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writes:When we first met my boyfriend loved talking with me but now he is just taciturn and grumpy.He bites back every conversation i start and complains about everything connected to me.It's driving me crazy and i cant see why he could imagine i want a man who talks to me as if i am just a troublesome nuisance.Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2016): It turns out he is seeking advice from another woman and she keeps telling him it will never work with me.
Now i feel the same way and have told him to find himself another scapegoat because i cant stand it as it is and if he takes advice from this woman he could never be right for me!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (30 May 2016):
 When you talk to him what are the subject? Are you re-hashing the same subjects over and over? Gossiping? Drama? HIM?
If you are, switch topics.
If you are not....
I'd back off completely. LET him make the first moves and pick the topic. Either he steps up or steps away.
Maybe he is trying in a NOT SO subtle way to dump you. by making YOU say screw this, I've had enough.
OR he is depressed and pushing everyone away.
There isn't just one cookie-cutter reason why people do what they do.
You can try and bring the subject up. Ask him what's up with him, what's been going on lately. That you miss the talks you two used to have. See what he says to that. If he reacts VERY negatively... I think it's because you are SEEING the real him now. In the beginning he put his best foot forward in order to get you interested, now that he "has" you... he can't be bothered to maintain that effort.
So my question is to you... WHAT do you want? Are you going to just sit back and suck up all this venom? Or are you going to say, I respect myself enough to know this is NOT what I want, and I understand... that I can't change this guy into the man I *think* he was or can be.
Want more.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 May 2016):
 Cripes! He delivered to you the entire "message" you needed in order to conclude that you and he simply can't "make it" as a couple.
RE-read your submittal, and see if it isn't clear that you and he just AREN'T "made for each other."
Good luck...
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reader, missy_25 +, writes (30 May 2016):
Has something happened in his life? Maybe at work, with his own family or whatever it is? Maybe he's venting it out on you because he doesn't know how to deal with the source of his frustration. Don't match his anger with anger, instead pray for patience, sympathy and anger. Try to have a heart to heart talk with him without pointing blame. Maybe he has insecurities that you don't know and he just needs to be reminded that he is worth loving.
However, if he is abusing you emotionally and verbally after all these effort to help him get through this, save yourself first and get out of a toxic relationship.
Knowing the difference is the key because men naturally keep things to themselves and then just explodes. Relationships will always have issues, it is up to you to know its value or not or if its worth keeping or not.
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