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writes: Hi there, I need some advice.... I was in a relationship for nearly 5 years, from the age of 16. My ex decided to break up as he believed he didn't see a future for us. Although this was over 3 years ago it still left me in bits. Looking back we were only young, he was my first love but the end of the relationship broke my heart! I'm still best friends with his sister and have seen him recently at a family event. We've been intouch by text and now he's saying he wants me back. He's currrently living with his partner and i am with mine too. I'm so confused and so is he. Any ideas? Thank you for reading xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): Thank you all for your advice. Im still having difficulty with this situation as we are still intouch. It seems to get harder everyday as we both realise that we are only in the relationships weare in at the moment as its the easiest option. He desperately wants me back and we dont want to hurt anyone. We are still meeting next week but Im worried that by the time we see each other we still wont have made a decision!!! I wish someone could make this decision for me!!! All i keeep seeing is 'signs' for us to get back together and then its gets confusing because my current boyfriend does something silly like cook dinner and then straight away im thinking why am i being so silly wanting to get back with my ex!! My boyfriend has noticed a difference in me as ive been so quiet lately but I try and block everything out (until i get a quiet moment and it all gets to me again!) I feel like im running around in circles! :-( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): Thank you all for your advice. Im still having difficulty with this situation as we are still intouch/. It seems to get harder everyday as we both realise that we are only in the relationships weare in at the moment as its the easiest option. He desperately wants me back and we dont want to hurt anyone. We are still meeting next week but Im worried that by the time we see each other we still wont have made a decision!!! I wish someone could make this decision for me!!! All i keeep seeing is 'signs' for us to get back together and then its gets confusing because my current boyfriend does something silly like cook dinner and then straight away im thinking why am i being so silly wanting to get back with my ex!! My boyfriend has noticed a difference in me as ive been so quiet lately but I try and block everything out (until i get a quiet moment and it all gets to me again!) I feel like im running around in circles! :-( x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2006): You are confused because he wants you back? So obviously you are not in a current loving relationship then.
Odd how that works. Wait, no that's not so odd. This is DC.org/the net anyhow.
I mean that's like saying, I'm dating Sheryl, and my ex Sandra comes and tells me she still loves me and want me back. What would my reaction be? I'll ponder on her words, then tell her I am with someone I love and adore, then smile, give some compassionate words, then take her home, and leave it as that.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (15 May 2006):
 My friend, if you are with someone and he is with someone, why on earth do you want to possibly start seeing him again. As Dr Psych said, you must have broken up for a reason so please, dont pursue this. If he is with someone, he shouldnt be saying he wants you back, he obviously doesnt know what he truly wants. Dont jeopardise your relationship, leave the ex factor alone. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (15 May 2006):
 You broke up for a reason, and he has also hurt your feelings in the past so probably best not to go back there. You haven't mentioned that you are happy in your current relationship but I suspect there must be problems with it because you wouldn't be considering taking the ex back otherwise so perhaps you should concentrate on fixing that. Just remember that if you do take him back, he may leave again leaving you hurt again, along with your current partner, and his current partner. You also have to remember that some people want the unobtainable - maybe you are especially attractive to him at the moment because you have a partner and someone other than him is getting your attention. I appreciate that you are good friends with his sister, and it is nice that you can be this way given the history. However best to leave him well alone.
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