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Porn Addicts - how to spot one in 13 ways

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25 February 2013: Here are a few ways you can spot a porn addict. I've had it happen to myself. 1. They pick on your appearance, they try to change your appearance. "Can you not wear your hair like that tomorrow?" "Why don't you wear fake tan?" 2. They think r...

Some dating mistakes to avoid.

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24 February 2013: School Girl Errors There seems to be a flood of questions associated with infidelity etc, I have compiled a list of common mistakes I have noticed I have also made, not sure if some of them are obvius but here goes; - If a guy is acting cold...

Tips for dating and insecurity

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16 December 2012: Hi I have noticed alot of insecurity going on, I have complied a list to help people; Porn If you don't want this in your relationship, discuss it a few weeks into dating. Do it in a light hearted manner. If they are a user try not t...

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Strip Clubs and the Committed often it TOO often??

Q.   Should my boyfriend/husband be going to the strip club?It seems to be a common question women have. But my question is about frequency, is it really acceptable for a man in a committed relationship to go to the strip club not every now and then ...

A.   22 March 2014: This isn't normal, I don't even like my bf looking at porn but this just isn't normal (my opinion) this guy sounds like a teenager or in his early twenties.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has saved hundreds of images of women on his phone! Normal or no?

Q.   My bf of 7 months saves photos of random nameless girls in his phone. A few of them are pornographic but most of them are girls in their lingerie. It isn't just a few photos but hundreds of them. Is this normal? ...

A.   21 March 2014: Some women don't mind, I personally do mind. It's up to YOU.... (read in full...)

How do I deal with a guy I dated? I've moved on, he hasn't.

Q.   Hi everyone, I need advice on my situation. I met a guy back in December who was really lovely and had a great personality. I wasn't really attracted to him like that but he asked me out on a date and as I wasn't seeing anybody at the time I kind ...

A.   4 March 2014: Sounds like an annoying weird manipulator. Can I have sex with you? Weird and cold. Ewww. Stay clear of him.... (read in full...)

Women, do you prefer it when a man delays ejaculation?

Q.   I just want to find out if delayed ejaculation is necessarily than premature ejaculation where the female perspective is concerned. I sleep on a regular basis with sex workers. Normally, I ejaculate within a minute or tow, sometimes even within ...

A.   2 March 2014: She is a sex worker they are doing it for money that's why she wanted you be quick. For me full harness, my ex had ed etc. sex was long and boring, I didn't even feel like i'd had sex. ... (read in full...)

We were so in love then poof he's gone..

Q.   At my recent works Christmas meal, our waiter gave me his number, I was flattered and decided to text him. The more we text to and from we found that we clicked almost instantly, he said he couldn't take his eyes off me at the meal and I was take...

A.   1 March 2014: I had a similar experience. I believe it's infatuation, excessive flattery would back that theory up. I had a guy who would act obsessed, 7 weeks later lost interest.... (read in full...)

If a young female sleeps around, does it change the views men have of them?

Q.   Okay! I'd like some opinions on this please. I am a college student and I have a lot of female friends who are my age (17-18) who simply enjoy to have NSA sex, one night stands, and FWB's. ...

A.   26 February 2014: Hii, I know exactly what you mean about the whole "how did you manage to sleep with so many people?" I discovered later that some guys will sleep with anyone willing, yes that includes unattractive people, personality doesn't come into it with those ... (read in full...)

I'm struggling with accepting his use of porn, it breaks my heart!

Q.   So I have always struggled with accepting porn behind my back from my husband. I have come a long way and have come to terms that it is normal. I also have found that the less I stress about it, the better off I am. That I should be thankful that ...

A.   25 February 2014: "It really isn't the porn that bothers women. It is the fact men insist on masturbating," I will have to disagree, i think most women are bothered about the fact they are using porn rather than the act of masturbating itself. Just my opinion.... (read in full...)

First one night stand has me wondering why boys are like this!

Q.   On Friday I had my first ever one night stabd! But I really havebt taken it well I didn't know the guy I had met him that night And had spent most of the night with him we had got to talking and he took me back to his. Obviously everything happened ...

A.   25 February 2014: One night stands don't nornally result in more. Don't take notice of soaps or romance films where they end up in a relationship.... (read in full...)

How can I tell if he is addicted to porn?

Q.   Ok aunts ... Please help... Is there any way for a woman to know before she gets too deeply involved with a guy whether he has a porn addiction? It is clear that he uses porn regularly but I have come out of a marriage where my husband was very ver...

A.   24 February 2014: A list I wrote, I know they may sound extreme but I've had most of them happen to me!... (read in full...)

I met him on a dating app, we met up twice, had sex the scone time, and now it's been 2 days since I've heard from him!

Q.   A couple of weeks ago my friend got me to download a dating app, I'm only 18 so I wasn't sure if I really wanted to start 'online dating', but I downloaded it anyway. One of the first guys I matched with was an 18 year old guy who was also new to to ...

A.   3 February 2014: Any guy who is cool with the idea of going back his house that soon is not after a relationship. Sleeping with someone that soon is not romantic and there is no build up making it special.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's comment has me crying!

Q.   So, I was texting my boyfriend (as we do almost continuously) after he got back from the bar. I'm sure he was a little tipsy. But randomly, in the middle of a comment about how I thought he was attractive, he brought up that he was worried I was in ...

A.   3 February 2014: Sorry I don't understand why that was hurtful. ... (read in full...)

I find my boyfriend's dry humping annoying. How do I deal with this without offending him or putting him off?

Q.   This is a really stupid problem, but my boyfriend is always dry humping me... When I'm cooking dinner, when we're in bed, etc. It is kind of annoying, but I worry that I am thwarting his masculine sexual urges or something by telling him to stop and ...

A.   12 January 2014: As someone whose last two boyfriends didn't show much interest in sex with me, you are VERY LUCKY. I agree with WiseOwlE.... (read in full...)

So what's next? Should I make a move, since he is a 36 year old shy guy who has never had a GF?

Q.   My siblings are trying to match me with a guy they have known for sometime now. They swear he is a gentleman and is intellectual and respectful to everyone. He added me on fb upon learning about me and we began talking for a few months since I am ...

A.   8 January 2014: Right be prepared for what you might encounter, this is my area of expertise I have first hand experience.... Whilst them being a nice guy you will have to understand the fact they are likely to have major sexual dysfunction because he's bound to... (read in full...)

Do most guys like performing oral sex on women?

Q.   Hi Everyone, I'm hoping you can provide me with some insight here! I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he almost never goes down on me. In the 10 months we've been sexually active, he's gone down on me maybe 5 times. I can't figure ou...

A.   8 January 2014: Out of 7 people, only 2 people didn't like it! Lucky me!... (read in full...)

How can he determine that there is "no chemistry" after just two dates? Is that possible?

Q.   I met this guy two weeks ago and he came up to me and introduced himself. We talked on facebook for a day and he asked me for my number, he ended up calling me and we talked on the phone for three hours. He texted me everyday first and every night ...

A.   8 January 2014: "He said I am not the one and he did not feel the chemistry." Bit strong to say that really. I think you can tell yes, with my ex it was the second date the chemistry started. Don't worry it isn't anyone's fault there wasn't any chemistry. ... (read in full...)

I feel so used -- he dropped me as soon as we slept together

Q.   Hello, I understand this is probably a trivial and common question, but it is really getting me down as this has never happened to me before. I met this guy and we got talking, we had a in depth conversation and he was really sweet. We changed ...

A.   18 December 2013: The challenge has gone for him. You did sleep with him too soon sorry to sound harsh. If a guy is willing to have sex that soon he is not serious about having a romantic relationship. I've always waited at least 3 months of knowing them before s... (read in full...)

My Gf's phone background is a picture of a half naked guy. How can I deal with this?

Q.   I'm kind of disgusted and mad that my girlfriend has a picture of a half naked guy... with a puppy on her phone... The thing is, I see her on the phone all the time. It annoys me and I said something and she was like well you had a girl on your phon...

A.   12 December 2013: Was it there before she met you? Might of forgot to take it off.... (read in full...)

I'm considering changing my personality to become a jerk in order to date!

Q.   So, I've recently, after the same bullshit of "I see you more as a friend", decided to change myself into the complete opposite of what I am now, knowing that it will take a long time. Today I behave like a Gentlemen when dating, red roses as a ...

A.   10 December 2013: Some advice from me I don't know if other women would agree: red roses as a gift; A bit too much for some women, for no reason anyway. If it was valentines day maybe. paying for lunch; I guess this is okay. Not every time though. ... (read in full...)

Why does he keep on liking and then disliking my Facebook posts?

Q.   Long story short, I'm 18, I dated a guy for about two months this summer, our relationship ended by him blocking me on facebook (still have no idea why and still kind of like him). A month ago he added me back because we had to talk about a school ...

A.   10 December 2013: What was he like when he was with you? Sometimes infatuation can lead someone going off you pretty quick and treating you oddly/strangely. ... (read in full...)

Why do guys ask for underwear?

Q.   I slept with this guy like more than 5 times. He asked for my underwear twice and on his third ask, I decided, why not? So I gave them to him. I just want to understand this phenomena... why do guys ask for underwear? I'm curious. I just hope I ...

A.   10 December 2013: Masturbatory purpose, trophy. That's a bit weird. ... (read in full...)

Broke up with bf... do men actually have feelings?

Q.   Okay, I broke up with my boyfriend, of 3 years, a few days ago. I changed all numbers and blocked/deleted him from everything and went NC to the best of my ability. We broke up like this 10 months ago and after 3 weeks he found a way back in and we ...

A.   10 December 2013: Yeah they do but most of them get over them quicker than women. Women are more emotional and get attached quicker.... (read in full...)

I had a drunken one night stand when my fiance broke up with me!

Q.   I have woken up feeling awful. I just need to vent. 3 months ago I was a normal , happy girl , engaged to my lovely partner, we had our problems but doesn't everyone. A classy, professional , quiet girl, but always laughed and smiled. We had ...

A.   9 December 2013: Having an argument with a partner, getting drunk and sleeping with a guy isn't unheard of. You were in pain and wanted to get rid of it. You possibly wanted revenge. Let me tell you this, people have done ALOT worse! "He got me drunk and basica... (read in full...)

Which is more important in a partner: being physically attractive, or being good in bed?

Q.   I have a general question for everyone. Do you prefer a partner who is good looking but boring in bed, or a partner who is average looking but good in bed?...

A.   8 December 2013: Youwish is right on give me a fat balding sex machine any day!... (read in full...)

Be careful of predators and perverts online

Q.   I have been doing the online dating for a while now and there are a lot of predators who are waiting to take advantage of gullible women. I have been a victim and you think I would know better by now. When you are lonely and vulnerable you will keep ...

A.   7 December 2013: As women we notice when a man is attractive. But how many women ask a man to strip on a webcam, ask for naked photos, masturbate in front of a guy on dating site, ask a stranger to have phone sex, and talk about the size of her breasts and vagina? ... (read in full...)

He has been cheating for eight years, and I have collected the proof!

Q.   Hi I've been with the same guy 8 years I've been by his side through the roughest of times i had met him while he was married he left her for me . I've done everything possible to make him happy I've never cheated I've never been attract ed to any ...

A.   7 December 2013: First dodgy part: i had met him while he was married he left her for me . Leave him, cheating can't be forgiven. Pose as someone on the internet and surprise him, then you will catch him red handed! or just confront him and leave. ... (read in full...)

Does getting back into a relationship with an ex ever work out?

Q.   Hey I have a question. Does getting back into a relationship with an ex ever really work out? I was with a girl for two years and we have been broken up for a year now. I took it really hard when her and I broke up. I have had 2 short term relat...

A.   7 December 2013: I know a couple who went a year and a half seperated, they are now married. I've been cheated on before and I never felt the urge to go back to them. Cheating can't be forgiven.... (read in full...)

The safe option vs. the one you really want?

Q.   Hi, I wonder if any girl has had this situation before? My female best friend I've known for a long, long time. We talk a lot, especially relationships. She asks my opinions on blokes she dates and vice versa. She met a guy two years ago ...

A.   4 December 2013: This post is sad, you should obviously pick the one that makes your heart race! I wanted passion so I got rid of my ex who would of looked after me for life.... (read in full...)

Why has he moved on so quick if he really loved me?

Q.   I have ended a very turbulent relationship, which went on for over three years, due to his continued determination to continue using dating sites, while at the same time swearing blind that he loves me. After being broken up, for less than two week...

A.   3 December 2013: You can't love people that quick, he might be trying to get an easy lay.... (read in full...)

Am I being overly concerned -- he wanted to have sex without protection

Q.   After waiting a fair amount of time, the guy I'm dating and I decided to have sex. I had needed to take it slow, and he had respected that, then last night we took things further. It got to the point where he was about to go inside me, but he tried ...

A.   18 November 2013: Some guys don't care, I know it's horrible. One of my exes tried to get out of using protection, I stood my ground. He cheated and guess what he didn't use any with her either!... (read in full...)

Why can't I stay away from trouble or settle down with a man who truly loves me?

Q.   Have to ask myself why I am incapable of having a proper healthy relationship? Ever since I started dating about 3 years ago my whole relationship catalogue is a disaster (all my fault), so what is wrong with me? It started with a guy I dated for ...

A.   18 November 2013: This is odd it seems you have created unnecessary trouble for yourself. I think you enjoy challenges. I noticed how you didn't much feel for the guy who loved you back because he was available. Not being funny but if you do find someone they might ... (read in full...)

Caught him looking at porn after he said he would never do it again!

Q.   Caught my husband months ago lurking into porn videos. Said would never do again. Swore promised. Said was stupidness curiosity and wrong but did it. Doesn't mean anything just says computer wass there one click lead into many videos. I believed ...

A.   11 November 2013: I can understand your anger. When most guys say they won't do it again the first time you say stop they are usually lying :( has he only just started to look? At least it's on a phone and not a big massive HD television. ... (read in full...)

He has become so self-centered that I'm crying every night!

Q.   My current situation is that I live with my boyfriend and my son from my previous relationship. He is great with my son and we get along really well the only thing that is bothering me is that he seems to think time with my son and me is our time ...

A.   11 November 2013: "I also recently found out he has been watching porn which really bothers me because I have told him repeatedly that I do not like it and its my deal breaker." You have sex with your boyfriend 5 times a week, where does he even find the time to... (read in full...)

Unsure if he is "The One"?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for two years, living with him for one. 95% of the time it is perfect and he is a great guy but I go through phases where I feel maybe he's not 'the one'. I feel like he takes me for granted, rarely wants to make lov...

A.   6 November 2013: He isn't the one I dumped my ex boyfriend for not making me feel attractive within the first month of dating!... (read in full...)

Why do guys like to do this in sex?

Q.   I am in a relationship with a guy for 6 months now. When we make love I am very satisfied however he enjoys masturbating onto my face or into my mouth. I just don't get it. Why do guys think this is so great?...

A.   21 September 2013: I think it's like marking the teritory or something. Yes like people are saying the porn addicts are a fan of that, they like to make real life like the porn they are watching, grim :( I don't know many women who like facials, it's giving out the ... (read in full...)

I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?

Q.   I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...

A.   29 August 2013: "He also talks a lot about a young female co-worker that got a divorce. How beautiful she is and wondering why someone would want to divorce such a beautiful lady as that." That is odd, people might disagree with me on this but I think in a happy ... (read in full...)

Was he right to compare my body to a woman in a porn movie

Q.   I've been dieting and lost 12 lbs thus far. I was doing this mainly to lose some tummy fat that settled as I have grown a little older. This seems to be the hardest area for me to lose it. My boyfriend, we are talking about marriage, and ha...

A.   13 August 2013: All the guys who say these insensitive things are always ugly themselves. What you said is as bad as the things my ex said. These people live in a world that is completely dettached from real life. The people in those videos shouldn't even be ... (read in full...)

Dildo insertion is uncomfortable - I am a virgin. Any advice?

Q.   Question: I have a vibrator/dildo (and I'm a virgin), and when I insert it, it doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel (really) bad, just kinda uncomfortable. Am I do something wrong? Any advice? [i use some lube]...

A.   29 July 2013: I would recommend using a dildo after you become sexually active. A vibrator is external only, although you can get one that does external aswell as internal.... (read in full...)

Do women get wet panties without physical stimulation?

Q.   Women do you get wet panties - in a sexual sense - without getting physical? By this I mean without someone physically stimulating you. Several years ago a girl I was friendly with came round to my flat and had a quick shower after work.W...

A.   29 June 2013: From seeing a hot guy, no... a woman would have to think dirty thoughts for that to happen. Watching sexy films, yes.. but a woman would have to think of what's happening in it, it isn't just visual. I usually think of someone who I know for real... (read in full...)

What is a very horny, very faithful girl with a not-so horny boyfriend to do?

Q.   I've been with a boyfriend for three years and at this point, I just don't know what to do anymore. First off, my boyfriend is a very good guy. He's respectful towards me and my family and friends, doesn't "kiss and tell", supports my goals and ...

A.   29 June 2013: It sounds to me like he might be watching porn too much. Turning down sex, taking forever to cum, ed...... (read in full...)

I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And they talk with their friends about how "hot" these women

Q.   I am curious to get a man's perspective on a few things. I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And ...

A.   24 June 2013: This is female anon from 23 june I wasn't signed in. I think you are meeting the wrong type of men. If by "perfect" you mean the fake tanned, fake boobs look there are plenty of men who do not like this look. I know a guy who doesn't watch po... (read in full...)

I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And they talk with their friends about how "hot" these women

Q.   I am curious to get a man's perspective on a few things. I've heard numerous men say they don't want a woman who is "perfect" or society's standard of beauty for a partner. Yet they admit to lusting over this type of woman saying it's "fantasy". And ...

A.   21 June 2013: When you say grown men what age do you mean? Some men don't mature for a while. My ex boyfriend said when he was single it was more plausible to masturbate over the normal looking women instead of the glamourpuss type, some guys like to look at ... (read in full...)

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