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writes:My husband's personal hygiene is bad.He doesn't change his underwear everyday. I've tried to help him with it, but he just seems to go blank if its mentioned. He just wears the same undies day in day out and they smell horribly. I've kept washing them but he just keeps gets them smelling horribly again. He gets showered everyday, and uses deodorant but that's about it. He seems to wear the same clothes day in, day out.He shows no interest in the things he used to, even his hobbies of motorcycling, cookery and eating out.His libido seems to have gone - whenever I want sex he just doesn't seem to be interested.He was recently promoted at work, and this should be a good thing - and he should be happy - but he seems to have lost all interest in everything.I tried getting him re-interested in cookery, helping him make his favourite chocolate cake, but he just sat slumped in the armchair, and flicking around on the telly.He's began putting on weight, and over-eating nachos and salsa dip.how can I help him?? it seems like he's lost his spark and his zest for living. I'm worried.suzanne
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reader, kaylaaarg  +, writes (19 July 2007):
Perhaps shower with him? Follow that with some.. time alone, and afterwards try to talk to him about it?If that fails, tear off his dirty clothes and hide them. Be aggressive and tell him he's not getting them back until they're clean.Kayla
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 He sounds like he is entering a depression.
Promotions at work are NOT always a good thing. He might be under more pressure than he is getting paid for, or maybe he is working with people that are making him miserable.
If he was happy doing what he was doing before, maybe he should try to go back there. The extra money he makes can in no way be worth the hell it is taking on your relationship.
Lastly, it could be that after all his hard work, he has landed his dream job, and turns out he HATES it. THis could be an attack on his own sense of identity. That alone might be enough to make someone question his entire world and turn his rage onto himself = depression.
Talk to your husband about this. Forget the sympthoms (hygene and such...) focus on the source of his misery. Does he feel he has lost control over his life?
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): When he is in the shower, exchange his underwear for a fresh pair then insist on giving a blow job a little while after he is dressed.(Clean underwear + recent shower = Blow Job)Exercise together (walking, weight lifting, swimming)Exercise increases libido.Tell him that you understand that he needs "man/alone" time and give him a certain amount. About 1 hr per evening accruing. Then you expect "we" time.
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