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writes:I am tired of everyone telling me my partner is not good enough for me. When I say everyone, I mean everyone... my best freind, all my friends, my family, my cousins, my work colleagues, my exs' even !!! I know he is not the best looking guy on earth (I am considered hot-property), he is doing OK professionally (I feel I'm doing better), not quite as... if I may say... 'rich' as I am... but, why does EVERYONE want to tell me they think he is not the one for me?? We are getting married in a couple of months and my friends are against this so much that they've even refused to come to my wedding! Frankly, I'm not reeeally happy in my relationship myself... I mean, he has given me reasons to be upset... he is a neglect, has toooooo many hang-ups in life, has a big fat inflated ego... and a lot of more reasons. But, I thought some compromises need to be made and I'm trying to live with his 'imperfections'. But, since I've told my people about our engagement, they've all hit the roof and refuse to even hear me out. What is the matter with everyone????
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Maybe they see something you don't in him. Sometimes love makes us look at things differently. My advise would WAIT and put the wedding on hold. What if they are right AND you will find a guy who makes you happy all the time, or more than this guy. Your family and friends want what is best for you, they want you to have a sucessful, happy life. Start asking WHY they dont like him, if its because of his looks and finiancial status, then ignore them, but if its something else, take the time to listen.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 My dear is this a case of everyone else hates the groom or should we be looking closer to home? You said this: I know he is not the best looking guy on earth (I am considered hot-property. Well for starters, it sounds like you actually dont even respect your fiance that much to say that about him, why have you said that you are considered "hot property" that boots your ego and totally destroys his. My friend, without sounding harsh and judgemental, it sounds to me like you are using other people as a reason to perhaps not marry this guy, I dont think you really want him, you have more or less said it. You say you are not happy, if you aint hapy, then what is the point. And as for the exes telling you he is no good, ex partners will always say that, perhaps cos they are jealous, so that shouldnt even come into it. Dont go ahead with a marriage that you dont really want. Marriage is for EVER, or at least it should be. All the best. xXx
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Well if your not happy in your relationship why are you planning a wedding? personally your relationship needs working on and sorting out before you even consider getting married to your partner, as for everyone else, surely your happiness is more important than the opinions of other people unless they have REAL good reason to think and feel that way.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Honey, you say yourself that your not happy in your relationship, you are doing your best to compromise, but if your not happy its not gonna work. Your friends can probably sense that you are not happy and dont want to see you making a mistake, marriage is a big big step all the little things that are making you unhappy at the moment will only become magnified when you are married. I know it hurts that they refuse to come to the wedding and they should at least be there for you on your special day so it is very rude of them for not being there, but maybe they think this will stop you marrying him as they dont want to see you hurt. Now as you say you are not really happy, maybe you should postpone the wedding, i didnt say cancel, just put back a while, and see if you cant iron out the crinkles before you become married, afterall you dont want to be embarking on marriage if your not happy, you should be feeling elated, butterflies, nothing gets you down, totally on air when you love someone that much to want to marry them, you dont seem to have this, you dont even mention in your post that you love him... Whats the rush to get married ? maybe take some time to reflect on why you want to marry him and why you want to spend the rest of your life with him, its not going to hurt to postpone for a bit and could be the best thing all round for you.
Good luck
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