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anonymous
writes:i am sixteen years old. in love. yea i know. i'm an idiot right? don't know what i'm talking about. believe me when i say i do. i fall hard for this boy. lost the vcard to him. LOVE him. he cheated on me...with my best friend. and with a french exchange student...and with some slut...AND a nameless girl. he thinks her name might have started with an N. i still love him. hopelessly. i need help...maybe therapy? no one should have to put up with this shit.
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reader, nobody dies of a broken heart  +, writes (19 December 2009):
hey i just went thru the same thing i was with him for 3 years and he cheated on me with some slut from our skool.hey it happens guys dnt kno what they have till its gone. but theres always an up side now im with a guy that treats me ten times better then my ex and yea i still love my ex but love dont mean you got to be hurting cuz that aint love. nd who knows maybe he'll learn and you guys will be back together or you find somebody better. hope everything works out for the best!!!!!
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reader, duce00 +, writes (10 December 2009):
 Being in love will distort your good judgment at 16 or any other age for that matter. Don't think for a second that us "so called adults" have not done similar things. That is a big reason why DC is here in the first place if you think about it.
While you have just made this one mistake in your relationship choice track record you can learn the lesson and have a bright future ahead of you. It will be a little tough initially, I will not fool you about that. What I can promise you is that the pain you feel now is considerably smaller than the pain you will feel later in life by continuing to misjudge men.
Learn and move on my girl!
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reader, askc  +, writes (9 December 2009):
By the way, not much of a friend to do that to you, she must have known how much he meant to you.xx
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reader, askc +, writes (9 December 2009):
Went throught the very same thing at the same age! Broke up with me because I knew I had to, if he did it once whats to say he wouldnt do it again. Was really difficult in the beginning but I was SO much better off and I eventually realised what a loser he is :) Lucky escape... To be honest, it is really difficult in the beginning because you're so in love, but you should cut your losses, it was the best thing I ever did. It gave me a chance to meet some nice guys who actually did give a shit about me :) Best of luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 December 2009):
4 times, and you still love him. Shame, because your loyalty could be used elsewhere. The good news is it will be. Take your time getting over him, make sure you're seeing your friends and keeping busy, and under no circumstances to back to him. You'll get there, and you'll meet a really great guy who will love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): You said it yourself * No one should have to put up with this shit* Your right, he cheated on you not once but four times. Do you think he is going to stop, of course he isn't.
Don't ever let anyone treat you this way.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 December 2009):
Welcome to adulthood.
Unfortunately, love sucks. We all go through this at some point.
Women older and wiser than you stay with horrible men because they "love them." 2 of them a week in the UK get murdered because they didn't walk away from bad boyfriends.
So here is the the most important lesson you can learn, I honestly wish they'd teach this to girls in schools.
LOVE IS NEVER EVER ENOUGH.
If you love him that's great, but if he doesn't make you happy then you WALK AWAY.
It'll hurt like hell and you'll want to give up and go back to him, but if you can get this cracked at 16 then no man will ever be able to hurt you like this again.
You can get over him. Even true love can be gotten over with enough effort.... or at least put away in a box at the back of your head.
There will be other men you will love, ones that are worthy of you and don't act like pathetic little idiots by cheating on you.
Good Luck!! xx
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