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Hey folks!

Ive had a very rich life and learned many many lessons, both good and bad. I hope to give some good advice and also take some when needed.

Best wishes to all!

Duce

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I need some tips on oral sex

Q.   i really want to perform oral sex on my girlfriend (she wants it too) but im not sure how to do it!ive never had it done before and neither has she so neither of us really know what to do or know what feels good! this is my first relationship that ...

A.   1 September 2007: Thats awesome! Glad you were able to put these new methods into action. No doubt you will begin to come up with some of your own in time. Pass on your insight when you do, we all love to learn. Especially on this subject!! ... (read in full...)

Myself and my husband to be have been trying for a baby for almost a year without any luck. My cycle has become erratic, has anyone got any suggestions please help!!!

Q.   Myself and my husband to be have been trying for a baby for almost a year without any luck. My cycle has become erratic, has anyone got any suggestions please help!!!...

A.   1 September 2007: As a father I can understand your desire to become a parent. Its the most amazing and enriching thing you will ever do. Frank B Kermit has some valid points, stress is probably a major source of your fertility and cycle problems. I did a little ... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?

Q.   ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...

A.   1 September 2007: Thanks for your all of your sage words Frank. I respect your far greater experience in this area of sexual dysfunction. You win! ... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?

Q.   ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...

A.   31 August 2007: Sorry folks but I have to say it again. The re-occuring theme about this girls guy looking else where because he is not getting blow jobs from his lady is really off. Again...one responder made a comment and it perpetuated through following ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and the 22 year old guy I met online wants to meet me!

Q.   I met this boy over a chat room started talking but the problem is hes 22 im only 14 i know hes not an old man or anything becasue he sent me a picture with my name on i told him first that i thought he was a fake but now i know hes not. He wants ...

A.   31 August 2007: Pure and simple. THIS IS WRONG! He can and should be considered a sexual predator. Did you ever think that maybe hes dangerous? Dont you think that a 22 yr shouldnt be trying to "hook up" with you? Please, please, please use your head here. Your ... (read in full...)

I need some tips on oral sex

Q.   i really want to perform oral sex on my girlfriend (she wants it too) but im not sure how to do it!ive never had it done before and neither has she so neither of us really know what to do or know what feels good! this is my first relationship that ...

A.   31 August 2007: Well the advice on oral youve gotten is great and they have the same equipment you do so its definately from the "source". Thanks for the pointers chrissy32789 and cheerycharlie :) I will humbly add my opinion here if I may because I, like you... (read in full...)

Are ultra thin condoms more likely to break?

Q.   how effective are ultra thin condoms with spermicide. Because they are ultra thin are they more likely to break??...

A.   31 August 2007: My experience had more to do with my fit not the thickness of the material. If your not a porn star dont get the wopper ones and if you are using a brand that seems tight try somthing new. I think the brand I liked was called "Kimono" I think you ... (read in full...)

She insisted I am the one for her, now we're married but I found her messages to other men with sexual implications!

Q.   i am a saved man, who is married to a womam who just can't seem to break a way from her lovers in the past. Before we married i told her that maybe God had someone else for her. She has persude me for 1 1/2 years telling me that i am the only man ...

A.   31 August 2007: Well put Eddie, As for Anon Male: An honest conversation is the way to deal with this. Regardless of how you practice your belief in God the need to communicate with your spouse is still the same. Tell her your concerns and ask her whats going on... (read in full...)

A girl I like said I was 'nice' What does 'nice' actually mean?

Q.   There is this girl that i have met, she is very pretty and has a great personallity. After a couple days of knowing her i asked her what she thought of me, and all she could say was that i was "nice". my question is what does she mean by "nice"?...

A.   31 August 2007: Whoops! Women dont tend to like insecure guys. Many (but not all) dont like to be cruel either. Thats what Im seeing here. Its best to keep the focus on her unless she asks YOU a question. Women also dont care for guys who are self centered... (read in full...)

We're on the verge of breaking up. My girlfriend has said she's not happy. Can I still fix this?

Q.   I think i might be on the verge of a breakup. my girlfriend recently told me that she is very unhappy about some things and the she is reconsidering the relationship. weve been together for two years and i love her more than anything in the world. ...

A.   31 August 2007: Dude, your anonymous. No need to conceal whats really going on in your relationship. Trust me we have heard it ALL! This is like me asking you for directions to the nearest store to my house and then not telling you where I live. We are not psyc... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?

Q.   ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...

A.   31 August 2007: Sounds like a good idea Fem Anon. I wouldnt nescessarily stress on your BF going trolliping around looking for oral though. Your concern is based on one persons advice and maybe its good to look at that persons bio and see is they match the ... (read in full...)

I want to join the marines, but my girlfriend doesnt want me to

Q.   Hi I'm having a big problem...I'm going to an auto motive school and after ig graduate I want to join the marines, but my girl friend dosent want me 2. She said that she will stay with me and supposrt me but I don't kno wat 2 do???...

A.   31 August 2007: Serving your country is a big decision. The Marines is one of the most combat oriented branches of the military as you probably know. You can be guaranteed that you will serve serious time in Iraq and you will see some serious shit. If that is what ... (read in full...)

I'm scared to death because my boyfriend is stalking me..

Q.   okay heres the thing! I'm scared to death because my boyfriend is stalking me.. he loves me so much. He cries every time we part. Okay it may seem sweet but it gets annoying. He wants to marry me, and we have only been togetehr for 2 weeks.. he ...

A.   31 August 2007: Sorry you ended up with a guy that whos a total looney. Regretfully it does happen. Thats why theres restraining orders, police officers, parents, mental health units, psychiatrists, anti-psychotic medicine etc. Let qualified people deal with this... (read in full...)

I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...

Q.   hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...

A.   31 August 2007: I think your dreadfully normal Vince...sorry. When I am running low on bloody vagina I simply suck on a raw steak. I do have problems when its late and the meat counter is closed. Thats when I spread my little bat wings and flutter over to the ... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant by the guy I've been having an affair with! I dont need judging, I just need some advice...

Q.   I have been seeing this guy for years. Before you judge me you don't have to live my life and there is a lot of screwed up stuff in my marriage. I am married and scared to death of my husband. I found out that I am pregnant and don't know what to ...

A.   31 August 2007: Thats a tough one for sure. I will barr all moral advice and just going with a logical plan considering this is really severe. I think if you are that afraid of your husband and you have looked elsewhere for love this long then the marriage is ... (read in full...)

I've recently got together with my uncles best friend! But he is 40, I am 23 and he now wants to cool it a bit. I dont want to lose him!

Q.   Hi Everyone, I am after a bit of advice regarding a new relationship i have started with an older man. I am 23 and my partner is 40, we met a while ago and have seen each other on occasion at my relative's house(he is my uncle's best friend!)I h...

A.   31 August 2007: Ditto on everything hlskitten said. Ontop of that he is probably a little ashamed about getting involved with his mates neice whos 17 yrs younger. If I were your uncle Id be a little disturbed to say the least. These kinds of situations cant be ... (read in full...)

If he loves me how do I get him back, since he's too stubborn to take me back?

Q.   Okay If he loves me then how do I get him back since he's too stubborn to take me back...?...

A.   31 August 2007: You havnt quite given us enough info here dear. Im inclined this more to do with maturity than being stubborn. Maybe Im wrong.... (read in full...)

My friend is Bi curious and I love her! She said she wanted to experiment with me. Should I tell her I love her????

Q.   Hi, I hope you can help! I'm 20 and I was recently joking with my friend that's also a girl that I would give her oral sex and have sex with her because she has never had it and I said that she is missing out on it! She's never had any sexual e...

A.   31 August 2007: Good God girl! what are you waiting for? She is almost throwing herself at you!... (read in full...)

I really like him and enjoy spending time with him and I want to be in a proper relationship with him.

Q.   I have been seeing this guy for about 9 months now only every couple of weeks because he lives in another town. I really like him and enjoy spending time with him and I want to be in a proper relationship with him. From the conversations we've had ...

A.   30 August 2007: Hi there, I think 9 months is plenty long enough to ask where the relationship stands. You shouldnt feel afraid about that. Frankly I cant see how youve waited this long, I know I wouldnt! You should be prepaired for an answer you dont want to hear... (read in full...)

My wife has been emotional since coming back from a school trip. She's a teacher. How can I deal with this?

Q.   Hi i've been happily married to my wife for 7 yrs now, she works in a school(teacher) and has recently come back off this adventure holiday type thing that is arranged for 1 week in the summer holidays, there was her and about 6 more teachers ...

A.   30 August 2007: You are simply going to keep guessing and coming up with new theories until she can open up about whats going on. There obviously is somthing going on but you just dont know what it is yet. It could be alot of things. My gut instinct is that there ... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?

Q.   ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...

A.   30 August 2007: Ok, maybe a guys opinion would help here. I will just speak for myself if you dont mind, and maybe it will be similar to your guy (but maybe it wont). Please, please, please dont do somthing (especially oral) untill your into it. Thats a big turn... (read in full...)

I'm not keen on my mother-in-law. My spouse would love us to get along. Any ideas?

Q.   How do i deal with a hypocrite mother-in-law and still have a great relationship with my spouse? he loves me and his mom and would want me and her to have a good relationship....

A.   30 August 2007: Thats a tough one. Inlaws can be difficult, I dont know exactly why but most often its the mother. You are not alone on this one for sure. If your husband really wants you and and his mother to get along he needs to provide you some support and ... (read in full...)

How do i survive my freshman year without being destroyed by a bunch of seniors?

Q.   I am currently entering my freshman year of school and unfortunately most of the guys have it in for me because of my stupid brother.......how do i survuve my freshman year without being destroyed by a bunch of seniors?...

A.   30 August 2007: Hey there metalinvasion92, I dont care for bullies and you will find that most of the world doesnt either. Sure they can intimidate and cause problems but you will find that you have more support than you think. Stick with a good crowd. The folk... (read in full...)

Is it too young for a sixteen year old and a twenty year old to hook up and start dating?

Q.   Is it too young for a sixteen year old and a twenty year old to hook up and start dating? Its only four years. Just look at my parents they're six years apart and they love each other and my friend's parents are fifteen years apart. But when young ...

A.   30 August 2007: Id listen to Basschick my friend. Not to downplay your feelings but real love between a man and a woman is a much bigger thing most 20yr olds or especially 16yr olds can really understand. There is a good reason we have laws about this. The ... (read in full...)

Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house.

Q.   Two weeks ago I lost my dad to a massive heart attack. He was still young and I don't know what to do. There's such an empty silence in my life and in our house. He was always here because he was retired due to ill health. I miss him so much. I come ...

A.   30 August 2007: I really understand about losing a loved one suddenly. It has happened to me too. The process of getting through this is totally unique to you. Yes there are the theories of grief stages but my greiving process was different as yours may be too. I ... (read in full...)

I've just slept with my best friend's boyfriend....

Q.   So my problam is kind of confusing.... me {Amanda} and my bestfriend {Taylor} are going out with these two guys {Dylan and Josh}. Taylor and Josh have been going out for over a year and a half and me and Dylan have only been going out for about 3 ...

A.   30 August 2007: Dear un-faithful friend, What your doing is careless in many ways. Your hurting your friendships and your having sex in a way that is not healthy, both emotionally and possibly physically. Did you practice safe sex? Some allowance can be made for... (read in full...)

She was blowing hot and cold so I ended it. How do you move on from someone you still love?

Q.   I just recently ended a relationship with a girl that almost lasted nine months. this is by far my longest relationship and i just need some help on how to cope with it. i did not want to leave her, but she was not sure if she wanted to be with me ...

A.   30 August 2007: Hey niceguy07, You made a bold yet difficult decision based on what you wont do in a relationship. Thats somthing to be proud of. Dont compromise what you will or wont do in a relationship. Thats the slippery slope to dependance. Im sure we have ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend assures me this crush for another girl will fade away. Should I give him more space?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are very much in love. We have been dating for 2 years and we are both 17. But there is one problem. He likes another girl. It's been about three weeks since I found out, and I was hesitant to stay in the relationship but there is ...

A.   30 August 2007: I think the fact that he is young and inexperienced has led to his crush/curiosity. While you may even be the great love of his life Im sure subconsiously hes wondering if he has missed somthing before settling down. This tends to fade I think once ... (read in full...)

How do i tell her that i have snuck out of the house to go to jazz concerts and play in a few jazz concerts?

Q.   This really isnt a life or death question but ive been playing the trumpet for 5 years now and ive been told that i am really good at it. However my passion is jazz and my mom wont let me join a jazz band only a classical band. She actually becomes ...

A.   30 August 2007: I think that its great that you have a passion for music. I started on the trumpet and then moved on to the electric guitar at 15 and still play and practice on a regular basis at 37. I was forever changed once I started playing the guitar. Music is ... (read in full...)

Pleasuring myself makes me feel disgusting, but I know I shouldn't and that it's completely normal!

Q.   Hi, i'm 15 years old and im not in any relationship, i've never been in a relationship before and i've never had sex, but the one thing im addicted to is masturbating. At first I always try and tell myself to stop but I end up doing it anyway and ...

A.   29 August 2007: I dont think it sounds like sex addiction just raging hormones. Hopefully you will find some contentment with touching yourself and not look for somebody else to do it quite yet. What your doing is rather common. Im sure that the ladies here can put ... (read in full...)

I don't have very much pubic hair, will this freak guys out?

Q.   Hi. I'm a fifteen year old girl. I was just wondering, I don't have very much pubic hair. Will guys get freaked out when they finger me? Or when they do any sexual activity with me?...

A.   29 August 2007: I wouldnt be worrying about your pubic hair. Id be more concerned about getting in over your head with a boy when your so young. If you insist on experimenting, make sure he washes his hands. Otherwise you will be learning what a vaginal infection ... (read in full...)

How do i help her and get her to open up to me more and relax?

Q.   Right, when your wife/gf is a teacher obviously its a stressfull job how can you help her through the stressfull times when shes tired out and getting herself upset and worked up. Because thats how my gf, soon wife to be is at the moment. Shes not ...

A.   29 August 2007: Try to develop your backrubbing skills. I know it sounds crazy but Im serious. I mean get really good at it, do some research, learn about the anatomy. This one skill has done so much in the past for me I just cant say enough about it. Most people ... (read in full...)

Should i be concerned about my guy and this girl?

Q.   Okay what should I make of this? My b/f said he had to go out on a field trip with a female co-worker today. He had her come by our house and pick him up at 7:00 AM. This was a little weird, as he usually drives to work and employees take a field ...

A.   29 August 2007: I agree with the previous post. What I dont understand is the no boxers thing. Sure once in a while I will go sans boxers but not if Im going to be working hard or exercising. Thats weird to me because it can actuly be rather painful. Id ask him ... (read in full...)

How much weight will i loose walking 3km a day?

Q.   how much weight ,an average ,wil i lose if i walk 3km a day for two week and eet only 3 times a day? plus drink lots of water? thx. xxx. im 16 if thatl help any....

A.   29 August 2007: Weight is not by itself a great way to measure your body or your level of health. Every body has different builds and just plopping yourself on a scale doesnt really tell you the whole story. Look into BMI (body mass index) on the net. But be aware ... (read in full...)

He's baffling! He's loving one moment and not the next..what is he up to?

Q.   I am 38 and divorced with 2 children Met a man 4 months ago who pursued me with great gusto. He is also divorced with 2 children and is working through his grief at having to share custody of his children. I have grown close to him. One week he is ...

A.   29 August 2007: Unless I missed it you didnt mention how long hes been divorced. Sounds like its been rather soon, judging by his erradic behavior. Theres a simple word for this...REBOUND. Hes confused, not settled, and obviously doesnt know what he wants. This is ... (read in full...)

I like her, she likes me but i'm too nervous. what can i do?

Q.   hey guys i need some help their is a girl i like and she likes me, i think anyway she asked me out today. but i got so nervous i made an excuse to leave and never anwser her. should i text her and say yes and say im sorry for running away. but if i...

A.   29 August 2007: I think that honesty would be the best policy here. Why dont you just tell her that you just came out to your family and that your nerves are a little frazzled right now. Also tell her that you are attracted to her and that your behavior wasnt meant ... (read in full...)

I'm a mum of 2 and have met a great guy but cant help cheating with my FWB. How do i move on???

Q.   I am a divorced mum of 2 and last year i met a guy who i totally fell in love with. The only thing is, he only wants to see me for sex. He said he enjoys my company but doesnt want a relationship. I know this is wrong but i cant brake the habi...

A.   29 August 2007: Good for you babyblue, Sounds like you are taking a postitve turn here. Best wishes to both of you (the nice guy I mean) :)... (read in full...)

Met a girl at a club and swapped numbers but unsure if I should text her?

Q.   I met a girl in a club at the weekend, and i'm not sure whether i should text her. I saw her earlier on in the evening, and was attracted to her, however i don't think that she saw me, and she was with a large group of friends so i didn't approac...

A.   29 August 2007: I think you can assume she likes you by the kiss! I personally think that the whole "dont call the next day" or "wait 3 rings" philosophy on new contact is just a bunch of hooey. If ya like her and you have her number just call her ya knuckhead! If ... (read in full...)

Should I embrace my romantic feelings and wear my heart on my sleeve or should I try to hold back and keep myself a little guarded in case things don't work out?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy I really like for about six weeks. We've known each other for years and it's the third summer in a row we've hooked up. This time, it feels more serious than ever before, and we've agreed to be exclusive and have a proper ...

A.   29 August 2007: I havnt had experience with your perticular situation but I do understand about wearing your heart on your sleeve. Thats me too. It might be best to just be honest and let the chips fall where they may. I say this with caution because it could end ... (read in full...)

I wanted a wife and she has never seen herself as anything other than a girlfriend.

Q.   I have been with my partner for 10 years, it has not been easy as I work away very often, leaving her with our 2 children. We seem to be always quarrelling about stupid things, mostly my insecurity in thinking she is giving out the wrong signals to ...

A.   29 August 2007: Im cringing as I write this. It really doesnt look good my friend. There are some very serious indications that she is unfaithful, selfish, manipulative and dishonest. I guess if it was just you and her Id say your welcome to choose your own ... (read in full...)

We have an age gap. He's got children. He wants to marry me. What should i do???

Q.   I am 26 yrs old unmarried girl and I will be 27 yrs in Jan 08. A 40 yrs old married man with 2 kids (wife no more) loves me a lot and even I also like him ) he wants to marry me. But I m afraid whether this mrrg will be successful or not as there is ...

A.   29 August 2007: I dont know if I understood you correctly. Is he currently married or divorced? If divorced (or widowed) for how long? Honestly I think these are more important questions than the age gap. Another question to ask your self is are you ready to be a ... (read in full...)

I'm obsessed with looking up skirts! Yes i know, sounds strange, whats going on???

Q.   not sure if you could help me.I supose its an addiction.I am obsessed with womens knickers and constantly try to look up womens skirts,even schoolgirls.I know its wrong but i love to see the secrets.one day i will be caught and arrested,am i a ...

A.   29 August 2007: Yup you really should get some professional help on this one. It will save you alot of greif both legal and otherwise. Gosh, I hate to think of what I would do if I saw some man looking up MY daughters skirt. Not a pretty site at all my friend. Seek ... (read in full...)

I'm a mum of 2 and have met a great guy but cant help cheating with my FWB. How do i move on???

Q.   I am a divorced mum of 2 and last year i met a guy who i totally fell in love with. The only thing is, he only wants to see me for sex. He said he enjoys my company but doesnt want a relationship. I know this is wrong but i cant brake the habi...

A.   27 August 2007: I agree with hlskitten, but I also can see another side too. It doesnt mean its a healthy side either, and I have been guilty of it myself before. Sometimes you can be attracted to somebody and the sex is GREAT but its going nowhere. Your thinking ... (read in full...)

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