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... Send *weet-thing a private message | | | *weet-thing's profile:I'm a 38-year old artist who is a bit of a hopeless romantic. I've had a few long-term relationships, been married, separated, currently going through a divorce but have a wealth of friends and family around me to keep me centered and happy. When I fall in love, I don't play games. I like it all out there in the open and have always respected men that were honest with me.
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I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 8 January 2008: I think if she had actually left you for another guy, they would've been seeing each other much sooner. She probably just met him recently and things developed. ... (read in full...)
30 and pregnant, my bf does not agree to keep the baby, but my mother says it is my last chance to have a child, so what should I do?
Q. im 30. im pregnant but my bf says he doesn't want a baby. i told my mum and she said that it's my last chance to have 1. Is my mum right and what should I do?...
A. 7 January 2008: The question is -- what do YOU want? It may be your last chance to have a baby, but if you aren't truly committed to the idea, cannot support the baby financially, and do not feel like you can give this child the love it deserves, then you should ... (read in full...)
Do any men like giving oral?
Q. I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all. This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have o...
A. 7 January 2008: Make sure you're clean down there, men have sensitive noses and women's scents can be strong at certain times of the month. Just taking a shower at 6:00 AM and then expecting him to go down on you at 9:30 PM is not clean enough. Take a shower ... (read in full...)
He's still visiting adult dating sites, but says its to boost his confidence, should I give him the heave ho?
Q. Dear Readers The man I am dating (for over 11 months now) - I found out by accident he has a secret email account with emails from other girls - I found out he has about 20 girls on his messenger list and an account on an adults sex site - I ema...
A. 7 January 2008: Yes you should dump him. He suffers from self esteem issues and I suspect he has trouble being faithful because one woman is never enough. He has to constantly feed the beast of his frail ego and you will always be looking over your shoulder, ... (read in full...)
What's up with these men I meet, any ideas from the guys out ther?
Q. Any answers from men in particular would be appreciated. I have been dating again for about a year after eight year and I've dated a handful of men during that time who have behaved in a manner that I find irritating. On the around the fifth...
A. 7 January 2008: It has been my experience that most single men do remain friends with all their ex-girlfriends (if the ex is willing that is), and will continue to have female friends-with-benefits until they say "I do". I suspect most of the guys you've been ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...
A. 7 January 2008: This is probably the most bizarre thing I've ever heard a husband suggest to a woman he claims to love. Trust me, it's a terrible idea and thank God you thought so too. Please don't go through with it. Simply tell him there are three ways you'll ... (read in full...)
I'm a faithful wife and mother, but there's this guy at work I cant get out of my head, advice please
Q. I can’t discuss this with my family, girlfriends or husband. Maybe someone out there can help to enlighten me. I am a happily married woman with kids. I’ve been married almost twenty years, to a wonderful man, that I love very much. He i...
A. 7 January 2008: I believe it is possible to love your husband and be in love with another man. Because I think the love you have for this other man is more of a crush, an infactuation, and a huge ego boost. It's always nice when someone else finds us attractive. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex wrote me saying he was abusive, should I take her advice?
Q. I've been dating my current bf for a little less than a year now. When I got together with my bf, he'd just broken up with his gf not too long. He said she was unfaithful and they had problems long before the breakup. I knew that the girl wanted to ...
A. 7 January 2008: I think if your boyfriend was abusive you would've seen that side of him by now. I also think it's strange for a girl who claims she was in constant fear, to try so hard to get him back after their break up. I would retain her letter, but give no ... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 6 January 2008: You are not taking control over your thoughts and they are manifesting themselves in bodily symptoms. This is typical of unchecked stress and it will take its toll eventually. You are the master of your mind. If you chose to think these thoughts, ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend right to resent my best friend -who is a female
Q. My girlfriend seems to resent my best friend -a female and it is affecting our relationship. We all work in the same company and my gf and friend live near each other too. Sue has been my friend for many years - we are very close, she is in an ...
A. 6 January 2008: And what makes you so sure that Sue doesn't have her own ulterior motives about your friendship in the first place, and is in fact sabotaging the relationship you have with your g/f? Trust me, there's more to Sue than meets the eye. First of all, ... (read in full...)
Do ALL men cheat under certain circumstances? Can you be intimate with one person and still truly love someone else?
Q. I am in an open relationship with a man I care about very much, I'll call him Calum. He's a professional musician and travels a lot with his bad so we have an understanding that when we are together we love each other but never ask questions about ...
A. 6 January 2008: To answer your question "Do all men cheat under certain circumstances?"...Yes. They will ALL cheat if given the right circumstances (meaning, an attractive women who is interested in them) the right situation (their significant other is not present ... (read in full...)
Does avoiding my ex make me a coward??
Q. Am I a coward? I'm avoiding contact with my ex-girlfriend, and so I'm avoiding MSN messenger all together. I've tried to be her friend after the break up, but I get too upset to keep doing it. It's been months since she broke up with me, and I just ...
A. 30 December 2007: You are not a coward and yes, you should continue to avoid her. It's the only thing that will help you heal and move on. Plus when you meet another woman, she will not want you being friends with your ex. It's best to put this relationship in a ... (read in full...)
How can somebody go from loving you to being with somebody else in the flip of a switch??
Q. I have had a relationship with a girl who has been a long-time friend of the family. I have been married once for 19 years and in a relationship with another woman for 8 years. The woman that i was seeing has been married twice and is legally ...
A. 30 December 2007: You should move on, this woman has issues with being faithful and her pattern shows this, as well as the recent chain of events. She's leaving no room for a future with you. Take that as a cue and don't contact her anymore. My guess is, she just ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid thinking he had another girl over??
Q. I don't know if i am being paranoid or not. My b/f of three years bought a new toliet seat cover and it was laying there for awhile. Meanwhile--in the three years that i have been with him--he has never really straighted up anything(like placing ...
A. 30 December 2007: I suspect there's more to this story than you're telling us because on the surface, I would wonder why you'd be suspicious about him; most of his behavior seems benign and my b/f frequently forgets his cell phone when he's out running around doing ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her to leave me alone??
Q. hi, I'm 22 and broke-up from my longterm gf a few weeks ago as she was cheating on me and i found out she started going out with the lad she had cheated on me with. 2 weeks ago it ended between them and shes textin me wanting to be my friend but...
A. 30 December 2007: You should probably muster up the courage to tell her to take a hike. She is using you as her "safety net" now that her fling guy fell through and she's alone again and desperate to be with someone. Don't let her trap you again. She neither loves ... (read in full...)
My husband has molested our daughter for years. What should I do now?
Q. I would like your opinion on this serious issue. I was in bed with my husband over 20 years ago when my daughter, then aged about 2, climbed into be between us. After some time, I noticed my husband was getting aroused and I thought he was masturba...
A. 30 December 2007: Your daughter needs counseling because she is self-destructing because of what her father has done to her, even though he is no longer doing these things, the memories remain and she is not dealing with the reality of it very well. You should file ... (read in full...)
Is this weird or is it just me?
Q. Have been in an "emotional" relationship with a younger man for almost a year now (younger by 5 years. I am a married woman, he has had a girlfriend. We have been working up to finally leading to something sexual. So here's the confusing part...he ...
A. 30 December 2007: It's very weird and very wrong and the two of you need to stop seeing each other because you are going to hurt alot of people in the long run, including each other. Back out, let him marry his girlfriend. You should then consider your marriage. ... (read in full...)
I was hurt - what do I do?
Q. I'm in love with my bestfriend.... He knows and show my love for him but suddenly he admitted that he had a gf but he wants me stay the same, the way i treated him... Our previous plan is that i'll get him in our country and i'll find him job here ...
A. 30 December 2007: Your friend now has a girlfriend. The plan changed. You should move on and find someone else to love. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Married 8 months and sex still hurts. Any advice?
Q. i am 19 and have been married for 8 months and it still hurts like crazy every time my husband and i have sex. any advice on this!...
A. 30 December 2007: Do you enjoy having sex?...(Some women don't)...The other possibility is that your husband is ready to go before you are and if you aren't lubricated in the nether-region you will be dry and intercourse will be painful. You may need to use K-Y ... (read in full...)
He is really nice and good looking and I am not...so I really doubt he is interested in me...but is it possible??
Q. I am a 17 year old girl, and I have worked in a small cafe for the last 4 months. One of the guys there is 32, and I always thought he disliked me. But over the last couple of weeks we have been a lot more comfortable around each other... he is ...
A. 30 December 2007: I would suspect the same things go through the mind of a 32-yr.old man, that goes through the mind of an 18 year old man when they think they have a chance of getting laid by a woman who seems interested in them. But until you turn 18, you would be ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the peer pressure to get drunk on my upcoming 18th birthday?
Q. its my 18th birthday soon and i'm going out drinking with my friends. only thing is, i dont want to get drunk. i just want to have a good time. has anyone got any tips on how to avoid the peer pressure? ...
A. 18 December 2007: Yeah, alternate between drinking alcohol and non-alcoholic beverages. It's simple, order one drink with alcohol. The next drink, act like you're going off to talk to someone, or going to the bathroom, slip up to the bar, order something 'non' and ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to talk to me about his feelings or talk to a counsellor when he doesn't admit he has problems?
Q. I do love my boyfriend to death. He is a kind of person who does not show his emotion and he never wants to talk about his feelings. That is his pesronality and all his friends know about it so it is not just with me. I had tried to talk to him ...
A. 18 December 2007: I think your b/f has problem relating to people verbally. He may see it as a sign of weakness to open up and talk about what's on his mind. It could be that his father was exactly like this, and it's genetically ingrained in him to be closed off ... (read in full...)
Is it worth making things work?
Q. Do you ever think I man with a bad, violent temper could change? He's good in certain ways takes care of me cleans, cooks but when he gets upset all hell breaks loose. I was living with him for 2yrs and just moved out but he says that he knows we ...
A. 18 December 2007: That's a tough one. How violent are we talking? Does he break things?...Does he hit you? Or does he just verbally explode? I too am with a somewhat hot-tempered man right now and have had to take a good hard look at what that means. My b/f is ... (read in full...)
She want me, but she wants other people as well. What should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last 13 months. In the beginning, she was seeing other guys, which I did not like, but dealt with it as I wanted to be with her. About 8 months ago, she told me she was stopping seeing the other guys and that ...
A. 18 December 2007: I wouldn't plan on having a future with this woman and if you're wise, you will also start seeing other women in hopes of finding someone who has her head screwed on straight and wants to be exclusive with a wonderful, patient man. Keep looking. ... (read in full...)
My friends say he's a bully and that he'll dump me. What should I do?
Q. I really like this guy and im not quite sure if he likes me or not. its not just about his looks, hes really sweet and kind and generous, but all my friends keep saying that hes a bully and he will just go out with me just for fun and then dump ...
A. 18 December 2007: If you like this man and he's not showing any signs of
being a bully, then just let things run their course and see what happens. Keep your eyes open, but take what they've said with a grain of salt. They could be wrong. You'll know soon enou... (read in full...)
Can my daughter still get viral meningitis?
Q. My daughter has a very bad cold and is suffering from back ache. There is virul meningitus going around and i am worrid she has it. She had the injection when she was younger can she still get viral meningitus? ...
A. 18 December 2007: I don't know how long the vaccines last, but if she were my daughter, I would take her to a physician immediately and have them run some lab tests, whatever they normally do to screen for that illness. Better to be safe than sorry. It's much more ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is still in the picture, how can I make my boyfriend understand how this is hurting me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. I love him very much and Iknow he loves me, but everytime his ex girlfriend calls I get really upset and annoyed. He doesn't understand howmuch it hurts me and says they are just friends. But I ...
A. 11 December 2007: Then ask him to tell her to quit calling so much. They don't have to be enemies but this "friendship" thing is starting to be suspicious. And if they really are just friends, she'll understand the new boundaries and find new friends. And your b/f ... (read in full...)
I'm male, 28 and losing my sex drive!
Q. hi im 28 years old men i loosing my sex drive more and more i dont know why even that i love my wife not sure what to do ...
A. 5 December 2007: You may love your wife, but are you attracted to her?...... (read in full...)
Wife took me off-guard by regaling to our friends..how she made some guy's toes curl with a BJ before she met me! This pissed me off..how do I deal with this?
Q. My wife and I were out drinking with some friends, and (don't ask why, because I don't know), her one female friend asked if all guys curl their toes when they have an orgasm. I'm assuming that her husband either does or doesn't and she was curious ...
A. 5 December 2007: You should simply tell your wife that telling that story was in bad taste and an embarrassment to you and in the future she should be more respectful of your relationship by not regaling tales of her sexual past. It was tacky. But after you tell ... (read in full...)
We suddenly have problems with erectile dyfunction! I'm so frustrated sexually-I am thinking of leaving him! Advice?
Q. Over the past 9 or 10 months my boyfriend of 5 years and myself have encountered a new problem in our relationship. Prior to this, our sex life was very active and strong, we never had any problems with ED or anything like that. But for some reason, ...
A. 5 December 2007: Ah yes, the mind is a powerful thing and sometimes works against us. It's like the panic attack I always get when I'm at the Doctor's office and they put that blood pressure cuff on my arm. Normally I have really low blood pressure, but you try to ... (read in full...)
I love to flirt on chat rooms, and send naughty pictures, but its all harmless, my husband doesn't agree, should I dump him?
Q. Could anyone tell me on whether chatrooms are addictive? Am i being fair to carry on in these if my husband has caught me sending photos of my bits to lads? Its simply nothing but harmless flirting and fun,so I enjoy sex talk. Not only that but when ...
A. 5 December 2007: Can it be addicting? Yes. Are you addicted? Most likely because you've lost sight of your first love -- your husband. And now, like any junkie you are willing to sacrifice something real, for your next high. It's not so much that your husband ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is still in the picture, how can I make my boyfriend understand how this is hurting me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. I love him very much and Iknow he loves me, but everytime his ex girlfriend calls I get really upset and annoyed. He doesn't understand howmuch it hurts me and says they are just friends. But I ...
A. 5 December 2007: Ask him how he would feel if you had a previous boyfriend always interefering, calling, texting and you were always jumping to attention when he called? Somehow I don't think he would like it. I also think there may be more going on between them. ... (read in full...)
We split up then got back together, but she's changed, she hides what she's doing, what's going on?
Q. i split with my wife after being together nearly six years (married for one) I could not get over her , we just drifted apart but i still loved her. we finally sorted things out but she treats me really bad now ! She is always on facebook and when i ...
A. 5 December 2007: I think your wife feels trapped, being so young and involved with the same guy for so many years. I think she's curious about what else is out there and this is why she's hiding things from you. She's searching. More than likely this relationship ... (read in full...)
My wife's past hurts me deeply
Q. I met my current wife of 2 yrs when we were just barely old enough to get a drivers license. I was into her right away. In fact she was the first girl I had ever asked on a date. I was 16 and she was 15 (and a few months shy of 16). She shot me down ...
A. 5 December 2007: You married a bad girl. Consider yourself lucky. She will always keep you on your toes and make life interesting. The fact that she has a past, is all the more reason you should hang onto her and treat her well in the present. She may have slept ... (read in full...)
She's put up a wall with me and I can't talk to her! What can I do?
Q. what should I do to get back with a girl if she will let me get pass the wall she has put up against me. how can I get her to communicate her feelings and thoughts with me. she cheated and I want her back...
A. 5 December 2007: Why in the world would you want to have a woman back, who has cheated on you? That tells me she wasn't satisfied with your relationship and went looking for intimacy somewhere else. You deserve better man! If she is putting up a wall now, you ... (read in full...)
My bf and his close galpal are touchy-feely and they have this 'term of endearment' they use-do they have deeper feelings with each other?
Q. My boyfriend has a close girl friend..before i came in,they are best of friends. at first its ok,but suddenly I notice that their closeness came out of boundaries, they became so touchy with each other, to the extent that they both have this term of ...
A. 5 December 2007: Yes I do. You need to dig deeper. Are there obstacles keeping them apart (besides you?)....Did they have history together prior to your relationship? You don't really say what it is that they are 'still doing' or how much time they spend together ... (read in full...)
They flirt and then when I flirt back, the interest stops! What's with this cat and mouse game guys play?
Q. ok here it goes i guess its alot like the others posted on here but i feel when it comes to me and men theirs a bermuda triangle i can be flirtacious fun and caring and i get flirted back but when i take more of an interest its like all of a sudden ...
A. 5 December 2007: Younger men can sometimes be immature like this. They enjoy the chase, but grow bored with their catch once they have it. You may have to try dating older guys to find someone who will step up to the plate and quit playing games, but I will say ... (read in full...)
I am not getting enough Sex from my girlfriend! Advice?
Q. I Only have sex with my girlfriend once or twice a month and i want more but she doesn't.. when We first started goin out we had sex 2 or 3 times a week.. now since we have bin together 2 years its only a few times a month. Shes always to sleepy or ...
A. 5 December 2007: 8 or 9 orgasms is kind of unusual. 2 maybe 3 I would believe. The others may have been faked, which she is now tired of doing. Women do it sometimes to save face. It's hurtful and hard to tell a guy he's not hitting the mark, so faking it is ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have sex with another man to get pregnant!
Q. My wife is desperate to get pregnant. She is 39 and we have been trying for about 4 years. She doesn't want to do IVF we tried IUI and she hated it. A good friend has offered to have sex with her (unprotected) to see if that would work. (nb I am not ...
A. 4 December 2007: No, I wouldn't let her do that! She's lost sight of the brass ring here and her obsession is blinding her to logical reason. First of all, I suspect she is the problem in this can't-get-pregnant scenario and having sex with someone else is going to ... (read in full...)
Is he lining her up to take my place?
Q. Hi, Ive been with my b/f for 6 and a half yrs, and we broke up last week. I was unhappy because I felt he was taking me for granted and that I was left to do with all the responsiblity of running a house... whilst he never showed any care and ...
A. 3 December 2007: He's probably been having an affair behind your back for awhile, hence the reason he seemed disconnected from your relationship prior to your break up and was so quick to break up, rather than "take a break". Think carefully about your daily ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is mentally ill. How can I convince him to get help?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, we live together and are usually very happy. He's suffered from depression for most of his life which he is in control of most of the time as long as he is preoccupying himself with something e.g. ...
A. 3 December 2007: Maybe you could visit a healthcare facility and obtain some pamphlets, books and small magazines for him to read. If he won't read them, maybe he'll listen while you read them to him. Maybe after he sees that his behavior fits the pattern of ... (read in full...)
Diets to help lose weight?
Q. Hi whats the best type of diet to loose weight? How much exercise do you reccomend. and How many calories. Thanks. Im starting the gym soon also....
A. 26 November 2007: Join a program like Nutrisystems or Jenny Craig and eat only their pre-portioned foods. You'll drop weight quickly without feeling hungry all the time and I would suggest at least 30 min. of aeorbic exercise (bicycling, running, fast-paced walking, ... (read in full...)
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