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How can I introduce the subject of more sexual exploration and trying new things, to see if she is interested?

Q.   Myself and partner are due to get wed next year !! Wooo - Hooo !!! We have always been an extremely sexually active couple... For all the ten years of our relationship. More recently my mind has been open to even more sexual endeavors! We have a...

A.   20 May 2016: I suggest that you be sure to bring up this subject BEFORE you and she marry. That way, the two of you can discuss just what you (both) think it "means" to be married.... After all.... you've described activities that are commonly detrimen... (read in full...)

Do I walk away? Or do I try to explain how I am feeling to my Bf?

Q.   Hello everyone, I'm just going to jump right in with the story. So I've been dating my on off boyfriend for 2 years and anyway he's 10 years older than me and due to stupid things he's done in the past still lives at home with his dad. The p...

A.   19 May 2016: I can't see this "relationship"... between you and this man-child.... having any future for YOU.... Decide, now, if the "life" you are seeing now is what you want to live for the indefinite future. If "yes," then go ahead and marry the creature... (read in full...)

My ex had a medical emergency and I allowed him to move back in. Now he needs surgery and I regret my weakness. Any ideas?

Q.   I have a relationship issue. I am not one of the super young people. That is why I feel bad about asking this question. I have been dating this guy, off and on, about 5 years. In year 3, he left me for someone else. I didn't want him back, bu...

A.   19 May 2016: He's USING you? ... and YOU'RE feeling bad about it???? Get your priorities in-order.... help him find a place to stay (with the "old G/F" might be appropriate)... then forget him..... Good luck...... (read in full...)

How should I respond to his hurtful comments during a argument?

Q.   Hi, Just wondering if any body has had a partner who would often say hurtful comments during an argument and if so what did you do? My fiance often says things like he doesn't love me, can't see a future with me, doesn't want a child with me...

A.   19 May 2016: The KEY WORD in your submittal is "often." IF you and he had an argument.... on some rare occasion... and he "went off the deep end"..... I might suggest that you give him (and he give you) a "Pass" under the "heat of the moment" rule....... (read in full...)

Should I worry that he's 13 years younger than me?

Q.   I've been with the most wonderful guy for the past 4 months. He's intelligent, funny, affectionate, and romantic. He really cares about me and I care about him. He treats me like a princess and tells me that I am the sweetest woman he's ever been ...

A.   13 May 2016: My S.O. - who is almost 10 years older than I am - told me to tell you to relax........ Good luck...... (read in full...)

How do I know if my boyfriend fantasized about this other woman when we had sex?

Q.   I have what might seem like a weird question. Is it normal for your boyfriend or partner to fantasize about another woman/person while having sex with you? Do people do this sometimes? Or is it just not ever spoken about? I am asking bec...

A.   13 May 2016: OP: My crystal ball comes directly from the Swarovski factory store, in Vienna, and is GUARANTEED to give me correct guidance, every time.... or, 1/2 my money back!!!!! (PLUS, shipping and handling....)... (read in full...)

Am I crazy? Is something amiss in the way he behaves with his daughter? What should I do?

Q.   I recently broke up with a man I'd been seeing on and off for the last five years. I have always been attracted to problematic people, and this guy is no exception - he is bankrupt, alcoholic, cheated on me over and over and over, and admits openly ...

A.   13 May 2016:  What should I do???,.... Make a note/report to your local Childrens' Protective Service people (just what you wrote herein) .... then... never see this guy again.... Good luck..... (read in full...)

How do I know if my boyfriend fantasized about this other woman when we had sex?

Q.   I have what might seem like a weird question. Is it normal for your boyfriend or partner to fantasize about another woman/person while having sex with you? Do people do this sometimes? Or is it just not ever spoken about? I am asking bec...

A.   12 May 2016: You've discovered a terrific way to scuttle whatever is going on between you and your B/F..... Once it's all over (I assure you... it will be).... you can decide, then, if you were making more of this than needed be....... Good luck....... (read in full...)

I have two women after my love, what do I do?

Q.   this is the story of the first woman who is after me Im 20 and she is in her thirties. I moved in with my cousin in September. Within a couple of months my cousins wife made a move on me when he was at work and her son was up stairs asleep i was ...

A.   8 May 2016: THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO..... Is make sure that neither finds out about the other!!!!!!! Good luck... (I could never get even ONE woman to be "after my love...")... (read in full...)

I'm not Barbie enough. What's the answer?

Q.   Hi, I know this sounds like a stupid question but I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is obsessed with Barbie type looking women. If a woman with long blonde hair walks past he stares at her till she's out of sight. I'm the opposite with ...

A.   7 May 2016: You take him aside and ask: "Hunchy-Bunchy, are you so obsessed with Barbie-types that you will be content to have me step away from you because of that obsession?" If he says, "Yes, I am... so, Good bye..." Then your question is answered... (read in full...)

Should I tell my stepdaughter that her father has become abusive towards me?

Q.   Should I call and tell his daughter (my stepdaughter) that her father has been abusive for years and recently put his hands around my throat? The day following his abuse, he went out for 5 hours and came back with no apology, no flowers… but wan...

A.   7 May 2016: I think there's really only ONE question "on the table" relative to your submittal. That question is: WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING HANGING AROUND WITH A GUY WHO TREATS YOU LIKE THIS??????? Once you've answered THAT question.... all OTHER "quest... (read in full...)

How to know if he's interested and show interest for him?

Q.   I am almost 40 and divorced. Nothing traumatic, we just drifted away after 20 years of being together. But I a really out of practice! I'm falling in love with a guy whom I met a couple of weeks ago (my age, as far as I know not married, but who...

A.   30 April 2016: If a lady buys me a new car, or arranges for us to take an expensive vacation.... I always conclude that she's interested in me..... Does that give you some ideas? Good luck ... (read in full...)

We’ve been dating one month and I found his arrest records online! Should I ask him about it? How?

Q.   I’ve been dating a wonderful man for a month. We’re very compatible, he’s family oriented and successful, and does everything big and little to show he cares for me. All signs are very good. He’s an entrepreneur and there’s plenty of info about him ...

A.   30 April 2016: My current G/F checked me out on line (4-1/2 years ago) and the first thing she found was the local arrest records. A few months prior, I had been stopped for DUI..... Despite that, we met, hit it off... and are having the times of our lives. (... (read in full...)

What are the main reasons that would motivate a woman to want to break up with a guy?

Q.   I would like the opinion of the lady's an men who write in all the time, my question is what's the main reasons for women to dump the guys? Is it they found some one new, he cheated , he treats her bad, got bored of him, he was to nice, came on ...

A.   30 April 2016: Regarding: ".... found some one new, cause most of the time a woman won't leave a man unless she already got one waiting...." Regardless who this covers (him, or her)... When I was much younger (MANY years ago!) a buddy of mine gave me an analo... (read in full...)

Is my cheating any worse than the abuse he inflicts or threatens me with, regularly? Is getting help as impossible?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 8 years.I'm cheating on him. My husband has been abusing me for the last 3 years.Apart from the physical abuse which he exercises every day he abuses me verbally as well. He calls me all the names under the ...

A.   30 April 2016: Diana: You've gotten good advice below my (this) submittal. Please, don't put yourself in the trap of believing that if HE's being more of a lout than YOU are... then, you - somehow - "win"..... (What's to win?????) Good luck........ (read in full...)

When travelling, what are your pet peeves about the people you meet and the places you visit outside of your own country?

Q.   This is not a relationship issue, it's just something recreational if any of you wants to humour me up. So : yesterday I was reading on a travellers' forum a thread called "Why Italians are so rude." Now, .. Italian can be rude, I am not argui...

A.   30 April 2016: I can assure you... I'd be ticked-off, PLENTY, if I visited the Middle East, and one of the locals lopped off my head!!! (I think that's a valid peeve....)... (read in full...)

Why do guys want intercourse so badly?

Q.   Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...

A.   30 April 2016: OP: MOST of the time we ARE lyin' about our sexual prowess.... but we do it, anyhow........ (read in full...)

Why do guys want intercourse so badly?

Q.   Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...

A.   29 April 2016: While there are lots of good points amongst the replies you already have..... none of them points out THIS important "guy thing"..... We crave to have sex so that we can brag in the locker room that we are "getting it" regularly...... At leas... (read in full...)

Can you change a player just a little?

Q.   I'm trying to decide if I should have sex with a guy who's a player. If i don't have sex he'll just ignore me. If I do, then I'll get ignored after...but I was thinking, even if I can't get him to commit, what if I got him to at least do nice things ...

A.   28 April 2016: Trying to "outplay" a player is a sure-fire road to still more heartaches.... AND has the additional fallout of besmirching YOUR reputation. Is all that worth getting laid once - or, a couple of times????? Good luck...... (read in full...)

What in blazes in going on here? What's the Guy Code and is that what you see in this situation?

Q.   Men, there is such a thing as a code of honor among friends when two or more like the same woman, right? The past two months have been strange and I'm confused. Three male friends of years and all the sudden they are all showing strong signs of ...

A.   27 April 2016: Honeypie knows lots about guys and our codes.... Yes, the hug was to claim territory (you!)... and the others are encroaching in to what could become a messy situation. YOU are really in control of this whole thing.... and it is incumben... (read in full...)

My Bf has secretly been having sex with this woman for more than 6 years. Should he remain friends with her and her partner? I say no.

Q.   My boyfriend has been friends with this couple for 20 years. They moved states away a long time ago. They email, talk and text Facebook always. I found out recently that he has been having sex with her for like 6+ years and they have secret ...

A.   27 April 2016: When you wrote: "...I have forgiven his indiscretions and moving forward, should he remain friends with them? He believes he should and that I am out of line to request he give up his best friends. I say sorry, you shouldn't have had sex with her... (read in full...)

What are the risks of having a roommate?

Q.   Have you ever had a roommate? Hey aunts, I need some advice on my living situation. I'm in college and I'm about to graduate with my degree. I also started taking classes to get into the medial field (AS) I'm pretty much happy about school. I'...

A.   27 April 2016: After reading your protracted submittal... I've come to the conclusion that the only thing that could be WORSE than the arrangement you have now, would be to live in a den with a pack of rabid hyenas..... Good luck...... (read in full...)

How do I approach him about becoming friends with benefits?

Q.   Me and my friend enjoy each others company as mates , as of now we are both single were both not looking for commitment and just enjoy life . I'm thinking should i ask him he wants to be friends with benefits , and if i do how do i word this to ...

A.   27 April 2016: It can't hurt to ask him - straight on - if he would be interested in the FWB arrangement that you would like. After all... if he sez "no" then nothing is different from what it is now. If he sez "Yes," then you and he have begun your arrangem... (read in full...)

Should I tell each FWB about the others?

Q.   When you sleep with multiple fwbs do you tell them all about each other? I've heard ppl say of course you should let them all know about each other, but that just seems so awkward to me. And if it's fwb or F buddies then ppl automatically assume ...

A.   27 April 2016: When (once) people commence "FWB" or "F-buddy" arrangements, then, usually, all ethical niceties are out the window.... so who cares if you (and partner) do (or, don't) reveal other goings-on to one-another?...... Good luck...... (read in full...)

Am I alone in having a critical, angry partner?

Q.   I am at the end of my tether with my partner. He is the most argumentative person ever. I feel like the only thing he offers is criticism. It seems like when we are in the planning stages of just about anything, he does not offer an opinion (desp...

A.   27 April 2016: It's important that you wrote "...my partner..." because this guy has "tipped his hand" about who and what he is... and that is a blowhard who doesn't exhibit even the basic respect to which you are entitled. WHY do you even stay with him? Ca... (read in full...)

Why do men like to ejaculate on their partner's body?

Q.   Why do guys enjoy cumming on their partners body? Wouldn't it feel better for them to just leave it inside? My boyfriend almost always pulls out when we have sex and I end up with his sperm on my stomach and boobs. I don't hate it or anything, I ...

A.   17 April 2016: It's not (so hot). Your boyfriend is an idiot....... (read in full...)

Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?

Q.   I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...

A.   17 April 2016: How STUPID are you going to be about this???? WE, know that your ex- had got you all tangled up in you undies!!!... (read in full...)

Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?

Q.   I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...

A.   15 April 2016: I suggest that YOU need boundaries. IF your son must breastfeed, that's all well-and-good... but NOT with your ex- by bringing ex- along on your vacation with your "current"..... By-the-by.... HOW are you and ex- handling custody, otherwis... (read in full...)

My parents are paying for my education and keeping me under tight control

Q.   I be never dated before because I wasn't allowed to. I also went to an all girls school and now attend community college. My parents said since they're paying I have to commute from home and if I make good grades and get my associate, I can transfer ...

A.   14 April 2016: As long as they're paying... they get to set the rules. IF you aren't happy with the arrangements as they are, you can: 1. Appeal to your folks to relax, or alter, the rules, or, 2. Pay your own way and not worry about what they feel. Goo... (read in full...)

Should I give up? Or is he interested?

Q.   So I've been easing into talking to this guy that i really like. He's very pretty (fantastic jawline HOO BOY) and tonight we hung out in a friend group playing a Game of Thrones board game (we are such nerds) and there were a couple flags that might ...

A.   9 April 2016: Your "handle" (name) gives an interesting clue to the nature of your question...... STOP believing that you are a "loser".... and see all the evidence that he gave you that he's interested in you... then, go for it (approach him). Make yourself... (read in full...)

Whats the best way to handle this ending of our relationship?

Q.   I am trying to gently end a three month relationship with my 40 year old recently divorced boyfriend who has made excuses not to see me to discuss our communication problems. I am always willing to talk and I think I have gently supported him a lo...

A.   9 April 2016: Forget him. Keep his items safe... and if/when he ever asks you to return them, send them to him by post.... There's no "best way" to handle a breakup if - by that - that the break will go smoothly... Good luck...... (read in full...)

30 years and she still wont listen to the truth!

Q.   Just found out some one I like over thirty years ago been mad at me all this time, our last date she thought I put something in her drink, a drug, I didn't, she left me that night and went home with this other guy, who was trying to make me out the ...

A.   8 April 2016: 30 years.... and you're still hanging on to this? I'm guessing that you haven't ever fallen out of like with this girl.... and you'd love to set the record straight. That's all well-and-good.... but she's already told you that she won't believe ... (read in full...)

Is there hope or is this marriage doomed???

Q.   Hello, I have been with my husband for almost 7 years and we only got married in about 5 months ago. He doesn't engage in sex and shows no interest and I am always the on instigating it. He jumps when I try to touch him and he comes up with ex...

A.   8 April 2016: Regarding this: " He tells me he loves me but doesn't show it and there is zero effort or romance from his side." When a person doesn't do whatever it takes to confirm that they love you.... then, listen to them!!!! This guy doesn't love... (read in full...)

Is there hope or is this marriage doomed???

Q.   Hello, I have been with my husband for almost 7 years and we only got married in about 5 months ago. He doesn't engage in sex and shows no interest and I am always the on instigating it. He jumps when I try to touch him and he comes up with ex...

A.   8 April 2016: Regarding this: " He tells me he loves me but doesn't show it and there is zero effort or romance from his side." When a person doesn't do whatever it takes to confirm that they love you.... then, listen to them!!!! This guy doesn't love... (read in full...)

Is this a typical rebound situation. or the real thing?

Q.   My ex of one year broke up with me 2 months ago. Said he fell out of love with me because I wasn't the girl he fell in love with anymore. Weight gain caused depression and I withdrew, so his claim is somewhat validated. Asked to move in together...

A.   7 April 2016: It really makes not much difference. YOU are fortunate to have this guy out of your life. NOW,... go on and have a great rest-of-your-life..... with this guy a bad memory. Good luck...... (read in full...)

His New GF dumped him. Why he would choose to apologize to me after all this time?

Q.   I'm confused about my ex and the sincerity of his apology. He treated me terribly but ended up apologizing to me 8 months later. When I first met him, he was intially really sweet and kind towards me but after about 4 months, I discovered that ...

A.   7 April 2016: This is right from "the textbook".... He dumped you because he thought he'd found another girl who he wanted to try. They went through a brief encounter, and either: 1. He got tired of her, or, 2. she got tired of him..... and they've split. ... (read in full...)

Should I let him do things his way? Or am I right in feeling this way about his reluctance to introduce my daughter to his family??

Q.   Hello, I apologize for the novel and thank you in advance to those who take the time to read and offer any advice! I am a 24 yr old female with a daughter and have been in a relationship with 27yr old male for a little over a year and a half ...

A.   7 April 2016: I believe you've described a classic case of a man (a son) allowing his family how to run his life. The issue is clearly his (and your's). Sit him down and tell him that: 1. You and your daughter are a "package".... and he MUST accept that... (read in full...)

Is it morally wrong, and selfish on my part to tell him how I feel, and tear him away from this woman?

Q.   I dated a slightly older man for about a year and half until I left to finish my college education. We had decided to break what we had off since we weren't keen on the idea of a long distance relation ship and we had different goals to focus on...

A.   7 April 2016: I vote for keeping quiet and letting the guy (and his wife) live their lives.... All you stand to "get" out of this is the label of "homewrecker".... and a husband who you know you won't be able to trust... Good luck..... (read in full...)

What would keep you from being in a relationship?

Q.   What's up guys, I've been away from here for almost a year but I've had something on my mind for quite a while that I'd like to here people's opinions on why they don't want to get into relationships. I've heard this from a large number of my fri...

A.   7 April 2016: Dear N91: There is no question that people can conjure up oodles of "reasons" not to do most anything.... For example... some people driving automobiles lose control and run in to bridge abutments. Is that a good reason to never drive a car? O... (read in full...)

I think the love has faded and that he does not find me attractive any more. Plus there are issues of him looking at women. That should I do about all this?

Q.   Hi guys.. I've just come back from a weekend break with my bf of 2 years but it's the first time I've felt completely broke at the thought that maybe our love has faded. We have been arguing alot recently about things such as his need for checking...

A.   3 April 2016: This:... "After this weekend I feel that he doesn't find me sexually attractive nor even attractive anymore. We spoke about this but he said I was being silly. I have a high sex drive and am adventurous but I enjoy the art of sex whereas he doesn... (read in full...)

Is he wasting my time? Am I kidding myself, for considering that one day he may want to get married?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend (hate that word at my age) for almost 2 years, he moved in with me a little over a year ago. A while back we had a conversation about commitment type things and he said he had a four year rule, that he wouldn't...

A.   2 April 2016: OP: Nobody needs to chide you for how you feel about this incident.... so, please, try to be a little more accommodating to the comments you've received. On the other hand.... you are JUST 44 (Y.O.).. a veritable baby, relative to how long you... (read in full...)

Is he wasting my time? Am I kidding myself, for considering that one day he may want to get married?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend (hate that word at my age) for almost 2 years, he moved in with me a little over a year ago. A while back we had a conversation about commitment type things and he said he had a four year rule, that he wouldn't...

A.   30 March 2016: "Putting off" (decisions) is not the same a "putting out". Putting off is guys' way of experiencing women putting out... without having to make - or stick to - any sort of comittment to a relationship..... Armed with this critical informa... (read in full...)

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