I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 2 August 2016: Whether or not a birthday party is held.... Print a copy of this submittal.....
When your daughter turns 18, pull out this submittal (the copy you made)... and ask her if she remembers - or doesn't remember - her first birthday party. (I'm gue... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got his ex pregnant but still wants to be with me
Q. My boyfriend n I have been datin for past a year now. I has showed great interest in settlin down wt me bt recently I fofound out he jst sees his ex galfriend and before I know wwhat is happpenin, she is already pregnant. We leave vry far from each ...
A. 1 August 2016: This charmer is nothing but bad luck - for YOU!!! Cut your losses and get away from him now.
Would you want - for a hubby or S/O - some wretch who would impregnate an "ex-" then go running to some other woman (you - in this case) claiming... (read in full...)
My mother is abusive and makes things out to be my fault when its actually her!
Q. I am a 22 year old male and I've had problems with my mother ever since I can remember. My mom is a very abusive person who yells and belittles me all the time, takes her anger out on me, etc. and then turns around and says I am the one with the ...
A. 30 July 2016: There's no "rule" that sez that you have to endure a toxic person who has some place in your life!!!!
Being your Mother does NOT give this woman freedom to be nasty to you... Just stay away from her... be polite when you MUST be in her company.... (read in full...)
His ex got engaged just yesterday. Since they were still on social media together, is her engagemet likely to bother him?
Q. Hi Ive been with my boyfriend 2 years, when we first got together, he had only recently broken up with his ex, they were together 10 months. They still have each other added on social media but as far as i know they dont talk. She got enga...
A. 28 July 2016: Probably will (bother him).. but why is that any matter to you????... (read in full...)
My boyfriend struggles with lusting after other women
Q. My boyfriend struggles a lot with lusting after other women. He sees beautiful women and wants to be with them and gets jealous of their partners if these women are with someone else. He then ends up feeling really terrible about lusting after other ...
A. 28 July 2016: Many/most of us men grow out of this "kid in a candy store" syndrome about the same time we pass through puberty. Your guy - apparently - is stuck in time....
Honesty (telling you about his lusting) is plain bull-s**t. If you give him a "pass" f... (read in full...)
Is this a compliment "I chose you" ???
Q. No problem just a question. If your husband/wife, partner lover whatever tells you "I CHOSE YOU" how do you receive it, as a compliment or an insult? We had the same question asked on facebook but most see it as a compliment. I don't! What's yo...
A. 28 July 2016: Before giving you a considered answer, it would be helpful if you would advise us what was the other choice.....
Thanks...... (read in full...)
How do I stop watching those videos? And stop masturbating for good?
Q. Hi.. so if im honest life gets pretty tough sometimes. Older people may think that the only problems a teenage girl could possibly have is a guy that doesnt want them or needing money to buy clothes or whatever. That couldnt be more naive. Over the ...
A. 27 July 2016: There's nothing "wrong" with masturbating. The Good Lord gave it to people as a release mechanism. Whilest there may be some who would chastise one for doing it, that (chastisement) is not based on any real detrimental effects....
Pleas... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to give up on finding love?
Q. Hello there, I am a 21 year old college student with NF1 (Neurofibromitosis Type 1). I have never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or even flirted with a girl. My parents are still really protective over me and are really suspicious of what I do (why ...
A. 27 July 2016: I think it's time you STARTED listening (more) to what "people" tell you... and spend just about NO time wondering "...Is it time for me to give up on finding love?"
Love is an interesting phenomenon. Just when you think you haven't got a chance... (read in full...)
How do I get over extreme loneliness?
Q. I talked to a guy on Tinder for about a month and after dating a week, we hooked up multiple times. He was interested in something sexual immediately and initially I was only seeking something romantic and a possible relationship. I hadn't been with ...
A. 27 July 2016: This guy you've met... clearly had something - one thing, only - on his mind. YOU tipped your hand and were too willing to be intimate with him, too soon after meeting.
HE has gotten all he ever wanted from this brief "relationship".. and now ... (read in full...)
My mother-in-law is terrible to my wife! Should I say something or stay out of it?
Q. My 73 year old mother-in-law has always been manipulative. Back when I was dating my wife 20 years ago she would guilt trip her into coming to visit for months at a time and bribe her with gifts to stay if necessary. That really hurt our developi...
A. 27 July 2016: This really IS, officially, something between only your M-i-L and your wife..... HOWEVER, you DO have a role in the whole matter.....
And, that role is to be a great husband/partner/friend and supporter of your wife in HER predicament.
It's di... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 27 July 2016: Regarding this: "...Can anyone give me objective opinions?
I think this problem has been slowly eating away at this relationship. And I wish it wasn't. Things are so much better between us without the trust issues."
Don't you suppose his ... (read in full...)
He likes rough sex, I don't! Am I being unreasonable or is he?
Q. I recently started a relationship with a guy I met 4 months ago. We went out a few times in the last 4 months before deciding we wanted to give a relationship a go. We recently started having sex and it turns out that he is really into rough sex and ...
A. 20 July 2016: "Love" is when two people think enough of one-another to assure that both are having various needs met.
You described a situation in which HE thinks it's quite important that HIS needs are met (the kind of sexual activities that you describe... (read in full...)
I'm hurt he doesn't want to get engaged! How do I sort this out?
Q. hi i recently seen a post about someones boyfriend will only get engaged cos she wants to i am in the same situation ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years now we have no children we went out for a meal last week with family and they asked us if we ...
A. 20 July 2016: Cut your losses and dump this character now.... before you invest any more of your heart and soul in to a "relationship" which has nowhere to go.....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
I hate him but all I want is to be with him!
Q. I fell in love with the wrong person. I am still young, fresh out of hs and have never been in love until now. We are from a small town in Arizona and happened to cross paths...Well more like he hit on me one day and I reciprocated.It started off ...
A. 16 July 2016: OP: Did you put the title on this submittal?
Why do I ask? Because the opposite of "love" is not "hate"..... it is "indifference". You have to have real strong feelings about someone who you claim to "hate."
That said.... ask yourself if ... (read in full...)
I found out he's still married, but separated, he lied about his son and he's a borderline hoarder!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a guy for 2 1/2 years. He is older than me (I am 35 and he is 53), and when we started seeing each other he said he had been single for awhile. He has a house that is in disrepair, and approaching hoarder status. ...
A. 16 July 2016: OP: This guy has everything that any red-blooded American guy would want.... a wife from whom he hasn't split, a son, and a sweetie (you!) who will make excuses for all his obvious shenanigans....
The ONLY person who can change your lot, is ... (read in full...)
Four months into the relationship, so why is he choosing to sleep in a different bed to me?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating a guy younger than me for past 4 months. We hang around in his place during weekend. It's the second time I find him sleeping in living room because he says he steal his blanket and he can't sleep or I turn around a lot. ...
A. 25 June 2016: This phrase: "....I assumed that's his nature and I try to work around it,..." does NOT portend a likely successful "relationship."
WHY should YOU (or, anyone) have to "work around" the foibles of your partner???????
I trust you and this cha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a fat fetish and wants me to gain more weight! I've already gained 100!
Q. I met my bf almost a year and a half ago and we imediately hit it off great. Then I weighed about 150lbs. The first 4 months were great and he was so caring and attentive always surprising me with my favorite snacks or ice cream and taking me out to ...
A. 24 June 2016: Re-read your submittal 3 times.
After that, ask yourself if you would chain-smoke cigarettes all day, if he asked you to do so....
This guy has a sinister way of abusing you... and you've fallen for it....
Please consider to make a break... (read in full...)
We agreed to remain friends but I haven't heard from him!
Q. A guy i was seeing for 5 months ended things with me a couple of months ago. From my persepctive everything was going well and had been fine between us leading up to him ending things so it really upset me as it was totally unexpected. When he ended ...
A. 24 June 2016: "Closure" is badly over-blown. If you and he don't have occasion to be with - or spend time with - one-another, then that is what life is about and there's no reason to try to change things....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
I am low on his list of priorities!
Q. I feel like my boyfriend does not have time for me anymore an am not sure of what to do! Basically there is a culture clash and his parents want him to have an arranged marriages which he has refused to do as he is with me But I feel like everyt...
A. 24 June 2016: Don't EVER let a guy be your PRIORITY, whilest you are one of HIS "OPTIONS"........
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do I keep lying to her or tell her the truth? Nothing fits any more.
Q. I been with my gf for 4 years and she has put on weight since. I'm not bothered because she is really attractive with extra weight on. However if I mention it she says she doesn't like it. So I don't mention anything anyway however now all her ...
A. 24 June 2016: The "problem" within you submittal is that YOU think that a woman will be logical when it comes to matters of her weight/physique.......
There is no logic in womens' weight issues.... Start with that, and, perhaps, you will find the answer o... (read in full...)
How can I fit in with new work colleagues? Some are not very nice
Q. Some of our departments have merged at work, whats a good way to get along with new colleagues? Edit None of us new to the workplace but 1/3 of us ( maybe 13 of us) have moved to new much bigger a...
A. 24 June 2016: You're over-thinking this... RELAX......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is rejection good or bad? How does one accept and deal with rejection?
Q. I asked a female who is beautiful from work on social media if she fancied meeting me for a coffee to get to know me better. This was today, we are good friends on social media, and I decided the time was right to ask her and to seize the day. And...
A. 24 June 2016: I've been "rejected" by so many women that I've lost track of just how many..... BUT....
I've persevered and found a few desperate damsels who WOULD consent to spend a bit of time with me.... and THAT has constituted my "love life" for the last... (read in full...)
Are there problems for wife swapping or threesomes?
Q. Friends, Me and my wife are very god friends and talk about any of our feelings each other. Some two years back I have spoke to her about couple swap or threesome she was also interested in and had similar fantasies. Now that we know there are r...
A. 22 June 2016: Here are the "pros and cons".....
There a remote - tiny - chance that you and she can go through with this and it will be successful....
There's a MAJOR chance that it will lead to the demise of your marriage.....
Think of it this way.... (read in full...)
I'm shocked my boyfriend broke up with me because I wanted to communicate! Your thoughts?
Q. We have been going out 6 years on and off. We are students (23) He started working a few weeks ago. He didn't reply to my msg for 3 days, I heard from him the 4th day saying how much he loves me etc...he sent me a msg saying he will take me out...
A. 22 June 2016: I think you have adequate information to understand that this guy doesn't really like/love you NEARLY as much as you do (like/love) him.....
Knowing that.... decide how long you want to endure his horrible treatment..... and, heave a large si... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his hateful family?
Q. I'm married to a man from a different country than myself. I cannot stand his family. They are very controlling and using people, and I don't want to know them. Is there anything wrong with that? I don't believe that just because I married my husba...
A. 22 June 2016: Well.... you "married in".... so you can't casually brush them off and say, "F**k you, I think you're stupid and I don't want anything to do with you"....
"
How does hubby feel about his family?
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Pulled a gorgeous female from work, organised the date. But how do dates work? Help.
Q. Dear agony aunts I pulled a beautiful girl at work, who ive been keen on for ages and have organised a date with her, and she said yes, and it was quite literally music to my ears. How do dates normally work? I know you have to look smart, and ...
A. 21 June 2016: Take her to Makeout Point... and invite her to sit with you in the back seat of your car.... claiming that THAT is the best place to view the submarine races that you and she are about to watch......
This worked for me..... OOoooops, I forgot..... (read in full...)
Can a friend forget about you while they are away?
Q. I have a friend who is abroad at the moment, she hasn't spoken to me for three to four weeks. I've not heard from her by social media and I'm beginning to lose patience. She's helping abroad and providing water to disadvantaged people and trying t...
A. 20 June 2016: Believe me, it's possible. I've had more than one instance where a girl forgot about me when I was "away," out in the kitchen getting a soda!!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What do you miss about an ex that makes you want them back?
Q. Hey! This is mainly a question for guys out there - I'm just wondering; when you think about an ex that you would still want back, what are the reasons you miss them or hold on to them still? (apart from loving them etc) - Maybe qualities they h...
A. 20 June 2016: There is one ex- who I would like to have back... briefly..... Just long enough to recover my Silverware, which she stole from me. If you think you might know who I'm talking about... I/M me and we can see if we can convince her to return it ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being used by men?
Q. Ever since I turned 21 - now I am turning 30 I have always gone above and beyond for men. I would characterize myself as a young successful woman - I hold a good corporate job and two degrees and really Kee up with my appearance. Inside though I am ...
A. 20 June 2016: I find this phrase very interesting: ".... and he was just a plain mechanic...."
Does that "tell" us that you grade men on what they do in life? Do you suppose that you "telegraph" that message.. and guys who receive it find you "schoolm... (read in full...)
Help ! What should I do? He treats me like someone he wants to string along
Q. I was with a relationship for 2 years. A few months ago i found out he had been two- timing me with his ex (i was apparently the side chick). I broke up. He pursued her like a crazed stalker for a month but she left him for good. Then he came for...
A. 19 June 2016: There is only ONE "question" here. Let me ask it for you:
"How many times am I going to allow this guy to make a fool of me, before I come to my senses."
THAT is the "answer" you are seeking......
Good luck..... (read in full...)
How should I behave when I meet his parents? They live abroad and I don't speak their language.
Q. Hi agony aunts! So my boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we've decided to take the next step. Meeting the parents! Problem is his parents live abroad and I can't speak a word of their language. We're staying at his parents...
A. 19 June 2016:
Get one of those "Berlitz" language booklets and learn how to say, "Hello, I'm delighted to meet you. You have a wonderful son."
Anything else would be "too much...." ...
Good luck, or.... bon chance... or, bueno chanco....... (read in full...)
She's giving me mixed signals. Does she like ? Is she being genuine?
Q. While I was at work, I noticed that a female has taken a shine to me, I don't know if I read into the wrong or she genuinely liked me. I've not asked her out, but I'm thinking of doing and im not sure what to do for the best. While I was making m...
A. 19 June 2016: She did everything EXCEPT tear open your shirt and tell you "I want you to be the Father of my children."
WHAT MORE DO YOU NEED TO GET HER "HINT"???????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't think that my achievements are anything to be proud of
Q. Am I asking too much? I've just completed an intense access course at college after returning at 26, I've also gotten an offer from University and acquired the grades which means I'll begin my degree in September. Im so proud of myself goi...
A. 17 June 2016: This "sounds" like you and B/F are trying to clap with just one hand. The sound of that is deafening.......
Good luck with your NEW boyfriend........ (read in full...)
How can I get over the fear of never finding the "one"?
Q. How can I get over the fear of never finding the one? For the last 29 years (im turning 30) all I have focused on was finding a man. I've tried everything - I've lost weight - fixed my appearance- kept up with my degrees- but still I find myself i...
A. 17 June 2016: "I admit I was a sucker for lowering my standards and putting up with a man that wasn't a man..."
If you refrain from this, you will find happiness and a great life, in the future. I GUARANTEE IT!!!!)
Good luck!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Why is porn condemned by women?
Q. I am curious about this. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. They are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of him a...
A. 17 June 2016: On-line porn is a means by which a man can leave the "real" world, and partake of a phony "cyber-" world... wherein fantasies do, indeed, get played out before a camera.....
For a woman (or, a man, if the rolls are reversed) it's not surprisi... (read in full...)
How can this continue with me losing my sanity? I have a wife and a girlfriend who are both amazing.
Q. I've been having an affair with a much younger, beautiful and sexy woman for over three years. I am in a fairly good marriage and we've been married for 22 years. My wife and I are on the same wave length. We've been through a lot together and are...
A. 16 June 2016: Your submittal reads like a passage from a "Harlequin" dime-store novel. Oooodles of us guys could have written it.... and it does a good job justifying all that has happened amongst you, wifey and mistress.
Problem is.... life is NOT a dime-s... (read in full...)
Crushed by an ex bf who was a jerk. Will I find a loving guy? Who's fault is it when I guy turns out to be a jerk or a loving and amazing guy?
Q. How does it feel to have a faithful and loving boyfriend who cares for your feelings, spends on you, and makes you feel special after having a selfish liar and jerk who crushed your world for a long time by being the exact opposite of the and ...
A. 16 June 2016: If he's a jerk, it's HIS FAULT got being a jerk.
If he proves to be a loving and faithful boyfriend, that will probably be because YOU brought out the best in him.
Does this help?
Good luck...
P.S. Trying to find fault with others is muc... (read in full...)
Is she out of my league? Should I ask her out?
Q. I'm a single male and work, there's a female at work whose caught my eye and she is attractive. She always looks at me, smiles and gives me hugs and chats to me. I'd like to ask her out but the problem is, I'm not sure if im her type or not or w...
A. 16 June 2016: One of my better lines - which works when a woman has given me as much hinting as this one has given to you - is this:
"So... I noticed that you hug me and chat with me pretty often... Do you have any plans for the next 25-or-so years?" ... (read in full...)
Newly married but feel so guilty about my cheating. What should I do?
Q. I got married to my boyfriend recently whom I was with in a long distance relationship for 3 yrs. We still live apart as I have not moved to his city yet as he could be taking a transfer to mine. I have dark secret which haunts me even now. Las...
A. 16 June 2016: NO, it's never "OK" to cheat....
You've woven this deceitful web very wide and tight.... so, the best you can do is:
1. Tell "lover-boy" that he's gotten his last lay from you... and to never contact you again,
2. GO TO (don't WRITE, TEXT... (read in full...)
My manager sent an angry text on my day off! How should I respond?
Q. My boss has sent me a shitty text message saying the following: "you have authorised 'john' to have this saturday off as holiday and not put anyone in at 8am, so as it stands, i cant enter the store. not your finest rota this week, needs impr...
A. 16 June 2016: You 'fess up to your blunder in a most humble "Mea culpa"...AND you go in and open on Saturday.....
Tell the boss that you are outrageously embarrassed at yourself for making such a mistake... and you'll be certain that it will never happen a... (read in full...)
My married man was upset I broke up with him! Was I unreasonable?
Q. I have been involved with a married man for 10 years, I waited until his children were grown up so I could make demands in my lover leaning his wife, they are 17 and 19 so not kids anymore....I asked him last night for us to be a proper couple now, ...
A. 16 June 2016: "Was I being unreasonable?"
HE's been stringing you along for 10 years... and you FINALLY figured out that he wasn't really "serious," after all.... so you've told him it's "over"??!!!! And you ask if you were being unreasonable????
The gre... (read in full...)
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