My married man was upset I broke up with him! Was I unreasonable?
Q. I have been involved with a married man for 10 years, I waited until his children were grown up so I could make demands in my lover leaning his wife, they are 17 and 19 so not kids anymore....I asked him last night for us to be a proper couple now, ...
A. 16 June 2016: "Was I being unreasonable?"
HE's been stringing you along for 10 years... and you FINALLY figured out that he wasn't really "serious," after all.... so you've told him it's "over"??!!!! And you ask if you were being unreasonable????
The gre... (read in full...)
My friend is trying to sabotage a budding relationship with a guy I like
Q. Not sure where to start but I guess some background information is a good way to go. Typical start to any of these questions but.. So there's this guy, and he's perfect. The problem doesn't lie with him, it lies with my friend. My friend, 3 y...
A. 15 June 2016: Where were girls like the two of you when I was careening through college those oh-so-many years ago??????
Meantime, listen to Cindycares and Honeypie's advise...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
If he has a girlfriend then why is he around me?
Q. Hello, I have been talking to this boy for 3 years on and off and in the mean time we have both had partners. We first started talking at the start of college and it's normal for us to talk all day, everyday. I have met him twice and kissed him both ...
A. 15 June 2016: Remember this important adage:
"A guy can NEVER have too many girls available to put out for him..."
NOW, does it make sense?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I think this is beyond a crush or I'm going mental
Q. I met this guy in November and we met because he frequently eat at Subway, where my friend works and I stop by all the time as well. He's always picking and I pick back. I have always found him extremely handsome and I have expressed multiple times. ...
A. 15 June 2016: You've left an important detail out of your submittal:
Did he (or, did he NOT) get his sub toasted?????
Following your reply, we Aunts and Uncles will be able to give you a qualified response....
... (read in full...)
How do I bring up that I'm interested in a casual relationship with no sex?
Q. First things first, I must establish that I'm interested in getting married in the next 4-5 years, but I'm currently busy on placement in another state. I will eventually have to return either to my home state or move to another country for work, ...
A. 15 June 2016: From this guy's point of view.... your aim is peculiar, and very likely will not be met.....
After all..... YOU are asking (seeking) a guy who will play with matches ("How do you suggest I meet people who only want to hang out, chill, make out... (read in full...)
My boyfriends mom is overbearing. She follows him around?? Need help!
Q. We are both 23. He lives with his mother who has been out of a job for the past year. When I am there (23) and we are in his room she calls his name every 30 mins to do something for her. Its obvious he finds it annoying but he is always polite and ...
A. 14 June 2016: Ditto, Fatherly Advice........ (read in full...)
Please help! I need suggestions and how-to's for second date!
Q. Hi guys! I have had amazing help here before and looking to get great advice again! I went out on a first "mini" date with a girl last week. It went really well..we have a great connection. We ended seeing each other 2 nights in a row (night a...
A. 14 June 2016: "She has also asked me to stay over at her place after the date."
THAT, Sir, is an enormous hint that she feels so comfortable with you that she believes that you and she might become intimate ($ex!!!!). HOWEVER......
.. considering your... (read in full...)
When should I email the manager and what should I say?
Q. So I recently got this job as a carer, caring for a client with spinal cord injury (shes in a wheelchair). It is different from anything else ive done before, now this client can be a bit rude with her loud voice telling how to fold her clothes...
A. 14 June 2016: "I have never been so disrespected in my life."
"When should i email the manager and what do I say?"
Have you ever heard the phrase "killing (someone) with kindness??????" You can write the email whenever you please..... and what you say is: ... (read in full...)
Cannot stomach this toxic dynamic any more. How can I deal with my toxic mother?
Q. My parents are in their 70s. My mother has a very difficult personality and I feel really negative around her. She splits people up within our family, picks fault with everyone (me, my sister, my neice and nephew, my auntie - you name it) and ...
A. 14 June 2016: Sometimes.... it's best to stay clear of people who radiate toxicity.... and this sounds like one of those times.
Don't let your MOTHER drag you in to her vitriolic world. Live - and stay - in your's (world)... and keep contact with her to a min... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex on Skype! Do you think anything serious can come out of this?
Q. Hi, iam on a dating site, I received a message from man aged 53, he was saying how he liked my profile and would like to get to know me. I checked his profile it said looking for serious relationship leading to marriage, he also said that he likes ...
A. 12 June 2016: Nope (nothing "serious" can come of this). Don't waste your time communicating with this guy....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do relationships that start as affairs go the distance, or do they fail?
Q. My dad left my mum (who his disabled with MS) for the 'other woman' - do these relationships that start as an affair (lies, deception) typically last? How can his new parter trust him? She must be insecure that if he can do it with her, he will DO ...
A. 12 June 2016: I'm with honeypie. My mother ran away with "the other man" when I was 12 Y.O. They ran off... got married... and lived "happily ever after".... married for 21 years (until he died).... I think they DID have a good life and marriage.
My Da... (read in full...)
Back dating and I need advice
Q. Hi there! I desperately need your help! I recently got divorced and I do not have much of dating/speed dating experience. I in now getting into this dating thing and have a first date today. I like this woman and she is few years older to me (I a...
A. 11 June 2016: Here are a few ideas to get you started. (I've used them all, at one time or another, with varying degrees of success (and much failure!).....
1. I think I recognize you. Didn't we go to different schools together?
2. How 'bout them (Sox,... (read in full...)
Why am I still with him? I've lost respect for him.
Q. I have a problem - I'm too forgetful. During the first two years when my BF and I dated, I didn't really care to know too much about him because it was at a honeymoon, sweet, lovey dovey stage. Now, after two years of being together, I've r...
A. 8 June 2016: "This is my problem. I know I can't be with someone like him... I don't have the patience to wait for him to change and grow up...."
So there's you problem AND solution. DON'T bother waiting for him to grow up. Part ways with him.... and hope... (read in full...)
Did my jealousy push him away? Did I cause him to cheat?
Q. First this is going to be long I'm sorry --I have been dating a guy for a year. He is a very loving affectionate, thoughtful guy who is in constant contact and we see eachother every night. I pretty much live with him. I was cheated by my past ex so ...
A. 8 June 2016: This much drama (as you described) can't POSSIBLY be healthy for a "relationship."
Dump this guy... and (then) don't go out with ANYBODY - exclusively - for AT LEAST six months..... In November of this year.... see if you have learned anything... (read in full...)
Exhausted ! What can I do? My Bf's video game playing wakes me up several times during the night.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living for 5 months together now, and almost a year together. Our relationship has honestly been a lot of ups an downs, and the reason why I stay with him is because I do love him and he is the only and first man to ...
A. 8 June 2016: "What can I do ??"
Dump this "boyfriend" and get one who gives a damn about you.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I tell her Bf what she is like?
Q. A female who fancies me wants to have me and isn't happy in her relationship currently with a man she's with. He's not the best looking but he is a nice guy and really loves her, and I feel sorry for him as he does and she doesn't feel the same ...
A. 8 June 2016: Sometimes, you just have to keep your mouth shut.... like, when you are riding your motorcycle through a swarm of "love bugs", some evening, in North Caroline.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why am I worried about this one woman in particular around my boyfriend? how can I handle my insecurities over this?
Q. So... maybe it's my fault for asking.... but.... Asked my boyfriend of 3 years if he would ^^^k this woman who runs in our social circle IF he was NOT with me. He was not too keen on answering at first but he DID say point blank "YES" if he ...
A. 7 June 2016: "Or is it my fault for asking such a question?..."
Yes... it's your fault. DON'T ask such a question if it might elicit and answer that will piss you off as much as this one did....
You "sucker-punched" your B/F.... and his (honest) answer ... (read in full...)
Can I ever escape the guilt from what I've done?
Q. So here is my story. I'm completely lost and in a bad way. Riddled with shame and guilt. Feel totally out of control and powerless. I'm a serial cheat. I never expected to be in this position. I have strong values and rate honesty highly. I hate ...
A. 7 June 2016: I plowed through your submittal and came to this conclusion:
YOU know how much of a jerk you can be. (and) You know what are the "right" ways are to be a man and a gentleman. BUT, despite knowing that.... you've chosen - time and again - to act... (read in full...)
Our sex life has gone stale! I’m feeling unwanted. Am I being selfish? What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 23 years old, and I feel like our sex life is pretty dead and boring. It sounds horrible to say it but it really bothers me. When we first started dating we couldn't keep our hands off each other now we will have sex...
A. 7 June 2016: "...How can I move past this with him...?"
You probably can't. When two people meet.. and enjoy the LUST that often begets a "relationship".... it becomes impossibly difficult (for them) if ONE of them becomes content with a tapering-off of intim... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong in this relationship?
Q. MOD NOTE: THis has been posted previously, OP wants more answers Hi, I am in a predicament... I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago, I feel like for 7 months I bent over backwards for him and tolerated a lot of things from him to the p...
A. 4 June 2016: The ONLY thing you're doing "wrong".... is believing that - somewhere in this drama - is a "relationship". There isn't. YOU can't carry on a "relationship" by yourself... and this guy, clearly, isn't interested in taking part.
Get away from him... (read in full...)
We have a child yet he won't commit
Q. Hi everyone I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now we have a 1 yr old daughter the problem is that as far as our relationship is going to go he wants no more children and marriage he won't even discuss he says he scared I've asked him about ...
A. 4 June 2016: Your B/F is behaving just as one would predict a 6-year-old would behave if he were brought in to a candy store and allowed free access to the glass display case.... He would try any and all candies that he fancies.... then would tire of them, and ... (read in full...)
Honeymoon is over. What should I do? My Bf behaved badly in front of people I care about
Q. Hi guys. I've been with my bf almost a year and we've been happy so far. But I guess the honeymoon is ending cause I feel differently about him now. As I've come to know him, I've noticed childish behavior I don't like. We went out tonight with...
A. 4 June 2016: You ask: "Please advise, how could I have made this better? How do I handle the end of the honeymoon?"
1. YOU can't make your B/F behave like an adult.... so don't take on this unaccomplishable task....
2. Now that the "honeymoon" is o... (read in full...)
Should I call? Should he call? It's been 3 days since we disagreed.
Q. I have been having fights with my boyfriend of over a year for some months now, over trivial issues, and I mostly chalked it up to distance. We made up and quite recently, things were going on fine till he called me and we got into another fight. ...
A. 3 June 2016: I suggest you put aside the question of who-should-call-who.... and sit down and ask yourself if you REALLY want to be (continue) in a "relationship" which has numerous arguments/disagreements as you've described....
Real loving relation... (read in full...)
First time to a strip club with Bf. How should I feel about his behaviour? How else could I have reacted?
Q. So me and my bf have been dating for 5 years. I'm not the jealous type, I let him stare at other girls. Sometimes we even check them out together, because I mean come on, guys are going to look at other girls regardless; but for some reason I got ...
A. 2 June 2016: You write: "...I didn't know how to react once again im not the jealous type..."
Weeellll you and he both went over the top on this foray.
YOU should realize that it's OK to be jealous IF YOUR b/f IS ACTING LIKKE A TOTAL A$$HOLE!!!!!! (a... (read in full...)
I (F) upset my boyfriend and he's now being so cold with me. What do I do?
Q. I need advice on what to do about my boyfriend. Whenever we have an argument and I am slightly to blame, he gives me the silent treatment the next day and sometimes for a few days. He has mental health problems and I will admit that he is very ...
A. 31 May 2016: SVC offered you the only "advice" you need. To wit:
"Do you want to live like this forever?"
If "yes," then stay with this creature and endure your angst....
If "no" (or, "Hell, no") the part ways and make a better life for yourself.....
... (read in full...)
I'm turned on by a fantasy I'm sure my wife's interest in would be zero!
Q. Hi All. I am a very happily married man and my sex life with my wife is fantastic. However, I am hugely turned on by the thought of a threesome between my wife and a shemale. I am almost certain that my wife's interest in this is pretty much zero. ...
A. 31 May 2016: "What should I do?"....
Delete this post.... forget that you wrote it... then, purge this fantasy from your "active" brain, and commit it to your "back there, in the back" brain.... and recognize that is a FANTASY that is be left unspoken and unkn... (read in full...)
How can I get my man to kiss and cuddle me?
Q. My boyfriend/partner dislikes kissing and cuddling me.He has had a troubled past; We have sex most days,which we both love,but no kissing and not close to my body during sex.But he caresses and strokes my arms and back which I find very loving a...
A. 30 May 2016: RE-read this: "How do I get his to kiss and cuddle me and more sex ? I known his problems stem from his childhood ."
You (and he) get just one shot at this......
YOU tell him that kissing and cuddling is a CONDITION for you, in a relationshi... (read in full...)
I feel crushed. How can a man turn nasty so quickly?
Q. My ex of 42 recently ended things twice with me and I have lost all trust in him now. He wanted to see me yesterday. I still love him but declined as Im healing and feel it was not a healthy relationship anyway. He had mood swings and was not over...
A. 30 May 2016: Considering your age (41-50).... I'm surprised you haven't yet realized that men cease to mature beginning at, about, age 15. Only a few (of us) ever achieve adulthood beyond that.
The creature you described is still a 5-year-old in a candy st... (read in full...)
What can I do? My Bf has now become just taciturn and grumpy
Q. When we first met my boyfriend loved talking with me but now he is just taciturn and grumpy.He bites back every conversation i start and complains about everything connected to me. It's driving me crazy and i cant see why he could imagine i want a ma...
A. 30 May 2016: Cripes! He delivered to you the entire "message" you needed in order to conclude that you and he simply can't "make it" as a couple.
RE-read your submittal, and see if it isn't clear that you and he just AREN'T "made for each other."
Good lu... (read in full...)
My words initiated the break-up. But he broke up as if I never meant anything to him. How can I get over this?
Q. Hi, I am very unhappy i need advice I have been dating this man for ten months now and he has a habit of ignoring my calls and texts even for days so we have been urguing about it he says he is busy but he will go even for a week unless i contact ...
A. 30 May 2016: It's extremely difficult for one person to have a love affair, or, relationship, when the other person isn't taking part.....
YOU have to decide if YOU can provide all the love and energy in this dating "relationship" that you've describe... (read in full...)
Stuck in a terrible marriage. Do I stay or leave?
Q. I am having trouble deciding whether to leave my marriage. I wonder how it all looks from the outside. We met as coworkers during a hard time in my life and slept together even though I made it clear I did not want that type of relationship. Ev...
A. 29 May 2016: This statement: "...But I think it is better for the kids that we stay together. if I stay, they will grow up with a comfortable life and every opportunity they need to fulfill their passions..." is untrue.
Kids are amazingly percepti... (read in full...)
How can I get the respect I seek from my husband and from his family? What will improve this situation?
Q. My husband told me he recents me for keeping him away from his family. I do keep him away from his family because HIS family doesn't like me . my marriage is falling apart over this we are at the point where either I let him be around his famil...
A. 29 May 2016: Ahhhhh, families (BT/DT).....
If a couple can't reconcile that each "comes with" a family..... (and a background).... then the relationship or marriage may suffer or fail.
The best you could hope for is to sit down with hubby.... show h... (read in full...)
My introverted daughter is in her 30s and loves animals. She hates her work and hates being single. At 71, what advice can I give her that will help her?
Q. I'm worried about my daughter. Recently she was upset about something and she blurted out that she hated being single. She is in her 30s and a highschool teacher, and she never got married but she always seemed okay with it. Recently, sh...
A. 26 May 2016: You write that she's "in her 30s". That means that she probably has MORE THAN HALF of her life ahead of her.
What's wrong with making a "clean start"???????? (ALL over again!!!!).....
Good luck to her.... and you should stop snooping!!!!... (read in full...)
At what age, of a particular person who has never dated, are others likely to form an opinion that the particular person is gay?
Q. I've heard a lot of people say that people close to you often guess your sexuality before you actually come out. That has got me wondering. I'm 26, I have never dated, don't talk about who I'm attracted to and have never so much as held someone'...
A. 26 May 2016: I consulted my book, "How to tell if someone is gay"... and looked for the chapter on "At what age can you tell if a person is gay if he/she hasn't shown much interest in the same sex."
Unfortunately, all the pages of that chapter were blank...... (read in full...)
He ignores me and treats me like I don't exist ever since we had a one night stand. How can I better handle this rejection?
Q. Hi there, I'm married with 10 childrens and had an affair with a man that has 4 Children. We go to the same church and that's where everything happened. He smiled at me all the time and then it ended up into a one night stand we met up and ha...
A. 26 May 2016: You write: ".... all i want is just to be good friends..."
WITH A CREEP WHO HAS TREATED YOU LIKE THIS????? Please come to your senses.... understand that he is a USER.... you were one who he "used"..... and be glad that he didn't leave you preg... (read in full...)
The age issue bothers me. How do I learn to accept what my sister has done?
Q. Hello, My sister is 32 with a 9 year old child. Until recently, she was with a man, W, for a majority of her child's life. He is not the real father, but my nephew believes him to be. W has stepped up and taken care of both of them. He has pro...
A. 26 May 2016: Your sister is a "big girl" now. Let her make - and live with - her own mistakes.
YOUR place is to be a good brother.... be cordial to whoever she is spending time with.... be a good Uncle to your nephew.... and see what happens....
Good lu... (read in full...)
Should I stop cooking for my Bf after what he did? Any suggestions on how to get him to appreciate me more?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, living together for 1 year. He can be super sweet, loyal and sensitive and we have a lot in common... but sometimes he can just 'lose it.' Though he would never be violent he has lost his temper over ...
A. 26 May 2016: Does anyone have any suggestions..... ???? Yes.... get away from this inconsiderate creature...... You write:
"...Anyway, I'm seriously considering boycotting cooking and just not bother... but that might just put him in a bad temper..... (read in full...)
What's the sexiest thing about your partner?
Q. What's the sexiest thing to you about your partner whether it be past/present/future. What do you find most attractive in someone else? ...
A. 23 May 2016: The sexiest thing about my S.O. is that she SHOWS UP!!!!... (read in full...)
What's the sexiest thing about your partner?
Q. What's the sexiest thing to you about your partner whether it be past/present/future. What do you find most attractive in someone else? ...
A. 23 May 2016: The sexiest thing about my S.O. is that she ... (read in full...)
How can I stop? My fiance is going to leave me if I don't stop this behavior.
Q. I am getting married in four months time, and my problem is this: basically I have been constantly obsessing over my partner's past, and all the things that he did wrong at the start of our relationship. I know it is irrational but cannot stop, and ...
A. 21 May 2016: Not getting married....now, or in four months... is probably a smart thing to do. You need lots of time to grow up and get your life's priorities in order....
(There'll still be time to get married - even to this guy - after you're done....... (read in full...)
How can I introduce the subject of more sexual exploration and trying new things, to see if she is interested?
Q. Myself and partner are due to get wed next year !! Wooo - Hooo !!! We have always been an extremely sexually active couple... For all the ten years of our relationship. More recently my mind has been open to even more sexual endeavors! We have a...
A. 20 May 2016: I suggest that you be sure to bring up this subject BEFORE you and she marry. That way, the two of you can discuss just what you (both) think it "means" to be married....
After all.... you've described activities that are commonly detrimen... (read in full...)
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