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My husband is Ok about it. What are other's thoughts on platonic friendships with overseas penpals? Just friends. But could it cause problems?
Q. I am a married woman who has an email penpal who is also married. My husband is aware of my penpal and has no issue with it so long as it remains just a frienship, which it has and will. We talk about everyday stuff and get on well. My only co...
A. 3 July 2012: Yes you should probably stop writing to him. He obviously told you about his wife for a reason. You have to be the strong one here. Plus the longer you correspond with another man, the further it can go emotionally. Which would be unfair to your ... (read in full...)
If you stop doing meth, do the mouth sores go away?
Q. My girlfriend did meth and I'm worried about her she has a few sores in her mouth , do they go away on there own if she stops ? ...
A. 3 July 2012: Eventually they will heal. She needs to start eating a healthy diet, including vitamin C and practice good oral hygiene. She may need certain medicine to clear them up and keep them from getting infected. The main thing is, she stays off Meth. It ... (read in full...)
Is it a waste of money to get a celebrity's autograph?
Q. Does anyone think that it is a waste of money going to conventions to get a celebrities autograph and/or get a photo taken with them and go to a talk that some of them do infront of an audience?. I'm not sure if anyone here has ever been to these ...
A. 3 July 2012: How much money does it cost? Personally I think it could be a waste of money but it's no different than any other hobby people spend money on. If you find pleasure doing this, it should be fine to continue as long as you can afford it and you are ... (read in full...)
I found a txt from another girl
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in his car, and his phone vibrated. i looked down at his phone and saw a girl's name flash up, i didnt recognise the name. i asked my boyfriend whos that. and he said i dnt kno, i dnt kno this girl. i read the txt and it ...
A. 3 July 2012: Drove off to meet her? Men are such terrible liars when they get caught red handed. He sounds like a player.... (read in full...)
Do I tell crush how I feel? I think he's attached, but he's moving away!
Q. Hello everyone, I could really do with some advice. I've been dreaming about a particular guy for almost two years now but have never told him how I feel. We're both doctors and he's about to move to a new area and it's killing me. Let's call him ...
A. 3 July 2012: Instead of an email it would better to talk to him in person. There are ways to ask while being a little subtle. You could say, "These long hours are killing me, how is your wife handling it?"......or "Have a great week-end. Do you and your wife ... (read in full...)
What started out innocent has turned into a trouble situation with a man old enough to be my father
Q. I got myself in a unhealthy situation. - Short version: I befriended a new member of the archery range I'm at. He's in his mid fifties. He assured me all he wanted was friendship. Stupid and naive as I was I accepted this. I even accepted a job o...
A. 3 July 2012: I am very suspicious and his behavior is a bit creepy to me. Don't let his calm exterior fool you. I just wish you hadn't let him take you home. It would be much easier to 'disappear' if he didn't already know where you live. My advise is to stop ... (read in full...)
He's keeping a secret from me and I'm worried about what that means
Q. My BF of a year and a half had some type of trauma nearly 12 yrs ago. He eludes to it having made him who he is today but he won't share the story with me. I'm a bit hurt he won't share this big part of his life with him. I've shared my deepest, ...
A. 3 July 2012: I think as the relationship progresses he will eventually tell you what it is. Just respect his space and don't be judgemental or harsh. It is probably something he has great difficulty talking about; he may even be harboring feelings of ... (read in full...)
Why haven't I met his friends yet?
Q. I've been with my bf for almost a year now in somewhat of a long distance relationship. We live an hour from each other and only see each other on weekends when he comes and spends the whole weekend with me. In the whole time I've known him, I've ...
A. 29 June 2012: Because he seems to always go to your place I think it may be difficult to schedule a time for you to meet them. It's probably not a crucial for him as it is for you. Have you told him you want to meet them? If you haven't then he probably has no ... (read in full...)
Is it fair for my partner to blame me for looking at his emails when I found out he's cheating again?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have an 8 month old daughter together. We were starting new and moved recently to a new state because of a job opportunity for him. A few months ago I noticed him acting a ...
A. 29 June 2012: Please leave him! Call your family. Ask them to send you a bus ticket. Then pack up your things and get the hell out. File for divorce immediately and force him to pay chld support. You will rebuild your life again, but it will help if you are back ... (read in full...)
I Left my husband, and I am in love with another man but he has a girlfriend!
Q. I am hoping you can all help me out. I need honest opinions from people who are not in the situation like me. Because I find I look at it more from the angle of having hope and maybe being too optimistic about it. I just don't want to be hurt ...
A. 29 June 2012: I don't he's serious about you. He just likes having an extra woman dangling on a string for him. I think you should start extracting yourself from this relationship because clearly it is never going to go anywhere and emotionally it is holding you ... (read in full...)
Am I fool for believing him?
Q. I need to know from mostly men lol if my boyfriend could be telling me the truth. we have been dating for over a year he broke up with me in nov for 2 wks because according to him he thought maybe there was no spark and maybe he wasnt feeling it for ...
A. 29 June 2012: Time to suck it up and go with him to the dart game. He's already invited you. You don't need another invitation. You just need to take him up on the offer he gave you awhile back. Dig through your closet, find a sexy but casual pair of jeans that ... (read in full...)
With a mobile is there a chance that your number may be set to private without you realising?
Q. I don't know whether people would know the answer to this one or not, but with a mobile is there a chance that your number may be set to private without you realising? Because this number has called me a few times and i reckon it's the guy who i ...
A. 20 June 2012: Usually the factory settings will turn on "caller ID" and you have to manually turn it off. It can't just accidentally happen. It has to be turned on or off intentionally.... (read in full...)
Am I fool for believing him?
Q. I need to know from mostly men lol if my boyfriend could be telling me the truth. we have been dating for over a year he broke up with me in nov for 2 wks because according to him he thought maybe there was no spark and maybe he wasnt feeling it for ...
A. 20 June 2012: You can let him play darts if he is really going there and then coming straight home. But you may want to drive by and see if both their cars are still there. It would be easy to slip away for other entertainment and the "dart" game is just a new ... (read in full...)
I've scared myself to death about this upcoming surgery!
Q. Hi all agony aunts, this isn't a relationship question, but I really need help. I'm really stressed out. :( I'm moving 6 hours away to college this upcoming Saturday. Yesterday, I went to the eye doctor to get some new contacts, and find out I h...
A. 19 June 2012: If you have a detached retina you would know it; you would have experienced a sense of visual fireworks in the affect eye, and then that eye would be noticably more blury and weird. If there's time you may want to get a 2nd opinion but I think time ... (read in full...)
I don't get it! He acts as though he is interested but says he just wants to be friends. Am I missing something?
Q. So I met this guy I work with. He's 21, I'm 29. We have hung out a couple times (like 4 times either by ourselves and with other people). And I kind of like him a bit. And I have gotten the feeling he likes me too. So I texted him the other day and ...
A. 19 June 2012: He has probably learned that if he reveals his true feelings the girl will flit away from him and he will feel like a fool. So if he just keeps telling her their friends and nothing more, her interest will be peaked and she will continue to ... (read in full...)
My wife drags her mother along with us on vacation.
Q. I am a 39 year old male. My wife of 20 years is 41. My problem is that my wife invites my mother-in-law along on almost every trip or vacation. Sometimes she is unable to go (thank the heavens for that!) but I'd like it if it could just be the two ...
A. 19 June 2012: Here's a thought. The next time you plan to take your wife on a vacation plan the entire thing as a surprise. You may even have to call her boss in secret and arrange for her to have the time off. Buy the airfare, the hotel, the rental car and never ... (read in full...)
I feel like she will always lie to me. Will I ever be able to trust her?
Q. I met a woman, fell in love with her and she became pregnant. in the very beggining i revealed to her that i had an active warrant out for my arrest and would eventually be doing some time...when she became pregnant i agreed once the baby was born i ...
A. 19 June 2012: Yes she will always lie and I suspect she will cheat again. As painful as this must be, I suspect she has fallen out of love for you and stays because of the child, and because the fling didn't work into something more. I can't say why she fell out ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend what I really think about her wedding dress?
Q. A good friend of mine is marrying my cousin...I have known her for 29 years and I am in the wedding party which is taking place in Cuba. I recently just returned from a destination wedding myself so I have a good idea as to what works and what d...
A. 19 June 2012: If you are truly good friends, ask her if this is the dress SHE wanted or did she feel talked into it. You might be able to simply say, "Oh, I thought you were going with the other dress, you looked amazing in it and it would be perfect for a beach ... (read in full...)
I really want to set my boundaries, and let him know his actions HAVE consequences
Q. My boyfriend lied to me about his ex wife - said he hadn't seen her when he's been texting her all along. Based on this lie I left him a month ago and he cut it off with her. Now we're back together and he's going out of state to a family event ...
A. 19 June 2012: Here's a boundary you may not have considered; Insist on going with him. End of story. He will have no way to pull any sneaky things behind your back when you're with him.... (read in full...)
Is settling for someone who is lovely but is not "the one" ever right?
Q. hi there, the kind of man who would be perfect for me simply does not exist, for a lot of reasons. im sure of this. however i am currently with a man who loves me dearly and is wonderful. i just wonder if settling for someone who is lovely bu...
A. 19 June 2012: What would make him "the one" if you could design him yourself? I suggest you make a list of the things you truly want in a man, then sit down and make a list of the things you like about this lovely man and see where he falls short. You must ... (read in full...)
My co-worker crush is making a point of ignoring me!
Q. Hello everyone, Here's the deal: I have a big crush on a female coworker, that sometimes I think is reciprocitated, but sometimes I'm not really sure. The thing is, if I catch her alone in the hallway, she would make long eye contact, give me...
A. 12 June 2012: Could it be that she is already in a relationship, and hence the brick wall you are hitting when folks are around? If she is slightly higher up the food chain at your office, that might be the other thing she's concerned about. There may not be a ... (read in full...)
Why does it matter so much how much someone makes or their potential earnings? How important is it to a future marriage?
Q. I'm engaged to the most wonderful man I've ever met, but no one is taking my relationship seriously. He's 29, living at home working for his parents, and finishing up his bachelors in another year 1/2. I'm in college too, but have another 2 years to ...
A. 12 June 2012: It matters only if it matters to you. If it doesn't bother you then ignore their comments. You're both very young, both still in school. There's no rush to "prove yourself" just yet. Give it time. Once you've both graduated, then I'm sure he'll be ... (read in full...)
Lunch with a co-worker of the opposite sex while in a relationship? Would it be cause for concern?
Q. Having lunch with a co-worker of the opposite sex one-on-one when you're in a relationship. Is there anything wrong with this? My boyfriend's friend broke up with his fiancee because she flipped and found out her fiance did this, and this spurred...
A. 12 June 2012: Here lies the problem. Your b/f may assume it's perfectly fine to do this, which on the surface it very well could be fine. But you never know what kind of agenda his female co-worker has up her sleeve. She may act like it's platonic, while hiding a ... (read in full...)
What goes around comes around!
Q. My ex is really suffering now but I don't know whether to feel sorry or avenged for how he has treated me in the past. He left me to marry somebody else. His marriage has now broken down even though he's been trying to get back with her but she...
A. 12 June 2012: You should feel avenged. And P.S. Don't take him back. He's a loser. He got what he deserved.... (read in full...)
Did he cheat? I can't get this worry out of my head!
Q. Did he cheat? I have been with my boyfriend 6 months officially. I am in love with him but there is something I cannot get out of my head. When we first were together he stayed at a girl mates house with her pretty friend and also with his fr...
A. 12 June 2012: Let it go for now but my advise is, don't let him go party alone with those girls anymore. If he goes out you must go too. If he didn't last time, he might next time. Alcohol seriously impairs the judgement for most guys.... (read in full...)
I'm totally confused why he won't change his facebook status to 'in a relationship'? He did before with a different girl!
Q. Im dating a guy for a couple of months now, i really love him but i don't know about him. My problem is he doesn't want to change his relationship status on facebook, i don't want to confront him to seem im nagging. i don't know if he's dating ...
A. 12 June 2012: Probably too soon in your relationship to close that door. How long was he with the other woman before he changed his status? It was probably more than 2 months. Give it time and don't nag him about it. Guys hate it when we harp.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend changed his password, is it harmless?
Q. Hey guys im reaaly worried. Well a couple months ago my bf was getting way to friendly with this girl but it all was by email (his bestfriend told me some thing was up and gave me the password to my bfs email) normaly i would not of checked it but ...
A. 12 June 2012: Yes you should be concerned. You could ask him for his password but there's no guarantee he'll give it to you. You could also show up where ever it is that he went for a week. Tell him you decided to join him for a mini-vacation. I'd be very ... (read in full...)
I want to do these things but she's not keen... Is she holding me back and will this work?
Q. We live in a large town up North. My partner is a lecturer but is thinking about moving career over summer. We've been dating for 5 years and living together for almost 3. I'm in my early 30s and she's in her late 20s. I work from home and I'...
A. 12 June 2012: That depends on how trust worthy you are in other areas. If you have previously violated her trust with questionable "friendships" of the opposite sex; been known to go out with the guys for a beer and not return until 3:00 AM then her concerns are ... (read in full...)
To what extent are secrets OK in a relationship?
Q. To what extent are secrets ok in a relationship? Let me explain. I've been with my bf for 10 months. We're both in our early 30s and both relatively good-looking, meaning each of us often get the attention of the opposite sex. He's very sociable, ...
A. 7 June 2012: My husband definately doesn't tell me all the play-by-play stuff that goes on in his day when I'm not around. oes it bug me? Sometimes. But I've tried to be adult about it and realize I don't tell him every play-by-play either. If you really trust ... (read in full...)
How often do you have sex with your partner?
Q. how often do you have sex with your partner? looking for answers from people who are in: 1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother) 2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's) 3 and live in relationships (living tog...
A. 7 June 2012: Been married 2 years but together for 7 years. Sex was every night in the beginning even when we had already been living together for a year. Then every couple of days. Now I'm lucky if it's once every 3 weeks. I know if varies from couple to couple ... (read in full...)
He left me for his mistress
Q. Ok i took my husband back after we lived with his mistress for 4months he came back for only 2 and a half months then told me he wasn't in love with me and he was in love with his mistress. She lives 1400 miles away we have two kids. Who he says ...
A. 6 June 2012: If he doesn't love you he probably wouldn't be willing to go to couples counseling. It sounds like he just wants out. You can't fight that. However painful it is, you will have to let go. But who says you have to file for divorce? You could put the ... (read in full...)
My best friend got me pregnant, and my husband is threatening to leave. Should I keep the baby?
Q. I'm 30 years old and I have been married for nearly 7 years. I love my husband very much but I do believe you can love two people at once. I am also in love with my best friend- occasionally, when we hang out, we have sex. We know it is wrong and I ...
A. 6 June 2012: You are going to lose your husband either way. He knows you've been cheating and he's not going to stick around whether you keep the baby or not. You will also probably lose your friend because he is a bit of a player and has other children from ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is mentally unstable and I can't leave relationship
Q. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for one and a half years. I no longer want to be in the relationship as it feels destructive and neither of us are happy, however whenever I try to end it she guilts me back into it by describing how ...
A. 6 June 2012: If I were you I would pack all my stuff when she is gone and get the hell out of Dodge. You are being held hostage by this demon-possessed freak. Move far away and move quickly. Do not leave a trail of breadcrumbs or a forwarding address. You are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is great but should I end it if I'm not attracted to him at all?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been great lately. In the past we've had a lot of serious issues (depression, SI, abortion, etc) and broke up for over a year. We got back together and even though it was a rocky start, things have been going well. So well, ...
A. 6 June 2012: You cannot build a life with someone without some sexual chemistry. Trust me on this one. If you are already somewhat repulsed by the thought of kissing him spells disaster if you got married. It's hard enough to keep the spark when you're wildly ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sleeping around like a maniac! what is she thinking?
Q. What do you think it goes on in the mind of a 33 years old woman with a kid who I have been with for 7 years when she cheats on you once and you forgave her and then 2 years later you find out she is cheating again and even more she goes out blows ...
A. 6 June 2012: Wow! Either she's having a major mid-life crisis, or she has been doing this all along and you just found out, therefore it seems like a new problem. Could she be a sex addict? Does she get paid for these acts? (Don't laugh, I've heard of it.) The ... (read in full...)
Got involved with a co-worker and now he's acting weird. I'd like to clear the air, any advice?
Q. I am a 34 year old woman, and a situation has occured that has confused me. A guy started working in my office about 6 months ago. He is much younger than me (24), and very quickly i noticed he had taken a shine to me, and was following me around, ...
A. 6 June 2012: Invite him to lunch or out for a drink after work where you can speak privately and talk to him about what you're feeling. I think he's embarrassed that when he finally got the chance to be with you sexually he couldn't perform. This is huge for a ... (read in full...)
Is it a good/bad idea to see my ex while I am near his town?
Q. So I came here because I heard this was a good website to get honest opinions on relationship issues. So here's my story. My boyfriend and I were together for over a year when I got pregnant. I lost the baby and not long afterwards we broke up ...
A. 6 June 2012: If he is not already in a realtionship with someone you mind as well give it a shot. My guess is, you are curious to see if there is still something there and he may be wondering that too. What have you got to lose?....go for it.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 15 years will not divorce his wife!
Q. Hi, I have been with my live in boyfriend for 15 years. He has given me 2 engagement rings, (not diamonds) but when I told someone we were engaged, he got very angry. I drive him to and from work, as he works in a bar. He lost his license for 3 ye...
A. 6 June 2012: Why should he go to all the trouble to download his divorce forms on line, fill them out, sign them and drop them off at the courthouse along with a small fee, when in fact he has it made not doing this. He gets you, running around like his personal ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't treat me well. Do I need to end things?
Q. Hello Iam 33 recently met a man 34years old who was very interested in me he told me interesting things about his past about his thug life and that he has slept with many women even there was a time he had 6 girlfriends all to be used for...
A. 6 June 2012: So let me get this straight. Early on in this relationship he opened up to you that he: A) Once juggled 6 women which he used for sex. B) The woman who was carrying his child, he forced to have an abortion. C) He used to be (and possibly still is) ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems unsure about our future. What should I do?
Q. I'm 23 and I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 years. I love him to pieces. I'm getting to the stage where I’m wanting someone to settle down with and have a potential husband. My boyfriend says he loves me, but he doesn't have any ...
A. 5 June 2012: You have to let him go so he can find out what else is out there. Trust me he is going to do this one way or another anyhow. You can either do it voluntarily on your terms or find out he's sleeping with the maid 5 years after you marry the guy. ... (read in full...)
Will money eventually come between us?
Q. My girlfriend and I were friends for awhile before we started dating. We've been together for 6 months now and things couldn't be better. She was born into a wealthy family and has inherited a lot of money. I'm an average office worker and make a ...
A. 5 June 2012: You haven't said if she still lives with her parents, i.e. even if she has her own apartment, don't be so sure Daddy isn't paying the rent for her every month. Which means that she has yet to truly understand what it might be like to be with you on ... (read in full...)
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