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Is my wife secretly interested in a threesome?

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Question - (15 February 2017) 9 Answers - (Newest, 21 February 2017)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So we've been married now for 3 years. And we have 2 beautiful boys. Our romantic relationship is starting to get better than it ever has been in the past and my wife(Bev) and I are really enjoying ourselves and each other. Bev only has a couple close friends one is married and the other is not. The unmarried one (Jobi) has come over to the house recently and hung out with us a couple times. There has never been anything sexual. Jobi has had a hard time recently finding a relationship that will stick and she Bisexual. Today Bev texts me and says that Jobi has never had an orgasm while a man was inside of her. Bev told Jobi that if i was a robot that she would hook her up. And Bev also told me that she told Jobi that if she had a dick that she would do her right too. So I asked her if she was interested in having a lesbian experience or if she just wanted to share the experience of my cock with her friend. And she said that there was nothing sexual about it she just wanted her friend to have the experience of having an orgasm while being penetrated. So is my wife interested in a threesome?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (21 February 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntHmm to me it sounds like she was just having a conversation. She feels sorry for her friend but am not sure she feels like having a threesome with her. I do get why you would be worried about asking her in case you have all this wrong. If it was me I would probably just leave it their and it may never be mentioned again. Remember that you both have two little boys to think about, and threesomes in marriages do get messy. I mean what if your wife gets jealous? Or you? Or you enjoy yourself more with Jobi and want more?

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A male reader, rasblak Singapore +, writes (19 February 2017):

I envy you for having a wife who knows how to feed fantasies through text messages. Enjoy it if that's your kind of thing too.

Don't get yourself worked into any kind of self-imagined pressure to make 'something' out of it.

@Anonymous female reader who wrote:

"Women differ from men because their emotions get in the way and you find that out if you go down this slippery slope. Guys can just have sex and leave it at that. Women get hurt."

What is this? I am one guy who has not been brought up to be able to just have sex and leave it at that.

Anything some guys do, some women do the same, and even are much better at doing much worse too.

To quote The Witcher III: "We're living in the 13th century [for goodness sake] !!"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2017):

Actually I do think it sounds like your wife was hinting at a threesome. I think it is very strange though- the robot comment seems to suggest that she would like you to do her friend "robotically" without any emotional feelings attached. Which is not possible. And how is there "nothing sexual" about her friend being penetrated? .....I don't think your wife's reasoning makes any sense and I think she is confused on what she wants. And I think the fact that you two are considering this might not be good for your marriage. But it's obviously your choice.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2017):

I don't get people nowadays. They seem to let too many close friends into their marriages, which IS bad for the marriage! If you think that having a threesome with a friend of your wife's is going to strengthen your marriage and make your wife love you more, you can guess again!

What will happen? Once you stick your dick into her friend, she is going to get jealous and possessive if you enjoy it and make her friend orgasm how many times? She will think you like her friend better and find her more sexually attractive. Want to please her more. And will you? She will be like a brand new shiny toy you have never played with before. While your wife... well, you know what's underneath her package. Would you be just a touch too enthusiastic? Think about how your wife would feel watching you go to town on another woman, one she knows. Which makes it all the worse. It has train wreck waiting to happen written all over it.

Trust me. Women cannot handle this situation. They all think they can at the start until the deed is done. Then your marriage is a done deal. Over. Maybe not right away but the resentment will build. Women differ from men because their emotions get in the way and you find that out if you go down this slippery slope. Guys can just have sex and leave it at that. Women get hurt.

Keep it a fantasy if you are inclined to those thoughts. Watch some porn and just get off on your own. Leave it there and bury it.

Let me ask you this. How would you feel about a threesome with another man? Could you watch him fuck your wife? And could you stand it if she was enjoying it too much? My guess is NO, NO and NO.

So, what's with the double standard men have? Seems to be okay with them if they a new woman to fuck but God forbid their wife gets a new guy to do the very same thing with!

I am pretty sure your wife was just pushing your buttons. She would not be interested in a threesome.

Why don't you ask her?

Come back and let us know what she said.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2017):

Yea well no. Your wife's genius is in getting you going and it looks like she found a way to give you fantasies. And like your dick is a magic stick. Well done to her.

Beyond that umm ask her? Basic really

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A female reader, mandalovee23 United States +, writes (16 February 2017):

No don't do it. & if she wanted one, trust me she would probably say it, unless she isn't comfortable. My advice is her bestfriend probably isn't the best person for a threesome. Either its going to mess up her friendship or your marriage. Good luck! Best Wishes! -A

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (15 February 2017):

So_Very_Confused agony auntThe only person that knows is your wife. Is there a reason you don't ask her?

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A female reader, singinbluebird United States + , writes (15 February 2017):

singinbluebird agony auntNo, if shes interested in a threesome she would not hint at it. She would straight up say she wants one

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2017):

Jobi has hung out with your wife in your home and during conversation has let slip her lack of orgasm with a man!

Meanwhile your wife is contented with her love life.

This does not mean that Jobi needs to experience your dick or that you need to embark on a threesome.

You have a family unit to nuture and protect and Jobis lack of orgasm isnt high on the list of priorities.

I have never had a lot of money in my bank account.

If I came to stay with you for a few days would you sympathetically transfer all your cash to my account so that I could experience the joy of it?

Its unlikely and unnecessary isnt it?

You need your cash for your family, yes?

Ditto keep your love for your family.

Jobi can find another dick unless you want to mess up family relationships.

Aka...dont walk down the path if you cant see the outcome clearly.

I think it might be time for Jobi to quit her girlie confidance and move on.

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