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writes:has anyone ever used you to get sex when you really liked them and you thought they liked you too but all they wanted was to get in your pants? and if so how did you get over it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim sorry that you were in that situation but at the same time im glad im not the only one. thanks for the answers!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): Yes. When I was 16, my 20 year old neighbor used to flirt with me, then seduce me. I was infatuated with her, but all she ever wanted was sex. As great as this sounds, I really thought I was in love, and she and I would be together forever. Turns out it was only about 3 or 4 times a month, not forever.
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 June 2008):
 Who hasn't. Mine was when I turned 21. Instant popularity. They could get down my pants and be with someone old enough to buy beer. I don't think it was because of my charm, long hair, or fire engine red sports car.
The key is to resist them getting in your pants. A girl I know would go to the bar. She is real attractive. She'd get many propositions. When they would, she'd give them her phone number, and tell them when they are sobr to call and they could go out on a date. Needless to say, not one guy took her up on it.
I don't think taking advantage of someone in that way is right, but just like shopping or anything else, people seek instant gradification. The key is developing yourself where they know you're not going to be a pit stop and that you're not going to just give in.
I hope this helps. Take care.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (8 June 2008):
 Yepp, been there. It hurts like hell... Well I just stopped talking to him altogether and in doing that I realized how he was such a HUGE dick and that I could do so much better. Also I realized he never really cared and that I can get someone who treats me right and be happy. And I have. So chin up, it will get better. He is a jerk and what goes around comes around. He will be treated like shit one day too. Realize you can do sooo much better. And don't let it get you down. Guys like this care nothing for personality and only want sex so don't let it have any effect on your self esteem. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): How do you get over it?
Realize and admit to yourself what it was. promise yourself to learn from the mistake and to try and avoid it from happening again.
You will remember the pitfalls and set your gaurds to alarm you!
We all learn from our mistakes!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (8 June 2008):
 I'd dare say that most of the world's population has been there in some way, shape or form... yes, even guys. As far as getting over it... it's probably just as varied as the situations that started it in the first place. For me, it was the realization that I had been duped and was played the fool. The best advice -- learn from whatever mistakes you made and keep them in mind for future use (although we all know that it will never repeat exactly like it did, so it's probably best to just try to learn the warning signs).
I'm sorry to hear something like that happened to you. I was about your age when it happened to me. Be strong, put it behind you and vow to never be duped like that again. I'd hate to say this, but it also helps to grow a tougher skin, although there's a warning with that too (as in when the real thing comes along, you might not recognize it with all the extra titanium shielding you added). I guess just be cautious about who you open your heart to and always stand on your principles.
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