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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he has been in prison for the last 6 months. I have always been faithful. However, people have recently been telling him that they've heard that I have slept with someone else. This is totally untrue, and it seems no-one is willing to tell me or my boyfriend who is spreading these rumours. It is putting a real strain on our relationship, which is already complicated enough! Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): i always say a relationship is built on trust and if the trust isnt there your relationship will fail. You know these rumours are untrue so if he trusts you there should be no trouble. The test now is will he believe you over his friends. If not you should think things through. I have been in the same situation i have been waiting for my bofriend for over a year people that i have turnt down have told him i have been up to stuff but he totally trusts me because i havent given him a reason not to.Talk to him tell him the deal and if he doesnt believe you think deeply about how much he values your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006): I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he has been in prison for 10 months. Look, as long as you truly know that you have not cheated, then you should tell him that and he should trust you, if he does not trust you, what is he going to do break up with you? He went to prison not you, even if you have cheated, be honest with him. You are not in prison and he is. It is very hard to stay faithful to someone that is not at home. How many years does he have left?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (16 May 2006):
 My dear if you know that you have done nothing wrong then let the malicious people do what they have to do, they will soon get a good dose of Karma and before they know it, they will have to be begging for forgiveness. Some people are only happy when they are making everyone elses life a misery, try to ignore the lies, the truth will always stand. Take care. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): There will always be a bit of doubt, it's human nature to doubt. I think all you can really do is rely on trust. Doubt is usually through miscommunication. In your case, you already talked about it with him, so all you can do is continue to visit him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): No, I have given him no reason to think I have been unfaithful. He says he trusts me and doesn't believe it.. but I know there is an element of doubt there. He can't understand, just as I can't, why anyone would make something up like this. He cheated on me at the start of the relationship, which I eventually forgave him for... I know this has made him more insecure about the position we are in as he still feels guilty about what he did. Other than this, we have a very strong relationship and are very much in love.
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reader, soletshearit +, writes (16 May 2006):
 This isn't a nice situation for you and your bf to be in...whoever is spreading these lies obviously has nothing else better to do! You must have a strong relationship if you are waiting for him while in prison and if so then I'm sure if you sit him down and talk about it then he will understand, you haven't given him a reason not to trust him so far have you????
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