I told him i thought i might be pregnant and he has gone out drinking.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, I'm a student nurse and I think I'm pregnant althoguht we have been careful (I'm going to do a test tonight) Recently things between us haven't been the same he's started drinking more and tonight I told ...
A. 30 July 2007: You're b/f is having difficulty handling this news. It's a big thing, becoming a dad (or mom) especially when you're young, and you're not married, and perhaps don't even have enough money to support a child. The list goes on. But an even bigger ... (read in full...)
Can guilt make you feel angry?
Q. if you feel guilty about something that you hve done wrong can that guilt make you feel angry?...
A. 30 July 2007: Yup. Big time. My b/f feels terribly guilty about divorcing his 2nd wife, and the mother of his two boys even though she's the one that filed. She also remarried fairly quickly and everyone suspected she was cheating anyhow. Fast forward 15 years ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering today, i need help again please.
Q. Hi guys. I'm doing rubbish today. (For those who don't know: It's just over a month since my 2 year, long distance relationship broke up. She says she was finding it too hard and doesn't want things to drag out, so she split with me 5 weeks before I ...
A. 30 July 2007: You poor thing! I feel your pain. And your sobs. Okay here's some advise, but it may hurt a bit. You want to stay friends. She doesn't. She broke up with you and clearly has plans to move on with her life. You are clinging to a love you used ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife for another woman?
Q. Hello. I could do with a bit of advice.First of all ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years since we was kids im now 27. we have 2 children girl of 5 and boy of 1. i love my children very much.Im an electrical engineer and do ok for us.Now me an...
A. 30 July 2007: Okay I have to add my piece. Just because a woman is 40 does not make her "old" I know alot of 40-something women who indeed have taken care of their bodies, and look more like 30. You know what they say, 40 is the new 30. But I am not justifying ... (read in full...)
I love him but i'm not happy.
Q. How do i break up with my boyfriend i love,but am not happy with?...
A. 30 July 2007: How can you love someone and not be happy? Perhaps you should work on why you're not happy, Are there things you can fix in this relationship? Is he doing things that are disrespectful or mean? If you can pin-point what the problem is, and ... (read in full...)
My bf's mate calls me scum and punched his ex!!!
Q. Hi all, I have a massive problem that I have never heard of at my age, and I would like to know if this is unusual or does this happen a lot. My partner and I went through hell to be to-gether and I love him with all my heart. The problem is, now ...
A. 30 July 2007: Your b/f is blind to the fact that he is being manipulated by his friend and he's placing his value over the value he places on you. He's also blind the fact that his best friend is not a man of good character. You know what they say, birds of a ... (read in full...)
I dont want to break up with my girl to date the other, but know it wont last in my current relationship!
Q. I Have an amazing girlfriend and i love her. But before I started dating her i met another girl. I cant get her out of my mind and she is truly everything in a girl i could ever want. I never asked her out because she had a Boyfriend. But they broke ...
A. 30 July 2007: Hmmm, well then the answer seems pretty obvious to me. Or is there something I'm missing?...If you're interested in this other girl, the one who used to have a b/f but doesn't now, I think you should ease out of your current relationship and see ... (read in full...)
I dont want to break up with my girl to date the other, but know it wont last in my current relationship!
Q. I Have an amazing girlfriend and i love her. But before I started dating her i met another girl. I cant get her out of my mind and she is truly everything in a girl i could ever want. I never asked her out because she had a Boyfriend. But they broke ...
A. 27 July 2007: Why would you stay in a relationship that you already know isn't going to last? Just end it and go for the girl you want to be with. ... (read in full...)
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