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writes: ok it seems my man wants a bj all the time but he wants me to finish it without my getting any pleasure what should i do about this Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): well it a 2 way thing i think you should but next time he should pleasure you by licking your pussy and clit untill you cum
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): Sounds like he's a selfish lover.
What else might you be letting him unfairly demand from you?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (10 October 2007):
You should demand that you do your choice some of the time. If you don't like bjs you two won't last long. Sex will become a pain and then be replaced by arguments.
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 If you give him a BJ he should give you oral too, or stimulate you in whatever way you prefer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): You should talk to him about this and let him know that if he gets pleasure then so should you, its only fair !
However, you did not say wether he does pleasure you. Does he do things to you that he may not get pleasure from ??
Sometimes, the pleasure that you get from pleasuring someone else, can be enough for you. That sounds really confusing, but anyways talk to him, tell him what you like, and enjoy :) x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 You do not state if he does things for you that he does not like. Does he? Does he go down on you?
Sometimes, it is not about the pleasure we get from performing a sex act with our partners, it is the about the pleasure that it offers your partner that you do it for.
Also, if he really likes BJs, and you are not into giving it to him, there is a higher chance he will get it somewhere else.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (9 October 2007):
 You have got to talk to him about this, sooner rather than later. tell him its not fair that you pleasure him all the time and get nothing in return. Relationships are about give & take, not one person doing all the giving. Give him the benefit of the doubt and talk to him, and if he does not change then you might want to consider whether this relationship is for you.
All the best x
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 He is either selfish, meaning it's all about him, or uneducated, meaning he has no idea that you are also capable of having an orgasm. Maybe it's time for a class lesson on sexual etiquette. Call it the "Me First" lesson. My b/f is great at playing this game and always makes sure I am satisfied before he has his turn. It's the only way to have a great sexual relationship. Otherwise, you will get bored and seek fun elsewhere. Good luck.
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Fair game. It's OK to give him a BJ and finish, but only if he pleasures you at times without expecting anything for himself. It's not right to expect it all the time when he's laying there with a smile on his face, and you're laying there going "ok now, when is it my turn?" I'm not saying keep a record either, then it becomes an obligation.
My daughters mom and I had a fairly good sex life. She'd wake me up in the middle of the night just to give a BJ and some mornings I'd get ready for work, then go under the covers and wake her up by a special alarm.
One sided sex is no fun. Take care.
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reader, jodie +, writes (9 October 2007):
 just say it to his face!!!
why shud i giv u a blowy bbe wa is the point i dnt get no pleasure out of
and hopefully he will make sure u get pleasue be4 or afta
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