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... Send *weet-thing a private message | | | *weet-thing's profile:I'm a 38-year old artist who is a bit of a hopeless romantic. I've had a few long-term relationships, been married, separated, currently going through a divorce but have a wealth of friends and family around me to keep me centered and happy. When I fall in love, I don't play games. I like it all out there in the open and have always respected men that were honest with me.
I hope that my experiences will help others who are going through similar things.
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Diets to help lose weight?
Q. Hi whats the best type of diet to loose weight? How much exercise do you reccomend. and How many calories. Thanks. Im starting the gym soon also....
A. 26 November 2007: Join a program like Nutrisystems or Jenny Craig and eat only their pre-portioned foods. You'll drop weight quickly without feeling hungry all the time and I would suggest at least 30 min. of aeorbic exercise (bicycling, running, fast-paced walking, ... (read in full...)
I'm getting threatening calls from strangers who claim to know me, saying they're going to beat me up! What can I do?
Q. Hii .. i keep getting prank phone calls of an annonomus number they keep threatenin me to batter me for a reason that isn even true makin excuses up to pick on me and stuff .. im so scared in case they jump me . they o my name were i live and my o...
A. 26 November 2007: Maybe if you called the phone company for your area, they could have that number blocked. This works in the States. Also you may need to notify the police. Such harrassing behavior is illegal here and callers such like this can be tracked down ... (read in full...)
I've got such a great guy...so why do I want something more??
Q. I'm a 20 year old female and mother of a 4year old. I'm not with my son's father as we split when he was about two years old. Shortly after that I started dating someone else who my son sees as a father, well things didn't work out either, he went ...
A. 26 November 2007: I see that it happened for two reasons. Number one, you weren't really ready for a relationship when you met your b/f but things just sort of went there. I think you still had some wild oats to sow at that point, and this co-worker represents the ... (read in full...)
He said he hates cheaters, yet I think he is one, how can I confront him?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for about two months now and he has always made a point that he hates cheating etc. I was recently looking thorugh his text messages ad found some flirty and rude texts exchanged between him and a girl who lives quite ...
A. 26 November 2007: At this stage in the relationship, it would be a bad idea to disclose the fact that you snooped. Also, at this stage, it's really too soon to expect alot of exclusiveness unless you've both been pretty outspoken about this with each other. I've ... (read in full...)
My bf met up with his ex , he said nothing happened, but she told me she wants him back, what can I do?
Q. Before I had a profile I wrote anonymously about the fact that my boyfriend is still friends w/ his ex and I found out that he went to eat lunch w/ her two days after my birthday, which he did not tell me about because he didn't think it was ...
A. 20 November 2007: I think you're just going to have to watch things very carefully for awhile, now that you know who the enemy is and how she plays her game. And your b/f knows the rules now too. No more lunches with her, not even for business. Once his family has ... (read in full...)
We watch porn together, she admires the bigger packages, does this mean she is likely to cheat?
Q. I’ve been watching X-rated movies with my wife. More than we used to do, she's more relaxed watching it. She keeps hinting at how my penis is smaller than those guys we see on porn. Almost every time she has to make a remark like "wow, look at ...
A. 20 November 2007: Take it from someone who knows -- bigger is not always better. There are some positions that are downright impossible with a well-endowed guy, so I think it's just the "idea" of seeing a large penis that has her mind roaming. I do think your wife is ... (read in full...)
Should he tell the world he is in love or should he be sensitive to his ex's?
Q. I am recently in love. He says he loves me very much however doesnt want to say or post anything about that as he thinks it's like flaunting it in front of ex-girlfriends faces and doesnt want to hurt them. I feel he is more sensative to their ...
A. 20 November 2007: That all depends. Were you the one he started seeing while he was still with the ex? If so, it could be based on guilt. If not, then I wonder how long they've been apart? Has he allowed sufficient time to heal from the break up, or are you the ... (read in full...)
Tips about anal sex? Last time we tried it, it felt weird thus I asked him to stop.
Q. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex. Were going to try but im nervous. We tried it once before and we couldnt really get it in, it got in a little but it felt weird to me and i didnt like it and told him to stop. Since were going to try it ...
A. 20 November 2007: I wouldn't recommend baby oil. Try some of that vaseline warming sensation lotion (it's oil based but better for that area)....and by all means, if it still feels weird, or uncomfortable don't go any further. The last thing you want to do is tear ... (read in full...)
My bf puts his ex who he has a child with above me, should I leave him?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a little over a year now and I'm concern that he's not over his ex-girlfriend, which by the way is his baby mother.(She lives in Florida now) When we first started dating he made a trip to go visit his son. But he ...
A. 20 November 2007: Yeah, he's definately keeping you a secret, because he's holding on to the hope that she might come back. And if she thinks he's gotten involved with someone (you) she might think twice about a reconciliation. It doesn't matter whether he's having ... (read in full...)
We love each other, I want to get married, but he says why bother?, is it really important to get married or is he right?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We've lived together for one of those years and I've known him for going on nine years. I love him. Recently I've thought about marriage and I've concluded that I would like to formalize and de...
A. 20 November 2007: If things are working well for both of you, and you are enjoying a loving relationship, I wouldn't rush into marriage right now. Even though 2 years seems like forever, it's not. You can always tie the knot later, perhaps if you decide to have ... (read in full...)
I've realised how much I want to be with her and that I wasnt dealing with our problems...but she thinks we are over.
Q. Hi my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and it's been great, we both love each other very much. However over the last say 2 months we have had a tendancy to have an argument about something pretty silly then get angry at each ...
A. 16 November 2007: In a moment of weakness, or drunken-ness she may have dialed your number with the possibility of talking to you. Then again, she may have dialed your number out of habit, and quickly hung up once she realized she had mis-dialed you. I did that ... (read in full...)
Is anyone out there any good with a Crystal Ball?
Q. I feel genuine love for someone, and I mean genuine. What should I do? The age gap isn't huge (about 8 years). I'm good mates with this person and the last thing I wanna do is screw that up, but I wish I could just find the courage to tell them my ...
A. 9 November 2007: Well there's no such thing as a crystal ball, though it would be nice sometimes! I would say, if this guy seems to make time for you, usually says yes when you invite him out for coffee, lunch, a drink etc. Isn't really seeing anyone right now. ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband so unaffectionate and secretive?
Q. A male or expert perspective on this is highly appreciated. My husband of 5 years is not very passionate or affectionate towards me. He hardly ever gives me any compliments, especially not of the type that would make me feel attractive. He does say ...
A. 8 November 2007: Have you ever stopped to think that what you consider to be attractive and what your husband considers to be attractive might be two totally different things? I once had a male friend who, I swear fits what you've described to a tee! He was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is busy all the time and doesn't have time for me, what shall I do?
Q. I dont know what to do im gettin really depressed.. my boyfriend is ignoring me a lot lately he likes to spend time with his friends more, he was never like this before.. hes busy playing "playstation" with his friends, and going karting. i feel ...
A. 8 November 2007: Your boyfriend is young, immature and clearly not ready for a relationship. He needs time right now to be a little boy. When he grows up someday, he may appreciate a gal like you. But for now, kiss him good-bye and start looking for someone who's ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that her husband is cheating?
Q. There is this party store right by my house, and I know for a fact that the woman who runs the counter, her husband has been sleeping with this girl I know. I used to be friends with this girl, but I cut her out of my life as she's been acting ...
A. 8 November 2007: Go for it! She deserves to know, especially since her health may be at stake.... (read in full...)
He went from being obsessed with me to being totally indifferent. Why?
Q. I met a guy (who was single and wished to stay that way, due to a recent break up). Even though he knew he couldn't go out with me he text me loads, called, wanted to see me etc, basically obsessed! This continued for a month or so, then he turned ...
A. 8 November 2007: He's probably young and immature, got caught up in the chase, then went off to chase someone else. This is the type of guy who gives the good guys a bad name. Don't waste another minute on this one. Start looking for someone who's right for you. ... (read in full...)
My wife's low sex drive is driving me crazy.
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years now. We have a beautiful daughter together and for all intended purposes, our lives are great. But we're not having sex. Well, not nearly enough, if you ask me. We've been together 8 years now, and u...
A. 8 November 2007: I sometimes wonder if it's marriage in general that tends to kill for a woman's sex drive. They say familiarity breeds boredom and I think women are just as, or more so guilty of this than men. We work so hard at getting a man to the alter, once ... (read in full...)
I've realised how much I want to be with her and that I wasnt dealing with our problems...but she thinks we are over.
Q. Hi my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and it's been great, we both love each other very much. However over the last say 2 months we have had a tendancy to have an argument about something pretty silly then get angry at each ...
A. 8 November 2007: I see three things that are fueling these problems: 1. Your g/f made a wrong assumption and has yet to admit or apologize for her own behavior in over-reacting. She also failed to listen to reason when it was given to her. 2. You failed to tell ... (read in full...)
He keeps photos of him and his ex in a special box and doesn't want to throw them out but I don't like this...am I being unreasonable??
Q. Hi, I got married in June this year to my gorgeous man who I have been seeing for 5 years. My problem is this ... he has photos of an old girlfriend in a special box including photos of them kissing and he is reluctant to throw them out ... I dont ...
A. 8 November 2007: Well be thankful those pictures aren't on his computer ready for viewing at the flip of a mouse. At least he took the time to move them to a box and put the box away somewhere. When I became involved with my b/f, I got so sick of seeing all the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to find somebody who will always be romantic??
Q. Is it possible to find someone that will always be romantic? My boyfriend used to do romantic things for me and he doesn’t anymore. I like to be romanced, and by romanced I mean receiving small little gestures such as cuddling, unexpected kisses, ...
A. 8 November 2007: I would say yes. There are a few men who are like this by nature, but most have been trained over the course of their lifetime, being in different relationships, being married, divorced etc. they get the big 'aha' that this is how (most) women like ... (read in full...)
Is the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater" true?
Q. Is the saying true? Once a cheater, always a cheater?" Is it possible that the 'cheater' simply hasn't found the right one, or is it a flawed gene or something? Can a married man (for instance) find love outside his marriage and maintain that he ...
A. 8 November 2007: No, the saying is not true. People cheat for different reasons. Yes, there are some who are habitual, meaning they are addicted to the "high" that comes from doing something naughty, secretive and bad. But most are simply searching for whatever ... (read in full...)
Was it the right decision to break up with her?
Q. Hi everybody! I was in love with someone for the last one year and 8 months. As the time went, our relation become fade due to the followig reasons : She was racist and i tried to change her attituds towards racism, but she could't change a...
A. 8 November 2007: I think the two things you described about your relationship are both big issues. How can you love someone who is prejudice against you because of your race, background, or color? Love should be blind to these things. The second thing you ... (read in full...)
Why am I so jealous?
Q. I'm 19, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half and we're both madly in love. I just have a serious problem with jealousy! Hes a very good looking man and we were friends before we got together. I saw what he was like before when...
A. 8 November 2007: Generally women stop being jealous over their men for two reasons: 1. They figure out what he's made of and realize that he's not the type who will actually cheat on them...(yes, they do exist)....or 2. They become bored with their men and no ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf over the phone. He's been seeing someone younger, should I take him back if he asks me?
Q. my boyfriend and I broke up this morning on the phone. This is the second time in a year that we have broken up. The first time we remaind friends and saw each other. I don't know what to do because he is the only one that makes me happy. He has ...
A. 8 November 2007: I don't think you should get back with him and if you're having those doubts too, then go with your gut. It's a sign. It's not normal for a 20-year old to be seeing a 14-year old. Something's not right with that situation. You deserve someone ... (read in full...)
Stop traveling for relationship, as my gf suggested - although I like my job?
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year, but I travel weekly for work. My gf told me recently that she didn't like my traveling and couldn't do it (the relationship) anymore, she said she needed time. I love my job and am good at it. I fully ...
A. 7 November 2007: Hmmm...this is an odd request for a woman to make....unless of course, your travels come with a young attractive female co-worker. Then she might have cause for her demands. Also, if your "business" trips frequently take you to exotic locations ... (read in full...)
Been with my husband for 30 yrs, I kicked him out after discovering his affair. How do I cope with being alone?
Q. I have been with my husband for 31 years, married 26 and found out last week that he is having an affair with a girl 21 years younger. The relationship is based on fantasy. They text over 1,200 times in one month and I found a note in his truck ...
A. 7 November 2007: Do whatever pleases you. After 31 years of marriage I suspect there are alot of things you've missed out on doing over the years. Think about your dreams, the things you may have given up earlier in your life to raise a family and be there for ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my bf over the phone. He's been seeing someone younger, should I take him back if he asks me?
Q. my boyfriend and I broke up this morning on the phone. This is the second time in a year that we have broken up. The first time we remaind friends and saw each other. I don't know what to do because he is the only one that makes me happy. He has ...
A. 7 November 2007: Yuk! Why in the world would a 20-year old man be interested in a 14-year old girl (girl mind you, not woman) unless he's headed down the road to being a pedophile? In which case your problems will become far worse if he can't even date in his own ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend going off me? please help..
Q. Hey,I recently got with this guy, he is absolutly gorgeous, i cant quite believe he is with me to be honest! We have been together 15months he likes a drink and sometimes gets quite drunk, he has pushed me a couple of times and got a bit spitefull ...
A. 6 November 2007: I'm afraid you may be involved with an alcholic. Sweet when sober, a jerk when drunk. And drinking frequently and quite alot from the sounds of it. He uses alcohol as an escape and to cope with everyday demands including you. His personality ... (read in full...)
My lovesickness really is making me ill...
Q. Hey, My problem is basically that when my boyfriend goes to work in the evenings and I get left stuck at home, as I work during the day at different times, I always start to feel ill. When he is here I feel fine but as soon as he leaves or when I...
A. 6 November 2007: Sounds like you're experiencing some kind of separation anxiety. If you are not experiencing any of these sypmtoms at other times, then yes it is tied to your nerves, and anxiety over your b/f leaving you alone to go to work and it doesn't sound ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to another, does this mean I want out of my long term relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now and we have a 4 year old little girl,but just latley i am not happy,he is always tierd and never has nay time for me,it is like i am not there anymore. To be honest i have not been happy for a whil...
A. 6 November 2007: You were very young when you got involved in this relationship. You've grown since then, and grown up in many ways. It's common for couples to fall into the trap of letting their relationship become too routine and women tend to be the first to get ... (read in full...)
His jealousy and lack of trust makes me feel horrible-how do I deal with this?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. I have never cheated on him or lied or done anything that would cause him to not trust me, but for some reason he still doesn't. He is insanely jealous of my friends (he hates my best ...
A. 6 November 2007: I suspect that his jealousy has more to do with fear. The fear that somehow he believes you are way out of his league to begin with, and you'll eventually figure this out and find someone who is better suited for you. I also suspect that you ... (read in full...)
How do I participate in 'Christian' sex and satisfy a woamn after marriage?
Q. i really would like to know as to how i can have sex after marriage. there are different styles of having sex this days however what are the right ways or styles of sex that are accepted for a christian couple to practise. please i need any respond ...
A. 28 October 2007: In my opinion, there is no such thing as Christan sex, or non-Christian sex, as long as we're talking about sex between a man and woman who are married. God intended for a husband and wife to enjoy each other, even sexually. If you have a rich, ... (read in full...)
Should I quit my job to get away from the married co-worker I'm having an affair with? Tried to end it many times, but cannot.
Q. I have been having an affair with a Married co-worker (Man) for the past 3 years. I have tried several times to end, but can not. Should I just quit my job all together to get away from the urges??...
A. 28 October 2007: Yes.... (read in full...)
Do I stay with the security of my current lifestyle or take a gamble with this new woman?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for 6 years the last few of which have been fairly miserable. I haven't felt able to be myself around her anymore and she doesn't bring out the best in me. But despite that I feel her loyalty, depth of feelings ...
A. 26 October 2007: I once left a nice, honest, decent man because we didn't have alot in common after several years together and I was longing for some "sizzle" that only a new relationship can bring you. Unfortunately, that sizzle quickly gave way to other problems ... (read in full...)
I have a strange habit where my mother is concerned
Q. I am a 20 year old student who left home for uni recently. But before I left I did something really horrible. I got drunk the night before I left in the house and went and hid in the linen closet in our bathroom. I waited for my mother to come home ...
A. 25 October 2007: I think you should seek professional help. It's kind of unusual for men/boys to have sexual fantasies about their Mom. Rather than sweeping this incident under the rug, I think you should get an appt. with a specialist and talk to someone about ... (read in full...)
Where can I get KY jelly and how should I use it?
Q. wer will i get KY jelly would i get it a local chemist or is there some special store that i wolud have to go to. and wen sholud i use it how many minutes before intersourse ???n wer should i apply it???...
A. 25 October 2007: And P.S. It's not edible so don't go down on him after you've applied it. Do that beforehand. ... (read in full...)
Where can I get KY jelly and how should I use it?
Q. wer will i get KY jelly would i get it a local chemist or is there some special store that i wolud have to go to. and wen sholud i use it how many minutes before intersourse ???n wer should i apply it???...
A. 25 October 2007: In the US it's available at Walmart, and all the pharmacies carry it over-the-counter. It's usually back in the area where tampons and condoms are sold. You can use it immediately before sex. I'd try applying it to her vagina, or your penis ... (read in full...)
Should I get rid of him and get on with my life?
Q. I have been married for 7 years. We dont do anything together or talk and have had no intimacy for 4 years. When he goes to the pub he comes home late expecting his dinner. I think I still love him but can't put up with it anymore. I need a bit ...
A. 25 October 2007: Here are your only options: Tell him how you feel, and ask him to make some changes in his behavior or you will exit the marriage. Or insist on marital counseling, otherwise you're packing your bags and he'll have to make his own dinner when he ... (read in full...)
Should I end it?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with a man who was seperated in November 2006, moved into his apartment March, 2007. We started dating in May. I truly believe I found my soul mate. In love like never before and he tells me the same. However, ...
A. 25 October 2007: My guess is he's dealing with some guilt because he was seeing you before he got divorced. You may even be part of the reason he withdrew from his wife, though you really didn't mention if they have indeed gotten divorced. You only stated ... (read in full...)
Should I risk getting to know him better?
Q. i met this guy at a party a week ago and we just clicked and hes so kind and nice and appeciates me for me but in november hes going in to the army and so i dont know what to do because i want to get to know him but im worried that if i get to know ...
A. 25 October 2007: You're too young to become involved with anyone seriously, much less someone who is not going to be there to have a relationship with you. You can remain friends with this guy, but I wouldn't get too close at this point. Consider him to be just a ... (read in full...)
I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 25 October 2007: Whatever you do, don't tell her you're not attracted to her because of her weight. It'll kill her self-esteem and probably depress her. I agree with blueeyedbabe, try focusing on the health aspect of her weight gain and start doing activities ... (read in full...)
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