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I'm turned on by a fantasy I'm sure my wife's interest in would be zero!

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Question - (31 May 2016) 12 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2016)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi All. I am a very happily married man and my sex life with my wife is fantastic. However, I am hugely turned on by the thought of a threesome between my wife and a shemale. I am almost certain that my wife's interest in this is pretty much zero. What should I do? Thanks!

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A female reader, Dionee' South Africa +, writes (1 June 2016):

Dionee' agony auntSince you already know that your wife is 100% not interested, then why even bother asking? Leave your fantasy as that OP; a FANTASY or you may really upset your wife and cause a problem where there isn't one.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2016):

I'm assuming your fantasy has been fueled by porn. Is that right? If so then you need to reign it in. Porn is desensitising and it encourages people to push boundaries. If you keep away from it you may find your fantasy fades.

While a lot of men get off on the idea of their wives with another woman, we women don't feel the same about our husbands and another man (or woman for that matter). Your wife could well be horrified by the idea and it would effect your relationship.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2016):

What should you do?

Tell your wife so she can tell you to hit the road, Jack!!!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 June 2016):

Honeypie agony auntYeah, I would not be happy if my husband suggested THAT. Or any other fantasy including other people than the two of us.

Some (most) fantasies are best kept IN your head.

As a woman, I think I would make the presumption that this fantasy was about me Or what turns me on, but what the asker (you) wants. As in.. YOU want to be with a shemale, you wife is only part of the equation because that is the only way you think it could EVER happen (by involving her). And inviting more people in to the bed? RARELY a good idea.

Fantasies are fine, don't get me wrong by DIAL it down to some that includes YOU and your WIFE only.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2016):

Don't ask your wife's permission to have sex with another guy.

Bi-curiosity will wreck your marriage. Keep it a fantasy.

I hope you're right about your wife. I hope her interest is total zero!

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A male reader, wherelifewouldtakeus United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2016):

wherelifewouldtakeus agony auntWhen you Google the word fantasy! it literally says things that take place in your imagination, why don't you leave it there and keep it between you and p*orn hub?... Just leave your wife out of it, Might save you your marriage!

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (1 June 2016):

Hardly any wife would go for this. Bringing it up to her would not only be useless but could very well stick a knife into the happy relationship and fantastic sex life you share with her. If you want to get her take on shemales, you might somehow bring up the topic incidentally and see how she reacts.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (31 May 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntThis would ruin your marriage, it is okay to have fantasies, but a whole different story trying to introduce them in to a marriage.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntKeep it as a fantasy and don't speak of it to anyone.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (31 May 2016):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou keep it a hot fantasy and never mention it. this is the sort of thing that can ruin a relationship

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2016):

This fantasy of yours should remain fantasy since your wife, as you say, has zero interest in it.

That's what you should do.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (31 May 2016):

Sageoldguy1465 agony aunt"What should I do?"....

Delete this post.... forget that you wrote it... then, purge this fantasy from your "active" brain, and commit it to your "back there, in the back" brain.... and recognize that is a FANTASY that is be left unspoken and unknown to anyone but YOU.....

Good luck...

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