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My job is being threatened because of my pregnancy, has anyone else been through this?
Q. Hi everyone, currently I'm four months pregnant and I inform my job the doctor gave me a letter stating that I can't lift twenty pounds, no strenuous activity, and no exposure to toxins. So they told me they cant accommodate me. Now let me say, This ...
A. 29 June 2011: Most sizable nursing home facilities have a policy manual for their employees. Find yours and read it. Many times it will spell out how they handle issues like this and then you have some leverage by holding them to the policies in their own ... (read in full...)
My GF is spending time with her ex, how should I handle it?
Q. My girlfriend met up with her ex at Glastonbury! I am having a really hard time getting my head round this and am wondering if this is the beginning of the end. My girlfriend of nearly 5 months has an ex who she finished with in Sep 10 who ...
A. 29 June 2011: Clearly she got over being mad at her ex and obviously she is not over him like she acted. You are being played and you probably need to tell her that you love her, but the bottom line is this; it's either you or him. Then be prepared to walk. ... (read in full...)
Empty nester thought she found the one.
Q. I met a nice guy almost 2 1/2 years ago. We are both 46. I have been divorced about 16 years. He was just getting a divorce when I met him on yahoo personals. This was his second divorce. I asked him at the time if he needed time to sew his wild ...
A. 29 June 2011: I am concerned that he may feel like he's outgrown you, since he has, even this late in his life entered into a degree program and will begin a career in medical. You are looking at winding down, while he is gearing up. You don't mention what your ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my neighbor that her husband is probably cheating on her?
Q. Hi Goodpeople, I need some advices here... The couple and my family used to live in same neighborhood. We go to the same church, but we are not that close. They are at middle of 50s and have several grown up children, and grandchildren. Ab...
A. 25 June 2011: If you choose to tell her, I think it would be best received as an annonymous letter she receives when her husband is gone (probably out with the other woman). You should detail both examples of times you saw him with this other woman, and if you ... (read in full...)
Anyone know of any popular and creative highlights?
Q. Hi! I want considering highlighting my hair (since my mom said to dying it black. I have brown curly hair and medium-toned skin. What color or colors would complement me best? I was thinking about auburn, but I's not a definite....
A. 24 June 2011: Copper would look awesome on you. Look through some hair magazines you'll get great inspiration.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not have anything to do with my second ex!
Q. I need a question answered but first i will try to tell you the history I have been with a girl now for 1.5 years she is great and we get along so well. However there is one issue that i can't resolve and it will break us up! I have been in two ...
A. 24 June 2011: I don't know how old your girlfriend was, but she sounds pretty immature for one thing. However you haven't really said if your second wife ever remarried. You didn't mention if you are still a little too friendly with her, for the sake of the kids. ... (read in full...)
My two boys love their stepmother but hate the idea she is pregnant with my baby?
Q. Hi there, i was a single father for 8 years rared two kids by myself mother isnt in the picture then i met the love of life the kids love her too! and we all have a blast! We are having our first baby together its due in september .Well at first ...
A. 24 June 2011: It's a big adjustment and they're still kind of young so it's hard for them to grasp it all. And it's common for kids to be a little jealous of the new arrival. Since they love your wife, I think they'll adjust in time. Just make sure you continue ... (read in full...)
My two boys love their stepmother but hate the idea she is pregnant with my baby?
Q. Hi there, i was a single father for 8 years rared two kids by myself mother isnt in the picture then i met the love of life the kids love her too! and we all have a blast! We are having our first baby together its due in september .Well at first ...
A. 24 June 2011: It's a big adjustment and they're still kind of young so it's hard for them to grasp it all. And it's common for kids to be a little jealous of the new arrival. Since they love your wife, I think they'll adjust in time. Just make sure you continue ... (read in full...)
How should I handle my boyfriend's issues with sex and intimacy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 17 months. We are perfect together - we dont argue, we laugh together, enjoy the same things etc. we live in our own places but plan to move in together at the start of next year. There is just ...
A. 24 June 2011: Yikes! I was once with a guy that was everything a girl could want, except that I had zero sexual attraction for him. And try as might I wasn't attracted to him like that. I stayed in the relationship longer than I should have and ended up cheating ... (read in full...)
He had a secret Facebook account and was talking to a girl on there, but now I have opened my own account he says he cant trust me!
Q. How do I respond to an unfair comment about trust from my bf? The story goes like this: A couple of years ago I found out my bf had a secret facebook account. Not only it was secret, but he was talking to a girl in a very intimate and friendly ...
A. 21 June 2011: If he shifts the focus onto your facebook account, it suddenly puts his behavior on the back-burner, so to speak. Don't let him shift the blame. Confront him dead on about the conversations he's been having behind your back with this other woman. No ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to put their friend before their girlfriend sometimes?
Q. Hi. My question is quite a general one. I have noticed sometimes that my bf puts his friends/friend before me. Is this normal or is this a sign of immaturity? There is one friend in particular, typically I dont get on with him, there is no love los...
A. 21 June 2011: His behavior sounds like a guy who's still stuck in his 20's but someone in the 36-40 age group should start realigning their priorities if they want to be with a woman. I hate to say this, and there's no nice way to put it; maybe he's just not that ... (read in full...)
Can wife's medication cause her sex drive to increase?
Q. hi my wife has been on anti depresent medication since christmas. they have made here feel good however during the time she was on them her sexual behavour changed and she just loved it. not that i an complaining as it was me who cuased her to be...
A. 21 June 2011: Yes it definately can.... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy thinking that my boyfriend is cheating on me. Is he??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years and we live together. There has been no change in his behaviour or mood towards me which would make me suspect anything is wrong. Just a few weeks ago, he was showing me an email from a family member ...
A. 21 June 2011: I think you may need to confront him in order to get to the bottom of his little flirtateou email game but you must do so very carefully. Perhaps you could say that you happened to see it when he left it open one day but never said anything, but now ... (read in full...)
How can I be more accepting of his need to party and give him some time?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our mid 20's and are very serious (I.e. We own a house together). I feel like in the past year he's been going out more and more without me. He recently told me that since he didn't do the whole college thing he feels like ...
A. 14 June 2011: You're both in different places right now and who knows how long that will last. Usually couples who have purchased a home together plan to stay together. Maybe he needs some ground rules. One night out with guys maybe once a week or once every ... (read in full...)
I suspect he's being used for money and I'm really worried about him!
Q. I don't understand what I've done wrong. I'm close friends with a guy an the other day he asked me to send an email for him which i did. I saw another which I shouldn't have and I basically got the idea that hes being played by a girl from the ...
A. 14 June 2011: He's a big boy, there's nothing you can do. If you've told him you saw these things on his computer and told him you were worried that he's being scammed, and he's still doing it, forget it. That's all you can do, is share with your friend what you ... (read in full...)
What can I do in the attempt of changing my life around?
Q. I need help. I don't have anyone I can talk to or anyone I can trust with my heart/feelings so I came to you guys. I just need to get some things off my chest. Why me? Why does everything have to be wrong with me? It's like I'm cursed, like I d...
A. 14 June 2011: You can pray. You can schedule some counseling sessions with a good therapist. You can buy that book "The Secret Power" and read it over and over again (well at least the first few chapters made sense anyhow, the book kind of went off track after ... (read in full...)
Trying to come to terms with being 3 months pregnant and getting hate texts from the father and his wife.
Q. i started meetin a fellow which i taught to be very nice. was seeing him for about two months when he told my sister that he would like to get me pregnant but for as i have 3 kids myself i felt like i had my lot and was in no way interested in havin ...
A. 14 June 2011: P.S. I don't want to scare you but just keep in mind the story of a woman who was 8 months pregnant and was cornered in ladies bathroom with a woman who proceeded to cut her baby out of her womb. The woman got the baby, and left the the mother to ... (read in full...)
Trying to come to terms with being 3 months pregnant and getting hate texts from the father and his wife.
Q. i started meetin a fellow which i taught to be very nice. was seeing him for about two months when he told my sister that he would like to get me pregnant but for as i have 3 kids myself i felt like i had my lot and was in no way interested in havin ...
A. 14 June 2011: I think it's okay to have the baby. Your heart has told you to from day one regardless of his behavior. But I would NOT meet with them again. Your life could be in danger. They both sound a little psycho if you ask me, and next time you go to their ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with slapping during sex?
Q. Hi I am curious to know why some men like to slap women around the face when having sex,do they have some sort of problem or are they violent types and like to dominate women do they care about the person they are hitting or is it just some sex...
A. 7 June 2011: Slapping my bottom during sex, very exciting. Slapping my face, BIG turn off. I would ask him to stop. I find it disturbing that he does this to you.... (read in full...)
Wife headed towards an affair. Can I confide in her sister?
Q. Over the last few months evidence has been mounting that my wife has a thing for a colleague of hers. She thinks she is keeping it very discreet and in control (I don't think she has even told him), but a man knows his wife and knows when somethin...
A. 2 June 2011: Try talking to her sister and see what happens. If she gets grumpy about it, back off. You may need to find a counselor for these discussions.... (read in full...)
Men are leering at my legs and I want it to stop!
Q. Hello there! Here is my crisis. Men who are way older than me are looking at my legs and smiling at me. Not the friendly polite smile but a sinister pervert smile. Please forgive the language. This started happening when my mom said that I shou...
A. 2 June 2011: Then don't worry. Men are going to look. Consider it flattery and then ignore them.... (read in full...)
Do you have to be a "bad boy" for girls to like you?
Q. This question is for women ,I never had a girlfriend and I'm still looking. But I heard girls like the "bad boys". I'm a sweet heart guy and I do have confidence, faith, and not a pushover. I am responsible and I would protect my girlfriend from ...
A. 15 May 2011: It helps but you don't have to go overboard. Just change your image, buy a motorcycle and skip school once in awhile. Girls are attracted to guys who keep them guessing and sometimes seem a little dangerous (not pyscho dangerous, just risky).... (read in full...)
Why do some nice people get exploited?
Q. Why do some nice people get exploited? I am a nice person and I've been walked on all my life. People take the piss out of me because they think i'm to stupid to notice and when i'm having a laugh and a joke, i always end the butt of it. I lived i...
A. 15 May 2011: Even people who aren't nice get exploited, the difference is, the ones who are tougher don't give a sh** they just live their lives and say "f*** it to those who treat them poorly. Maybe you need to develop a bit of a bad girl side so people will ... (read in full...)
Men are leering at my legs and I want it to stop!
Q. Hello there! Here is my crisis. Men who are way older than me are looking at my legs and smiling at me. Not the friendly polite smile but a sinister pervert smile. Please forgive the language. This started happening when my mom said that I shou...
A. 15 May 2011: Cover them up! Harder to look at girls legs if they're in a pair of long pants.... (read in full...)
Has anyone been through this with choosing a life path or partner?
Q. My BF who I love and care for a lot is studying to become a Geologist and work in the mines. This will require him to be away for long periods of time. But then have quite a bit of time of as well. He has a couple of times tried to convince me to ...
A. 15 May 2011: Never choose a field of study if it is not something you truly want to do and are in love with. It takes long enough to endure school in order to achieve a degree so you should never pick something simply because another person expects you to follow ... (read in full...)
Why would he still want to meet me if he's back with her?
Q. So my ex knows I'm meeting new guys... I got a text from him about meeting up with me and I agreed because I'm still not over him... My ex went and met with his ex a few days ago who is still completely in love with him and he texted me telling me ...
A. 15 May 2011: Yes, ignore him. You don't want to be any guy's "back up plan" and that's what it sounds like to me.... (read in full...)
Co-worker Crush
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm very attracted to one of my male co-workers...a sort of instant attraction if you will. When I started 6 months ago, he knew my name before I even had time to process my new work enviornment and tried to make small talk here and th...
A. 17 April 2011: He's just playing a little game to break up the montomy at work. Men do this sometimes, engage in a little office flirting. My guess is if you try to take it further you will end up looking like a fool. He's already involved with someone else. And ... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair, no protection and now I won't touch her
Q. Wife having an affair This went on for a year and i didnt know. she said no condoms were used. That was it , I left. I got tested and no std's. she wants me back but all that goes through my mind was his fluids. I know after sex they leak out of h...
A. 13 April 2011: I think your problems are more than just whether or not you might catch an STD (don't forget HIV). You have an unfaithful spouse. Until you understand why she cheated and get her to agree to attend counseling with you, there are no guarantees she ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 13 April 2011: Then file for divorce and take him for everything you can. Then let the bastard have his torrid lover and I hope in the long run he has to live with the pain of regret. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He is cheating and I am scared he will leave.
Q. My SO and I have been together for 5 years now. We have had many trials including infidelity even including a child. HE had an affair 4 years ago which resulted in his son. He left me for some time when the little guy was born but then came back ...
A. 9 January 2011: Ask him to move out. You are showing your children the worst kind of human behaviro (his) and justifying it. What kind of message is that sending to them? You may love him, and clearly cannot let go. I know it's hard to be alone but you are only ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 6 January 2011: Aren't you just a little curious about her? I would be! Not only would I put my pride aside and attend with my husband but I damn sure wouldn't let him go alone, and give her all the more justification to think she can replace you! Oh yes, I would ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he looks at other women
Q. Hi, I need some insights... My bf and I are in a great relationship for over a year and half, we love each other so much and we plan on getting married. But he's a MAN and he can't help looking at other women. I know, they say it's normal, "m...
A. 6 January 2011: I think the 90 second rule makes sense. All guys are gonna glance for a minute, but if it appears that his gaze is lingering (yes you will need to time it) then it might be time to casually mention to him that it's disrespectful to you to act like ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt and co-worker is oblivious to what he has done!
Q. a guy ive worked with the last 18 months is changing to a new team in 2 days. we've had a massive falling out. when he started we got on amazingly well and i was-still am very fond of him. ive helped him with personal trauma, hes borrowed money-ne...
A. 6 January 2011: Well you could simply ask him to lunch and tell him straight up about what he did that bothered you and then ask him if you guys can get back to a better time and mend the damage. But be prepared for his cocky ego to get in the way and further cause ... (read in full...)
Every time I check her emails it is a bad surprise...so how can I trust her?
Q. OK, weird situation here. I have a friend who is a girl and I am a guy (last time I checked hahaha). Anyway, don't ask how, but I figured out how to check her email. Yeah I know it's low. But the reason I did it is because I wanted to see what kind ...
A. 6 January 2011: Don't worry about snooping, everyone does it. Don't be fooled by those Cleo's who act like they'd "never"...they do. But it's a slippery slope, as you've discovered because you can NEVER reveal how you know what you know, but once you find something ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to repair what has been torn apart?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been together for nearly 6 and half years. We shared a home for about 5 of those years. Our relationship had always been a good one, but unfortunately, this past fall things started to fall apart. We started to fight more, I ...
A. 6 January 2011: It sounds like you went through a bout of depression and even though your husband may not have recongized your symptoms (and neither did you) he sure didn't waste anytime rushing into the arms of another woman! That shows what a weak character he ... (read in full...)
If he really loved her he wouldn't cheat on her with me right?
Q. I am extremely torn and confused over a guy that I was with 8 years ago for 1.5 years. Because of certain circumstances we had broken it off and recently about 4 months ago he came back into my life. He remembers everything we have done, all the ...
A. 28 December 2010: Maybe you need to start probing him about his relationship with her to figure out if he's confused, bored, or has fallen out of love with her. Normally people don't cheat when they are with someone they love. But there are levels of emotional ... (read in full...)
Son's girlfriend cheated, now his whole outlook on life has changed.
Q. I need help really badly. My son he has been down for the last year or so. He had a girlfriend who he loved a lot. He did things for this for this girl that were super romantic and she reciprocated. I liked her. 5 years later,, and I repeat my son ...
A. 28 December 2010: Your son has to heal on his own terms but you can use illustrations from your own experiences (or maybe someone close to you) and give him some ideas on how he can put things back into perspective again. I think he should consider counseling if he's ... (read in full...)
Hooked on these great feelings of desire.
Q. I am a married woman having a emotional affair with a single man 8 years younger than me. I met him on a social network. I told him in the beginning I was not leaving my husband cause he loves me. However, I have grown to really like him and think ...
A. 28 December 2010: Social networks are dangerous areas for bored married people. You obviously went looking for something you are missing at home. But meeting someone you only know online is very dangerous. He could be anyone. He could be lying about alot of things ... (read in full...)
Do I keep this relationship going? I haven't seen or heard much from her since we had sex
Q. I was seeing this older women for awhile as a friend. We would go out and have fun, she didnt want sex at the time because we were just friends she said. One night as it happened she ended up having sex with me and i havent seen or heard much from ...
A. 28 December 2010: You are in an emotional yo-yo with this woman. Clearly she's not happy at home but she's afraid to let go of the "known" for the "unknown" so she's testing the waters. Her guilt and her conscience forces her to say she doesn't want sex, but she ... (read in full...)
This relationship lacks so much affection
Q. I have been in a relationship for seven years now. We live together, am engaged, and I have an eight year old son. However, this relationship lacks so much affection. He has never been the affectionate type, however I like affection. I don't need a ...
A. 13 September 2010: Does he really love you? Or is he in it for the comfort, obligation, companionship?... (read in full...)
Getting married soon and have proof that he slept with an ex while on business!
Q. Dear friends, I'm getting married in September. My fiance has been on a business trip and i have firm evidence that he slept with his ex girlfriend. I really dont know what to do and how to react. Shall i confront him? Shall i even cancel my f...
A. 6 September 2010: I would call off the wedding!!!! No dobut about it. He has a different set of standards going into this relationship than you do...Than most of us do. He thinks it's okay to bang someone because he "needs sex" and you weren't around. If you marry ... (read in full...)
Getting married soon and have proof that he slept with an ex while on business!
Q. Dear friends, I'm getting married in September. My fiance has been on a business trip and i have firm evidence that he slept with his ex girlfriend. I really dont know what to do and how to react. Shall i confront him? Shall i even cancel my f...
A. 15 August 2010: If you call off the wedding without talking to him, you'll never feel like you have closure on this relationship. In the back of your mind, you'll always wonder what he would've said, or offered as an explanation for the information you have on him. ... (read in full...)
Getting married soon and have proof that he slept with an ex while on business!
Q. Dear friends, I'm getting married in September. My fiance has been on a business trip and i have firm evidence that he slept with his ex girlfriend. I really dont know what to do and how to react. Shall i confront him? Shall i even cancel my f...
A. 14 August 2010: We cannot tell you how to react to such a violation of trust. What is your deal-breaker? Sleeping with an ex, or any woman other than me, would be a deal-breaker for me I'm afraid. Personally I think you're still in shock! Just make sure you are ... (read in full...)
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