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writes:Hi, I need advice on how to get over my ex boyfriend, Jamie. He was my first love and two days ago he told me we 'lived too far apart' (he goes to school in my town but lives about a half hour away) and we could still be friends. It was actually the most lame excuse Ive ever heard. Yesterday my friend Jenn sent me a conversation in which he tells her he didn't like me that much and he likes Jessika, who he has dated twice in the past.I love him so much, I hate her with all my heart.Please help me!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 I'm sorry to hear about this lovely, but he's not worth your tears. If he was man enough, he would have told you the truth ages ago. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "I'm worth more than that" because you are!
Visualise a box, put everything to do with him into the box, lock it and throw away the key. Forget about him now, he's not your priority, he can go and ruin someone else's life.
We've all be there and there are people who are going to go through the exact same pain. You're not alone. I know I was really upset about my relationship ending with my first love, and yes, you will never forget your first love. But you can put it down to a bad relationship and move on to find someone decent and someone who'll respect you more.
I promise you, you will find someone ( maybe not the next guy you go out with ) who will love and treat you right and you will wonder what you were doing with that *sshole.
Hate is a very harsh word... but we use it an awful lot. Hate means that you wish they would die yet wishing someone to die is only going to make you feel the pain. Hate doesn't affect the person who is hated but the person who's inflicting the hate. It will only hurt you so try not to despise someone so much because it only affects you. After all, she hasn't done anything wrong. You may dislike her, but try not to hate.
Look after yourself. You're worth more than that hunny.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 It sounds like he was using the distance thing as an excuse so he could dump you to get with this other girl rather then tell you the truth. Its harsh but unfortunetly it comes with dating. This guy isn't worth your time or your pain hunni. If he can't be honest even when he's ending it with you then it's a good thing you aren't with him anymore.
All you can do is give yourself time to get over him. Time is a great healer. Start spliting the hate you have for the other girl towards him. He's the one whos played you along and deserves your hate more than her!
Good Luck!
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