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writes:I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her.I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties!I have tried approaching her about this and she cannot see the problem. But it is getting embarrassing now.Help please, or advice! Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (16 July 2006):
 Well perhaps she will take some time to think about it and if she valued your freindship she would see your point. She will probably calm down and in time will come to see how she was acting was causing some stressing on your behalf. She will come round and with a bit of luck wont be copying your everymove!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWowee, I told her and now she has fallen out with me!! I think I may have been harsher than perhaps I should have - but hey, in a roundabout way it appears to be working.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (12 July 2006):
YOu may have to be ruthless in that case... just tell her to blooody stop it! lol Sorry but you gotta tell her openly and honestly that its scaring you and that you wish she would find her own identity! Being sensitive about it is one thing but if she still doesnt get it you may have to force the issue and tell her bluntly.. i dont see how you will stop her otherwise... i know its a tough call but not sure how else to get her to stop other than bluntly and brutally telling her that its scaring you and embarrasing you and unless she stops your gonna have to lose some contact with as you cant deal with her trying to clone you!
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh GOD!!
She is still at it and it is driving me crazy......sorry for ressurrecting an old thread but I really NEED oyur help!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (23 May 2006):
Well I guess its nice to have someone to admire you but some do go OTT! Maybe do something say something thats going to make her look a little silly when repeating things to others, nothing too drastic, just something thats really silly that she is likely to repeat and make her look a tad awkward, she might then realise that she needs her own identity. She looks up to you by the sounds of it, so be gentle but tactful and see if you cannot make her see whats shes doing. Maybe pretend that you are going to buy something go on about it and pretend you have got it, and then dont do it! let her get it, and then say things like oh i took it back, or it wasnt my colour, or decided i couldnt afford it etc ... do this a few times go on and on about stuff thats not going to happen make it sound all so great but dont actually do it, and see if you can make her stop. If all else fails your gonna have to be blunt with her, try and be gentle at first, but if shes not gonna listen you may have to be brutal and tell her how embarrsing it is and how uncomfortbale it makes you feel.
Good luck!
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