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Nice restaurants, drugs and wild sex..not a great way to start!

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Question - (19 December 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 20 December 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I had been seeing this guy I met in a bar for a couple of months. Our relationship had been about excess, nice restaurants, drugs and wild sex (we slept together on the first night.) At first he pursued me but then it seemed like he slightly made less effort. He was still up for it when I made the effort but he works loads in a top job and just didn't seem to have that much time. I felt a bit neglected and would like to have seen him more than in just the crazy scenarios we were in. I always felt i had to be crazy for him to be interested. I get the impression he's not much into relationships - anyway, the point is last time I saw him the next morning he started reading the paper and didn't seem that concerned with me. I pulled a strop and stormed off...but have sent him a text to say sorry meanwhile. He has not replied. I think starting relationships in this crazy manner is not good as you never get to know each other that well. I would like to know other opinions.

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A male reader, duce00 United States +, writes (20 December 2009):

duce00 agony auntSounds like it was fun for a while. I can absolutely see the entertainment value for both of you.

I think you are no longer at the age where these kinds of relationships work for you anymore. Take this experience as a learning lesson and start focusing your efforts on men that are more suitable to the life you really want.

No harm no foul, just move on to something better.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (19 December 2009):

DoubleM agony auntHe's what we call a "player" on this side of the pond. Playtime has ended.

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A male reader, Code Warrior United States + , writes (19 December 2009):

Code Warrior agony auntHe got his. You got yours. Now its over. Nuff said.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009):

Well, like you said, he works in some fancy schmancy job, so he was probably trying to blow off some steam. Now it may seem as if he's back into the normalcy of his life. If you want someone to stay, don't try to change yourself. c:

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (19 December 2009):

Yep you had a fling. And now it's over. He's not going to be back.

He never wanted anything else but a crazy girl to amuse and challenge him.

He didn't want a girlfriend.

If you want a boyfriend then be a girlfriend, and make them wait and get to know you before sex.

Good Luck!! xx

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