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I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 25 October 2007: Whatever you do, don't tell her you're not attracted to her because of her weight. It'll kill her self-esteem and probably depress her. I agree with blueeyedbabe, try focusing on the health aspect of her weight gain and start doing activities ... (read in full...)
His text messages gave the game away! What should I do now?
Q. theres this guy i like. ALOT. we arent together yet but we ae thinking of it. recently he came round mine and asked if he could use my phone charger as it is the same as his. he went out of the room for about 20 mins or so. i found myself read...
A. 25 October 2007: Well I wouldn't worry too much about the text messages from the other girl, considering that you and him aren't even together as of yet. Don't reveal to him that you read through his messages, but you might just tell him you've heard rumors about ... (read in full...)
I think he gave me the ring just to "trap" me, make me feel better about having sex before marriage. He used to say if I didn't continue sleeping with him he wasn't going to "set a date." Should I stay?
Q. I want to know if my ex-fiance proposed for the right reasons. We are broken up now (I broke up with him), but I still need some resolve. Anyway, after 2 months of dating last year he proposed. When we first starting dating I told him I was waiting ...
A. 24 October 2007: Yes I think he used the engagement as a way to get you to have sex with him and when it didn't work out the way he planned, he became ugly and you got to see his true nature. If he loved you, which I really question, you were right, it wasn't a ... (read in full...)
Not feeling wanted
Q. Dear cupid, well ok here goes nothing i really like this guy but my parents dont they think i can do better but i dont like nobody else he is all i think of and i dont really think he likes me but he aint afraid to be around me at night when nob...
A. 24 October 2007: My parents used to be the same way and it drove me nuts. I remember this one older guy that I was crazy about when I was 16. You know the type, they drive up to your house and honk and expect you to bop out and jump into the car, so they can avoid ... (read in full...)
She hurt me so much. Why do I still want her back?
Q. My ex hurt me a lot, cheated on me, lied to me, deceived me, and yet part of me still wants her back. When she's hurt me, why does some of me still want to hold on?...
A. 24 October 2007: She may have made up the rape thing so you would feel sorry for her. Most men are drawn to women who have been victimized and they tend to want to protect them. She has probably figured that out and she uses it. It's possible that she was raped, ... (read in full...)
She hurt me so much. Why do I still want her back?
Q. My ex hurt me a lot, cheated on me, lied to me, deceived me, and yet part of me still wants her back. When she's hurt me, why does some of me still want to hold on?...
A. 19 October 2007: The pain of a break up always takes time to heal regardless of the situation or the persons involved. You fell in love with the person you "thought" she was, not the person she actually was. And it's very hard to fall out of love with that person. ... (read in full...)
I'm married, but thinking of an ex! I'm so confused and don't know what to do.
Q. Dear Cupid, I seem to be in a lot of confusion...i have been married for 3 years now. i also have a son of 2 years with my husband. My problem is that my past relationships seem to haunt me terribly in the sense that i would love to revive the...
A. 19 October 2007: Could it be that you became involved with your husband as a rebound from the pain you had during the break up with your ex? Could it also be that you rushed into the marriage before you had time to realize there was no sexual chemistry between the ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I could spend the rest of my life with him. How can I get to the bottom of my feelings?
Q. Hi Everyone. I need your help. My partner and I split up in February after just over 4 years together. After quite a few conversations in between then and now, we decided to try and make it work again. He was the one though that texted me quite a ...
A. 19 October 2007: Only you can figure out what caused you to pull away. Was it a loss of attraction? Too many differences? Fighting too much?...etc. You really don't mention what kind of mate he was, but since you got along fairly well, he must have been a pretty ... (read in full...)
I don't want to waste my weekends. Is there a win win solution?
Q. I have been telling my boyfriend we should do more fun stuff together when we spend time together. He agreed that we should look into something cool to do during the weekend. However, he just said it without really taking any actions. To him, ...
A. 19 October 2007: Yes! Why don't you plan something one week-end that get you both out of the house and doing something fun? You may even have to plan something two or three more times, before he understands what your idea of "fun" really is, and starts planning a ... (read in full...)
The thought of him keeps haunting me!
Q. Even though I'm broken up with my fiance I was just wondering why he didn't share more of his past with me. He never showed me pictures of his mom who died when he was 18, or any pictures for that matter. He said it was because I constantly broke up ...
A. 19 October 2007: Stop blaming yourself for his behavior and looking at him through 'rose-colored' glasses. Everytime you feel haunted, remind yourself of the very words you posted: "He was emotionally abusive". I suspect he is dealing with some anger over his ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling tied down by my serious relationship - but I don't want to break up! What do I do?
Q. Dear cupid.. Before I got together with my current girlfriend, I wasn't ready to get involved in a serious relationship. My life was in a mess and I promised myself that I wouldnt get involved with anyone until I had sorted things out. I had made ...
A. 19 October 2007: Two things might help. Counseling. For you. Alone. So you can talk to someone about what's bothering you, and arrive at some conclusions and answers that may give you fulfillment. The other is to sit her down and tell her what you've told us. ... (read in full...)
He never instigates sex. Why not? Is he gay?
Q. Hi.. I've been in a relationship with an amazing guy for 7 months now. We moved in together one month ago. He is perfect on every level - considerate, fun, witty, very sociable etc etc... However, I feel he doesn't fancy me because he never...
A. 11 October 2007: I don't think he's gay, I think he just has a few hang ups about his ability to perform and please a woman in bed. I suspect he is on the smaller side, which may also be making him feel self-conscious. He may be inexperienced too. Most women do not ... (read in full...)
Am I Bisexual or what?
Q. Hey.... Im soo confused.. Im really attracted to men..espically with long hair...and have been with men, and have dated men, and have fancied them...but, when i look at a man, i dont get the sudden lustful feelings i get when i look at an attracti...
A. 11 October 2007: I frequently look at other women and realize which ones are beautiful to me, and even admire them but it's more of a competitive thing with me. I gather hair ideas, make-up, clothing and attitudes from other women. I may be curious about their ... (read in full...)
Why are men inclined to cheat on their wives?
Q. Hi, can you please send me a scientific analyses why men are incline to cheat on their wives? I'm am a man of 41yrs of age and have been married for 10yrs.I neither drink nor smoke but i like the company of nice woman.even if i'm joking the girls ar...
A. 11 October 2007: Some people would say it goes back to your caveman roots, and the need to 'spread your seed' and populate the earth. Some believe it's simply another test of our character because life is full of temptations and God judges how we handle each and ... (read in full...)
I have a smelly discharge. What can I do?
Q. Hi i have a problem of bad odour discharge which comes some times and it is bringing trouble when with my partner during sex. what can i do? i feel very uncomfortable about this....
A. 11 October 2007: Go see your doctor. You may have a yeast infection or something worse like trichinosis, which will require an antibiotic to cure. Don't delay. Some infections can cause serious damage to your reproductive organs. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He's married with kids - what should I do?
Q. hi..ive got a man who is married with kids.. but i love him so much. im much jealous everytime he is with his family.. i feel he doesnt love me anymore.. dearcupid i really love this guy. what should i do... this situation is really hurting me....
A. 11 October 2007: Get out now. If you feel he doesn't love you, it's pretty certain he doesn't, but is only using you to re-charge his male ego, or re-capture his youth. Put yourself in the shoes of the other woman (his wife). How would you feel? you've given birth ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband that I once had an affair during our marriage?
Q. Hi. Is it good to confess to my husband that I once had an affair with another man during our married life? Or should I just forget it? I stopped it, anyway....
A. 11 October 2007: If you have stopped the affair and things between you and your husband are going well, then don't bring it up. It could cause serious damage at this point. Hopefully you learned a valuable lesson, and have regrets for it. That's enough. Just ... (read in full...)
Are hormones the same for girls and boys?
Q. Ive always wondered, are hrmones more active in men or women?...
A. 9 October 2007: They are pretty compatible, but they are usually about 20 years apart. Meaning boys become interested in sex pretty early in life and continue to want to screw everything in sight until they are at least 28. Women usually give in early in life ... (read in full...)
We were happy until I found out about my fiance's secret affair with my mother.
Q. I just found out that my fiancee who I have been with for 8 years and have a 3 month old son with had an affair with my mother. She told me a couple of days ago, she said that it happened about 2 years ago. A month before he proposed to me actually...
A. 9 October 2007: I would recommend family counseling for all three of you. The two people you loved and trusted most in the whole world have both betrayed you in the worst way. I know of no other way to get past this horrible event. You need to understand why ... (read in full...)
Does he love me as much as I love him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for over a year. He is the only man I have ever slept with and I am the only woman he has ever slept with. We love eachother more than anything but when I talk about engagement he always says someday. I am ready to ...
A. 9 October 2007: Men usually feel pressured by their up-bringing and natural male programming to not want to take on a wife until they feel they are somewhat "successful" because they want to be able to support her (even if she works, they still want to know they ... (read in full...)
I feel down, stuck in a life rut, what should I do?
Q. i feel totally stuck in a rut Im 24 and dont have that many friends but the ones i do have seem to be too busy to do stuff at the moment My bf works a lot so see him once or twice a week I have hobbies but feel stuck in life at the min Maybe i just ...
A. 9 October 2007: Have you thought about taking up a hobby or pursuing some classes that interest you? I went through a slump like that when I was about your age, and so I took up art classes and loved it! Not only had I always wanted to do that, but it gave me a ... (read in full...)
I think he bought the new computer just to look for porn! He's trying to hide what he does, but I found out. I feel betrayed!
Q. I know you have heard this a thousand times before. I have just discovered tha my partner has been looking for porn. I know that guys do this sometimes, but what is really scaring me is I think he has set up a separate profile on our computer and ...
A. 5 October 2007: Okay, I would probably feel a little freaked out too because it seems like he's been sneaking around behind your back, and my guess is, he knows it's not going to be a popular subject of discussion between the two of you. So you could do a couple ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating doesn't trust me do to my past. I discovered a message on his phone and I've trust issues too, should I forget about it?
Q. i have been dating a guy now for bout 3 months,he says he loves me,but doesnt trust me as i have not had a good past.i do love him and would never go behind his back,i read a text on his phone from a girl he become friends with, before he met me,not ...
A. 3 October 2007: At the 3-month point, no one really knows anyone. Relationships take time. I don't know what was in your past that makes him feel this way, but if you continue seeing each other, it may disappear over time. Once he figures out that you do what ... (read in full...)
He left me for another; now we're back together but feel I'm constantly building hate inside me for him. The other girl says they've still been seing each other, which he denies. What to do?
Q. i started seeing this guy two years ago and moved in with each a week after we met, the first 8 months were great, then we split as he met somebody else, we then got back together about a year ago, but my mind was in overtime constantly thinking he ...
A. 3 October 2007: Calling the other woman was a bad idea. You never know if what she says is the truth, or just a lie to break you up. Did he admit to what she told you? Has he still been seeing her? If he admitted that he is still seeing her, you'd probably be ... (read in full...)
He treats us like buses, when one breaks down, catches the next. I can't seem to be able to forgive him and take him back...
Q. Ok me and my ex boyfriend have been of again on again for 2 years now.. Prior to that a 5 year relationship., so altogether 7 years. When he is gone I miss him, when he is around I am easily annoyed...I know I am annoyed, well more so (hurt) because ...
A. 3 October 2007: There are other fish in the sea. I suggest you try catching one and throw this one back. First of all, I think he's co-dependent, meaning he'll run from one girl to the next because he doesn't know how, or can't be alone. There will always be a ... (read in full...)
First he says he wants kids, then he doesnt. This is so cruel!
Q. my boyfriend is constanly talkin about our "future " and says he wants a little girl one day then the next time he says he doesnt want kids .. what am i supposed to say to that he builds up my hope just to crush it ifeel its actually quite cruel ...
A. 27 September 2007: I think you're both pretty young to even think about starting a family right now. Since he seems to swing back and forth on the topic, just focus on getting your lives going first. If you haven't finished college, focus on that. If you've earned ... (read in full...)
I told her to move out, but now I want her back
Q. Never been on a site like this but here goes: My girl and I had been dating for almost three years. We now have a 14-month old child together and up until a few months ago the relationship seemed perfect. Then the cracks started to show and she got ...
A. 27 September 2007: I'm sure she knows how you feel about her already. You proposed to her twice. That's pretty obvious to me. You didnt' say what it was that she did that pushed the limit of what you were willing to put up with, but I suspect it has something to do ... (read in full...)
My bf already has a son, but I want to have a child together. He says that he doesn't want another child, though!
Q. Hi there everyone... I'm with my boyfriend nearly 2 years now. I'm 30 and he's 33 and already has a young son who is 9 but I feel like I want a baby of my own with him. He says he doesn't want another child cos he has a son already... I'...
A. 27 September 2007: I agree somewhat with what penta has said. You should believe him when he says he doesn't want another child, on the other hand, he is making a choice for both of you and that is wrong because I know what it's like to be with someone who didn't ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to ask her to cut all contact with her ex? Did we get together too soon?
Q. Hi, Im after a nuetrals point of view on my dilemma so i thought i would ask you.Ive been going out with a girl for about 4 months now shes 22 im 28 just before i got with her she was still in a 2 year relationship but going through breaking...
A. 27 September 2007: Here's what I think: She got emotionally involved with someone too soon after her break up. She is not over her ex and will not stop the contact even if you ask her, as she has already stated. Which means, there's a good chance she will go back to ... (read in full...)
Too much too late?
Q. Have been married 18 yrs and 3 kids 17, 15, 11, last few years Ive been unhappy. I finnaly told husband I wasnt happy and I dont have the same feelings for him. Now he is trying to change over night and do things he has never done, do dished, ...
A. 27 September 2007: This is an all-too familiar position you are in. I know exactly what you are going through! I married at the age of 19 and my husband has always been good to me, but something has always been missing. He's very introverted, I am very outgoing. I ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new girlfriend - how he's ignoring me! I'm deeply hurt - what should I do?
Q. My ex is ignoring me! We broke up several years ago but have always remained friends, but for the past year or so, I know he's been seeing another woman. I've never met her but I hear she's beautiful and he's very much in love. The problem ...
A. 26 September 2007: You need to move on and stop contacting him. If you persist in bugging him, he will surely see think you are trying to cause problems for him. He isn't contacting you because he has someone else in his life that he'd rather be with. I suggest you ... (read in full...)
I know I'm terrible at trusting men, but this time do I have a reason to be concerned?
Q. I have a terrible time trusting men. Even when I meet a man that seems good on the surface, I'm always looking for the hidden strings. My current b/f has done a few things that were "shady" in my opinion -- he was flirting with a friend of mine ...
A. 24 September 2007: I can totally relate! My first husb. was such a dear, never had any female friends, never had ex-girlfriends, like cockroaches, coming out of the woodwork when the lights are off, but then alas, I became very bored with the chap. Enter new b/f who ... (read in full...)
Things have gone to hell, sex-wise... she says oral sex "tickles" now!
Q. We have been together for 8 yrs I am 36 she is 30. I met her in her adolescence, she was inexperienced sexually and willing to try anything with me. We loved each other very much. We partied constantly enjoying each other socially and off the ...
A. 21 September 2007: Uh-oh you're describing sounds like a woman who has lost interest in you, or perhaps is going through some kind of hormonal change that's affecting her sex drive. After being married to a guy for a number of years I started avoiding oral sex, and ... (read in full...)
Would girls go out with someone thats ugly but has a good personality?
Q. would girls go out with someone who is ugly but has a good personality? I'm bein honest here, i'm not very good lookin (and i'm not sayin it so people feel sorry and say i'm negative, its the truth) but i have a good personality. So would popul...
A. 21 September 2007: What makes you think you're ugly? It's not uncommon for guys to try a different hair style/cut, get highlights, and contact lenses, start going to the gym, in an effort to look better. And there's nothing wrong with it either. It could be that you ... (read in full...)
What are the signs they like you and how would you ask them out?
Q. what is the best way to ask a friend out? And what are the signs they like you. We're both 17....
A. 21 September 2007: If she goes out of her way to come say hi to you. If she calls or e-mails you regularly. If she flirts with you or seems interested in what you have to say. And the best way to ask her out is to just do it. Say, "I have tickets to go see _____ ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I don't feel he loves me as much back. Does anyone else have this problem?
Q. I am in love with my boyfriend, but sometimes I feel he doesn't love me as much as I love him. Does anyone else have this problem, or am I just overreacting?...
A. 21 September 2007: I had the same problem with my b/f but after being together now almost 3 yrs. I am starting to realize he was just resistant to show his feelings too quickly. He's been in a couple of bad relationships, so I think he's just overly cautious about ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering why men like sex so much more when the woman has stockings and heels on? Opinions please..
Q. I have a question for the guys out there. Ladies feel free to give your input too. I am just wondering why my husband like sex so much more when I am wearing stockings and heels during sex? Sometimes I feel like a whore because of wearing them dur...
A. 21 September 2007: You know what they say, to please a man you have to be Martha Stewart in the kitchen, and a prostitute in the bedroom. It can be fun if you just play with it and enjoy your secret, sexual role. Being naughty in the bedroom is the most fun of all. ... (read in full...)
He suffers from prem ej and has now joined a site looking for sex. He doesn't know I know. Should I confront him?
Q. I am married for 14 years to a man 16 years my senior. We have got into a vicious circle, where he comes too quick if we haven't had sex for a while which puts me off having sex with him for a while. When I want to have sex with him again he comes ...
A. 21 September 2007: Confront him. I think this is not a good sign for your relationship. When men start crusing porn sites too often, and neglecting or performing poorly with their mates, something is going on and no good can come out of it. I wish you the best.... (read in full...)
How do I figure out if I am being overly sensitive or if my feelings are legit
Q. Relationships are always stressful because I "over think" everything. I'm not sure my girlfriend is really right for me, so what do I ask myself to determine if I'm truly being overly sensitve or if what bothers me is legit?...
A. 21 September 2007: Stop and think about the things you want out of a relationship; companionship, love, honesty, affection, dedication, romance, sex, someone who makes you laugh, who understands your moods, someone who allows you to be yourself and supports your ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for thinking that I should be allowed one date before girls jump to the conclusion that they don't like me?
Q. Why won't the girl i like(or any girls for that matter) give me a chance? i know her, and we are somewhat friends, but she wont give me the honour of one date. Am i wrong for thinking that i should be allowed one date before girls jump to the ...
A. 16 September 2007: Attraction is a powerful component to any potential boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. My guess is the girls you have made friends with, are your friend because they weren't attracted to you in the first place and trying to get them to see you as ... (read in full...)
Does he still care?
Q. Hoping someone can help me through my confusion. My boyfriend and I broke up at the end of June. I needed time to get over him but really I am not over him yet. I still think about him all the time. I did contact him a couple of weeks ago. I go...
A. 16 September 2007: He's trying to be the "nice guy" about this break up. He can tell you haven't let go and he feels guilty, but clearly he's moved on, because he's already seeing someone else. You'd be wise to do the same and quit expecting him to be there for you ... (read in full...)
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