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I'm a 38-year old artist who is a bit of a hopeless romantic. I've had a few long-term relationships, been married, separated, currently going through a divorce but have a wealth of friends and family around me to keep me centered and happy. When I fall in love, I don't play games. I like it all out there in the open and have always respected men that were honest with me.

I hope that my experiences will help others who are going through similar things.

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Will money eventually come between us?

Q.   My girlfriend and I were friends for awhile before we started dating. We've been together for 6 months now and things couldn't be better. She was born into a wealthy family and has inherited a lot of money. I'm an average office worker and make a ...

A.   5 June 2012: You haven't said if she still lives with her parents, i.e. even if she has her own apartment, don't be so sure Daddy isn't paying the rent for her every month. Which means that she has yet to truly understand what it might be like to be with you on ... (read in full...)

I slept with him because I like him, and because he seemed unhappy about being a virgin, and he somehow makes me feel that I "made" him do something that he did not want to!

Q.   I am friends with a guy. We started as friends, then we kind of dated and kissed a bit but at that time I was emotionally involved in something else (that could just not happen) and from what he told me later he is scared of relationships, but at t...

A.   5 June 2012: You have not done anything wrong. He's weird. Why are you wasting so much time on this guy? Are you friends? FWB? I can't figure it out but it sounds like this relationship, whatever it is, is draining you of good emotional energy that you could be ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend texts and calls random women, but denies it and gets defensive when caught!

Q.   A few months ago, while using my boyfriends phone to make a call I noticed an unregistered, unfamiliar area code number dialed late at night. Later, when I asked my boyfriend about it he said he didn't know what I was talking about and denied it. ...

A.   5 June 2012: You should break up with him. He's not being honest and you cannot make a life checking up on him and always worrying everytime he touches his phone. P.S. if he's like me he uses his phone for everything; checking things on the web, setting alarms ... (read in full...)

I cheated, admitted straight away. Weeks later after no contact he wants to know details, what should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and i were together 6 months. I had issues with not getting enough affection/attention and could take criticism well so tried to actively work on this. He had issues always needing to be right whether it was a trivial matter or not. ...

A.   5 June 2012: First of all you should not tell him in a text! You have to have this conversation in person. But you could just say you were pretty loaded and don't remember much at all and leave it at that. If he presses for more, just say you passed out and then ... (read in full...)

How do I confront him?

Q.   I met this guy 3 months ago and we have been seeing each other since then. He told me he is in love with me and wants to be with only me. But still has feelings for his ex which he has a child with. Well she called wants to get back with him and ...

A.   5 June 2012: I think it was really too soon for him to tell you he loved you at the 3 month point. Waay too soon. He is obviously still very much involved with his wife. He jumped into the relationship with you and let things go too deep now's he's in a pickle ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is ready for sex, but I'm not. What should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend wants sex with me and I told him that I don't know how, I obviously do know how but I think he will be disappointed and might break up with me. But he said 'it's ok I will teach you how' I don't think I am ready for it though, and I do...

A.   5 June 2012: You're too young. Don't rush it. ... (read in full...)

Is this girl just messing me about?

Q.   I went out to a movie with this girl who I thought had been giving me signals that she liked me for a few weeks by: complimenting my clothes a lot, smiling and making eye contact a lot. So we saw the movie a few weeks ago and had a good time, got...

A.   5 June 2012: Well I hope you didn't wait 2 weeks before you finally contacted her after the date. My guess is she's just not that into you. Move on. You're a nice guy you don't deserve this kind of treatment.... (read in full...)

My wedding was supposed to be in 2 weeks but fiance has walked out

Q.   I have been engaged to a wonderful man, we made a year this past Sunday. We were having some issues-arguments-but eventually it calmed down and we've been fine. Kisses, hugs, and love making included. Even cuddling at night. He woke up a few days ...

A.   31 May 2012: I know most girls your age expect a big wedding but in reality it just ends up being a huge amount of work and drama that stresses out most guys and creates major family riffs. Plus he may be seeing a side of you that he does not like. Suddenly he ... (read in full...)

In Love Yet Trapped in Cyber

Q.   Hello, I am a happily married man who truly loves his wife. That being said, something happened a few years ago that has left me in upheaval ever since. My mother suddenly died of a massive heart attack leaving my life in the throws of gr...

A.   31 May 2012: It's a distraction for one thing. But it could impact your marriage in a negative way if your wife ever found out. To most women, cyber sex is still cheating. You are taking refuge in this form of entertainment because it makes you feel alive and ... (read in full...)

Ex is coming in and out of my life. How do I deal with it?

Q.   Ok so im needing some advice my ex of four months came back into the picture saying how much he missed me. We hung out for a few weeks and things were going great i didn't bring up the past just went with the flow. Now he.isn't taking my calls and i ...

A.   31 May 2012: You have to think about why you broke up and see if there's a repeating connection to the prior problems. Usually it's a bad idea to get back into a relationship with an ex because the old problems that caused the break up will almost always ... (read in full...)

How do you clear up a rumor?

Q.   My friends always spread rumors about me, and tried to ruin my reputation.. made fake facebook accounts of me, and did everything they could. And it worked, now I am in grade 9, and the people in my gym class had spread a rumor that me and my frie...

A.   31 May 2012: You are being bullied and trust me these kids are NOT your friends! Talk it over with your parents, then have a meeting with the school prinicpals. Those kids could be and probably should be suspended for their actions. They should also be forced ... (read in full...)

Do some women like rough sex?

Q.   Few days back I was watching a adult movie with my wife. There was a rape scene. After the movie my wife wanted to rewind and see the scene again and she saw that again. How come a Rape which is supposed to be a disgusting act can be stimulating. Ok ...

A.   31 May 2012: It's like any sexual fantasy. It's not reality. It's just stimulating to women to sometimes fantasize about being "forced" to do something we might find repulsive in real life. This may be why many women aren't into porn; all the women in those ... (read in full...)

In 11 months we've never asked where the relationship is going

Q.   I am a 34 year old woman, and I have been in a relationship with a guy for the last 11 months. We do like each other's company, we like to go out and enjoy ourselves too. Our sex life is pretty good too. However, although it's been nearly a year ...

A.   31 May 2012: If you aren't worried, then why worry?... (read in full...)

Red flags all around but girlfriend insists that nothing is wrong

Q.   Hello, I have a big issue and need alot of help. I would like to say thank you for reading this ahead of time as it will quite long but required in order to understand the issue. So, thank you. I have been seeing my gf for 5yrs or so, granted within ...

A.   31 May 2012: Why in the world are you still with her?.....Does a house have to fall on you?... (read in full...)

I cant stand my boyfriend's friends who are uneducated, beer-drinking, rowdy pub guys

Q.   I am a very open minded person, however my boyfriends friends are uneducated, beer-drinking, rowdy pub guys. That i can deal with as they're all decent enough people who I can see for my boyfriends sake. However his 2 closest friends are anot...

A.   31 May 2012: Quit focusing on his friends and find new ones. Once you change your social circle alot of these problems will go away. You have to introduce your boyfriend to new friends. You have to make plans with other people and be less available to the ... (read in full...)

My ex has turned her back on everyone, what's up?

Q.   So my girlfriend suddenly broke up with me 4 weeks ago. The weekend before we had been on a nice weekend trip, everything was fine. She had moved here from another state with her best friend (another girl) and we almost instantly started dating. ...

A.   26 May 2012: Hmmm...could it be she met a new guy at her new job and now has a new objective in life? Unless she has some sort of bipolar disease, or suffers from depression she has either lost interest in your relationship or gained new interest in someone ... (read in full...)

I cant stand my boyfriend's friends who are uneducated, beer-drinking, rowdy pub guys

Q.   I am a very open minded person, however my boyfriends friends are uneducated, beer-drinking, rowdy pub guys. That i can deal with as they're all decent enough people who I can see for my boyfriends sake. However his 2 closest friends are anot...

A.   26 May 2012: It's simple. You're bound to have some smart, nice girlfriends and they're bound to have some decent boyfriends so maybe it's time to set up some date nights with other couples where the men have responsible jobs and don't pick fights and end up in ... (read in full...)

How do I get over my fiance having gorgeous female friends?

Q.   Hello everyone, I feel like I'm being an awful partner. My fiance has a very small circle of friends, and most of them are women. The other night one of them had contacted him, after having not spoken for a while because of life being too busy. Th...

A.   26 May 2012: If you are his fiance then I hear wedding bells in your future. You cannot sit on this topic any more. You are going to have to muster up the courage to tell him the truth; that you are uncomfortable with all these close-knit female friends. Say it ... (read in full...)

Is this normal for a 25 year old man?

Q.   Hey! Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Ever since we became active, he can never really bust more than twice in a day. He is 25 years old, very healthy, works out every single day, he has no health problems at all. It ...

A.   26 May 2012: You're putting waaay too much pressure on the guy to cum twice every time. Who does that? I know young men can sometimes if they get a breather in between sexual sessions, but not every time and as he gets older you're going to have to be happy with ... (read in full...)

My husband wants to bring another wife into our marriage!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 13 years and have two children. I have severe Rheumatoid Arthritis that has required 17 surgeries. Our life has been stressful, because of the disease, but I try to stay focused on my husbands needs and even ...

A.   26 May 2012: OMG! Don't you dare agree to this arrangement! What a horrible thing for a husband to ask of his wife, especially one who already has some health issues. The two of you need marital counseling. I hope he will attend. Maybe he'll remember where he ... (read in full...)

Wife and I have been married 10 years. Should we throw out photos of our exs?

Q.   My wife and I have been together for over 10 years but have just had some old possessions dropped off at our house by our parents / parents in law. Funny timing that they all dropped off boxes at about the same time. A lot of this is stuff fr...

A.   26 May 2012: I think it's up to the individual couple what happens to old photos of old flames. I got married at 19 so there weren't many guys in my past and the one or two corny photos I have of a guy who took me to a homecoming dance when I was 16, well I'd ... (read in full...)

Scared? Moved on? Played?

Q.   Met a (never married but just got out of bad 10-12 yr relationship - not the mother and did a job on them emotionally and mentally-she cheated on him) single dad little over a year ago. He's never had a positive female connection in his life ...

A.   26 May 2012: No I think guys go for what they want, he just hasn't deicided if he wants you and only you. You have been somewhat of a security blanket to fall onto should the other more sexual relationships don't work out. I suspect he is not sexually attracted ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my mom why she hates my boyfriend?

Q.   Should i ask my mum why she hates my boyfriend? I’ve been him for 18 months however we were friends long before this, however she has never taken to him and is often rude to him and about him. She tells me not to get serious, accuses me of not ...

A.   26 May 2012: Yes, open communication will uncover many a problem. You are old enough to make your own decisions without her blessing but she is older, wiser and loves you unconditonally so yes, ask her what it is about him that she doesn't like. You may be ... (read in full...)

How can a woman cure her fishy odor?

Q.   I feel helpless, I am very clean, and been to my doctors and she tested me. every thing can back normal, no infections. My boyfriend has stop having sex with me, because he say i smell fishy real bad, when he pre-cums, and cums. he even gag's. He ...

A.   22 May 2012: Make sure you practice extra good hygiene before intimacy between you. Even though you showered before going to work that morning, and you haven't done anything but sit in an office and work all day, by the time you climb into bed at night you need ... (read in full...)

Marriage over. How do I restart my social life and start developing a circle of friends?

Q.   I have just said good bye to a pretty rough patch in life and a controlling husband and therefore have practically no social life. I want to begin having a social life - i have two kids AND a full time job so i'll have to make the effort and it wont...

A.   22 May 2012: You could start to make contact with some of your former friends and update them to your situation. If they began to avoid you because of the way your husband controlled your every move they will probably welcome you back into their lives in a less ... (read in full...)

Suggestions please? What do YOU do when a guy hits on your girlfriend in a club?

Q.   Me and my girl go out to bars / clubs quite a lot and a lot of the time,she dances with her girlfriend(s) and if i don't dance with her, i chill at the bar with my friends. She says to me how she loves what i do, as it shows i trust her and i know...

A.   22 May 2012: Yes it's totally normal. Your instincts to protect your loved one kicked in and frankly it ended pretty calmly. So consider yourself lucky and tell your g/f next time she needs to watch how much she drinks and be more aware of her surroundings when ... (read in full...)

Should my ex-boyfriend and I remain friends?

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up just recently. It is not due to a character mismatch or betrayal or anything. It is because of differences in religion which is why we are finding it very hard to let go. Should we remain as friends or should I totally ...

A.   22 May 2012: You can be friends which means you are cordial to each other, you can be friendly but that doesn't mean you still go out to lunch, tell each other all your problems, or hang out after work. Since you have to work together it would be best to simply ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend transferred to department with two of her exes

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a great girl for 1.5 years. We get along great and are in love. We work at the same place but not together. She is getting transferred to another department. Two of her exes work in that department. Both are d-bags ...

A.   22 May 2012: The fact that she regrets ever hooking up with them should give you alot of reassurance. It would be worse if she still had feelings for them; tried to get either of them back, then it would be a recipe for disaster. As it stands now you do not ... (read in full...)

Why do guys have to give up their porn but girls get to keep their toys?

Q.   So I've been reading post about women upset about their boyfriends using porn and post about guys upset about their girlfriends using a vibrator. It strikes me odd at the double standard women have for vibrators and porn. Every post I read consist ...

A.   22 May 2012: Because woman can use a toy while she is alone in a bathroom with no one around. No images. No other men have to run around in her head. It's just her and the toy. It's more private and more personal. But porn is about other women entertaining an ... (read in full...)

I am unconfident about my body!

Q.   Hey, I'd love some advice on how to feel confident when it comes to sex despite being really unconfident about my body :( I've been with my bf 2 years, and things have been going great between us, including our sex life. I was very body confident, ...

A.   22 May 2012: Relax! Yes I know what you are going through. And this is what I think. Pregnancy agrees with some women and it doesn't agree with others. Some women just marvel at what's going on. They're boobs get bigger and they feel sexy and alive. They enjoy ... (read in full...)

Does his smile mean anything?

Q.   There is an older man who I have a huge crush on, we talk and flirt alot and he always gives me this strange kind of cheeky smile. While hes talking to me he will smile, not a huge smile more like a smirk and its always while we are making eye ...

A.   13 April 2012: A few other things to consider about him. 1) Is he married? 2) Does he have a girlfriend or live in mate?...If you don't know the answer to these questions, it's time to ask around at work and find out. Lots of men flirt by smiling but doesn't ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend keeps sexy pictures of his ex girlfriends!

Q.   Should I be worried if my boyfriend keeps "sexy" pictures of his past ex girlfriends? When I say sexy, I mean breast and all... Here's a little background info. I'm not so blessed with boobs but he reassured me that he likes me just the way I a...

A.   13 April 2012: Yeah, maybe when he's asleep you could slip out of bed and get rid of the pictures. Then put the phone back and walk away. If he ever misses the photos and asks about it, just deny, deny, deny. He may be suspicious but he won't know for sure. And if ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend keeps sexy pictures of his ex girlfriends!

Q.   Should I be worried if my boyfriend keeps "sexy" pictures of his past ex girlfriends? When I say sexy, I mean breast and all... Here's a little background info. I'm not so blessed with boobs but he reassured me that he likes me just the way I a...

A.   30 March 2012: Depends on how long you two have been together and how serious your relationship is. If you've only been seeing each other a few months, no I'd say you probably have not yet earned the right to tell him to ditch the pictures. But you could simply ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend keeps sexy pictures of his ex girlfriends!

Q.   Should I be worried if my boyfriend keeps "sexy" pictures of his past ex girlfriends? When I say sexy, I mean breast and all... Here's a little background info. I'm not so blessed with boobs but he reassured me that he likes me just the way I a...

A.   30 March 2012: Depends on how long you two have been together and how serious your relationship is. If you've only been seeing each other a few months, no I'd say you probably have not yet earned the right to tell him to ditch the pictures. But you could simply ... (read in full...)

What are the boundaries of cheating?

Q.   Ok so I feel like I should know this already but I don't. What are the true boundaries of cheating on ur bf/gf ??? Cause one of my friends thinks it's when u have sex with someone else, another thinks it's when u make out with someone else, so ...

A.   30 March 2012: Each person has their own personal boundaries. For me, I don't want my man texting other women (unless it's strictly business related) I don't want him chatting on line or sending flirty emails to other women, no kissing on the lips (friendly cheek ... (read in full...)

How can I go on with a relationship with my sister after knowing she is married to a child offender?

Q.   Dear cupid, I just had a feeling that I should do a search for some reason. I didn't know this about my brother-in-law but I just thought I would do a search for his name and he comes up as a registered child offender. Now my sister and I led a ...

A.   7 March 2012: She no doubt didn't tell the family because she was ashamed and embarrassed. Perhaps she thought if she just kept quiet it would sort of go away and everyone could go on to have normal lives. Judging from the way you have described your lives, she ... (read in full...)

We are only FWB because I don't feel good enough for him, but how do I cope with the knowledge that he is dating other girls?

Q.   I have been seeing an amazing guy for almost two years, he has asked me to be his girlfriend but I said no because he was leaving for college and I feel as though I'm not good enough for him. so we've just been a thing, or friends with benefits kind ...

A.   7 March 2012: You stop pretending to only be friends and you start telling him the truth. Otherwise this relationship will never go anywhere and he will meet and fall in love with someone else. If you want something you have to go after it. And you have to be ... (read in full...)

I want my parents and boyfriend to get along, how do I show my parents he has changed?

Q.   Dear cupids, I have recently went out on a limb with my parents and my bf. My bf used to have trust issues and until I talked to him about it things weren't going good. I usually ended up in tears. But after confronting him his trust issues were gon...

A.   7 March 2012: Time heals all wounds. So your b/f has gotten over his trust issues but your parents have not. It will take some time to win them back. Meanwhile you'd be wise not to vent on them everytime he pisses you off. Women have a tendency to use their ... (read in full...)

How common are half-Mexican half-Chinese people?

Q.   Hey so this doesn't have anything to do with relationships but how common are half-chinese half-mexican people? My mother is full Chinese and my father is full Mexican. I've never meet another half-Chinese half-Mexican person. So, I was wondering ...

A.   7 March 2012: Depends on where you live. It can be more common in different places. Don't dwell on it. Just embrace who you are and the rich cultures that are in your family. Lucky you!... (read in full...)

I'm having a difficult time with my husband's cross-dressing and she-male porn fascination

Q.   Hello everyone ive been having trouble accepting my boyfriends addiction to ahemale porn and crossdressing fetishes. Its caused him to lie to me hide things from me. I know ive not made it very easy to.express to me but all ive asked if him is to ...

A.   7 March 2012: Why would you want to make yourself okay with this? It's not normal; he's got serious problems and the longer you stay with him the more messed up your head will be. This guy probably has no business being in a hetrosexual relationship to begin ... (read in full...)

Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?

Q.   Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...

A.   7 March 2012: I assume you keep the area clean, using soap and water daily and douche at least once a month? Maybe you have developed a yeast infection around the same time you started taking the pill. Go back to your physician. There's a simple test he can run ... (read in full...)

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