Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?
Q. I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...
A. 10 March 2016: You give us a long-winded description of a "relationship" that sounded like quite a struggle for you (and him)...
Then, you describe what has happened in his life... and how it causes your anguish.... and, THEN, you write:
"She posted t... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a widow to sleep with her late husband's married best friend ?
Q. I am a forty year old widow. My husband passed away in January 2014. I was very lonely. My husband's best friend, X, and his wife Y used to visit when my husband was alive and continued to do so after my husband's death. A month later Y noticed ...
A. 9 March 2016: "Is it wrong for me, a widow, to enjoy having sex with a married man?..."
The only answer(s) that are of ANY importance are those of the three people involved.
Good luck. (It sounds like the three of you have come to a great, mutually-... (read in full...)
Why was I not good enough for him? After all I did and going into debt?
Q. I need help... My relationship with a guy 18 years younger than me ended 9 months ago.. I was the one to leave.. But I can't seen to get over him. You see we lived together for almost two years, of the two there was no intimacy for a year.. He would ...
A. 6 March 2016: WHY would you spend even another MINUTE thinking about this creature?????
GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!!! WITHOUT him in it!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My sister has sucked all the blood out of me and I don't know what to do!
Q. Dear all, I know this is not a love related question so maybe not relevant to most readers but I have serious family issues! My sister is sucking the blood out of me. All she ever did was ask, ask, ask. When she was a student, she did not want...
A. 4 March 2016: Here's how you can handle this. When "...All she ever did was ask, ask, ask..." YOU can DON'T LISTEN, DON'T LISTEN, DON'T LISTEN.....
That should put matters on an even footing....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Partner is 16 weeks and won't stop smoking!
Q. Hi, my partner is almost 16 wks pregnant with our first child and she just will not stop smoking, or even attempt to cut down even a little. She is averaging around 16-20 cigarettes every single day. She wakes up in the night for a cigarette, she ...
A. 4 March 2016: Key phrase: ".... she constantly said 'If i got pregnant i would quit'" Sounds like she didn't really mean it, did she????
Besides the ill-effects on her (and your's) baby,.. she is also compromising her own health.... Is that what YOU want... (read in full...)
Should I ask my LDR's relative more questions about his cheating with his ex?
Q. My current LDR's brother's wife has just hinted to me that my boyfriend was cheating with his ex while he was dating me a year ago. My LDR boyfriend's brother recently got married and I traveled to visit during the wedding and got to know his brot...
A. 4 March 2016: You really ought to leave his family out of things... and sit down to a real, honest heart-to-heart with LDR.
Bringing a family (member(s)) in to your's and his goings-on is a pretty bad idea....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is 4 months of dating too soon to ask her to marry me?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend.. I can't imagine life without her. She is everything I could have ever asked for and more. We have only been dating 4 months but it seems like longer. We have known each other for 4 years. I know she is the girl for ...
A. 4 March 2016: You may "pop the question" whenever you darn well please.
If she sez "yes," then you and she are on your way. IF, she sez; "Where is the camera? This IS a joke, no?" Then you must understand that you and she are not "on the same page" regardin... (read in full...)
Will he go through with his secret online dating thing, and meet up with them? Should I leave him?
Q. Hey, I'm in a bad situation at the moment and don't know what to do. Ok, so my partner is VERY secretive about his laptop and phone(yet expects my codes!) and today he went out, anyway, I decided to do something wrong, I know, I opened his lap...
A. 4 March 2016: I think you've learned all you need to know that this guy is not loyal to you....
Dump him... and get a real boyfriend....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm bereft after this break up, I feel I have no hope, at age 47. Please help!
Q. Hi everyone. I am feeling desperately sad after breaking up with my partner. My marriage ended 5 years ago, my choice, and I found new strength and freedom on my own. I met my partner after about a year and I was so in love. I had such high hopes ...
A. 4 March 2016: Here's the key to your submittal: "..My confidence and self esteem have gradually eroded, and now although I did finally have the courage to say 'enough', and end it, I feel old and worthless. I am 47, and I feel absolutely bleak about my ... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me like a last priority?
Q. Its been two year i am dating my boyfriend. Last year when my birthday came,i thought he will plan something special for me. I went to his home and when i asked him " where is my birthday gift" . He said i don't have any, i am always like this and i ...
A. 4 March 2016: So you've got a "boyfriend" who is a thoughtless clod....
Is THAT what you want for a "boyfriend"? ... or would you prefer to spend your time with a polite, thoughtFUL guy? If so.... then dump this one and start a new search for a new B/F........ (read in full...)
My foreign girlfriend of 3 months is pregnant and I can't say that I love her and don't wish to marry. What should I do?
Q. I'm in a bit of a unique situation. I've been dating this girl for 3 months. I am 23 and she is 20 years old. I just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant with my child. She is from South America and is here with a student visa studying the Eng...
A. 3 March 2016: isn't it a BITCH??? .... what that little guy down there - between your legs - can do to one's life?????
NOW, (that "he" has cast HIS lot), YOU have to decide to either be a man.... or, be a mouse.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone
Q. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...
A. 3 March 2016: Sometimes,.... being snoopy is its own reward. SOMETIMES, it reveals things that you HOPED you'd never face...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I make this threesome idea happen?
Q. I want have a threesome with my wife and friend. the game plan is they should not know each other so I want to blind fold them and to convince them for this and then the game goes on.... suggest me how to make this wonderful...!?...
A. 2 March 2016: Good luck. Threesomes are so often the "... beginning of the end..."... (read in full...)
Beautiful girlfriend makes me feel worthless
Q. I really need help. My girlfriend is threatening to break up with me and it seems all I do is not enough. Right now she's telling me she's broken up and that she doesn't want me. But come later that may change. It's the same yesterday. We agre...
A. 29 February 2016: Read the story of Sisyphus sometime.... and see if YOU aren't HIM!!!!
Why waste your time trying to "prove" your worth to this girl.... when SHE has the luxury of changing the rules at her own whims?????? WAKE UP!!!!! and get another - sensible... (read in full...)
Would it be crazy to leave my husband who gives me everything for a man who couldn't give me what I have?
Q. I really need some advice.... Firstly what I'm about to admit is horrible - I'm not here for sympathy or understanding and I know I'm completely 100% in the wrong and nobody could be more disgusted with me than I am. I married my long term boy...
A. 27 February 2016: "I know I'm completely 100% in the wrong..."
Soooo, don't make things any worse than they already are.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why why do girls dump guys who treat a girl like an angel?
Q. I wonder why ladies, I never hear a woman, talk about them dumping a nice guy, on here. I here all the time,How they get hurt, by the guy who treated them bad. It does happen all the time, a guy treats a woman fantastic. Then a woman, breaks t...
A. 27 February 2016: OP: Women like "bad boys". Those of us who are "nice guys" get our a$$e$ kicked to the curb, regularly.... and then, STILL act civilly towards those (girls) who treated us so badly. Who KNOWS why it happens????????
If I had a nickel for ever... (read in full...)
I'm appalled at his disrespect, but what can I do? Is it time to breakup?
Q. My partner of 3 years goes out each thursday night with friends, this is usually fine but i am at work on a friday so do prefer him not to come in too late. He usually comes in about 1am. Weve had a number of arguments about this mainly because ...
A. 26 February 2016: You've let this terrible behavoiour go on for far too long. I suggest that you part ways with this immature and inconsiderate slog, and get a real boyfriend (who is considerate)....
good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I contact this married man to tell him I'm pregnant? I want him to help support me!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm the op of this post "He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?", which I posted a month back. I found out that I'm pregnant few days back and I'm positive he is the father since I didn't have sex with an...
A. 25 February 2016: A qualified "family" lawyer will be able to give you sound advice. What we - lay people - can tell you, on here, might be not only poor advice.... but may be counter-productive... Get an attorney.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I successfully encourage my Bf to take better care of himself and improve his personal hygiene?
Q. I want my boyfriend to take better care of himself when it comes to hygiene and clothing. I don't think I'm asking for too much: I would like him to brush his teeth twice a day, I would like him to shower and wash his face once a day, I would lik...
A. 25 February 2016: Q. "Is it too much to expect him to do the same for me?"
A. Yes. This isn't a tit-for-tat situation. What you did, to "change" (for him?), was a choice that YOU made. It is not, then, incumbent upon HIM to make what you consider an equal ch... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: My comments:
"She absolutely will not try to see my point at all..." What IS your "point?"
"I pointed out that she would stop doing it if she cared about me...." Just as you discontinued watching porn when she expressed her dissatisfaction?... (read in full...)
How can I successfully encourage my Bf to take better care of himself and improve his personal hygiene?
Q. I want my boyfriend to take better care of himself when it comes to hygiene and clothing. I don't think I'm asking for too much: I would like him to brush his teeth twice a day, I would like him to shower and wash his face once a day, I would lik...
A. 24 February 2016: So, what you're REALLY saying.... is that this "boyfriend" doesn't fit in to your mold of who you want for a boyfriend..... no?
Why not just part ways with him?... let him go on with HIS life, as he wishes.... whilest you go on with YOUR life... ... (read in full...)
How long to get over a crush?
Q. hello lovely people, I was just wondering how long does it take to get over a crush? When you see them very often. Seriously I'm pretty obsessed about this guy I know for a little over a year, but funny fact is I used to dislike him because he was ...
A. 24 February 2016: I'm still trying to "get over" some crushes that I had about 45 to 55 years ago. Be patient (like me)!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I stop my family from questioning everything my husband and I do?
Q. Hiya Just a little question for you all..I am 35 years old, married, own a beautiful home and have a good job. All which I achieved. When I was a teenager, I had some fun like every other teenager, went travelling etc. I tried university but d...
A. 24 February 2016: Practice this phrase: ".... Not to worry, things are going OK for us..." Then, use it liberally when friends and family quiz you about your's (and hubby's and kids, and real estate) goings-on....
Good luck... AND congratulations for your suc... (read in full...)
His comment was so vague! How do I read into it?
Q. I am in my 40s and had noticed this guy that I thought I had recognised from years ago but didn't feel I could go up and ask him. I left my number with the local coffee shop for him and he text me that same day and turned out that he used to live ...
A. 24 February 2016: I wouldn't spend a lot of time trying to "read in to" whatever he said. Your's (and his) re-meeting is sufficiently a "new" friendship that you should simply be conversing and learning about one-another... and, in the course of that, you can guide ... (read in full...)
He just wanted to hook up...why is he texting me ?
Q. I posted a thread about a guy who was giving the impression that he just wanted sex and subsequently disappeared when I made it clear that I'm looking for someone to date . Here is recap of this saga -I met a guy when I was out and he gave me h...
A. 23 February 2016: WHY waste another second on this guy who has given you EVERY/ALL the signs necessary to understand that he wants, only, to get you in bed?
good luck....... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can help my jealous ex husband move on?
Q. My ex husband and I seperated over 5 years ago. We have two children in Junior High School. He tries to stay in their lives by coming by our house every morning to drive the children to school. I met a man in another State about a year ago and thro...
A. 23 February 2016: "Is there a way I can help him move on?"
Nope. There's not a darn thing you can - or, should - do to "help him move on"......
What you need to consider is how to keep his escapades from influencing/affecting you and your kids....
Good... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather go into the bathroom and wank off than to touch me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 yrs and he won't touch me sexually he'd much rather go into the bathroom and lock the door and watch other females and he chats with them and tells them that he wants to go down on them and then make love ...
A. 23 February 2016: How quickly can you pack and make your way out the door?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What is the difference between friends and more than friends?
Q. My best friend and I are asexual. i live in a house with her and her dog. Where is the line drawn between friends and more? We're so close, I've never had a friend that knows me as well as she does, yet we insist on labeling ourselves as friends. ...
A. 23 February 2016: You ask: "... if you were to take the sex/attraction out of the picture, what is the difference between a friend and more than a friend?..."
This is really a rhetorical algebra question... and I have the answer. To wit: (Sex/attraction) = "more ... (read in full...)
Should I leave home because of my mom? She expects me to clean and help with bills and I think she needs to be told off
Q. I need some help dealing with my mum. I moved back home a couple of years ago and she makes me contribute financially and she complains when I make noise and wake her up but I am nearly 30 so I need to be able to come and go as I please and I don't ...
A. 22 February 2016: Cindy, Honeypie, Cows.... this can't POSSIBLY be a "legit" submittal......
There is NO young woman (26-29) who could be so immune to human understanding about her Mother....
Let's just let this one "pass".... no more comments.... (read in full...)
Is there a better way to try to date girls who'll like me, and not see me as their 'second choice'?
Q. What's the point of dating/settling down with girls who have dated/had sex with better guys before you? In high school/ college the loud fratty tall guys were getting looks/getting talked about and relationships/sex while I had to struggle for ...
A. 20 February 2016: "Can someone tell me a reason why this virgin should keep trying and want to be with girls (who have had sex/been played/want to settle down) after they've been with guys that all girls liked?"
Note that I've edited your question before respondi... (read in full...)
What are the stages between the state of being lovers to the state of being friends?
Q. What are the stages of going from lovers to friends? My ex lover wants to be friends and I don't know how to go about it. Can it work? I'm still attracted to him and I know he likes me....
A. 19 February 2016: Here's how it works:
1. The two of you get close enough to be intimate ("lovers")....
2. One of you decides that you're not quite so enchanted (with the other) as you thought you were.... and that person...
3. Suggests that the two of... (read in full...)
Why does my lover play the push and pull game?
Q. Why does my lover push and pull? I am actually quite fed up with it. After 5 years, I don't want to be ignored and sent minimal three word texts. Have told him as much. I would much rather be told if he needed his space, didn't want to message. Not ...
A. 19 February 2016: "Should I just walk now and stop contact?"
Yes.....
Isn't that easy?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I be sending risque pics to my boyfriend? Will it get on the internet?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we have a very close relationship. He is an incredibly sweet person and I honestly trust him with anything. The other day we were talking and it just so happened that he sent me a topless ...
A. 19 February 2016: "He is an incredibly sweet person and I honestly trust him with anything...." That's a pretty piss-poor excuse for exposing yourself to the prospective angst of having put an inappropriate pic of yourself ANYWHERE in cyber-space.
Ask those (t... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship but has feelings for me. What should we do?
Q. I have feelings for a guy - but he is in a relationship. However yesterday he told me he has feelings for me aswell. What do we do?!...
A. 19 February 2016: "WE" don't do a darn thing!!!! If, and when, HE decides that his feelings are you are sufficient that he will OPT (commit) to you... THEN - and ONLY THEN - should you talk to, and/or meet him as if he is a prospective "boyfriend"...
Good ... (read in full...)
My husband has started texting women he's met through facebook. Should I worry?
Q. My husband and I have been together about 7 years and he has recently been texting women through Facebook. He says it’s all innocent flirting. These women are in other countries. I expressed to him that I was uncomfortable with him talking to these ...
A. 18 February 2016: "Should I be worried."? Yes....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is sorry ever enough?
Q. I really would like your advice. I did something hurtful and rude to my friend. It was an impulsive act and I regretted it immediately. I mailed her two weeks ago to apologise. I would like to apologise in person too. Though not the best of frie...
A. 18 February 2016: Did you "mail" her by email? ... or REAL mail (a card)?
If the former, then you are not off-the-hook for apologizing... since an electronic apology is not nearly as sincere as a real card apology.....
If the latter..... then you need to wait... (read in full...)
I feel like his mom always comes first!
Q. Please can I have advice on how to deal with my husband and his mother, she has always been very reliant on him but in the last few months since he became a house husband, he spends all his time on the phone to her and going round to her (she lives ...
A. 18 February 2016: From what you've described, his Mother DOES "come first."
Your question is, "Do you want to be second-fiddle until Mommy passes.... or do you expect your Hubby to man-up and really BE a "husband?"
Answer is your's to provide....
G... (read in full...)
I'm dating 2 men, neither is quite right but I don't want to be alone
Q. Not really sure where to start with this one but here it goes...s I'm dating two men; one is extremely nice to me and loving and complementary. He buys me little things like roses and we have a good relationship. he's there for me if I need him, ...
A. 18 February 2016: I think that "....because I don't want to wait forever and I don't want to be alone..." is about the WEAKEST EXCUSE that a woman (or, man) could EVER offer for "settling" for a partner who may not be right for them......
Consider; ALONE is not a... (read in full...)
My ex says I deserve better but I want him back
Q. My boyfriend dumped me because I love him a lot and he says I deserve better than him.. actually I do but I love him more than anything and I'm dying without him.. how can I get him back?...
A. 16 February 2016: Why bother ("getting him back"...). He TOLD you that he's not good enough for you.... so LISTEN TO HIM!!!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He wants children now and I want to be married first
Q. Hello I've been with my boyfriend over a year and I love him. We plan a future together and we both want children. The problem is he wants to have children now and I want to get married first. I'm ready to get married but when I bring it up he ...
A. 16 February 2016: Three good replies precede mine. I can't add anything...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
She gives oral sex but won't let me return the favor. Will she ever?
Q. A female friend of mine have been sexually open with each other for a while. Well, mainly sexually open with me. It's fun being able to talk and share on a sexual level, and she loves to help pleasure me through masturbation or oral. I love it...
A. 16 February 2016: It would be OK for you to just refrain from doing/hoping/wishing oral for her.... and just for the two of you to continue without it......
IF she should ever wish to reconsider.... and have you DO oral for her...... (and understandable desire!)... (read in full...)
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