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writes:i'm 13 and me and my boyfriend have started to become more distant, i haven't seen him for a long time, what could i do to help the relationship. (by the way i'm a bisexual guy) Reply to this Question
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reader, Ask Chris +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Hi. if your age is 13 i believe you should consider the posabilitys that your just going througha phase right now where feeelings are mixed up regarding sexuality. Although if you fell you are mature enough to discuss your
relationship with others you must also find the confidence to tell your boy friend how you feel. let him know that you feel for him. You are still young at the end of the day dont be stressing yourself over isues such as long term relationships go out there and have fun! but remember the legal age for other fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): That's ok! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Oh crap... Sorry Dr.Pete, I believe I suddenly realized what you were referring to... My apologies for being a tad defensive... 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Child hood was an excellent time for me to build cars and boats with lego, run around with friends at the playground playing tag, or chase girls thinking they're part of the monster conspiracy to give boys cooties. Wow, and Christmas with all the presents, and Halloween with all the candy!
Childhood was fun. It was super. I wouldn't trade it for all the money in the world, cuz I wouldn't know what to do with all that money at that age, except rot my teeth with candy, fill my house with toys, and convert my room into a jungle gym. WOW!
Alas, at 13, I was in high school. What grade was that? Grade 8. In elementary school, I learned the alphabet, multiplication table, dividing numbers, adding and substracting. I also learned a bit about the Canadian Railway, how the amazon jungle works, and how to make candles. I learned to play the guitar, sang a few songs for choir, generally did some PE, and applied tape to my classmates' hair for no good reason.
What else was I doing at age 13? I wondered why my math 8 teacher had such massive breasts, and if it was possible to climb out of the second floor counsellor's office window to the roof of the entrance to the school. Found out I can.
Right. So which part of my comment suggested that childhood was over-rated?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): martini I guess childhood is over-rated these days. Damn shame, I happen to think it was pretty good...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): First of all, you two have NO substance in your life. Oops, sorry, I meant to say, at 13, you do not have as much substance in your life to hold two people together. YOU CAN talk with him, BUT, I believe you should experience life a bit more before delving into intimate relationships. I mean, let's put pedophilia aside here, and look at this in a completely mental perspective... THERE IS NO WAY, I CAN imagine myself with anyone below a certain age, in terms of mental substance. Say at age 17 or below... No. General mentality? 22 probably and below... Yeah. So I mean, what type of connection do you possibly have at age 13 with another 13 year old?
I feel so conservative. Why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): You two are still very young.I dont mean to give you a lecture about your situation but you are still growing up and both of you are going through puberty.During this time we have so many mixed up feelings.Perhaps his feelings has changed as for what he wants.Perhaps this wasnt for him.Try to have a talk with him A.S.A.P. to put your mind at rest then either you could start to rebuild the relationship to what it once was or you might have to let him go and this is his way of trying to tell you.
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reader, joanna44 +, writes (22 May 2006):
 you both need to sit down and have a long talk about where you both are at the moment, you are still very young and lots of feeling are going through you maybe you've just grown apart. i can tell you still really like him but if hes not in that place anymore you'll just have to accept it and move on.
its the hardest thing to do i know ive had to do it myself, but don't let him string you along and make you feel this way.just ask him where you stand.
gd luck hun! x x x
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reader, Gibbon88 +, writes (22 May 2006):
no offense but 13 isn't really the age you meant to have a big realtionship, i dont think they work, i have seen it happen and nothing comes out that good, that age you need sort stuff out and i know that cause i'm 17 and i know what you going for but talk to him anyway and see where he is.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (22 May 2006):
 Perhaps talk to him, you dont go into much detail here. Your young maybe you need to both go off and explore different things. But unless you ask him whats up then you will never know, try to get on with other things, make new friends and see what happens, of you two are meant to be together then you will be. But like I say you dont give a lot to go on so i dont really know what the main prob is apart from you dont see your guy much, have a chat with him tell how you feel and he may feel the same way... if not get out there and find some new friends, life throws us lots of challenges, take each one as it comes and see what tomorrow brings!
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