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I don't want my fiance to have a stripper!
Q. I'm engaged to my partner (we have been together several years), and he said the only reason he won't be having a stripper on his stag night is because i'm really paranoid (I have a mental illness). So, I said that I thought he was doing it to ...
A. 28 April 2009: I see this to be a much bigger problem. What your b/f is telling you is he can do something and you cannot. That is unfair. He's saying he would dump you if you had a male stripper but he thinks it's perfectly ok to have a female stripper. I ... (read in full...)
Wife has a low sex drive and mine is high! What can I do?
Q. I have a problem i love my wife but the problem is she has a low sex drive while me on the other hand i can go more than three times everyday what can i do?Pliz help...
A. 28 April 2009: Sadly enough, most women have a much higher sex drive than people realize. Usually the mood killers are when our men do not spend any time on foreplay. We can't just zoom into the sex thing. We have to be coaxed there. Slowly. Offer to help with ... (read in full...)
I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her (overweight).
Q. I am with a girl who loves me very much and I love her but I am not sexually attracted to her(overweight). She loves me so much and she will do almost anything to make me happy. She has even offered to let me bring over an escort once a week. I do ...
A. 26 April 2009: I think you should plan outings with this girl that will help her lose weight. When you're with her, order healthy things and no fast food. Get into an exercise program together. She proably wants to lose weight too and you may be able to rescue ... (read in full...)
Could she actually be pregnant and telling the truth??
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a rather rocky relationship, there was continual suspicion by her as previous post will explain. When our relationship seemed it was going great over night she called it all off and stopped all contact with me. Telling...
A. 26 April 2009: Time will tell. If she was 6 months pregnant she'd be visibily so. I suspect if she is pregnant you may not even be the father but you won't know this until AFTER the baby is born. I suggest you ask her to get a blood test to determine who the ... (read in full...)
I cheated, tried to fix it, now he's planning a secret tryst...
Q. I cheated about 7 months ago. I had been unhappy for years, tried to tell my husband but he brushed me off. Not that he's bad, he's great, just oblivious. He told me he always thought that the fact that he loved me so much was enough, he didn't ...
A. 26 April 2009: I suspect your wonderful husband is not exactly the saint you've made him out to be. He's a man. And if you've been pre-occupied with someone else for awhile, he found his own form of entertainment. It's not right, but I suspect that while you ... (read in full...)
Should I really have my phone attached to my hip and check it every five minutes?
Q. My bf is very impatient and has a short temper. I'd also like to mention he has never been abusive to me physically, mentally, or emotionally the past three years we've been together. I wish I could say the same for inanimate object. But... he...
A. 26 April 2009: Well you could put the phone on a hard surface, like the kitchen countertop, or your coffee table, and hopefully when it vibrates it'll at least make a loud rumbling noise as it reverberates against the wood it's sitting on and maybe that will ... (read in full...)
My married boss wants to take me to dinner and to his beach house.
Q. I think my married boss likes me. He wants to take me to dinner and to his beach house. I would normally think this is wierd and way wrong but he has also said his intentions were just to be friends but he also said I cant tell anyone that we are ...
A. 26 April 2009: Whatever you do, don't go with him. He may be saying you're just friends, but I think that is just a cover-up for his real feelings of lust for you. By saying the friend-thing it puts you at ease, makes you think it's harmless to accompany him to ... (read in full...)
I'm constantly worried about what my man is up to when I'm not around.
Q. I'm constantly worried about what my man is up to when I'm not around. It's not like he does anything particularly major which makes me feel really silly and pathetic. I know it's not healthy in a relationship. There's so much that's right with him ...
A. 17 April 2009: Your guy is not really 'your guy' at all now is he? Obviously he enjoys your company, no doubt enjoys having sex with you but he is showing signs of the typical male who does not see himself in a serious relationship. Therefore he is still ... (read in full...)
I have a massive crush on a work colleague which I seriously need to get over.
Q. I have a massive crush on a work colleague which I seriously need to get over. I've liked him for 18 months, I almost feel as though I am in a fantasy world with it because whenever he even remotely turns him head in my direction I'm tthinking he's ...
A. 17 April 2009: Alas, we always want what we cannot have. I think it's called temptation and you better get used to it because life is full of little pitfalls that try to derail our lives. Try to get assigned to work projects that don't involve super-cute-but ... (read in full...)
I feel like something out of the Jeremy Kyle show, help!
Q. I feel like I am on the verge of a massive break down and everything is compouding onto my chest. I was sexually assaulted 3 years ago by someone who I thought was a mate, 2 months later my badminton coach and close mate of my dads started perving ...
A. 17 April 2009: You're too old to be living at home, especially with parents like that. I suggest you scrape some money together, find a nice woman who wants to room with you and move the hell out. You have done nothing wrong and you will never heal from the pain ... (read in full...)
Want to spend the night with boyfriend, what will happen if I leave my car in a parking lot..will it be towed?
Q. I want to spend the night with my bf, but I don't want any of my family members seeing my car at his house. Would wal-mart or another place of business such as walgreens tow my car if I leave it parked overnight? And I am using protection...
A. 17 April 2009: Probably safer in a Walmart parking lot. People really do shop there at 3:00 Am and will think nothing of your car being there.... (read in full...)
Paranoid but want openness too
Q. My wife and i have been married fifteen years. Twelve years ago there was a guy at my house and when i ask her to explain it she says she does not remember. I was not to be home and he knocked at the door and i answered i was late for an ...
A. 17 April 2009: Why are you obsessing over something that happened 12 years ago? If you had said 12 days, I would've understood your concerns. Personally I don't think anything happened that day and you should probably let it go. Trust me if your wife was having ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable with my own body
Q. Hey Im hoping someone can help me. I have two n very unhappy with my body. The parts Im having the most trouble with r my inner thighs n my jelly belly. If someone out there has a solution (preferably a fast n easy one) pls help me. Anything would ...
A. 17 April 2009: For some strange reason God blessed us girls with way more at cells than he did the guys. And no matter how thin some of us get in life, we still have jiggly parts that we hate. For most of my 20's I was self-conscious about my lower belly because ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to fake my own death to see if she still loves me?
Q. Well basically my ex havn't been going out for ages, but I'm going out for her best mate (2 months) and she's always trying to get her to dump me but the girl i'm with doesn't want to dump me so i'm thinking. Is it wrong to fake my own death to prov...
A. 17 April 2009: God yes it's wrong. Please don't do that. When she figures out the truth she will think you're nuts. That will be worse than being dead. And trust me, even if she's sad for a moment, she'll be furious for much longer. And I'm kind of ... (read in full...)
Is my man just using me for sex?
Q. i am dating a guy much older then me for 7 months now, but it s not a normal relationship, he lets me see him once maybe twice a month...and it s mostly sex, he is divorced, lives alone, and i believe doesn t want anything serious, but i feel he ...
A. 17 April 2009: I think the age thing probably bothers him more than it does you. He is keeping his distance (while still enjoying the benefits of seeing you at least part-time). Yes he is probably using your for sex on some level. And don't be too sure he's ... (read in full...)
Should I really believe he's just that busy or is it all about sex?
Q. Hey, I'm so confused right now. I'm currently in medical school and I met a guy who is also in my class. We have many mutual friends, and we've hung out at a couple of parties together. My third time hanging out with him we ended up sleeping ...
A. 6 March 2009: I think he's being honest with you and I think he's interested in you for more than just sex. Afterall, he took the time to come all the way over to where you were studying just to say he was sorry and to tell you he's been losing sleep over it. I ... (read in full...)
He says I need to be more open when I want sex
Q. Is it okay to let my boyfriend know how I'm feeling? He says I have to be more open with him and tell him when I want sex. He tells me all the time. Do guys like that? Makes you feel wanted.. ummm a turn on? I don't know..maybe send him a naugh...
A. 6 March 2009: I'd say yes, yes and yes to your questions. Do it all.... (read in full...)
Daughters friend was raped and I'm wondering if thats the real story
Q. I have a 13 1/2 year old daughter. She comes to me and tells me that her best friend was raped the other day. i din't know what to say to her but in my head i was thinking with the way some and i mean some girls are now a days i thought maybe she ...
A. 6 March 2009: I suspect your daughter needs to talk about it. She needs to share whatever is in her head. You could simply start out by saying, "Hey how is your friend doing?" and then ask her how it all happened. Then just listen and let her talk for awhile. ... (read in full...)
Mixed messages from a woman at work. How to decode...?
Q. Hello. There's this woman at work who I've always liked. Problem is, she is going out with another guy - also from work. She has often flirted with me - though not when he is around. One day last week I caught her at the bottom of a stair-case. She ...
A. 6 March 2009: She sounds like a game player. How'd you like to be the dumb bloke who's dating her, only to discover her split personality flirtations with some other guy behind your back? I think your game of cat and mouse is going no where and you are wasting ... (read in full...)
What is this awful smell?
Q. Every time I open my legs there is a smell. It's coming from my vagina. It somtimes smells really bad and I have no idea what it is. What could it be?...
A. 6 March 2009: If you are sexually active, more than likely you have contracted an STD. Please visit your physician immediately. It will not go away by itself and it could cause permanent damage if left untreated. You will need to be on antibiotics to clear it ... (read in full...)
Will my boobs go back to the way they were before after I'm done breast feeding?
Q. Okay this may seem weird (because I know most girls would prefer their boobs to be larger not smaller). Anyway, I'm 5 months pregnant and my breasts have grown by two cup sizes. I used to always want bigger boobs, but now I realize how much they get ...
A. 6 March 2009: More than likely they will return to whatever size they were before you got pregnant so don't despair. Once you've delivered, and finished breast feeding they will return to normal. You may find that they are not quite as firm as they were before, ... (read in full...)
He wants to sleep with other girls but said he couldn't stand it if I sleep with another guy!
Q. I have been seeing a guy on and off for around four years now. But he has never considered me as his girlfriend. He tells me that he loves me but then won't call me, message me or answer my calls for weeks. When I do finally see him I try to ignore ...
A. 6 March 2009: He's immature and doesn't know what he wants or doesn't want. You should make yourself less available and try to meet someone else. He's a waste of your time.... (read in full...)
I really don't see how she could be pregnant but why does she have a headache & puking?
Q. well i have a simple question. since the day me and my g/f made love(protected) and i came inside her with a brand new condom and so i was sure that there was no leak cause i checked it before i put it on and i know it didnt broke because the flui...
A. 6 March 2009: Usually the signs of a pregnancy take weeks to show up. They do not appear the very next day (unless of course you were not her "first").....The typical signs usually come on slowly and appear around 6-8 weeks. Nausea, breast tenderness, the ... (read in full...)
Is my long distance boyfriend just "friends" with this girl or is there more to it?
Q. Hello readers! I have this problem with my Bf. He's been keeping such distance from me, reason being he's working extra hours and has very little time... Which obviously doesn't prevent him from contacting his Gf. Well, that's what I'm also trying ...
A. 22 February 2009: Is it at all possible for you to take a day off and go see him? It might be good to pop into to playground and see what's up. Plan on staying the entire day, and the night. Make sure this girl meets you and knows you are his girlfriend. There's no ... (read in full...)
I don't think he loves me... should I leave him?
Q. I live with a guy, he tells me he loves me but he never wants to kiss me or have sex with be but he wants me to give him oral sex when he watchs porn. He sometimes has sex with other girls! We have been living together 5 months. Should I leave ...
A. 22 February 2009: No I don't think he loves you. I don't even think he's attracted to you anymore. You would be wise to leave. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Do you always listen to your intuition? What should I do in this situation?
Q. Do you always listen to your intuition,or you just say no to it? I do. I know long time ago ,that my intuition is suffering from repressing it, but if I go with it, I must leave my husband ,and that is the biggest step in my life , after I went to ...
A. 22 February 2009: Never underestimate the power of your intuition. You have to ask yourself if you are prepared and willing to live in a marriage without sex, which is a huge part of any marital relationship. Before you give into your intuition, suggest marital and ... (read in full...)
We want to be together but are pulled apart by different goals and plans for the future, what do you suggest?
Q. My girlfreind and i have been together over four and a half years. We both love each other dearly but there are problems in our relationship.We both want different things for the future. I want us to both live together, do some travelling then start ...
A. 22 February 2009: She is probably not the girl for you. You may love each other now, but it takes more than love to make a long term relationship work out. Let her to go Turkey, she might change her mind and come back. If she does not, you are plenty young enough ... (read in full...)
I am seeing an older man, I wish I knew if it's just for sex or he wants a relationship?
Q. i need some advice. I am seeing an older man and i spend 1 night a week with him, i also work with him and no one knows. I really dont know where i stand with him and i feel that i will look a bit mental if i start asking questions- he tells me he ...
A. 22 February 2009: The first thing that caught my attention was something you said in the second sentence of your post. You only see him once a week? Once a week is not a relationship. It's an affair. Why would anyone who intends to see you exclusively only want ... (read in full...)
She still calls his phone late at night? Should I be worried?
Q. He says it was just sex but I found a card she wrote love you and it's been a year since their affair and she still calls his phone late at night, it seems every three months what should I do? Should I believe him when he says it's over and it was ...
A. 19 December 2008: Leave it alone for awhile.....but if she continues to call later, after he's asked her to stop it, then you might consider calling her husband to let him know. Good luck.... (read in full...)
How can I prove to him I won't kick him out again?
Q. Hello! I was dating my fiance for a year and we lived together until I looked on his myspace and saw that him and his co worker were messaging each other back and forth with questionable content and it clearly pointed to him being involved with he...
A. 14 November 2008: Why should you be the one who has to prove anything? He was the one who seemed to be cheating, or close to it. If you ask me, he should be the one graveling, promising you he won't be cruising another chick behind your back. ... (read in full...)
She still calls his phone late at night? Should I be worried?
Q. He says it was just sex but I found a card she wrote love you and it's been a year since their affair and she still calls his phone late at night, it seems every three months what should I do? Should I believe him when he says it's over and it was ...
A. 14 November 2008: I'd be worried! It may have "just been sex" for him, but it wasn't for her. And if she's still calling him a year later that means he never told her to get lost. My guess is, they're still having sex, or he keeps her on a string, "just in case" ... (read in full...)
I need more sex!
Q. Hi, I wanted some advice if there's any out there, I've been with my fiance 4 nearly 3 years, he says I'm the love of his life and he's never loved anyone like he loves me, but there is just one problem - our sex life! He never wants sex, maybe ...
A. 14 November 2008: Some people fall in love for reasons other than physical attraction and chemistry. This could be the case for your b/f. He loves you but he's not attracted to you. Does that make sense? Believe me it happens sometimes. Also some people just have ... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight badly... I resemble a cow!
Q. I need to lose weight badly, and I have made up my mind to do that. I'm particularly insecure about my breasts... they're too big, and too saggy. I realize there are worse things but I resemble a cow. If I were to lose weight, would it affect ...
A. 14 November 2008: If you can afford it, Nutrisystems works well. You never feel like you're starving even though you're surviving on 1000 - 1200 cal. a day. But the food is not terrific. You have to use spices to jazz it up and BE COMMITTED to eating only that ... (read in full...)
Playing Games?
Q. Hello, I wanted to find out if i could have some good advice on an issue i have currently with a boyfriend. We have been dating since March 08 and seeing eachother about once every 2weeks to a week at the begining minus two, two week hols he has...
A. 14 November 2008: Sorry luv, but I think he was just in it for the sex and you were hoping for more. There are other fish in the and it's time for you to cast your net and toss this tadpole back. xoxox... (read in full...)
Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist?
Q. Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist? If they do where would they be or how do I find them?...
A. 14 November 2008: I don't know, but tell me if you find HIM. I hear they are pretty scarse.lol... (read in full...)
Should I leave my cheating husband or try to make it work?
Q. I have been with my husband for 11 years, married for 5 years, I caught him emailing women online for sex, and trying to set up sex with women while I was out of town, they even called his cell phone,so I'm not sure if he slept with any yet but the ...
A. 13 November 2008: I think marital counseling may uncover some truths about why he did what he did. Obviously he thought he could get away with it. He didn't intend for you to know. Which means he may just get better about hiding the evidence next time around. ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my cheating husband or try to make it work?
Q. I have been with my husband for 11 years, married for 5 years, I caught him emailing women online for sex, and trying to set up sex with women while I was out of town, they even called his cell phone,so I'm not sure if he slept with any yet but the ...
A. 7 November 2008: Why should YOU move out? He's the one who cheated! I'd ask him HIM to move out. It may just be the humiliation he needs to face before he'll learn to value his marriage.... (read in full...)
Men over 40: do men loose their sex drive after 40?
Q. This question to men over40...I really need to know how common is that,, that man loses his sex drive over 40? I'm so confused because I know many older ,60 and up guys who are chasing after woman and yet I keep hearing about andropause what hap...
A. 6 November 2008: I don't really know but I'd be interested in hearing what everyone has to say on this topic. My b/f is 53 but he's a young 53 and his equipment works just fine. It's his head that gets screwed up. When he starts focusing on the fact that he's 53 ... (read in full...)
Does he just want someone to e-mail or are we ever going to meet?
Q. I've been emailing a guy from a dating site and don't really know whether we are ever going to meet. Do a lot of them just want someone to email? It has also set me thinking about whether I want to meet someone this way, and whether I want to be ...
A. 6 November 2008: Anytime you meet a man (or woman for that matter) on a dating site who seems content to just chat on e-mails without interest of meeting the person they've been chatting with it means one thing: They're already in a relationship, possibly married ... (read in full...)
Rumors said he's breaking up with her for me..but it hasn't happened yet? What's going on?
Q. I've had a crush on this guy for a while and there's rumors going around that he likes me back and he's gonna break up with his girlfriend for me but he hasn't and he hasn't said anything about the situation at all to me and nobody's brought it up ...
A. 6 November 2008: Don't believe rumors. Wait for the truth. When (and if) it comes, then you can come forward.... (read in full...)
How can HE be happy?
Q. I am still sad, but finally angry. I was married 30 years. Five years ago, my husband walked out very abruptly. I didn't learn till after the divorce that he had met someone on-line from Malaysia and was going to bring her here. (This was a good ...
A. 28 October 2008: It takes time to re-build a shattered self image. There are little things you can do, but it really comes from within. Maybe try to give your look an over-haul. Take up some new hobbies or take a few classes. You meet people (i.e. available men) ... (read in full...)
How can HE be happy?
Q. I am still sad, but finally angry. I was married 30 years. Five years ago, my husband walked out very abruptly. I didn't learn till after the divorce that he had met someone on-line from Malaysia and was going to bring her here. (This was a good ...
A. 23 October 2008: This is a very sad situation and I feel bad for you. Your husband was living a lie. Trying to be someone he is not. And only God knows how long he went through the motions before he took action. I don't know why these things happen, but they do ... (read in full...)
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