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Can a relationship happen between me and my boss despite age differences?
Q. I travel for work. I am the only woman on a 40 man gang.A little over 3 months ago I was assigned to a new gang. I began dating my boss. He is an intelligent, kind, focused, driven man. He is very well respected in his field.We have so much in ...
A. 13 October 2009: Yes it can work, but it's very sticky to become romantically involved with anyone from work, much less your boss. Your co-workers may feel you get special priviledges which can upset the balance of the "gang". This can create jealousy and hostility ... (read in full...)
How can I gain a guy's respect?
Q. How do you gain a guy's respect? I just want to know, seeing as many people have different opinions......
A. 13 October 2009: First you have to respect yourself. You have to have standards and stick with them. Then you show respect to others and after awhile, you earn respect from others.... (read in full...)
I started having an affair due to long distance. How can I end it?
Q. Hi, I am in such a mess and really need help. I live with my partner of 3 years. 2 years ago he left me to go to Australia for a year, we decided during this time we would have an open relationship because we are both realists and know a yea...
A. 13 October 2009: Perhaps you should end it with both of them and start all over again. You are never going to have the married man, you will only be his mistress. Do you want to continue living a lie and being secretive. I know sometimes, the drama of seeing ... (read in full...)
Meeting girls in the gym- a good or bad idea?
Q. I don't have a huge social scene these days,I'm getting too old for clubs etc, really (I'm 35 but an told I look alot younger) and am not too keen on them if I'm being honest anyway. The only social thing I do regularly is that I go to the gym al...
A. 13 October 2009: Women never mind a guy who strikes up a conversation with them if they are possibly looking to meet someone too. Just watch carefully for signals that indicate she wants to be left alone. If she's interested, she'll seem friendly and will try to ... (read in full...)
How do I get happy?
Q. my problem is simple: i'm miserable. i'm a junior in college and stressed out with school. i also don't have a lot of friends neither in school nor out of school. i also commute so its hard to join clubs or anything else that might get me soc...
A. 13 October 2009: Moving closer, or living on campus would eliminate your need to commute. Cutting back on a class or two will reduce your stress and allow you the free time and energy to have a social life -- which may help you find a guy who is closer to your age, ... (read in full...)
When the going gets tough he always bails on me!
Q. I know this sounds so stupid and i know ive figured it out in my head, well nearly but im a 40yr old woman who should no what to do. i met a married man who wasnt happy he left his wife of 28ys and we built up a relationship. we have been together ...
A. 12 October 2009: I think you should let him go -- he's coming out of a long term marriage and he probably wonders what else is out there. He is showing signs of a man who isn't ready to jump right back into a long term relationship when he doesn't even know who he ... (read in full...)
Can you call this an affair?
Q. My husband had dancing and talking to each other in a bar one evening and she was also sitting with the same table as my husband and his employers. Can you called it an affair?...
A. 12 October 2009: I don't think so, unless he sees her more regularly and begins to form a bond with her, such as talking about his problems, his dreams, his feelings and leaving you out of the picture. It sounds like he was in a flirtatous mood, but it might be ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming increasingly concerned about my brother and husband spending too much time together!
Q. I've recently become concerned about my brother and my husband. They're spending too much time together, and they've also keep going to Wisconsin quite frequently, which is strange considering we have no friends/family up there, and the fact we ...
A. 12 October 2009: I'm guessing your brother is single and your husband is sort of living vicarously through him by hanging out with him so he also feels single. Last time I checked, Wisconsin does have strip clubs so it doesn't take long to do the math on that one. ... (read in full...)
How do I make being with my wife's sister happen?
Q. i had a chance to be intimate with my wife's sister about 2years ago, and i didn't, now i am regretful that i didn't. i am regretful because i am overwhelmly in love with her. i think about her everyday. i pray and ask God to make a way that He wil...
A. 10 October 2009: Does your wife know how you feel about her sister? I think it's just lust or some kind of mid-life, "paths never taken" sort of thing. Your best bet would be to ask God to REMOVE these feelings of lust for the sister, and ask him to help you fall ... (read in full...)
How do I make being with my wife's sister happen?
Q. i had a chance to be intimate with my wife's sister about 2years ago, and i didn't, now i am regretful that i didn't. i am regretful because i am overwhelmly in love with her. i think about her everyday. i pray and ask God to make a way that He wil...
A. 10 October 2009: Does your wife know how you feel about her sister? I think it's just lust or some kind of mid-life, "paths never taken" sort of thing. Your best bet would be to ask God to REMOVE these feelings of lust for the sister, and ask him to help you fall ... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my girlfriend. Does anyone understand what I'm going through?
Q. I am in a 3yr relationship with my girlfriend and we both love each other an everything but recently ive been feeling kinda bored with her. I mean b4 i wanted to be with her and talk to her 24/7 an now its just i want to leave early an talk less . ...
A. 10 October 2009: I would definately re-think the whole marriage thing. It could be that your relationship has run its course. You're both pretty young, maybe too young to settle down at this point. Take a break from each other; seperate vacations, or just seperate ... (read in full...)
His family are very religious and I'm not. Can this work?
Q. I haven't been one to have many good realonships, over a year ago i had a break down last year over my ex which i had nearly died from as i was treated so badly by my ex but now i have moved on and in a realonship with another guy whos more mature ...
A. 7 October 2009: Several things came to mind as I read your post:
People do not go to hell because they fail to go to church. It's what's in a person's heart that counts. It is whether or not you believe that God sent his only son to die for our sins and we have ... (read in full...)
He's 6 years older than me but I really have feelings for him, its an online romance
Q. Ok so basiclly i'm quite young and i live in another country to this other guy who is 20 and 6 years older than me and he isn't a perv or nothing due to the plain and simple fact i lied about my age i look older anyways and i'm more mature so when i ...
A. 26 September 2009: Sweetheart, it's like this -- at your age, you are vulnerable to any man's attention and secondly, you cannot trust anyone you meet online. People who are in prison have access to computers and often seem very normal on line to the people they chat ... (read in full...)
I can't stand that my husband is still the same after 11 years of marriage
Q. Hello, I am 29 years old and have been married for 11 years today. I have two boys 7 and 2. Today is my anniversary and I am miserable! Instead of celebrating I feel sad, like if I'm serving a life sentence. I can't stand my husband. I married ...
A. 26 September 2009: Oh my, if I could turn back the clock to when I was 23 years old, I would NOT have had an affair, but would have dealt with the problem head on. I too was in a marriage that grew stale within the first few years and my husband was the same way -- ... (read in full...)
Why do our b/f's insist that we swallow?
Q. I have been dating my b/f for 6 months now and we haven't had intercourse yet. I told him several times that I am saving myself for marriage and he calls me a priss all of the time. He claims I am sexually pent up. But I take care of his needs ...
A. 26 September 2009: Why not? Unless his sperm tastes bitter it should not be a big deal. Some men see it as a form of rejection if you don't. Do it once and you may discover that it really doesn't have much flavor at all (depends on his diet). If it's not enjoyable ... (read in full...)
I lost my libido years ago!
Q. I have been married since 1997, have two girls age 10 and 8 and I have lost my libido for what seems like years. My husband has given up trying to have sex after being brushed off so many times. Anyone with advice or has the same problem? Please ...
A. 26 September 2009: When a woman loses interest in sex, I always think you should ask yourself these questions:
1. Do you still love him?
2. Do you find him attractive (not to be confused with love, or comfort)
3. Are you depressed for any reason?
once you kn... (read in full...)
How can I attract a flighty woman at work?
Q. Hi. Okay so I fancy a woman at work. Problem is though that she is rather friendly to just about all the guys. She is a little bit 'flighty' (not to be confused with flirty!). Does anyone out there know how to attract a flighty woman? Are they ...
A. 26 September 2009: You won't know until you get to know her, so just invite her out for coffee or drinks if you want and see how it goes. Usually when I think of flighty women, I think of women who are a bit of a ding-bat and most fairly educated men will lose ... (read in full...)
Is it common for a woman to go through a period of promiscuity/sexual experimentation?
Q. Is it common for a woman to go through a period of promiscuity/sexual experimentation in her young adult life. My girlfriend of six months told me she had been with 5 guys in six months her senior year of college. The last one she dated for 6 ye...
A. 26 September 2009: It's perfectly normal and p.s. men do the same. The good thing that comes out of this behavior is that she doesn't have to "wonder" what else is out there once she finds Mr. Right and settles down. The worst thing a woman can do is live a sexually ... (read in full...)
How can I regain her trust especially now that the woman I cheated with is pregnant?
Q. Hello, I am asking this question so some of the viewers would reply, I met this girl in a bar one evening after having 4 long island, I ask her to meet me near the bathroom were it was private, she got up and walk back to the bathroom and I wa...
A. 14 September 2009: What I don't quite understand is why you keep going back to this other woman if you claim you don't love her or want to be with her. My guess is, you should just be with her instead of your girlfriend because apparently that is really where your ... (read in full...)
My husband says I'm jealous because I don't want to swing, what can I do?
Q. how can i save my marriage? been together 7 years married 2,recently seperated because he has an obsession with swinging,i tried a few clubs with him but couldnt face anything sexual ,i love my husband with all my heart and all this is totally ...
A. 7 September 2009: It takes two to make a marriage work out and your husband is not working on his half of this relationship. He's obsessed with swinging because he secretly wants to have an affair but if he can talk you into swinging it'll seem less like a consentual ... (read in full...)
I feel like I just woke up and can't beleive I married him!
Q. I am 28 years old and I was married March of this year. My husband and I had only known each other 8 months before the wedding and only 2 before we got engaged. In January my grandmother passed away and then in February my father unexpectedly ...
A. 22 August 2009: Do you love him?....Did you love him 8 months ago?....Did you love him BEFORE all the deaths occurred? If so, then you are just going through the anxiety of so many horrible things. Also I think things are just moving too fast for you. You have ... (read in full...)
Why does he always pull away?
Q. It's a bit long but i'll try and be brief. About 2 yrs ago I met a guy, he was very shy but the more I got to know him (indirectly through work) the more I liked him. Anyway he started to offer to do little jobs for me and after 8 months asked me ...
A. 22 August 2009: He may also be seriously invovled with someone else and just hasn't said. His behavior strikes me as someone who has a girlfriend you don't know about, and perhaps he doesn't want her to know about you either. Better ask around at work and find out ... (read in full...)
I don't feel special in this relationship - I feel like I'm in her shadow!
Q. hello, I have to warn you guys of the length of this post- but I hope a few of you read it and give me some good advice. I have been with a man for about 2 years and to be honest things are pretty good. We live together and he is a wonderful part...
A. 13 August 2009: Yes I have been in your exact shoes! Just like you I got involved with a guy who had come out of a bad relationship, but he still loved the woman. They were together 2 years, she had been gone 2 years when I met him but he was still holding out hope ... (read in full...)
A man 20 years my junior is interested, what to do?
Q. i am 40 and a guy of 21 is interested in me, what should i do...
A. 10 August 2009: You are probably a conquest for him. Many a young man have ideas in their heads, put there by Playboy and their Dads that tell them to just once have sex with an older woman. I wouldn't expect the relationship to be more than just a one or two time ... (read in full...)
Is she feeling regretful or guilty?
Q. My partner of 17years left me. And I found out three weeks later she was with someone else. She has only tried to make contact one and I have not heard from her since. I think that she was cheating on me. What I cant understand is if she would be ...
A. 10 August 2009: I can assure you there are moments of remorse and guilt, but there are also moments of elation and excitement over the discovery of someone new. I don't know what happens sometimes but after a woman has been with the same man for most of her adult ... (read in full...)
Does my ex really love his new girlfriend?
Q. Ok, well I'm new here. 6 months ago my heart was broken by a man I loved with all my heart. We had been arguing a bit more than usual, but we always got through it and he was as loving as ever, so it was a real surprise when he left me saying he ...
A. 10 August 2009: He's young and immature. Yes he probably does love her, but three weeks from now, he may love someone else just as much. You are smart to cut off communication with him because it's going to be impossible to be friends without being deeply hurt by ... (read in full...)
Her severe mood swings are bringing ME down. Ideas on how to deal with this better?
Q. Hello, I need some help on how to deal with somebody who has mood swings. There's this girl who I have feelings for. She has also told me she has feelings for me. She also keeps telling me how nice I am to her and how great I am for dealing with her ...
A. 10 August 2009: Or maybe this is just her personality and you didn't realize it until you became more involved?....Is there a time when you recall that she wasn't like this? (And don't say at the beginning of the relationship because for the first few months of any ... (read in full...)
How can I put our relationship back on track?
Q. Hi i split up with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago. we met up for the first time tonight and discussed our relationship. he told me that he deffinatley wants to see me again and that he wants to take it slow. i said to him that i feel like part of ...
A. 10 August 2009: First you have to search your heart and find out if you even want this guy back. You didn't mention why you broke up in the first place, but whatever the reason was it could become a problem again. I guess you could give it a trial run and see how ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him he's become unattractive to me now?
Q. Lately I haven't been sexually attracted to my fiance, and have been looking more at other men and women. His weight gain has increased so much, and I think that this could be why i'm so uninterested. I don't know how I would go about telling him ...
A. 10 August 2009: It's better that you've discovered this before the marriage, and not four years into the marriage like me. I think it might be best to postpone your wedding and figure out where your head is at. Marriage is a big committment, and I don't think ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle my step-dad without hurting anyone?
Q. I dont know what to do, my step dad has just told me he has feelings for me. I have no feeling for him, apart from him being my step dad . What do i do , i dont want to tell my mum. She is in love with him. I love her and dont want to hurt her by...
A. 10 August 2009: I just have one thing to say about this, Eeeewwww! You have to tell your Mom. It's the only way to keep things under control and make him accountable!! ... (read in full...)
Was I right to break it off?
Q. Hi aunts I am separated, i met this guy, we had an instant connection and got on really well. I separated 5 months ago and he broke up with someone the same time. My problem is i had to break up with him due to him not putting in much effort, ...
A. 10 August 2009: I believe if a relationship is going to work out, you must have patience, especially when the guy your are seeing has just come out of a break up that perhaps was not by his own hand. Now it could be that your feelings for him were not strong enough ... (read in full...)
So much criticism...rarely do I hear a good word. What can I do to improve our relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I think I need some help. I am in a pretty good relationship - at least most of the time... When we are not arguing! We've been together for 12 years now... I am 28 now, we met when I was 16. He is 14 years older. That he is that muc...
A. 10 August 2009: I have a firm belief that a relationship should build you up, raise your spirits, be the wind beneath your wings. That's not to say that every day will be perfect, but overall you must decide if the good days outweigh the bad. In your case, it ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend trying to change me too much?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to share some concerns I have about my 3 year relationship. About a year and a half into our relationship my boyfriend started trying to change little things about me. For instance, he decided he really didn't like my reddish/b...
A. 10 August 2009: Oh sweetie this relationship is not healthy for you! You know in the Bible how there's that scripture that says 'Do not become unevenly yoked'? This is what it's talking about. In the old days if you took two animals and hooked them up to a plow ... (read in full...)
Confused about how HIV can be transferred!
Q. Ok So i wanted to ask this question because a friend said that u cant get infected with aids if u swallow blood and u dont have cuts or sores I was like noway man u do get aids from swallowing blood I said that coz i've read that u can get aids fro...
A. 10 August 2009: You can become infected by exchanging bodily fluids through french kissing, sex, oral sex anal sex and coming in contact with open wounds. Usually the person who is carrying aids virus can infect you with any of these bodily fluid exchanges. Safe ... (read in full...)
I know my girlfriend wasn't to blame, but I'm still really upset. Should I say something to her?
Q. My girlfriend recently went to a party and got really drunk. I wasn't there at the time because she decided it'd be best if I didn't join her because we've argued a bit recently, and I was fine with that. She knew all the people were there, none ...
A. 10 August 2009: Well you're pretty noble. I would NOT trust her to go out without you again when there's alcohol involved. She has proven that she lacks self control. Maybe when she's sober you can trust her, but if her senses become altered, look out. ... (read in full...)
My b/f wants to see me having sex with another, but I fear it could ruin our relationship?
Q. hello i am just wondering if its normal that my boyfriend wants me to f__k another man i love him even though i am into kinky shit...and i love sex and 3 somes which i have done lots before but only once with my boyfriend who i have been with for ...
A. 10 August 2009: I think it's a bad idea and things like this almost always backfire, maybe not right away, but later.... (read in full...)
We have so much chemistry... but he has a girlfriend! Should I wait to see if he breaks up with her or forget him?
Q. I've met a guy I really like. He made it clear from the beginning that he had a girlfriend and that he didn't want anything other than friends. I accepted that and we went out. But it became very clear that there was chemistry between us. He flirted ...
A. 10 August 2009: Yes you should forget him. Think about it like this; what if you become his girlfriend, and then a little while later, he meets a really cute girl at work who he really likes and they start spending time together behind YOUR back?......How would ... (read in full...)
Her severe mood swings are bringing ME down. Ideas on how to deal with this better?
Q. Hello, I need some help on how to deal with somebody who has mood swings. There's this girl who I have feelings for. She has also told me she has feelings for me. She also keeps telling me how nice I am to her and how great I am for dealing with her ...
A. 10 August 2009: She may need to be on medicine to control her bi-polar symptoms. You should help her get treatment. ... (read in full...)
My husband is very quiet and doesn't make much conversation with anyone... including me! What can I do?
Q. Hi, i'm at a loss as to what to do about my husband. He just doesn't make conversation- with me nor other people. He's got worse as he's got older, not better. And the worst thing about this is that i've got a really outgoing personality and ...
A. 9 August 2009: OMG! I could've written this post!! Honey when I was 19 I married a dear, sweet man who was the perfect gentleman, opened doors for me, ordered my dinner, never forgot my birthday or our anniversary but was the exact same way as your man. At ... (read in full...)
BV is ruining my life
Q. Please help I have BV (bacterial vaginosis)and it's so embarassing... I've had it for 8 months and taking pills only seems to make it come back stronger...what can I do to finally get rid of it. It's really ruining my life and getting me down...I...
A. 9 August 2009: If you are taking "pills" for this condition, I'm assuming the pills are antibiotics, which are the only pills that get rid of this vaginal infection. But if your sexual partner is not taking the pills also then he is re-infecting you everytime you ... (read in full...)
What can I do about his attitude toward my friends who are male?
Q. HI, i have a boyfriend that has a BIG problem with me havin home boys.... AND HEs always bring up a time where i went out with one of them.... WHEN WE were brokin up at the time i mind you... AND he hates that i had just friends when i lived with ...
A. 9 August 2009: Well there's two things going on here. 1. Your boyfriend is a bit insecure. 2. It almost never works out for us to have opposite sex friends when we become involved with someone romantically. It will always be a problem, I don't care how you slice ... (read in full...)
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