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*ickiii07
writes:Hey !!!! I am confused. I met this guy on myspace. i like him, he sounds like geniuine guy. hes a virgin and everything so im not scared of him being a pedophile.I have lied to him about my age. I said I was 16 when Im 14. hes an up and coming football star. Hes going to play for arsenal. He says im a perfect girl with no faults.I feel really bad. Also i still have feelings for the boy I have liked for about 6 months !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): I have the same problem. I lied and said I was 20 when I'm only 18. He's 28. We met without any intentions to do so and had a relationship and I fell in love with him. I HAD to tell him. He forgave me and we're still friends but will never have a relationship again and it hurts so bad.
He had every right to just leave without ever talking to me again. You have to tell him and I know that's not what you wanna hear. I wanted to play along with the whole charades too but I couldn't. Good luck!
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reader, meandmy2  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Honey, my sister fell in love with this 30 year old guys she met in a chat room. She let her life fall apart around her because she was on the computer all night talking to him, ran up a monster phone bill, almost walked out on her husband of 6 years. One day she got a phone call from her internet boyfriend's mother about the phone bill and all the calls to my sister. Turns out "Cole" was a 20 year old "Nicole" who still lived with her mother, used a voice changer on her phone, and had been in and out of therapy since she was 10 years old...lesson being, don't use the internet to find the love of your life. I don't completely agree that MySpace should be done away with, but I think that it should not be used to find a partner. It can be a wonderful means of communication with people that you know, but trusting and adding strangers to your friends list is risky to say the least. Chances are he has told as many half-truths, or even bold-faced lies as you did.
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reader, xlipgloss06x +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Hey Sweetie, Im Sorry to say that he could be lying just like you did it was easy to tell a little lie wasnt it? so he could be lying about his age and that hes a virgin he might be saying that to make you feel more comforable about him What eva you do dont meet him... Please anything could happen Bbe Hope this Helps xxx
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reader, ShortOne21 +, writes (4 August 2007):
 ahh!! the myspace crisis. i'm completely 100 percent against people meeting online whether it be on a chatroom, myspace or a dating site I think it's just weird and wrong just because you know absolutely NOTHING about the person or even what they really look like.My advice is to... take him off your myspace and never speak to him again! this is how young girls like yourself get raped and killed.. the last thing we need is to hear about you on the news- that would be terrible
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): I wish so much that these social menaces like face book and my space would be banned - what is the point when vulnerable people like you are exposed like this. I'm sorry but you are taking a risk and you must know this. Take the other advice and meet someone you can actually 'see' first.
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reader, aye +, writes (4 August 2007):
 u met the guy online he can be a old guy wh wants to rape u but if he is who he says then tell him the truth
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reader, jerseysitalian  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 ok look.
75% of dating on myspace = RAPE!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): well this 'boy' may have lied about his age
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reader, lovehate +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Honey, i have myspace and without being rude to this man/boy, he could lie and be someone totally different to what he has told you. Don't feel stupid even adults do this hehe. Do not go past speaking to him, phone or internet but do not meet up with him. You should'nt feel bad as you don't know eachother.
If you still have feelings for this real boy, go out there. You have to choose and to be honest it would be so silly to even think about. This guy you can do something about. Chat to him, be yourself and who knows! ;)
I hope i helped, need any more advice message me, remember i am around your age, i don't bite :)
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reader, skye +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Please be wary of meeting up with anyone you have met on line. No matter what they say, you have no way of knowing whether it is the truth. That is the same advice I would give to an adult; and many adults have been duped by a trickster on line.
Try just keeping this MySpace boy as a friend to chat on the computer with, nothing more. You say you like the other boy. Try making a go of it with him, he is "real".
Good Luck,
Skye
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reader, Rymo +, writes (3 August 2007):
My dear please don’t meet this guy, you lied so he could have too! You don’t know who this person is! You’ve seen a pic he could have got from anywhere and the rest is just writing!
I could be a fifty year old man! How would you know?
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Anyone can lie on myspace, even a pedophile. Until you meet them face to face, everything is an illusion. Since you still like another guy, maybe you should focus on him and just be friends with the myspace guy. Just like you lied about your age, he may have lied about a number of things. Keep that in mind. People can be anything they want on a computer screen (fake pictures and all).
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (3 August 2007):
 The guy may sound very geniuine but how easy was it to lie about your age to him? And he might be lying that he's a virgin.
Anyway....
I think you should tell him your real age because if you do want any kind of relationship with this guy you can't really start it out on a lie. Well you could, but if he is a nice guy, wouldn't you lying mess things up.
Also saying you are 16 and therefore making it look like you are legal for sex may put unwanted pressure on you to have sex. I would message him and say sorry but you are actually only 14.
About the other guy you like, if you really like him forget the guy you met on myspace and make a go for him. You can't have both.
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