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... Send *weet-thing a private message | | | *weet-thing's profile:I'm a 38-year old artist who is a bit of a hopeless romantic. I've had a few long-term relationships, been married, separated, currently going through a divorce but have a wealth of friends and family around me to keep me centered and happy. When I fall in love, I don't play games. I like it all out there in the open and have always respected men that were honest with me.
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How can HE be happy?
Q. I am still sad, but finally angry. I was married 30 years. Five years ago, my husband walked out very abruptly. I didn't learn till after the divorce that he had met someone on-line from Malaysia and was going to bring her here. (This was a good ...
A. 28 October 2008: It takes time to re-build a shattered self image. There are little things you can do, but it really comes from within. Maybe try to give your look an over-haul. Take up some new hobbies or take a few classes. You meet people (i.e. available men) ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend doing Acid???
Q. I have met my current boyfriend back in March 08, when I was on vacation. We ended up having a one-night-stand that then turned into a serious relationship. Since I lived quite far away, most of the time between March and now we've spent being in a ...
A. 23 October 2008: Go with your gut. You have a strong mind and you don't need to waste time getting emotionally hung up on someone who is going to drag you down with him. Before you invest anymore emotions on this guy, you need to step back. Maybe take a break ... (read in full...)
Friendships with married man. Which one is worse?
Q. I became a friend with this military guy who's married in a duty he was on a year and a half ago. I felt like we hang out pretty well, although we only met 2 times. Nothing sexual, since then we've being in touch by emails. He was stationed in Korea ...
A. 23 October 2008: You really need to form friendships and relationships with some single men. But I know some people tend to gravitate toward a married person because they like the challenge of knowing they can cause a person to stray and be unfaithful. It's a power ... (read in full...)
How can HE be happy?
Q. I am still sad, but finally angry. I was married 30 years. Five years ago, my husband walked out very abruptly. I didn't learn till after the divorce that he had met someone on-line from Malaysia and was going to bring her here. (This was a good ...
A. 23 October 2008: This is a very sad situation and I feel bad for you. Your husband was living a lie. Trying to be someone he is not. And only God knows how long he went through the motions before he took action. I don't know why these things happen, but they do ... (read in full...)
Do I have a trust or control issue here?
Q. I am still asking myself what went wrong after what seemed to be a perfect 5 year relationship in which we lived together. I was ready to get married, I always have felt that I am a good man. The problem... I couldn't say no, I basically waited o...
A. 23 October 2008: I think she just got bored. Perhaps you weren't forced into doing everything for her, but you chose to do this so you could feel like you were taking care of her, or somehow in control of her. Some men have difficulty allowing a woman to work ... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight without diet or exercise?
Q. Has anyone ever tried diet shakes with any sucess? Im at the end of my tether I have ALWAYS been slender and athletic but I have put on 20 kg in a year and cant budge it. I have gone from full time work to full time study. I also broke my ankle an...
A. 23 October 2008: There's no other way. It's all about cutting your calories (safely) and burning up the fat storage. You might try Nutri-Systems. I lost 25 lbs. a few years ago and didn't feel like I was shaking and weak while I was existing on 1000 calories a ... (read in full...)
My bf kissed a girl from his work..what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he moved to Australia to be with me 3 months ago. My friend caught him kissing a girl from his work. It was the girls going away drinks and he was really drunk. I don't know if I can forgive him or not, ...
A. 20 October 2008: Well it all depends on the kiss. Was it a goofy peck on the cheek, or a clumsy lip-on-lip?....Or was it a purposeful slow kiss that seemed lingering and romantic? Once you can answer that question, you'll know if you have anything to worry about. ... (read in full...)
I've been dating a very busy, self centred guy, how to take it to the next level?
Q. hello all I have been dating for the last 6 months a man, 56 year old (I am 32 years), never been married, who works in the finance sector, which means non stop travelling and intense work pressure He's an old school guy, not very demonstrati...
A. 11 October 2008: I think you have the right to know because you are investing a great deal of your emotional energy into a man who appears to be a bit unemotionally available to you. He may be a bit stressed out with the current events of his work, but he ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dreams or listen to my friends?
Q. My friends are mad at me for following my dream. ive always dreamed of being a really good cheerleader. And this year I tryed out for my school cheering squad, AND MADE IT!!! The girls in cheerleading say im really good, and im extreamly happy about ...
A. 11 October 2008: Follow your dreams. You must always be true to yourself, otherwise you just end up living your life to please everyone else and you'll have alot of regrets when you're older. And if your friends bail out on you when you chose to follow your heart, ... (read in full...)
I feel like the ladies at the office are out to get me fired! They say I'm anti-social but I'm just shy...
Q. I have been at my current job for just over two years, I get on well with most people except the two ladies I share an office with they are always telling people I create an atmosphere because I am shy and they keep telling people I am anti-social ...
A. 26 August 2008: There are some bitches you will never win over because you are not one of them. Meaning, you are prettier, smarter, or more interesting than they are, and they see you as a threat. When you come into a new work environment,try to be friendly to ... (read in full...)
My cheating partner...I've received opinions from friends, but maybe the outside world? You there? Anyone??
Q. We had the goods and the bad in our relationship. We been on and off for 5 years. Now I'm 25 and he's 27(he has a five year old son from a previous relationship) We made a commitment 2 years ago, because we loved each other so much and decided to ...
A. 26 August 2008: What is your heart telling you what to do? If you feel like you should give him another chance, then you should. Yes it will be hard. No you will not trust him again for a long, long time...maybe never. But love can conquer fear and hurt. ... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage but my husband doesn't want me for anything but sex...help!
Q. I am a 51 year old married woman who has desperately been trying to save my marriage recently my husband told me he doesn't want me anymore except for sex. The reason he gave me was because I won't give him a massage when he ask me, and I won't give ...
A. 9 June 2008: Often when couples have children, the husbands start to feel like they've taken a back seat to the kids. Since care-giving usually falls on the woman's shoulders, it does often end up this way. If your husband would pitch in and help out with the ... (read in full...)
I can't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life with him...but he just won't leave.
Q. hi, ive been married 22 years and since i turned 40, 2 years ago, ive realised how unhappy i am and all i can remember of my 1st 20 yrs of marriage misery. My 2 kids are now grown up and im far from happy with my husband,, dont think i ever rea...
A. 8 March 2008: After many years with my husband, I moved out and waited 2 years before filing for divorce. I wanted to make sure I wasn't just going through a mid-life crisis (like he tried to convince me) He had to buy me out of my half of our suburban home, ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm being selfish here?
Q. Dear Cupid, Am I being selfish? I have a boyfriend who I've been with for 4 years and we have a son together. now the whole time that i was with him all he really spend on me was about 100-200 dollars. THE WHOLE TIME. he dont work or anything...
A. 13 February 2008: Some men are poor planners. My b/f is 52 and I swear he still flies by the seat of his pants when it comes to special occasions. On the other hand, your b/f is showing more serious signs other than his lack of planning. For one thing, being at ... (read in full...)
How can I make my bf more romantic??
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and he has no idea about being romantic!! I don't know what to do i love him to death but he never does anything romantic. Now don't get me wrong he shows plenty of affection but he never su...
A. 13 February 2008: It's learned behavior. Behind every romantic guy is probably a string of women who taught him over time what women like, and how they expect to be treated. Romance doesn't usually come automatic to most guys. But it comes more easily to those who ... (read in full...)
Her Teenage son is driving me nuts!!
Q. I need some helpful input. a little input, a few months back, my fiance and I explained to her two boys one is 15 the other will be 14 that if our bedroom door is shut, unless there is something major happening, this means not to bother us, mostly ...
A. 13 February 2008: This will be a difficult situation because she is showing two things. 1. She's an enabler. 2. She is blind to the fact that her son has some manipulative tendencies. These two things will make you the bad guy very quickly with the son and with ... (read in full...)
My husbands lies make no sense...what can I do??
Q. My husband has been denying his affairs, and he always lieing.I went into his shop one night with his keys because,something just isn't right with him.So I open the doors and cabins and I found his boxer that he worn to work whenever to work in a ...
A. 13 February 2008: I think it's time for you to borrow a friend's car and plant yourself in the neighborhood around the time you think he'll be popping out of his shop to go to lunch (or you'll be able to see who pops in to see him)...If he leaves the shop, follow ... (read in full...)
Can we get engaged without him getting divorced??
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner for nine years, i would like to get engaged but the problem is that he is still married but has been separated for 15 years, could we still get engaged without him getting divorced just yet?...
A. 9 February 2008: Yes there are no legal reasons why you cannot get engaged to a man who is already married to someone else. It's only illegal if you get married. But why would you want to do that? Think about it. If he's been separated for 15 years, what is the ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself more sophisticated without shunning my family values and without giving up a part of myself to please my guy?
Q. Shane is extremely good to me. I've never had someone care for me as much as he has. But at times he wishes I would dress more sophisticated. He’s accustomed to dating very feminine, classy women, and I guess he assumed when we met that I was much ...
A. 9 February 2008: I hear your pain! On the one hand you don't want to completely "dissolve" into this guy's expectations, on the other hand, relationships are all about compromise and it may be time for a make-over on your behalf. There's nothing wrong with wearing ... (read in full...)
Looking to finally move on...
Q. I have been single now for about 4 weeks, I ended a 13 month relationship for the 2nd time and this time for good. The last time I eneded it we got back to together in about 4 days. I have gone through the hurt and the anger and now find myself at ...
A. 9 February 2008: First of all you should give yourself some time to get over your ex and just focus on yourself for awhile. The time will come soon enough and you will meet someone new and by then, given the healing process, you will be ready devote yourself again. ... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my head or my heart? I know it's a bit complex but what do you guys think?
Q. I few years ago I fell in love with a much younger man, in a very strange way. I never acted on it. He was in love with me too, but we never did anything about it. As it was hopeless in so many ways. One is I'm married and have children, they are ...
A. 9 February 2008: While reading your post, I'm not entirely sure what you're asking of us. You have fallen for another man, even though you loved and respected your husband at the beginning. Now your husband has sensed your interest in someone else and has reacted ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go?
Q. I am dating a man 16 years older then I am. He was in the middle east for a while and met someone while he was there. She send him texts and even calls him. When I am not around he will take the calls and even text her back. Today I found a text he ...
A. 21 January 2008: Without disclosing the fact that you snooped you need to sit him down and ask him how he feels about you and where does he see your future going. If he acts like everything is punchy-king, you should ask him if he still has feelings for the woman ... (read in full...)
Shall I take revenge on my ex?
Q. Dear Helpers, I just found out my ex had been cheating on me when were together and not only that he had been kissing one of my friends and some of his own. I am so angry I want to take revenge but I know it's wrong to take revenge but for my own ...
A. 21 January 2008: No don't commit fraud. You could end up in worse shape. If you really want to get even, sleep with his best friend and make sure he knows about it. Then perhaps you can let it go, and move on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Do vasectomies work 100 percent?
Q. Just a quick question, if a man has had a vasectomy does that mean theres NO CHANCE of getting someone pregnant?...
A. 21 January 2008: Nothing is 100% but it is fairly uncommon for a man who has had a vasectomy to get a woman pregnant. Sometimes,if the vessels are cut they can re-attach and create a passage for sperm to come through. But it's pretty rare. If either of you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is Jekyll and Hyde!
Q. Hello aunts, hope you are all doing well! I am sorry that this is a little long, but it's just for some background info as well. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, we have been living together for 1 and a half years, our paren...
A. 21 January 2008: The longer you wait to break off this relationship, the harder it will become because he does have a sweet side but unfortuntely, he uses his ugly side to manipulate and control you. This cycle will never end. Your emotions will constantly be ... (read in full...)
What to wear for VERY posh dinner??
Q. My boyfriend is taking me to a very expensive hotel in a couple of weeks. I know it's costing in excess of £200 a night, so my reason for panic is what do I wear? We're eating at the restaurant there, and I don't really have any knowledge of what ...
A. 21 January 2008: You can never go wrong with a little black dress and a sleek pair of black heels. ... (read in full...)
Who do I believe---him or his pregnant ex gf?
Q. I have a tricky situation and I could do with some advice. I've been seeing a guy for around a month now, and we've got on so great, he's the best thing thats happened to me in ages and he feels the same way. Everything was going perfectly...
A. 16 January 2008: First of all, you should believe the person you love. Not his ex. She could very well be lying just to cause problems. In which case, she is succeeding. It is possible that she really is carrying his baby, but you won't know until after she gives ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out?
Q. This is my issue: When I go to the gym, I run across this girl whom I find attractive. She looks me in the eyes really strongly (or at least thats the impression I have) and I know I'm a decent looking dude, so I don't think its in my im...
A. 16 January 2008: It sounds like you already have found a way to ask her for coffee. Do you feel there is a language barrier (she does speak English, right?) if so her nationality should have no bearing on it. But if she doesn't speak English, then she may not be ... (read in full...)
I have a porn addiction and I need help getting through this.
Q. I am 20 and although I am single, I think I have a porn addiction. I have got the K9 web protection program seeing as that I couldn't reach a target of 1 week without porn (which lasted 1 day). Is there anything else I should to beat the ...
A. 16 January 2008: Watching porn seems harmless but once you realize that real women don't look like that or desire sex 24/7 you begin to choose porn over reality. That's when you know you have a problem. When you can't stop, and you're disappointed by the real ... (read in full...)
I have all the qualities you would want in a friend and in an employee.So why am I having job problems?
Q. In the past 7 years I've had the career from HELL. I would love to know if there are any of you out there who have had similar experiences. At the moment, I feel ashamed of myself and that this has all been my own fault somehow. After finishin...
A. 16 January 2008: I don't know if this is possible, but I think if you can afford it, why not go back to school and re-mold yourself into a different field of work? You may find the environment to be totally different, (i.e. pleasant and more professional) and you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets angry if I ask for us to move in together
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, I am 25 and he is 30- still living at home with his mum. He does hate living with her and Im never invited over there. Have slept there once. He stays at my place about 3 times a week, but then likes ...
A. 16 January 2008: Your b/f seems like he hasn't quite grown up just yet. Living with his mom is a sure sign of that. Most guys in this age bracket have long since moved out of their parents house and have their own pad, complete with a live-in girlfriend, maybe a ... (read in full...)
She's depressed and doesn't want me with her. What should I do as I know she's not thinking clearly?
Q. I am with my girl friend for 3 years and now i want to marry her, but she says she is not ready and she needs some time. I have left my parents, my country everything for her just to be with her. Since last 12years she was taking depression tablets ...
A. 16 January 2008: Can you possibly encourage her to go back on her meds? I'm assuming that when she was taking them, they helped her. Also finding a good counselor might help her assess her life, and sort out paralyzing thoughts, fears, and anxieties. Before you ... (read in full...)
Can I get help with this poem?
Q. my boyfriend is always writing me poems telling me how much he loves me, and i thought that for valentines day i could write him a poem for a change,but im not to good at it,the poem i wrote below is what ive wrote and i wondered if you could help ...
A. 16 January 2008: Sounds pretty damn good to me. He'll love it. ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship right now and just wants to be free. Help!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years now. we have had hard times but great times like any relationship. all the sudden on new years eve she tells me that she doesnt want a relationship right now and just wants to be free to do what she ...
A. 16 January 2008: Your girlfriend is still young and it is probably wise that she have time to explore life before she decides to make be with anyone permanently. She needs to figure out who she is and what she wants in life and you cannot do this for her. Give her ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to make her choose?
Q. Hi! I have a girlfriend of 2 years and I deeply love her. Recently we had a bit of a relationship breakdown and she went to a male friend of her and he used her weakness and kissed her and tried to have sex with her but she stopped him. Things are ...
A. 16 January 2008: Your girlfriend seems to be in desperate need for validation and she's going to this guy for it. I also suspect he is her back up plan -- should things with you not work out and this is why she's keeping him on a string. As your relationship ... (read in full...)
Will my girlfriend be upset if I use the same ring I gave to my ex wife to propose?
Q. I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me. The engagement ring I intend to give to her is a Family heirloom. My father gave it to my mother. The ring is lovely and I'm sure she would like it. However, I have been married before and used the ring to ...
A. 16 January 2008: It's probably in bad taste regardless of the sentimental factor. Not only that, but it would seem like it carries a bit of bad luck now. Why pass that on to your new wife? Buy her a new ring. You can always save your mother's ring and give it to ... (read in full...)
Did she really love me or was I a fool?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend, we were together for nearly a year and i moved half way accross the country bringing my children with me to live with her. She became very low in confidence and wouldnt trust me at all and this led to arguments. I love ...
A. 16 January 2008: Perhaps she's the one who found someone else...?... (read in full...)
Going with my girl for 2 years, but the little things are annoying me, any advice?
Q. Hello, my problem is this. I've been with a girl for nearly 2 years. I had liked her for some time before and eventually we came together. It was a weird twist of fate for me since this thing usually does not happen, and I was thrilled. I thought ...
A. 15 January 2008: You don't mention if this is the first long term relationship for you so it's hard to tell if you have realistic expectations. You may be too young to settle down with just one girl at this point in your life, and this is where the real annoyance ... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 8 January 2008: I think if she had actually left you for another guy, they would've been seeing each other much sooner. She probably just met him recently and things developed. ... (read in full...)
My gf will not make any concessions, while I am not expected to want or act incongruently with her admission. What is going on here? How can we correct this?
Q. I'm writing because my girlfriend of about two years and I are having some issues. I would say there are lots of them, but I'm convinced the majority of our issues are consequential to a couple "core" issues. First things first. I'm 27, she is 2...
A. 7 January 2008: Your girlfriend is immature and controlling. It may have been something about the way she was raised. It's almost like she loathes men in general, especially you. I suggest couples counseling because you need to tell her how you feel, without ... (read in full...)
30 and pregnant, my bf does not agree to keep the baby, but my mother says it is my last chance to have a child, so what should I do?
Q. im 30. im pregnant but my bf says he doesn't want a baby. i told my mum and she said that it's my last chance to have 1. Is my mum right and what should I do?...
A. 7 January 2008: The question is -- what do YOU want? It may be your last chance to have a baby, but if you aren't truly committed to the idea, cannot support the baby financially, and do not feel like you can give this child the love it deserves, then you should ... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 6 January 2008: You are not taking control over your thoughts and they are manifesting themselves in bodily symptoms. This is typical of unchecked stress and it will take its toll eventually. You are the master of your mind. If you chose to think these thoughts, ... (read in full...)
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