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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend admitted to me that he asked this girl best friend if she would have sex with him and she said that she would. However, she says she respects our relationship so she won't sleep with him. Yet he keeps texting her that she's irresistible and asking why can't she be his mistress and he has sexual dreams about her. He says that he loves me and I want to believe him. I found about his dreams by looking at his text messaging because he's very protective over it. I told him about it and he got really defensive and starting saying that he doesn't care and what he'll say won't change my mind. I don't know what to do and I love him dearly. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2015): Tie your shoe laces and run to the hills ASAP. And sweetie you don't need a donkey ass in fact I'm insulting the donkey here .. its easy to think there is only him ...He should be thinking there is only her . And if he can't see the fantastic person you are . Then kiss his as goodbye . Because who ever does get him, is getting no prize ..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 July 2015):
 You ask: "What should I do?"
I reply: Dump his sorry a$$, and find a guy friend who understands fidelity....
Good luck...
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (5 July 2015):
 Aw sweetie..this is a no brainer....you should love yourself enough to walk away. Your boyfriend is trying to cheat on you, going behind your back and then has enough arrogance to admit to you he's trying to get someone else?? And you are on here asking us what to do?? I think you should be asking yourself why are you willing to settle for so little? Dump the chump.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): Have more respect for yourself. Do you deserve to be cheated on? No. Do you deserve better than a man who is willingly trying to arrange opportunities to have sex with another woman? YES! No boyfriend is better than having a cheating scumbag.What do you do? You say I have caught you red handed, arranging sex with another woman when we are meant to be a couple. You tell him you are leaving him, because you would rather be single than be with an ass hole like him and then you split up! If you live together things might be complicated, if you're renting then get your name taken off the tenancy and pack your stuff and go. I wouldn't stay one second with an unfaithful partner. If you stay faithful to a partner then you deserve that back, he can't control himself then he shouldn't be in a relationship.Be prepared for him to come running back (but hope he doesnt) as he will no longer have a girl right there whenever he needs you and will likely try to win you over with words - his actions have shown he is a two timing cheat so don't believe any of what he says.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (5 July 2015):
he is an idiot as a mistress is the side piece of a married man, not an unmarried man in a relationship. In any case, it is irrelevant, what is relevant is the fact that he wants to cheat on you. Get rid of him, this situation never ends well and you deserve better
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): "He says that he loves me and I want to believe him."
"What should I do?"
Don't believe what he SAYS, believe what he DOES.
He's only telling you he loves you so he can continue having sex with you while he trolls for other women.
Dump him and raise your standards. Men can't disrespect women who respect themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): Dump that sore loser, love makes you blind so blind that you let this guy text other woman and want to sleep with them its not you sweety its him tell him your moving on and dump him. Its going to hurt but its the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): The relationship is over. Your feelings of deep love and commitment are not the same for him. He's actively looking to cheat on you. Let that sink in for a minute. Even if it doesn't happen with this girl, he'll keep looking for someone else to sleep with. He's done with the relationship and looking for a way out. Find a better guy, one who wouldn't dream of straying. Best of luck.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 July 2015):
 DUMP his dumb cheating ASS! How hard is that?
SHE has more respect for your relationship than HE does.. Seriously, kick him to the curb and stop wasting your time on a loser like him.
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