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Long term boyfriend looking up ex girlfriend on facebook!?
Q. I know this may seem dumb but I need some advice on how to deal with this. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years planning our marriage now. he is my first. from the beginning I knew he had an ex. nothing special from what he told me. ...
A. 31 October 2012: Better keep a close eye on him and look for strange gaps in his day when he can't be found; when he doesn't go to work or disappears for too many 'nights out with the guys'. Luckily you know where she lives. He's not telling you the whole story. ... (read in full...)
My friend/partner took advantage of us while they were housesitting!
Q. My husband, son and I went on holiday last month for 2 weeks to a family wedding abroad. Usually when we go away my mum has a spare set of keys and comes to check on the house etc... However this time she was coming with us so my friend and her ...
A. 29 October 2012: It was clearly a huge lapse in judgement. I'm guessing her home is not as nice, hence the reason she decided to "play house" in your pad with her friends to "pretend" this was her fabulous life. Now she's embarrassed and probably a little ashamed. ... (read in full...)
Choosing between 2 men
Q. Who should I choose .... One is attractive, financialy and career stable, more serious about me and the future, loved by my parents, love him but sucks in bed The other is less attractive, less serious, can make plans forever, my family dont like...
A. 29 October 2012: How about neither of them? Are there really only two choices in this scenario? Really only two men let in the world to pick from? I say don't pick either of them. Neither really work for you and why settle? You're too young to get stuck with a guy ... (read in full...)
Married user man vs nice guy
Q. Hi, I have been in an affair with a colleague of mine for about 5 months now. He told me he is having a really tough time with his fiance that he has known for 10 years and lived together with. They are separated now and live in different states. ...
A. 29 October 2012: You should go for the nice guy and break it off with the married/commited guy. Clearly he doesn't buy you anything, doesn't do anything special for you or even buy you dinner because he doesn't want to raise any suspicions in his fiance's mind. ... (read in full...)
First Date: Should it be the expensive restaurant, or something less formal?
Q. Im taking my neighbor on a first date today. I knew she liked me and i liked her and decided to man up and ask her out. I asked her out bye inviting her to my bday party and asking her to play bp with me and she said shed rather kick my ass. so we ...
A. 16 October 2012: Nope don't go to the most expensive place on your first date and don't go to some cheesy burger dive either. Pick something in between. Save the fancy place for later when she's fallen madly in love with you, and it's her birthday or some equally ... (read in full...)
He made a big fuss pretending to not know this woman when she only said 'hi' to him, is he hiding something?
Q. I'm not sure if my husband is hiding something from me. The other night we went to dinner and after went window shopping. A female said hi to him. I immediately said who was that. His first response was I dont know. So I said to him well think ...
A. 16 October 2012: How does he act at other times when asked about someone in a similar situation? Usually when a man gets defensive, he's got something to hide. You have to look at his pattern of responses. If he's normally calm when questioned, then suddenly this ... (read in full...)
How did you feel a few days before your marriage?
Q. Hi! I am about to get married and I'm having so many feelings going through my heart and my head. How did you feel a few days before your marriage? Did things change in any way after you got married? Were you even remotely worried things might not ...
A. 16 October 2012: In my first marriage I never had any mis-givings about getting married. I was fully ready to take that step, even though I was only 19 years old. When I got married the second time 20 years later, again I never had any reservations about wanting to ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to get attached to my fiance's mother? I recently lost my mom and I really care about my fiance's mom
Q. Hello. I've recently lost my mother who was the person I loved the most in the whole world. Since she died I've met my fiancé and grew really close to his family, especially his mom: I really love her and I feel her as both a friend and a mother. ...
A. 16 October 2012: I see nothing wrong with it as long as she seems mutually attached to you as well. If you later break up, she may still keep in contact with you. God knows, my mother in law still chats regularly with my husband's first wife and loves her to pieces ... (read in full...)
He's getting married, we cheated, and I want to hook up again
Q. Hi everyone! Last Friday I went out with some friends and I ended up going to a hotel with this 31 year old guy who is married... We both knew what we were getting into and agreed that it was just gonna be a couple of hours of fun... We did ha...
A. 16 October 2012: I think it would be bad to call him. For one thing, I'd be interested in knowing if he ever calls you again. And if he does, I'd be willing to bet it's just for sex. Do you really wanna just be this guy's booty call? If he discovers you like him ... (read in full...)
GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's ...
A. 16 October 2012: Here's the thing, a woman's wedding ring/engagement ring is huge for them and usually it's best to let them pick it out. It rarely ever works out when the man picks the ring because you really have no idea what kind of Cinderella thing she's had in ... (read in full...)
How do I get my friends and family to see that the relationship I have with younger girl friend is real and that she's not a gold digger?
Q. How do I get my friedns and family to see that the relationship I have with younger girl friend is real? I am 39 and a very successful business man. After breaking off my long time relationship with my ex I started dating a much younger 22 yr ol...
A. 16 October 2012: My husband had the exact same experience, 3 years before he met me. And that's exactly how long his relationship lasted with his 22 year old girlfriend before the jig was up. She too used him to pay for her school loan, her car loan, which we are ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to stay with a woman, even if you do not see long term potential?
Q. Basically, my GF of 2 years cheated on me with a stranger. She denied cheating and lied to my face until I confronted her with circumstantial evidence that eventually made her confess. Although she denies having sexual intercourse, she...
A. 16 October 2012: I suppose if you don't feel like being alone you could stay until you find someone else and I suspect that is what you are doing subconsciously anyhow. Otherwise I think it's a waste of time to be with her. Although ultimately I suspect you want to ... (read in full...)
What are recommended lubes people have used. And What works best for the painful morning after stomach aches and muscle cramps?
Q. I'm newly wed of 2 months now and so I've been exploring many new things lately as new couples do. I was wondering what the best lube is that feels warm and maybe adds to your sensitivity? One other question... What works best for the painful ...
A. 3 October 2012: Flavored lubes feel, smell and have a slightly sweet taste. I would recommend those. Be sure you pee after sex (this prevents urinary tract infections and pelvic inflammatory problems). You may be experiencing these symptoms because you were not ... (read in full...)
Do people in work places always take sides like this? The woman who was disciplined (and unjustly) has been sacked and I don't think it's fair.
Q. Hello Aunts,this is a work relationship question. Recently two women where I work had a fall out, not major at all, but one reported the other to our manager. When the other came into work she got disciplined and she walked out as she didnt want t...
A. 3 October 2012: Sometimes work politics are like this. And unless you are in good with your boss and she sees you as a person who can be impartial and objective (and honest) there's not much you can do. I would switch jobs. The evil woman in this picture is on a ... (read in full...)
She masturbates in a less usual way, crossing her legs. Which is better? Her way or sex with a partner?
Q. Hey all I appreciate any advice. I have been with my gf for 10 months I'm 21. So this is why I'm posting: Basically she masturbates using the method of crossing her leg and squeezing. She never masturbates with fingers. When I ask what she prefe...
A. 3 October 2012: You can't compare the two, they are completely different sensations and purposes. Is masterbation better than sex? Both have their pleasures. Woman who orgasm by the squeezing method will do well if you learn how to apply the right pressure to her ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?
Q. I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. ...
A. 3 October 2012: I think you should give your wife a big wake up call. Tell her you want a trial seperation. Then do it. Work out the details of how you will balance visitation rights for the kids but don't take the full responsibility for them. She needs to see a ... (read in full...)
Does the love for a previous partner fade away in time, or is there always something there?
Q. This question is directed mainly at the guys, but ladies please feel free to answer too :) My current boyfriend is my first for everything, and hopefully he'll be my last! We're a long distance couple, have been together for two years now and I ...
A. 29 September 2012: Wait a minute.....wait just a minute; your boyfriend insists on hanging out with his ex-girlfriend, even though he's involved with someone else, and even though he knows it makes you uncomfortable, and you're trying to justify this as "normal"? Oh ... (read in full...)
Should I get the gastric bypass surgery done?
Q. I'm 16 almost 17, I have always been overweight and at this time in my life I think I'm ready to move forward and start working to lose my weight. I'm in the 300s and I'd really love to lose this. I know people are going to say your young and w...
A. 7 September 2012: The reason people sometimes gain the weight back after they've had gastric bypass is because they never re-trained themselves how to eat properly, so old habits can take over again after the surgery and put you right back in the exact same ... (read in full...)
Affair that wasn't. Will I ever quit feeling guilty?
Q. First, I am 69. I have been re-married for 6 years to a man who has had anger, jealousy issues and 2 turbulent marriages. My marriage has been fraught with trust issues, and a great deal of them on my part as well. I was told that he still ...
A. 1 September 2012: You will stop feeling guilty when you feel you deserve to be. You know what you did was wrong even though it didn't involve sex. However your husband constantly keeping in touch with his exes and always keeping them in the know. It's just as ... (read in full...)
How do I solve this problem? I need to meet people in my new city!
Q. I'm in need of some advice both in terms of social and dating. Recently I just moved city due to a new job. The problem here is I don't know anyone in this city at all; and it's a bit of a distance from anyone I used to know. I'm not sure ex...
A. 1 September 2012: I trust you have a job or go to school there. In either of those situations there should be people you can get to know and form friendships with. That'll be your ticket to dining out, going to happy hour, taking in a movie. Find at least one person ... (read in full...)
I always do favors for a work collegue but she doesn't appreciate me or do anything in return!
Q. There is a certain work collegue I have done many regular favors for over the years. One specific favor takes me out of my way a bit and she has takes it for granted. Yesterday I was stuck and couldnt get my morning coffee. I saw her coming back ...
A. 1 September 2012: There is a simple solution. Stop doing favors for her! She's using you can't you see that? You are being a complete doormat, like an obedient puppy and you have to cut the cord with her! Clearly she never returns the favors. WTF? The next time she ... (read in full...)
Advice needed on how to get on with her difficult exes.
Q. Two weeks ago I met a girl from a online dating website, Im 25 and she is 23, we spoke on there for a few days, swapped numbers and found out we lived 2mins from each other. We arranged for a date a few days later and before we knew it we had seen ...
A. 1 September 2012: You should not expect her ex to be civil. But she could certainly draw some boundaries and hopefully has already changed the locks on her house so he cannot come over unannounced and take things. She can also draw some boundaries about acceptable ... (read in full...)
My online affair is becoming too real
Q. I am a married man who has been having an online romance with a married woman I have never met for over a year now. This is problem enough, I suppose. However, what makes it worse is that the relationship is becoming more and more real. My lover ta...
A. 1 September 2012: You do care for her more than you do your own spouse, because you have taken the time to invest in the relationship you have with her, but you have not taken the time to cultivate and retain a relationship with the woman you are married to. That is ... (read in full...)
Is it me? Why do I keep on attracting the type of men who are abusive, drink and do drugs?
Q. Yes I am looking for a decent well kept man that doesn't drink, do drugs ,and does believe in hitting women . I don't understand why do I attract these type of men if they aren't doing one then it's both or all three. I am so tired of this cycle.I ...
A. 1 September 2012: Yes it is you. There is something these men possess that attracts you BEFORE you discover their dark side. This is what you must analyze. Think hard about the characteristics you found interesting in each of them. What do they have in common? Were ... (read in full...)
My marriage lacks a sex life so I have a friend with boundaries. How do I be happy with my husband?
Q. I am a happily married woman (20+ years). Hubby is great, we get along, we have grown children, built a nice life, etc. We work great together, have some of the same hobbies, and almost always agree. He is sweet and nice and we are happy together. I ...
A. 1 September 2012: I guess if that works for you....but in my experience it never stayed in that neat little box I thought it would. Over time either I wanted more, or he did. Over time, the connection I formed with someone else, eventually eroded my need to be with ... (read in full...)
Husband thinks swinging can save our marriage
Q. I split up from my husband about three years ago, as he was cold, disinterested in me or our son, and refused to give me any housekeeping. I started a very romantic affair with a guy, got myself a rented house where my son and I were happy. My new ...
A. 29 August 2012: I smell trouble. Things could end badly. Your boyfriend will end up looking foolish or being exposed in an unfair game. Could even end up being dangerous. Your husband sounds cold and calculating. He might drug your b/f and he'll end up dead. ... (read in full...)
Can someone with bi polar live a normal life with treatment
Q. i just had my bf bakeracted . He is bi polar and has run out of his meds since moving back here . He had and appt for this week but i was scared that he wouldnt make it till then so after him trying to hurt himself last night i had him locked up . I ...
A. 29 August 2012: How severe is his bi-polar condition? Have you ever been with him prior to him takin meds? Do you know what he was like before he started taking the meds? Because it sounds like he's prone to going off the deep end when he doesn't take his meds so I ... (read in full...)
Tattoos of each other's names. Now we've split up, should I get mine covered?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently split up we both have tattoos of each others names I booked to have mine covered over but they can't do it til after Christmas my ex is having a tattoo done Christmas time when I asked him is he having my tattoo ...
A. 29 August 2012: Get it covered by all means.... (read in full...)
Why does he show me he loves me but won't say it?
Q. I am very close to a man at work. He is married. He has made comments in the past indicating that his wife gives him flak for him not telling her he loves her. They have been married for twenty years and have four kids. I know he thinks he should ...
A. 26 August 2012: When people fall out of love, it becomes much harder to say those words. ... (read in full...)
How can I gain more confidence in order to save my marriage?
Q. i dont know why but im shy to strip for my husband...how can i get comfortable in my own skin? after i gave birth i got stretch marks and i dont like my body anymore.this is ruining my marriage and i hardly hv sex with my man anymr...i want to be ...
A. 22 August 2012: Keep the lights low, place the lingerie strategically around the parts of you that you feel are less desirable and the rest will fall into place. ... (read in full...)
We had a stupid fight but now my relationship is on the line! What do I do?
Q. Hey everyone, So I am in a bit of a bind. Last week, my girlfriend and I ended up having a fight over something completely stupid - on both parties. We were dating for almost 2 months (this week is 2 mo), and i got mad at her for texting her ex -...
A. 22 August 2012: At two months your bound to have a few fights over a few different issues. If she dumps the relationship over this, my guess is, that text to her ex was more serious than she'd like you to know about you just handed her the perfect escape. Give ... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to have a threesome with him and his brother.
Q. Um...my friend(who I really like) wants to try and have a threesome with him, me, and his brother. I agreed but now nervous. I really like him but I don't want him to think I'm just the type whose up from anything. He told me, he wouldn't mind going ...
A. 22 August 2012: God no. Don't go there.... (read in full...)
I texted I love him and now he is ignoring me.
Q. I have been with my bf for 2 years now and the other morning I texted I love you my friend and he is ignoring me now. Im so hurt why the hell would he do that. Its not like I asked hime ti marry me or anything. ...
A. 22 August 2012: Maybe those words would have been better received in person, and not via text.... (read in full...)
Young Woman attracted to a man over twice her age or just really fiendly?
Q. I'm a mid 40's guy who works in the IT sector. Most days I have been going to the same local Subway for lunch over the last 6 to 8 months. There is this young chinese girl who looks about 17 or 18 and I think is interested in me. I say "think" ...
A. 22 August 2012: Up to this point it's hard to determine if she just possess excellent customer service skills or if she's kinda keen on you. Only one way to find out. Next time you go in for lunch, ask her when her shift ends and would she like to sit down with you ... (read in full...)
Why does he show me he loves me but won't say it?
Q. I am very close to a man at work. He is married. He has made comments in the past indicating that his wife gives him flak for him not telling her he loves her. They have been married for twenty years and have four kids. I know he thinks he should ...
A. 22 August 2012: Women never tire of hearing a man tell them that he loves her. I don't care if you've just met, or you've been together for 30 years. And if a man truly loves a woman he never tires of telling her at least once in awhile without being prompted, ... (read in full...)
My marriage is over, I know this, but it is a good idea to contact one of the girls my husband has been cheating with?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to a serial cheater for 28 years. I have prayed, screamed, cried, stalked, snooped, anything I could do to make him see what he was doing. Honestly, even though I "knew" what he was doing, I never actually caught h...
A. 22 August 2012: Nope and you will, in her mind look like a colossial fool. Don't go there. You are throwing pearls to the swine. Really these women aren't worth your effort and they will never heed your advise, or your words, they will just laugh at you behind ... (read in full...)
I snooped. I didn't find evidence of cheating, but what I did find is really bothering me
Q. I snooped. He always has said I could go through phone, email, anything whenever I wanted because he has nothing to hide. Something he said the other day raised some suspicion so I snooped somewhere I've never looked before. I did not find evidence ...
A. 22 August 2012: Hmmm, that is why snooping is such a slippery slope. If you never find anything, no harm done, but if you do it can become a ticking time bomb inside of you. So ask yourself these questions. Would there have been an innocent reason you could have ... (read in full...)
How do I handle being dumped? I'm so angry and upset.
Q. I am so hurt by this. My ex girlfriend told me she doesn't have the feelings towards me as a girlfriend anymore. I loved her. I was there for her when she was going through a rough time with her mother. I didn't see her for six months. We dated for ...
A. 22 August 2012: I know exactly what you are going through and all I can say is that time is the great healer of all painful wounds. But there are no shortcuts to the process of feeling better. Your relationship was fairly short lived, considering you dated for 5 ... (read in full...)
We're planning a wedding, but I don't think I want to marry her. Please help!
Q. Hi,Im with my girlfriend 5 years.We got engauged a couple of months ago and ever since we are not as close.I am happy about 70% of days but to be honest when we are out for a night I find we are very quiet with one another.We have sex about once a ...
A. 12 August 2012: I think you should call off the wedding. In fact cancel it altogether. Go back to the way things were and see if your feelings return. It might just be the pressure of a big wedding that's stressing you out. If you recover from this and find that ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my dad, but he doesn't have the will to live. I just need some advice.
Q. I owe my life to my dad; I know I do and he wants nothing of it. I know this post is long but please, the details are needed. I need you all to understand the fact that I can't not live without my dad in my life. He's done everything for me under ...
A. 12 August 2012: Your Dad seems very depressed and his diagnosis is daunting. He just can't a life beyond what he has right now. You can offer to take him to counselin sessions, tell his doctor to put him on an antidepressant so he can make more clear cut decisions ... (read in full...)
Could my marriage be ending before it even started?!
Q. Hello people! My marriage is currently in a critical state. I separated/strategically ran away from my husband after 5months of our marriage. That short duration was clouded with misunderstandings, i saw his mean, self centred, unempathitic, ...
A. 12 August 2012: If counseling was really an option you probably should have tried that before you ran all the way back to your country. It seems kind of like, why bother now? And why "sweetly" ask him to join you when you "feared for your life" when you were with ... (read in full...)
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