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Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?
Q. Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...
A. 7 March 2012: I assume you keep the area clean, using soap and water daily and douche at least once a month? Maybe you have developed a yeast infection around the same time you started taking the pill. Go back to your physician. There's a simple test he can run ... (read in full...)
I think I caught him out with his ex wife, but he wont explain what has been going on! I feel so used....
Q. Dear all, please help!! I have been seeing this guy for a year. it has been a rather rocky relastionship, and he had seperated from his wife sometime back - around three years ago. Anyway, I had a funny hunch that things were somehow still 'cosy' ...
A. 29 February 2012: He's lying to you. I think him and his wife have gotten closer, they may even be talking about a reconciliation. He's avoiding the subject because he doesn't want to burn any bridges with you (in case it doesn't work out with her, he'll have ... (read in full...)
Where do 30-somethings go on dates?
Q. Hello all.. I m back in the dating game at 32 and have met a new guy so far we have been out for a drink but i am rubbush at ideas at what things to do next.. cinema, meals ?? but then what? i want to have some fun and interesting ideas but i'm in ...
A. 29 February 2012: Yes movies; go somewhere and shoot some pool; go bowling, take in a play, a concert; go the ballet, the opera; hit a few pubs and listen to live music. Take a day trip to a quaint town and shop till you drop. Go hiking. Go on a picnic. Ride a Tram ... (read in full...)
I can't afford the surgery but I don't want to wait!
Q. I have a complicated situation. When I was 18, my kidneys failed. I lost 36 pounds, and went from a C-cup breast size to a small B/A cup. It has been 5 years since the incident, and I haven't gained any weight regardless of my many attempts to do ...
A. 29 February 2012: I'm thinking if your kidneys failed 4 or 5 years ago, it's probably not a good idea to undergo unnecessary surgery and breast augmentation is unnecessary surgery. Kidneys don't just fail out of the clear blue. There has to be things going on; or ... (read in full...)
Can someone really be ready to marry after only three months?
Q. So I posted on here a while ago and the advice was pretty good so I wanted some opinions on something else. Basically I was in a relationship and through no fault of hers I moved away making it an LDR and this put a strain on the relationship to the ...
A. 29 February 2012: Is it possible for someone to be ready for marriage after three or four months?...probably not. But she'll figure it out and unfortunately so will the poor guy she's marrying. It's no longer your problem. You are probably better off without her.... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: Porn has a way of making a woman feel replaced. Especially if all his sauce is being spilled onto the bathroom floor when a perfectly good woman lays waiting in the other room but gets nothing. If this sounds familiar, then yes it could make a ... (read in full...)
I'm married, and falling to pieces because I had sex with another woman. What do I do now?
Q. Hello. I did something really stupid. I had sex with another woman, therefore cheating on my wife. It only happened once and my wife doesn't know. I have no idea why on earth I did it. There's no chance that I'll ever see the woman I had sex with ...
A. 27 February 2012: Take it to your grave. If you know you made a huge mistake. If you know you will never, ever do that again, then don't tel lher. Suffer in your own private hell, let it gnaw at you and torment you every time you see her freshly scrubbed face ... (read in full...)
How to leave an affair if you love the person?
Q. Yes affairs are wrong but if you fall inlove with someone and they feel the same and you determine it's not infatuation and what you feel is love. How do you stop seeing that person and leave them if you love them so much? But deep down you know you ...
A. 26 February 2012: If you were realy into doing the right thing you wouldn't be in this dilema. Therefore you have to ask yourself what is missing in your marriage that led you to this affair? Yes you may have been attracted to this new guy but you should have been ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with another man
Q. Did it turn out how you wanted Or were you left with regrets? Did you the love the person more than your spouse? What happened and how did things turn out? I fell inlove with another man and its not infatuation i belive I love him. My husband is a ...
A. 26 February 2012: You will always trade one set of problems for another. Your new man may be exciting right now, but eventually you'll see his down side and by then it may be too late to patch things up with your husband. You are suffering from a typical case of "The ... (read in full...)
What at the signs that differentiate between being friendly and flirting?
Q. during a conversation with a stranger (for example, at a place of work), what are signs a guy is flirting as opposed to just being friendly? what do you consider the stereotypical "weather" conversation? what kind of things would you do/talk about ...
A. 26 February 2012: Friendly guys usually get confused with those who are flirting because the lines get very blurred. A friendly guy might say hello when he sees you; may joke around a bit or tell you a funny story, occasonally helps you with a project, maybe opens a ... (read in full...)
Gift for partner's mom?
Q. hello aunts and uncles, my partners mother invited us for a birthday dinner at hers and i really don't know what gift would be appropriate for her.(we can't get something together as he has already given her a gift) please note she's in her lat...
A. 26 February 2012: A nice candle, one of those slightly expensive ones. Or ask your partner if she likes to read and what kind of books. Maybe buy her a couple of nice books. There's always music if your partner knows what type of music she listens to. A plant is ... (read in full...)
His ideas about sex differ from mine. He gets huffy when I don't want to talk about it. How to I keep him interested?
Q. Short and sweet I hope:: I talk to this guy pretty regularly. Daily mostly. If we can't talk in person we talk on line somehow. The bad thing is we dont agree on sex because I'd like to think love happens before sex in most cases around my age rang...
A. 20 February 2012: Men rarely feel "love" before they have sex yet women are are programmed to believe that they should never have sex unless they are in love with the guy. This is why the two of you cannot discuss this topic. He will always justify his thinking that ... (read in full...)
Am I being unfair or not? He wants all the attention but calls me selfish.
Q. Hi Aunt's.I'd like a little help here please. I have been seeing someone for about 5 years.we enjoy sex together but i have a problem with his selfishness in showing affection to me. He seems to think i should be doting on him all the time,while h...
A. 20 February 2012: Maybe it's time you speak up and point this stuff out to him. God knows he certainly won't take a hint so you mind as well come right out with it and tell him that you feel he is a bit selfish at times and rarely offers you the same benefits. He may ... (read in full...)
What kind of upbringing would make someone uncaring cold and callous towards everyone?
Q. What kind of upbringing would make someone uncaring cold and callous towards their partners,children,family even friends as i know of a person just like this and i am finding it hard to understand how anyone can be like this towards anyone who has ...
A. 20 February 2012: People come from all different types of families and some can be very dysfunctional meaning they didn't show love or give love to their children and children learn from what they see or hear during their childhoods. If his Mother didn't take the ... (read in full...)
What does he mean? He's says I'm and open book with no writing in it.
Q. Hi I like this guy and he knows I like him but he never told me if he likes me or not so he started saying he likes some girl everyones saying he likes me and is trying to get me jealous. I didnt give any reactions and he goes Im like an open book ...
A. 20 February 2012: It means you have nothing interesting written in the pages of your life with your previous experiences. It means you really haven't gotten out there and lived your life long enough to become an interesting, stimulating person although you keep ... (read in full...)
Why does she still put me down? I just can't seem to do anything right in this relationship
Q. i am 38 and i am in A relationship with A woman that just can't take my advice without thinking that I am trying to change her or be controlling. I am A decent man that has had issues with addiction in my past and have gone through great lengths to ...
A. 20 February 2012: If she truly felt that way, why would she be with you? Are you absolutely sure it's not just a little bit of your own insecurity peaking through at times? One thing I know for sure, men and women do not speak the same language. Here's an example:
M... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do for my friend who has a cheating wife?
Q. This is a bit of a different question as i am coming from the friend prospective rather then the spouse, and I really could do with some input. I have a really close friend who i have known for a long time (a man). Like many friends we can talk ...
A. 20 February 2012: Love is truly blind! Trust me on this one! Your friend truly loves his wife and he is truly blind to the truth of what she's been up to. My husband was in a relationship like this (before he was with me of course) the woman was such a user, she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friends are boring
Q. Hi all I have a bit of a problem regarding the friends of my girlfriend. Our relationship is generally good, and she has a lot of friends. I'm a naturally friendly man, very chatty, and very interested in people. To be honest, I was hoping to ma...
A. 20 February 2012: Why not introduce her to some of YOUR friends, then she'll understand the type of people who interest and stimulate you. It might then make more sense to her when you tell her the friends she has are not up to your standards.... (read in full...)
B/f is dating 2 of us at the same time. He says he's just "pretending" to date her!
Q. I'v been dating a guy almost a month now, recently, he told me that he was dating a different girl and he's doing that to please her he disclosed to me that im the one he loves even though he's pretending to be dating her. Should i believe him? I ...
A. 20 February 2012: Why don't you pretend to break up with him and then realy do it? This guy is playing you sweetheart! It's time to wise up and toss him aside.... (read in full...)
Complicated situation I got myself in! Two guys now - but which or how do I pick?
Q. I am 33yrs old. My boyfriend is 20yrs old. When we first met, he thought I was younger (I look 23) and I thought he was older. When I found out his age I told him he was too young. But he was convinced I was "The One" and he followed me all over the ...
A. 20 February 2012: This is a tough one! If you chose the older guy he will no doubt afford you with a different lifestyle and would be perhaps more suitable for your age. He is still young enough to start a family with you and probably have the means to do so. But it ... (read in full...)
How do you avoid feeling second best when your significant other has an ex-spouse?
Q. How do you deal when your significant other has an ex-wife (or ex-husband), and they have a reasonably pleasant relationship? How do you avoid feeling inferior or second best?...
A. 20 February 2012: Let me know when you figure it out! I can totally relate to your feelings. When I met my husband he was not over his former girlfriend although they hadn't been together in 3 years. He had left the house exactly like it was when she left, even down ... (read in full...)
If my gf is pregnant, she says she does not want to keep the baby but is afraid of the guilt of an abortion. What can we do?
Q. I've got a real dilemma here. Me and my girlfriend have been together for less than 2 months. About 3 weeks into our relationship we started having sex. We used protection each time. Anyway, her period was supposed to begin at one point during the...
A. 20 February 2012: She could always have the baby and give it up for adoption if she still feels strongly against keeping it by the time she gives birth. It would be the most humane thing to do, plus she may realize along the way that Motherhood is not such a bad idea ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to propose?
Q. Ok well im 41 divorced for 9 years and i don't have children. I'm in a relationship 15 months with an Irish girl living in America. We met about 16 months ago at a wedding and were friends first until we got into a relationship. To be honest w...
A. 15 January 2012: Oh good grief, you've dated her plenty long enough to ask about marriage or at least bring it up and pose the possibility. Lots of people marry after only 2 months of being together. Quit worrying. She's probably wondering why it's taken you so ... (read in full...)
How can I cope up with being single again...I don't know how to do this!
Q. I'm scared of being alone. 24, with a lof of my friends getting engaged/married...what is up with people?? I broke up with my boyfriend in October last year. Since then, i haven't dated anyone. I haven't even met anyone as such. An old fr...
A. 15 January 2012: News flash your girlfriends new husbands probably have single male friends who are in the same boat as you are. Maybe you should tell your gal pals and they will invite you the next time they have a dinner party and you'll get to meet someone new. ... (read in full...)
Tips on how not to come across as 'clingy'?
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my boyfriend have beeb together for 1 year and he is the love of my life. Hes my best friend and true love all in one. But latly we have been having problems. I geuss. He says im to clingy and annoying, even emmbares...
A. 15 January 2012: Your b/f is not used to or does not like alot of affection nor does he strike me as the type who gives it either. This is not a sign of being clingy it's a difference in how much affection each of you want/need. Now granted girls who are clingy in ... (read in full...)
I'm bothered by her writing hobby
Q. Hello everybody, I've got a bit of a problem I need to talk about, but unfortunately, there's no way I can talk to my closest person about it. It's connected to my girlfriend. We love each other, everything is perfect except one thing... She's b...
A. 15 January 2012: Does she get paid to write these novels or is it just a dirty little hobby she has? If she is an accomplished writer with a publishing company that is paying for her work, perhaps this is what sells. If not, just ask her sometime "So where do you ... (read in full...)
We started dating and then I find he's seeing another girl?!
Q. Last week I found that the guy I was dating (we hadn't gone public yet though his decision) was seeing another girl. When we first starting becoming more than friends I knew he was talking to her but didn't think it worth mentioning as we weren't ...
A. 15 January 2012: No wonder he didn't want you to announce your relationship since he had two going at the same time. What should you do? Nothing. Ignore him and move on. Maybe someday he'll be one of these guys that learns you can't juggle two girls at the same ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy make a half-hearted attempt at sex?
Q. why would a guy make a half-hearted attempt at sex? very confused by my bf today. he is doing 12 hour night shifts, got into bed with me this morning when he got home, we kissed and fell asleep. 3 hours later, he wakes me up as he's touching my ...
A. 15 January 2012: Maybe he was sleep-f***ing. ... (read in full...)
Should I move to be near the new guy? I'm getting nervous about my ex
Q. So the guy I been talkin to since june, I finally went and met him in person for the first time in december. I thought it was goin to be super awkward and I was so nervous. But actually it wasnt awkward at all and for the first time I felt like I ...
A. 15 January 2012: Have you asked your new boyfriend if he would ever consider moving to where you live? If you can't move there, can he move to where you live? And secondly, why in the world do you keep bailing your ex out of jail? Trust me if he was in jail, you'd ... (read in full...)
Is this male coworker harrassing me???
Q. Abstract: Guy liked me from the restaurant but I turned him down he retaliates with subtle verbal insults and physical contact (his torso shoulder hitting me hard as he is passing by) and him snatching things out of my hand. So when I first sta...
A. 15 January 2012: What an ass! Yes you should report him to your boss and just tell him or her to keep an eye on the situation. He's being very immature and hostile toward you and how dare he treat you like this when it's your free will to like or love whomever you ... (read in full...)
Have we lost the drive to see each other?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 months now. almost 3 in feburary. recently hes been talking to me less and less when we arent together. he doesnt text me much anymore. and he doesnt ask to skype either. i confronted him about it and he ...
A. 15 January 2012: At your age, boyfriends will come and boyfriends will go. Relationships don't usually last beyond a few months and trust me you're better off to date around before you later settle down. If I were you, I'd do him a big favor and cut him loose. Make ... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends after he rejected me?
Q. Can we still remain friends after he rejected me romantically speaking? A friend and I were super friends and confidants.His girlfriend left him for other guy a year ago and therefore has not recovered from the loss. My big mistake was to became h...
A. 15 January 2012: You may have jumped the gun given his circumstances and where his head was at. Keeping the friendship intact? Is a little like trying to put the toothpaste back into the tube after you've squeezed it out. I see no way this is going to work out in ... (read in full...)
I’m a 27 Year Old Guy with No Relationship Experience. How Do I Let Women Know?
Q. I'm over 27 and dating. One question I get asked a lot is about my past relationships. The problem is, I haven't had any. I've had one problem or head trip after another. I've also been a loner and a bit of nerd. I can honestly say that I ...
A. 15 January 2012: No past history is just as bad as a poor past history, kind of like applying for a job when you have had no prior experience doing that job. So my advise is don't be completely honest, leave a little to the imagination but don't appear like you've ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my friend and my bf
Q. I don't know I'm being crazy or if I should be upset/worried. This is basically about my boyfriend and my friend, who is a girl. From the beginning, I've been very insecure about them, I admit. When I first introduced them, they got along r...
A. 16 November 2011: You need to find a new friend to hang out with. You don't have to make a big deal of it, but definately start being "too busy" to hang out with her; stop inviting her over there is definately sparks between her and your man and the more you include ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I'm cheating on him but I'm not!
Q. Around 4 clock in the morning my husband gets off of work. He decided to take the trash out this morning at that time. A single sheet of blank loose leaf paper was in front of our door when he went, Now he didn't think much of it until when he came ...
A. 11 November 2011: I don't think your husband should be so preoccupied with the whole cheating thing, but maybe there is an odd guy stalking you and his intentions may be far worse than sex. Make sure you do not open your door after dark when your husband is gone. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my discovery???
Q. Recently, I came home from work and my wife and I had dinner. We have an 8 month old daughter. As we were making dinner, she said the cat knocked over a bottle of wine, and spilled a bunch of wine everywhere. At dinner, she told me she was ...
A. 11 November 2011: No, just keep on eye on the liquor cabinet and you'll know if she has a problem with alcohol. Just remember if she knows you're watching her or monitoring her intake she'll become very sneaky about it. Once you have concrete proof that she has a ... (read in full...)
Tonight I learned my husband may be cheating again
Q. My husband's iphone beeped tonight with an SMS coming in, while we were in the car together. He was driving, so i just picked up the phone for him, and happened to notice a female name that i didn't recognise, and a message saying "is it ok to txt ...
A. 11 November 2011: Hmmm, maybe while you still have his phone in your hands YOU should text her and tell her to stop contacting your husband because you find her messages offensive and remind her that he is married and has committments with you. Maybe she doesn't even ... (read in full...)
My wife's neuroses are hurting our marriage.
Q. I am 39 years old. My wife is 41. We have been together for 19 years now. She has always been a little neurotic. For instance, we pretty much stopped kissing two or three years into the relationship because it just made her self-conscious and she ...
A. 2 November 2011: I think your wife s suffering some kind of mental/altered state. She may have had a mild stroke earlier in life that changed the make up on her psychological behavior. Perhaps she is bipolar. People with this disease can appear normal for many ... (read in full...)
Is he starting arguments to break up?
Q. I have had a couple of questions with some really fantastic answers which have been really helpful, with a difficult relationship there are a lot of questions which spring to mind, I've just had lunch with my partner of four years, he consistantly ...
A. 29 June 2011: Here's a thought; why not sew the buttons on his pants? Apprently it's a big thing. Maybe he's old fashioned and he needs to feel "taken care of" in this way. If he finds other things to complain about, try accomodating each complaint (for awhile) ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with guys and big boobs?
Q. What is it about big boobs that guys like so much? I have small breasts, small waist and a big, round butt! My friends tell me I have a great body and that I should be proud, but there's something I don't get. I don't seem to receive that much ...
A. 29 June 2011: Rule number one, buy a padded push up bra. It makes more of less. Rule number two, there really are men out there that don't care that much for larger boobs. You just have to quit comparing yourself to the big boobed girls and you'll see him. Rule ... (read in full...)
My job is being threatened because of my pregnancy, has anyone else been through this?
Q. Hi everyone, currently I'm four months pregnant and I inform my job the doctor gave me a letter stating that I can't lift twenty pounds, no strenuous activity, and no exposure to toxins. So they told me they cant accommodate me. Now let me say, This ...
A. 29 June 2011: Most sizable nursing home facilities have a policy manual for their employees. Find yours and read it. Many times it will spell out how they handle issues like this and then you have some leverage by holding them to the policies in their own ... (read in full...)
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