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Without making her mad, how do I let her know I want to sleep with her?

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Question - (25 June 2015) 10 Answers - (Newest, 28 June 2015)
A male United States age , *aynef writes:

I just met a woman at new housing development and signed paper work to buy a house from. She is know longer with the company and I have met with her once for coffee. My question is how can i let her i want to sleep with her witout offending her or making her mad?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (28 June 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntWayne, your answers are a bit, um, vague. I'm not sure you are going to be able to communicate your desires in a manner that will ensure she accepts your proposal without being offended.

The next time you get together with her, you could start a general conversation about the fact you are okay with casual sex (if that's what you want) or the conversation could be about the fact that you are looking for something serious (if that's what you want).

I think you need to figure out what your priority is here, and then be able to articulate that goal clearly.

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A male reader, waynef United States +, writes (26 June 2015):

waynef is verified as being by the original poster of the question

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (26 June 2015):

Ciar agony auntOP, your goal-besides getting into this woman's pants-is rather vague.

Are you worried about offending her because you'd like to continuing seeing her in hopes that it will lead to something serious or you simply don't want to blow your chances of getting her into bed?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 June 2015):

Honeypie agony auntSo what you are really asking is "HOW to I approach this woman to be my F-buddy?"

9 out of 10 women would b offended that you see them as no more then a walking vagina for you to use, when it SUITS you.

And honestly, if a guy asked me that I would laugh and tell him, no way in Hades do I want to be your sex-toy. And after that I would blankly ignore your existence.

You could try the direct approach she might find it refreshing.... but be prepared to be shot down.

If you are JUST looking for someone to screw occasionally, why not try one of those many hook-up sites?

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A male reader, waynef United States +, writes (26 June 2015):

waynef is verified as being by the original poster of the question

I have knowen her for 3 mos and have had coffee with we have a couple of times the last time we met was for an hour and we talked about each other.

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (26 June 2015):

Honeygirl agony auntSo this is all about your want to have sex with a woman that you barely know?

Bit selfish I would say.

Why don't you get to know her first, that is if she is actually interested in you and see where that leads.

If you just proposition her, chances are that the wrath of a insulted woman will rein down on your head!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (26 June 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntWayne: There is NO WAY that you can blurt out to a woman: "I'd really like to have sex with you...." without making that woman "mad." A few might give you a "pass" and not slap you upside the head.. and fewer still might go to bed with you despite such a boorish comment....

On the other hand... MOST - damn near ALL - women like to get a guy's attention... be woo'ed by him.... after which they are likely to put out for him....

THOSE are "the Rules"..... don't try to shortcut them... and believe that you can do so without making a woman "mad."

Good luck...

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A female reader, jls022 United Kingdom +, writes (26 June 2015):

There's a chance that may not be possible. I know from my point of view that there's nothing a man could say to me to get me to agree to casual sex, most especially if he asked for it straight away without putting any other effort to really get to know me.

Of course all women are different and she may just take you up on your offer, but this really isn't something you'll know until you ask. Prepare yourself for all eventualities before you approach her.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (26 June 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntAsk her out? Get to know her better and test the water by mentioning how comfortable you are with "friends with benefits" situations. Unless you've devised a mind-reading device, there really are no shortcuts.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (26 June 2015):

Ciar agony auntI assume that's all you want from her? One time or you want her be available to put out when the mood strikes you?

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