I'm a mum of 2 and have met a great guy but cant help cheating with my FWB. How do i move on???
Q. I am a divorced mum of 2 and last year i met a guy who i totally fell in love with. The only thing is, he only wants to see me for sex. He said he enjoys my company but doesnt want a relationship. I know this is wrong but i cant brake the habi...
A. 29 August 2007: Good for you babyblue,
Sounds like you are taking a postitve turn here. Best wishes to both of you (the nice guy I mean) :)... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with looking up skirts! Yes i know, sounds strange, whats going on???
Q. not sure if you could help me.I supose its an addiction.I am obsessed with womens knickers and constantly try to look up womens skirts,even schoolgirls.I know its wrong but i love to see the secrets.one day i will be caught and arrested,am i a ...
A. 29 August 2007: Yup you really should get some professional help on this one. It will save you alot of greif both legal and otherwise. Gosh, I hate to think of what I would do if I saw some man looking up MY daughters skirt. Not a pretty site at all my friend. Seek ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he cant make up his mind what he wants. I've got a plan. What do you think??
Q. Crossroads and a "gentle ultimatum"? So, I have written before (and so appreciate the advice and comments from a caring community, TY!) about my 2+ year relationship with a man who says he doesn't know what he wants, whom I love, whom I believe l...
A. 29 August 2007: Well luvlorn welcome to the human condition. I think most everbody on this site has felt like a fool over a relationship at some point. It is hard to let go of what all those moments appeared to be leading up to but thats exactly what you have to ... (read in full...)
Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends
Q. Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...
A. 29 August 2007: I can tell your a bit peeved on this one. I have alot of female friends because Im a single father and mothers and I relate very well. One thing I did learn from my last relationship is how to respect the person your with and still have female ... (read in full...)
How do I be cool and calm with guys?
Q. What are the best ways to be cool and calm with guys you like? I need all the advice anyone could POSSIBLY get. Different methods and different ways to deal with butterflies. Thanks. Please post answers!!! xxx...
A. 29 August 2007: When I was your age I thought girls didnt really care about guys. I thought we were the goofy, dorky, clumsy fools and they were all sooooooooo cool. I hope you can see the humor in that. I also hope you can see that the boys you like are not really ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to smell a little "down there"?
Q. Hey i know this maybe too much but... I am 15 and am a virgin. I am worried about "down there" as i smell a little. Is this usual in anyway???? Pleasse help, i am worried and feel so dirty!! x...
A. 29 August 2007: Your body is changing. That means smells too my dear. there are some good women who regular this site that will help you out more. Heres a few of the women I see cosistently giving good advice, ask them directly if you like. I would definately trust ... (read in full...)
I was drunk and stoned he took advantage last night what should i do
Q. i was drunk and stoned he took advantage last night what should i do...
A. 29 August 2007: Theres one thing not mentioned here. How old was this guy? I dont know the laws in the UK, but here in the US he would go to jail if he were 18 or older. You seem to have opened yourself up to the possibility of this happening but that doesnt change ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends little daughter wants to know why her parenst split. They have told her she will know when she is older. Do you think this is right?
Q. My boyfriend's daughter who is 7 years old told me she wants to know why her mom and my boyfriend got separated. She doesn't understand why everyone keep telling her they will explain to her when she is 17-18. The truth is her mom had an affair with ...
A. 29 August 2007: Ditto on the last few responses. I have some experience here too. I havnt told my daughter everything about her mother and its considerably worse than your situation. Kids dont need that stress. They do need somthing other than to be stone walled ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to a girl I have never met? Tips??
Q. hello pls how may i talk to agirl i have never met before...
A. 29 August 2007: I may not be the best at this one because even I can be a klutz at meeting women and Im in my 30's. Im a little better now but it took time my friend.
Be kind and genuinely interested in her. Ask her questions. Be confident but not cocky. T... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 29 August 2007: And once again just for old times sake...LOVE MEANS LOYALTY. I cant imagine any sex that is worth risking even a poor relationship. Is there any sex out there that is worth crushing somebody you care for? Is there any sex that is worth wrecking a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends little girl sees me as a threat. I dont want to come between her and her dad. Any advice please?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has a 7 years old daughter. She is from his previous marriage that his wife ran off with another guy. The daughter is now living with the mom who just had a new born baby. I’m in good relationship with my boyfriend’s ...
A. 29 August 2007: hlskitten provided some great input. She is a single mother and she knows whats going on from real experience.
Im a single father raising my daughter on my own and heres my experience for what its worth.
My last GF was really great with my daugh... (read in full...)
I'm scared i wont be good enough in bed so i dont have girlfriends...
Q. I'm scared that i may not be good enough in bed so i refuse to have a gf, is this a stupid excuse, but i feel that if i have sex with a girl hu has had a bf before i may not be able to pleasure her and she will tell everyone....
A. 28 August 2007: Totally understandable for an in-experienced guy your age. I was there once too, so I can totally relate. I will say that its better to wait untill sex actuly means somthing more than the mechanical act of "doing it". I didnt have sex till I was 18 ... (read in full...)
How weird is this?
Q. Well I have a question about my bf. Well we had been dating for about a month or so and we fell for each other and soon after were having sex. The usual. Whatever. Anyways, one time I was at his house and I was sitting across from him on his couch ...
A. 28 August 2007: Not to be crude but it sounds like you have nice breasts. He was probably admiring them and slipped off into fantasy land then... BLAMO! He got snapped back into reality like a bucket of cold water when he got caught. He was simply embarrased. I ... (read in full...)
My partner wants me to move in, but I am worried his damage runs too deep
Q. My partner and I have been together for 7 months. We have a great relationship and he wants us to live together, but I'm having some reservations. You see, he was in a very painful break up with a woman he was engaged to marry. She cheated on him ...
A. 28 August 2007: I think theres no harm in waiting. Whats the rush? 7 months seems a little soon especially considering what hes been through.
I got my ass kicked with regards to trust and I can say that one takes a while to get over. Longer than 7 months for sure... (read in full...)
HELP!
Q. HI, I was hoping someone could give me some advuce. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have a beautiful son, I really love him but I feel like he doesn't love me anymore. We were very very close but I feel like I can't talk to ...
A. 28 August 2007: I remember this from when I was married. Heres a couple things that can help.
#1 Make a date night: Go out, stay in, rent a hotel room, it doesnt really matter. Just spend some kid free time together and do some re-connecting. Sex is great on... (read in full...)
Does my guy have to be well endowed for me to have female ejaculation?
Q. I wanna learn how to squirt for my man does he have to be well endowed for that experience to happen?...
A. 28 August 2007: Whew! Squirting is a hot topic these days. I have limited experience but I do have experience. I dont believe it has much if anything to do with the guys Johnson. Squirting requires oral and manual stimulation in my experience. If you dont mind I ... (read in full...)
I have been with a married man for 6 years, am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship with a married man for six years now. He and his wife were having probs when we met. Eventually he told her about us and she moved out of the house. After a year though she has now moved back in as the kids live...
A. 28 August 2007: Sounds like this guy is getting his cake and eating it too. Maybe you should stop doing all the baking though. Ive said it before. Love means loyalty, without loyalty you dont really have love. You are living an illusion, wake up and start living ... (read in full...)
Whats the aerage size of a penis and do girls say size matters???
Q. This isnt really a question but it is something that bothers me and im guessing, quite alot of other guys. please could you tell me the size of ur penis flacid and erect. as for me im 1.5" flacid and 4.5 in erect. For women please could...
A. 28 August 2007: Did you know that if you search this subject on this site there are 10 billion posts just like it?
Ok I exagerated its probably only in the 20s'. My point is your asking a rather worn out question and getting the same response as has been pos... (read in full...)
I always orgasm during sex, But how do i ejaculate????
Q. I always orgasm, several times during sex, but never squirted ? how do i do this ?...
A. 28 August 2007: Seems like this is a hot subject these days. I will just refer you to a earlier question and my response.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-easy-is-it-to-make-a-girl.html
I have heard others say that there are women who never even cum s... (read in full...)
I need some tips about sex with me on top???
Q. I have a bit of a confidence problem, i have a new partner who is lovely and makes me feel special but when it comes to sex i feel i let him down. ive been sexually active for four years but i still cant go on top and take control as im emba...
A. 28 August 2007: Do what ever feels good. My experience is women prefer to go back and forth or a grinding motion. Its about rubbing the clit and outer labia. I think rythym is important too. Its really nice to go slow so take your time, you can get into the more ... (read in full...)
I'm not very tight down there! I'm worried guys dont like it...
Q. Hi. I am worried. I am sorry if this is too graphic but i feel my vagina is looser than it should be. I've felt a bit embarrased by it. It is far from tight and i am worried men do not like it. I know i can't do anything about it but i feel it is ...
A. 28 August 2007: Look into the kegal exercise. It helps to tighten things up down there. I had a gf that did it and I can say it worked.... (read in full...)
How long should an orgasm last????
Q. I recently only started having sex for the first time. I was wondering why it seems that i only orgasm for like 5 seconds and thats it? is it suppose to last longer? How can i make it last longer? ...
A. 27 August 2007: I think all the suggestions youve gotten are good. The only other one I could add is to give your man some pointers. Us guys do need to know whats working for you girls sometimes and its good to get that physical and verbal communication going. I ... (read in full...)
I'm a mum of 2 and have met a great guy but cant help cheating with my FWB. How do i move on???
Q. I am a divorced mum of 2 and last year i met a guy who i totally fell in love with. The only thing is, he only wants to see me for sex. He said he enjoys my company but doesnt want a relationship. I know this is wrong but i cant brake the habi...
A. 27 August 2007: I agree with hlskitten, but I also can see another side too. It doesnt mean its a healthy side either, and I have been guilty of it myself before. Sometimes you can be attracted to somebody and the sex is GREAT but its going nowhere. Your thinking ... (read in full...)
This guy knows i like him, he has a girlfriend but wants to start seeing me! What shall i do?
Q. okay, well the guy i like is now 16 (im 14) and we've been really close for ages. he always used to flirt with me alot, but i just assumed he was just being a good friend and messing about. But about a year ago i realised i liked him as something...
A. 27 August 2007: Ohhh you are just killing me today hlskitten!!
As for you: Miss, anonymous 13-15 yr old female. Listen to hlskitten (and put her in your friends list if you havnt allready). She is so right.
I can only add that you shouldnt have very high e... (read in full...)
He's got to go to a stag do at a strip club, I'm not happy about it...help!!!
Q. My BF is going for a Bachelore party next month - yeah,that doesnt sound like a big deal to you guys, but to me - I AM GOING NUTS! I don't agree with Strip clubs at all. I don't unerstand why guys go there. To me its the biggest disrespect to th...
A. 27 August 2007: Oops! Sorry I just noticed that it was your BF not your hubbie. Anyhoo I think its all still the same. He loves you and is sensitive to you. Let him be foolish once in a while, cause thats all this is. It has nothing to do with him comparing those ... (read in full...)
He's got to go to a stag do at a strip club, I'm not happy about it...help!!!
Q. My BF is going for a Bachelore party next month - yeah,that doesnt sound like a big deal to you guys, but to me - I AM GOING NUTS! I don't agree with Strip clubs at all. I don't unerstand why guys go there. To me its the biggest disrespect to th...
A. 27 August 2007: I cant give advice about why guys go to strip clubs. Ive never been to one and since Ive gotten most of my youthful thrill seeking BS out of the way, I dont see ever going to one in the future. Thats just my opinion, I think its fine for other guys ... (read in full...)
How easy is it to make a girl ejaculate?
Q. On average how hard is it to make a girl ejaculate? Can it b done by oral sex?...
A. 27 August 2007: Well its not possible on some women so forget about finding the secret technique. Ive only been with one woman who could and it was really amazing and highly erotic, but I dont consider it "the great acheivment" of my skills as a lover. That being ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he cant make up his mind what he wants. I've got a plan. What do you think??
Q. Crossroads and a "gentle ultimatum"? So, I have written before (and so appreciate the advice and comments from a caring community, TY!) about my 2+ year relationship with a man who says he doesn't know what he wants, whom I love, whom I believe l...
A. 27 August 2007: I can tell you have really thought this through. I bet you play a mean game of chess because you have accounted for all the variables. I dont feel like I have the best advice but maybe because its so simple it might be valuable.
Stop being in... (read in full...)
Girls, what would you not like/tolerate in a partner, generally speaking?
Q. All right, so most guys already know what it is women want in a guy, smart, handsome, confident, etc. But a question I don't ever see asked that I think would help out my situation as well as some others is, what don't women want in a guy, what a...
A. 27 August 2007: Great question dude! I cant wait to see the answers. Come on ladies we can use some honest input here.... (read in full...)
Will the size of my manhood affect having children?
Q. My manhood size is 3 cm , when i be hot becomes 10 cm , i am 26 old , i want to know if i can get kids or not....
A. 27 August 2007: Dear 10cm Dad to be,
Excuse me for being such an American and converting 10cm to inches. Its a "short" coming of my nation, hopefully we will finally adopt metric one day. So that means your about 4 inches when erect, right? Well my friend you migh... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and i tried making out with my guy but i thought it was gross! Is this normal for the first time?
Q. I'm 13 and my boyfriend and i tried making-out for the first time. It was my first time making-out with anyone ever. when we started i thought it was gross then i just got up and walked away. I know that was stupid of me and i shouldnt have done...
A. 27 August 2007: I remember my first kiss...wow what a sloppy train wreck that was!
Kissing is incredibly enjoyable for both parties once you get the hang of it. If he is sloppy or crazy with the tongue its no good.
Dont feel ashamed for walking away. It... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and i tried making out with my guy but i thought it was gross! Is this normal for the first time?
Q. I'm 13 and my boyfriend and i tried making-out for the first time. It was my first time making-out with anyone ever. when we started i thought it was gross then i just got up and walked away. I know that was stupid of me and i shouldnt have done...
A. 27 August 2007: I remember my first kiss...wow what a sloppy train wreck that was!
Kissing is incredibly enjoyable for both parties once you get the hang of it. If he is sloppy or crazy with the tongue its no good.
Dont feel ashamed for walking away. It... (read in full...)
I lied to him in the past, now he doesnt treat me well!
Q. hello out there..my ? is this..we have been 2gether 2 yrs I love him, but i have lied in the past (not anymore) he says we are done. He knows the lies, for awhile i used drugs, i was caught by him, they were to take away the pain of him reje...
A. 27 August 2007: Listen to Reina, shes on the mark once again. Think about your child, your his whole world and he needs you to be strong. Forget the BF, accept your mistakes, heal yourself and keep moving forward. Even if you cant muster it for yourself do it for ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and want to ask out a 17 year old boy, is there anything wrong with this?
Q. I'm a 21 year old female and have a crush on a 17 year old boy. He acts very mature for his age and he has made it quite clear that he wants to hook up with me. Is there a problem with going for him?...
A. 27 August 2007: The main problem will be buying him alcohol. Ohhhh your in Canada maybe its different there...
Ok I will be serious now...sorry!
So is he living with his parents? Thats an issue for sure. If hes on his own at 17 then he is definately matur... (read in full...)
Why do people call me ugly????
Q. People always call me ugly every single day,either that or they ignore me or are really nasty to me.I personally don't think I am ugly(I don't think I'm beautiful but I would definatly say I am attractive at the least) but no one else seems to think ...
A. 27 August 2007: I think ugly is a better description for peoples behavior than theyre appearance. In this case its the people around you that are ugly. Trust me in time your beauty will shine through. The school years are usually difficult though. I was a goofy, ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and have no confidence! Ant advice please?
Q. I'm a 18 year old female. I have no confidence in myself, i hate goin out anywhere. Any advice please?...
A. 27 August 2007: You might want to get some counseling. You didnt expand much but my guts are telling me that maybe its more than a confidence issue. Have you considered depression? Not wanting to go outside is a big indicator that there is a chemical imbalance. You ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of everyone calling me fat, what can I do?
Q. why is fat the onli thing people can throw at me?? i am not overly big but not really too slim im 15 im 5ft 6 and size 14 clothes, and i am personally happy with the way i look. boys compliment me, friends compleient me and i am quite popular....
A. 27 August 2007: Ugghhh I so dislike people attacking other peoples weight issues. Its so dammed pathetic and a total cheap shot. You dont even sound heavy to me. Try not to let this get under your skin. You are still quite young and your body hasnt really settled ... (read in full...)
How can I read his texts? He is sending suggestive texts to other women!
Q. Can anyone out there with a recent Sony Ericcson cellphone instruct me how to open the text message box and go to the in box to read the texts. I tried to do it today but couldnt quite work out the keys. My boyfriend recently changed his phone and ...
A. 27 August 2007: I have been in a similar situation but it was with her computer. Heres my perspective on it. If the issue is real and not just your own fears getting the best of you then its a real problem. Keeping occasional contact with an ex is not horrible as ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and due to have a baby in 8 months. Have i still got a good future?
Q. I am sixteen years old and i am going to be having a baby in 8 months. can i still have a good future ahead for me and my baby?...
A. 27 August 2007: You have started adulthood rather young but that doesnt mean your life is over. You definately have some trying years ahead of you. Babies are alot of work but when they get past 3 or 4 it starts to get alot easier. My daughter is 10 now and its ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and am wondering if i am a lesbian, I flirt with girls all the time, Is this normal?
Q. Hey , Please help me because I think Im a Lesbain. I like Boys and All but Recently Ive had Feelings for Girls!! Im 13 and had loads of boyfriends but I have feelings for other girls. Please help me because Im flirting with them all the time...
A. 26 August 2007: Id listen to Reina,
Furthermore, maybe you flirt with girls because its safer. Boys at your age can be a little too hormonal and immature to deal with it. Remember that girls grow and mature more quickly than boys. Its a simple fact. I guess if I wa... (read in full...)
I love my guy but i want to cheat on him with an older man.
Q. I love my man but i love to cheat with an older greyer greeneyed man. He is well endowed and my guy isnt. Why am i attracted to older men? Im in my 30's He is in his mid forties-fifties ....
A. 26 August 2007: Hi curiousblue,
Your description says your 51-59 yet you say your in your 30's. Judging by your comments Im wondering if your not considerably younger than even that. What ever your real age may be your behavior is definately juvanile. Cheating is c... (read in full...)
What is the average age to lose your virginity?
Q. what is the average age to lose your virginity? it's just that i'm a 20 year old male and i haven't had sex ever. yet when someone asked when i lost my virginity and i said i hadn't they called me a weirdo. am i quite old not to have had sex?...
A. 26 August 2007: Ahh yes the peer pressure to be a sexually active guy. Sure your friends may be active and sure the TV is telling you to go out and be a stone cold player, even society at large makes it seem like you should be getting down all day long in your ... (read in full...)
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