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... Send *weet-thing a private message | | | *weet-thing's profile:I'm a 38-year old artist who is a bit of a hopeless romantic. I've had a few long-term relationships, been married, separated, currently going through a divorce but have a wealth of friends and family around me to keep me centered and happy. When I fall in love, I don't play games. I like it all out there in the open and have always respected men that were honest with me.
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Is she cheating on me??
Q. Okay, so right before bed my gf and i text and she tells me shes going to bed usually sleep well and goodnight. 98 percent of the time.. well a couple days ago she was being all " ohh hunny bear, i hope you sleep well xoxo muah etc.. just really ...
A. 21 July 2010: Would she really have the time to juggle another guy?..Could it be someone she works with? Before you jump to conclusions, I'd say you need to watch her behavior a little more without making accusations. The more you spill, the more chance you give ... (read in full...)
My sister refuses to sleep in her own bed.
Q. A couple of months ago, my Mum lost her job, and we had to move into a flat, which only has 2 rooms. This means I'm now sharing a room with my sister whos a year younger than me. We each have a bed, but she will only sleep in mine, and it's really ...
A. 21 July 2010: You didn't mention how old she is. But I'm guessing whatever her age is, she is needing some nurturing. Chldren frequenly feel the trauma going on around; the loss of your mother's job and the change in living arrangments; it manifests itself in the ... (read in full...)
Need tips on better communicating with my wife
Q. hi I am having problems in my relationship.I love my wife of three years but I need to better myself in communicating Does anyone know any good books or good advice I need it Thank you...
A. 21 July 2010: Just go to any Self Help area of any bookstore and you will not lack for an answer. Also having a counselor to talk to may also help you open up. I advise you to consider both. I was once married to a guy who was the "strong silent" type. He had ... (read in full...)
Questions about cheating and ex-wives and other things.
Q. Maybe you can help me interpret these remarks made by my Ex-wife. It has bothered me and I know I should just leave it alone but still, I would like to know. When your Ex tells you that their new Man is the best ever (cheating partner turned new BF) ...
A. 1 July 2010: 1. For your ex wife to tell you how great her new man is in bed, well that's just cruel! Even if it were true, there's no reason to share that with the man you used to be married to.
2. Don't know about this question, it's kinda hard to say.... (read in full...)
I think he may be cheating, but I need proof!
Q. I strongly suspect my husband has, or is about to cheat on me.Pevious posts to this site, and the replies recieved,say my instincts and gut feelings are right! I am absolutely sickened and heartbroken, but I know he will deny all and make me out to ...
A. 1 July 2010: I once had a friend who swore her husband was meeting another woman for lunch every day, and taking her with him on business trips. She bought one of those tape recording devices that only starts recording when it senses "sound" and planted it in ... (read in full...)
My husband spoiled his ex'es, and now I have to help pay the debts! Should I ask his mom for financial help?
Q. My husband and I are in dire financial straits. My husband has a big fault; he is too generous. It will most definitely help him get into heaven but it's not helping much here......right now. He was took to the cleaners by an ex wife and then a ...
A. 30 June 2010: Asking his mum for the money is only a temporary fix. His behavior toward his ex'es has to change, otherwise he'll just hand over more money to them later when they come crawling with a new problem. What is he trying to prove anyhow?....Your ... (read in full...)
After eight years he says we're just close friends
Q. Please advise me what to do! No matter what I do, my boyfriend seems to think we're just very close friends. But that is not how it appears to me or to other people! We've been seeing each other since 2002, and he practically lives at my apartmen...
A. 30 June 2010: If he seems to think you're just "good" friends, then bring up the subject of seeing other people and see how he reacts. If he seems non-challant about it, like it won't bother him when you start dating and having sex with other men, then I'd say ... (read in full...)
There's always little things in every relationship that don't need to be said.
Q. I love my girlfriend and couldn't ask for anything better, we tell each other everything. When it comes to our past partners I have told her the truth (3 people before) but have lied about who they are. Just about ages, because I was kind of ...
A. 21 June 2010: I'm torn on this one because honesty is a big thing in all relationships, on the other hand, it is YOUR business and if she doesn't ask alot of questions, or seem overly interested, I say let sleeping dogs lie. You've both had partners before, no ... (read in full...)
Used me as rebound girl for 5 months? Is this good revenge on him?
Q. Does he really want me or is he still hung over his ex gf? When I first met boyfriend, he would rant on and on to me about his ex, how she was psycho and all. I felt it was okay since we were just friends given the distance between us it would be...
A. 21 June 2010: He is really mixed up.Trying to have a foot in both worlds. He still loves his ex, regardless of what he tells you, men who don't have feelings for a woman have no problem avoiding them! Since he always leaves an "open door" for her contact, says ... (read in full...)
I'm destroyed by jealousy, and broke up with her. But I wish I had her back.
Q. I am totally devastated. I love my girlfriend so much, but I have dumped her. Cannot tell why... A jealousy story, something that happened between us recently and that never went out of me. It's still inside, painful, pushing me to do things I d...
A. 21 June 2010: Sounds like you are sabatoging your relationship because you don't feel like you deserve someone like her, or you worry that she'll dump you later, so you are trying to beat her to it. Silly if you think about it. It's like self-mutilization. All ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my female boss!
Q. I'm 21 year old female and I'm stupid in love with my also female boss, My first though when I get up in the morning is for her, the same goes when I go to bed. At first it wasn't so bad to work with her and work around my feelings, but now, but...
A. 21 June 2010: Make your move, just know if it goes sour it could cost you your job and your self respect. Then again, she might be "the one".... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to go on holiday with him and his mum tomorrow, but I don't want to go!
Q. Hi. I have been having problems with my boyfriend lately. I'm supposed to be going on holiday with him and his mum tomorrow, but i dont want to go. he said " you're dead if you dont come " because his mum paid for the rooms. We only have to take ...
A. 21 June 2010: I'd say don't go. His Mum paid for a room for herself, and one for him. They aren't going to room together, so it doesn't matter if you go, the cost is the same. He sounds like a loser, so I think you should stay home, and use the time to find ... (read in full...)
Makes no sense to me, why he texts without actually meeting me
Q. What's with texting? I met this guy couple months ago.He is a little younger than me. He started texting me few days after we met, first as friends and then flirty messages all the time. He is still in college, works as valet during summe...
A. 21 June 2010: Can you say booty call?....... (read in full...)
Jealousy for attention, what gives?
Q. Continue from the last, question. she is 33, and I am 40, we have known each other for 6 years, i have always kept up on her birthdays, we really didn't see or talk within the last 6 years which was just a week fling. So we been together for 4 ...
A. 21 June 2010: She's flighty and immature in my opinion and I think it's time for you to move on. Facebook is for teenagers.All it does is create drama and destroys grown-up relationships. She doesn't want a relationship, she wants to "play". You deserve an ... (read in full...)
Why do women fake being pregnant?
Q. Why do women fake being pregnant. Twice in my life (not now) I've had girl fake that they are pregnant with my child. I've called them out each time. One was normal girl, who I would never expect that behavior from. She was a fling of sorts but a ...
A. 21 June 2010: Well maybe in the beginning, things were equal, but somewhere along the way, they began to have feelings for you, beyond the wild sex. This is usually where things get sticky. Just because you are still in that casual sex place, does not mean they ... (read in full...)
Should I give it time or let him go? I'm getting too old for flings.
Q. I have been dating a guy for 4 months now, he is 38 and I am 37. we spend two to three nights a week together, talk and text all day everday, go hiking, play tennis, etc. I will sleep in at his house when he goes to work and he will come home on his ...
A. 21 June 2010: I'd give it more time. Four months is not much of an investment and most men take longer to decide if you are "the one". Be patient. It's probably going to be worth it in the long run. It took my b/f 2 years before he knew how he felt about me (or ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to skip the condom while on the pill?
Q. I'm taking birth control, I've been on it for about 3 months now, never missed a day. I haven't been active, but I'm curious that if I have sex, is my boyfriend able to finish in me, without the chance of getting pregnant. We don't want to use a ...
A. 21 June 2010: It is fine NOT to use a condom to prevent pregnancy if you're already taking the Pill. But it is NOT okay to skip using a condom if you want to keep yourself from getting HIV or Hepatitis C. The Pill protects against pregnancy, the condom protects ... (read in full...)
Tired of lying -- should I fess up?
Q. I gave my husband (now ex husband) oral sex and he gave me oral sex and then we had a long and wild sex session that evening. After my husband (ex) fell to sleep, I called the police because my husband (ex) had traffic warrants. I wanted my ...
A. 21 June 2010: I think it's your business and should stay buried, but you've already done damage by blurting it out, so if it means that much to you, you should probably fess up. But be prepared for your new husband to think poorly of you afterwards. What you did ... (read in full...)
Does having your nose pierced hurt?
Q. I know this aint a relationhsip question or anything but i need some advice. do nose pericings hurt? Ive always wanted it doing since i was at school, im now 19 and i really want it doing. some people say its so quick you cant feel it and othe...
A. 21 June 2010: It hurts like hell for about 5 seconds, or until the needle goes all the way through your tissue and comes out the other side. A few seconds later, it hurts like hell again as they wiggle the nose stud into your freshly pierced hole. For an ... (read in full...)
Why do women fake being pregnant?
Q. Why do women fake being pregnant. Twice in my life (not now) I've had girl fake that they are pregnant with my child. I've called them out each time. One was normal girl, who I would never expect that behavior from. She was a fling of sorts but a ...
A. 21 June 2010: Women who want to keep a man for more than a one-night stand, sometimes resort to this tactic. Also keep in mind, one or both may have simply been really "late" and thought they were pregnant, only to discover ther hormones just delayed their ... (read in full...)
Will she know that I've had sex with someone else?
Q. dear cupid, i had girlfriend that i broke up with. meanwhile i had anal sex with this other woman. i want to get back with my girlfriend, but if she wants me to get tested to know if i had sex or anal sex with other women, will she be able to know ...
A. 17 April 2010: She will only be able to tell that you had sex with someone else IF you test postivie for HIV or a sexually transmitted disease. If you come back clean, she'll never know. Only your guilt will give you away.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my live in boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend who is 42 moved in with me 5 months ago due to his business going under and was pretty much broke. So I felt I needed to help him. He had high quality furniture and mine was not that nice but it suited it's purpose. Well since he is a ...
A. 17 April 2010: There was nothing wrong with letting him move in when he lost his job. However he should've been actively looking for work and found something by now to help contribute to your household expenses. Since you are paying for everything, you have the ... (read in full...)
My husband has touched my daughter... how do I deal with it?
Q. My daughter who is 19 has suffered from depression for the past 3 years, she is on tablets and struggles to sleep. I have tried to talk to her to help her to try find out why. She finally opened up to her CPN at the end of november, she told them ...
A. 1 February 2010: Find a good counselor and start some sessions.It will help you deal with the magnitude of what you're going through and sort through everything. If you don't want your husband to return to the house, then you get to choose, not your kids. They can ... (read in full...)
How can I achieve orgasm, while he's on top?
Q. Ok here's one for you, How can i achive a orgasm when he's on top? I can only have one when i'm on top of him! he doesn't know, and i'm afraid to tell him, because i've been faking for awhile. But iv'e really never been able to orgasm any other way, ...
A. 1 February 2010: Grind baby, grind. Rub the head of his penis against your clit (works really well if he's flexible enough to allow you to bend it down, then slide against it as it goes in and out. Should do the trick!... (read in full...)
After a flirting/emotional relationship with someone else, am I finally able to relax in my marriage?
Q. I had a flirting/emotional relationship with a committee colleague and his wife found out several months ago. She snooped on his phone and found some incriminating texts he hadn't deleted and he told her it was just a game between us. She rang me ...
A. 1 February 2010: Not if it's only been a few months. But more than likely if she was going to do something, she would've already. She's probably waiting to see if you and her husband have indeed stopped contacting each other and if she finds any more texts or ... (read in full...)
I have ED, how common is this over 40? WHY do I have it? Am I the only one?
Q. How common is erectile dysfunction over 40? I, m having ED since 43,and now,Im 47.. My doctor did not find anything wrong with me medically. He just says,it is aging. I CAN'T ACCEPT THAT.I really don't want to complain, but it is such a bad ...
A. 1 February 2010: Do you have high blood pressure? Are you taking any type of medicine? Do you still find your wife attractive? Are yo stressed out, worrying about money; dealing with other emotional problems/depression? If none of these apply, talk to your ... (read in full...)
Why do men like anal sex so much?
Q. I have a question for the guys. Why do men like anal. And why do men like to play with women's buttholes. ...
A. 31 January 2010: Not all men do. And typically the ones who do,seem to always have a small penis so it may feel "tighter" to them. Anal sex is one of those things, you either love it or you hate it. If you don't enjoy it, you shouldn't be forced into it.... (read in full...)
Is he interested or naive?
Q. In a few weeks im supposed to interview one of my old middle school teachers about an event that is going on in spring. Just to let you know, I’ve liked this guy for like 6 years and we have a really good relationship as teacher and student. ...
A. 28 January 2010: He may be interested, most men at that age are not naive. But you may be setting yourself up for a big heartache. Are you up for that? He has a wife and kids. He's probably enjoying the attention and he may allow it to go as far as you want it to ... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife will cheat again?
Q. My wife has been cheating on me for so many times and i still forgive her.I know its stupid of me but i don't want our family to be torn apart.shes a good liar and a really selfish bitch.One time,she said shes going to throw the trash and i was ...
A. 25 December 2009: You should be asking yourself WHY. You should go to couples counseling to understand why she does this. Perhaps she is a sex addict. Perhaps she just doesn't love you anymore, or her feelings for you have changed. Perhaps she's addicted to the ... (read in full...)
Doomed to fail?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and some months now. We were great, happy doing things always together. Slowly she started to introduce negativity saying things like you'll stop loving me one day, things will change and i'd ...
A. 25 December 2009: She is insecure and tends to be the victim, sabotaging her relationships so that each one ends the same way and she can continue to spin her self-fulfilled prophecy into place. You can try to be more supportive and avoid the pitfalls of bad jokes ... (read in full...)
They grew up exactly the same together but are totally different, how do you handle that?
Q. How can two kids who are about 1 year apart, who came from the same parents, shared the same household, yet they grow up with two completely different perspectives about their lives? They are both in their 20's now; the older child is respectful, ...
A. 25 December 2009: Well I can understand that they would not grow up being exactly the same, but it is perplexing that one seems happy and one seems terribly unhappy. Happiness comes from inside. The younger one has issues that come from his own ability to be happy, ... (read in full...)
Should I leave? I need an outsiders point of view please..
Q. I find my relationship problems difficult to talk to with my friends and family. I dont like them to see me as weak or troubled or i guess burden them with my troubles so i normally keep everything to myself and try to deal with things. But i have ...
A. 25 December 2009: Find a good counselor and start going to sessions. You can schedule them on your lunch hour, even he doesn't have to know. A counselor will help you sort out your feelings and come to your own conclusions without burdening your friends or family. I ... (read in full...)
Should I walk away if he got another girl pregnant?
Q. hello im just wondering what i should do.my boyfriend of 5years got another girl pregnant an it hurts me soo much cause i was there an he didnt want me to have mine.but allowing this girl to have her baby.he say he love me an want to work it out wit ...
A. 25 December 2009: Get out. He's a loser. There is nothing else to do or say. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband now I can't get over him
Q. i cheated my husband with another guy after having a very mess sex relationship with my husband,i really feel guilty everytime i do it but the problem is that i always say i wont do it again but it keep on happening,i really love this guy but i am ...
A. 25 December 2009: Affairs are always the symptom of a bigger problem. There is something missing in your marriage. Women don't cheat on men they love and adore. They cheat on men who are not fulfilling them in some way. You need to assess your marriage and be ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my priest and forgive her?
Q. went to church this am and while the priest was saying the homily he looked in my direction he said u must strive to forgive, love unconditionally, and be understanding. He looked in my direction and said you have to be the one to do this no matter ...
A. 25 December 2009: You should never hesitate to forgive someone, especially if it is weighing on your heart; it's not just your conscious telling you to do this, it is a God thing. But also keep in mind that forgiving someone does not mean you set yourself up for more ... (read in full...)
Why is my hair greasy at the moment?
Q. Hey all i have a wierd problem at the moment i have washed my hair three times in the past 2 days and i have a patch of really greasy hair :S i have used a new product (heat protector) and i think it may be that so i have stopped using it so ho...
A. 23 December 2009: Yeah,it sounds like the heat protector may be the culprit. You may also be prone to oily hair just naturally. If you think so, switch to a shampoo and conditioner designed for oily scalps. If you want to use a heat protector, use it on the very ... (read in full...)
We have both moved on but I still get a little jealous of his new girl
Q. Long story short: The ex and I broke up about a year ago after a two-year relationship. We then went on to hook up randomly throughout the last year even while dating other people. Also including once recently while I've been dating another guy. I ...
A. 6 December 2009: Because you continued to hook up with your "ex" you never moved on. You may think you have, but emotionally you have not. Men are really bad about using their ex'es for a FWB sort of thing, while they're looking for someone else. Ex-girlfriends ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me with my Ipod?
Q. I just got a new Ipod nano today, the new 5th generation and I dont like how it plays the music out loud, can somone please tell me how to like, turn it off?...
A. 6 December 2009: Usually you press and hold the menu button firmly and it will shut off. Also there's volume control on the wheel that you can manipulate when it's playing which should lower the volume. When all else fails read the manual. If you didn't get one, ... (read in full...)
I am dating the local newspaper!
Q. i've recently got my first ever girlfriend of my life and i am damn happy 'bout it. but the thing is, whatever we talk about, romantic or private, just ANYTHINNG.... she goes on and shares it with her roommates. its not that they spread gossi...
A. 6 December 2009: Your girlfriend is immature for her age. This is the type of behavior girls do when they're 14. What this tells me is that your girlfriend cannot think on her own. She needs "a crowd" to help her think, decide and feel. Maybe you should simply ... (read in full...)
My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.
Q. Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...
A. 6 December 2009: I think she has a hard time being honest. This probably comes from the fact that we wants to be the woman you see in her, not the one she really is. She is playing a role because she's got a checkered past, one she probably regrets. I'm really not ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship happen between me and my boss despite age differences?
Q. I travel for work. I am the only woman on a 40 man gang.A little over 3 months ago I was assigned to a new gang. I began dating my boss. He is an intelligent, kind, focused, driven man. He is very well respected in his field.We have so much in ...
A. 13 October 2009: Yes it can work, but it's very sticky to become romantically involved with anyone from work, much less your boss. Your co-workers may feel you get special priviledges which can upset the balance of the "gang". This can create jealousy and hostility ... (read in full...)
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