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writes:I'm dating a man 17 years older than me. I really like this guy but sometimes I wonder how people view us as a couple. I think it personally doesn't matter but I would like to know what other peoples' views on this are? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Hiya, Ive just started dating a guy that is 17 years older than me... I know how you feel. But once your love grows stronger for one another wont care what other people think because they arnt important to you!!!
Lisa
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): There's two sides to this coin.
Heads - I say if it makes you happy, then do it - whatever 'it' is, and to hell with what anyone else thinks.
Tails - You're approaching your sexual prime and he's past his.
You only have to read of some of the difficulties of a sexual nature on this site where there's a large age difference, particularly where the man is older, to know that it's not going to be all plain sailing from that point of view. If you're like Mandy and you've got yourself a young stud it's a whole different ballgame.
Whatever - I wish you good luck for the future.
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reader, Jolie  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 I'm passing through the same problem ....my boyfriend is 18 years older than me! My mum is not talking to me anymore and my grandmother ..the person who raised me up, she is in a shock!
I don't really care of what they think, they experienced their life and they made up their life as they wanted so.....
the point is if you're happy with him and you two love each other .....F*** what people think or say.
good luck swty and dont worry we live only once and we want to live our life to the full! There's nothing more special than to be loved by the one you love, and to spend your life happy :D tc xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Brooke from Malta
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): i honestly dont think age matters in a relationship! i think that love is the answer. if you two are truly in love what does it matter on what other people think? im a teen and my boyfriend is 3 years older than me ! and i truly love him and we dont care what other people think. and everyone stares when we go somewhere but honestly i dont care im in love and thats all that matters!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): hunny,
My mans 22yrs younger than me, we have been together 17 months now, people said it would never last well sod em!!! we have never had anyone say a word when we have been out, my sons older than him and they get on great both of my sons and my daughter loves him to bits, we are a happy family. Ive been through so much crap relationship wise i really dont think its got anything to do with anyone else than you two, Be happy and enjoy your lovely man TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): my father was 16 and almost 17 years older than my mother. they were in love until death did them part. it seriously didnt seem to bother anyone, except maybe my moms mother, cause her and my dad were about the same age. go for it.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 If you don't think it matters to you, then it's curious that you should seek out people's opinions, even if it's online. I daresay that you do care about what some will think about the age difference.
While it is unwise to ignore reactions, it is to your advantage to gauge reactions. I do. Someone who reacts unfavourably is generally not worth your time, more so if that person purports to be your friend.
People who are happy for you because you are happy are the ones worth keeping. Life is too short to be surrounded by ones who sap your positive energy. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): 17 years' age difference means nothing at your age. Love, companionship and support are timeless and ageless qualities that can't be regulated by mere age. But it is important that you consider the practicalities of the age difference. You will both have different biological needs at some stage, which may confuse you if you aren't ready for it. They won't be a problem if you don't let them become one. Enjoy what you have, sweetie!
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Age differences dont matter! Its the love that counts between the 2 of you. If people judge you, and they cant see that your both adults then their opinions dont matter. :) xxxx
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reader, ilikenight  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 You're in your 30's so honestly, it doesn't matter. You're both mature adults. If you were a teenager or in your early 20's, that would be a different story. I wouldn't judge you if you're 33 and dating a man who is 50. That is your choice.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Do the thoughts of other people really matter if you two are truly happy? I don't think they do. If people want to judge you and this guy on the fact that you have a 17 year age gap between you then they are a little superficial.
Just enjoy what the pair of you have!
xxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 My parents have 13 years in age difference and they've been together for 26 years!! A lot of relationships with age differences work out better than relationships with a small age difference. Not really sure why but it seems that way!
Don't worry about what other people think, at the start of most relationships there is a lot of talk about it between your friends but after that stage passes on, they'll realise that you make eachother happy and just have to learn to accept it. I'm in a relationship now where my boyfriend is quite a bit older than me, but I don't care what anyone else thinks. He makes me happy. If you start worrying about it, just tell yourself and remind yourself of how happy he makes you - that's all that matters.
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): I wont lie to u.
Some people will look at u and think that its weird.
I can bet u that most of the people that look also have younger or older partners. Its basicly the same with them so they dont have the rite to look. Many guys that look are most likely to think that ur guy is lucky to have a younger woman. But whether they look or not it doesnt matter. so everytime someone looks just tell urself that if u love him that much than u know he would be dissapointed to fell uncomfertable.
When people do that just shove the thought behind and concentrate of the possitive sides of having an older man.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (24 June 2007):
 To hell with what every one else thinks if you are happy then thats the most important thing.
Good luck to you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Fully agree with DV1 and Carina.
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reader, Carina  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Hey, don't worry about it! My father married my stepmother when she was 34 and he was 16 years older than her. They had many many very happy years together. What other people think is not important. Age is just a number anyway. It means nothing in terms of what a person is like and what age they feel and act. If you're happy together, then go for it. All the best!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 June 2007):
 After you hit 21, it really doesn't matter what people think. You're both legal, consenting adults, who care about each other. What everyone else thinks shouldn't matter, unless he's abusive, and your friends and family get involved. As this doesn't appear to be the case, don't devote precious time and energy to satisfying everyone else.
DV1
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