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We are five hours apart. Could it be worth it?

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Question - (11 January 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 January 2017)
A female Ireland age 18-21, anonymous writes:

How do i know if it's worth the pain?

Me and this guy met online, we live about 4 or 5 hours away from each other, he's just coming up to very big exams... We both really, really, like each other... infact, i think im falling for him, hard and fast... weve only been talking for just over a month and met in person once.. there are definite sparks, and i miss him so so much.... But is it worth the pain? people always say long distance relationships dont work, but then distance makes the heart grow fonder?? also, after his exams, we will have the summer, but then he will be going to college and i will have my big exams.... is it worth the pain? i know, im going to fall in love with him...

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (12 January 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntDistance makes the heart grow fonder when you are both committed to each other and know what it is like being together without the distance. Honey you say you miss him but you have only met this guy once. I honestly think at your age you need to let this one go, you are both at very different stages off life. Yes you have the summer, but he will be off to college then, a new experience for him and you will be at home still at school. This will end in your heart being broken.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (11 January 2017):

Considering how young you are; I doubt your parents are going to like the fact you would consider traveling five hours to see some boy you've met online.

In fact, I doubt they even know about him. You should be asking their opinion, not ours.

Knowing teenage relationships, they last a few weeks or months. You'll both meet others in the meantime, and drift apart anyway. You'll get tired of not seeing each other; and it's far from wise for a girl your age traveling to meet anybody she met online.

Your parents need to keep an eye on you.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (11 January 2017):

So_Very_Confused agony auntAt your age I'm going to advise against it.

LDRS need a bunch of things.

time to visit

money to visit

an end to the LDR (within 18 months-3 years MAX)

with school you won't have time to visit

with a 5 hour distance you won't have money since flying will be the way to go

and at your age you won't be ready to end the LDR In 3 years.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (11 January 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntI'm in one. I wouldn't advise it at your age because it's too complicated. You have to be mature enough to handle a relationship *and* the messiness that comes with distance between you.

If you don't meet often, you'll fall for a fantasy, not the real guy. Also, starting an LDR with no idea when it'll close is a bad idea. You'll be in one for several years and it hurts.

I totally get that you have a major crush, but you'll ache so much and LDRs take up a lot of money to make them work - something neither of you will have much of.

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