To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 30 October 2009: Holy hot buttons!!
Well we are really getting the party started on this one eh? I think it would be great to have a completely anonymous accounting of those that cheated and why. Obviously in a different post. The faithful people always mention ... (read in full...)
How can I be more assertive, to people outside of my family?
Q. How can I be assertive to people outside my family. At school people pick with me a lot and I don't do anything because i'll get nervous and scared. With family people I can get mad and assertive fast. I tried to act like the people at school are my ...
A. 30 October 2009: I like the Karate idea. One of the reasons I have continued to work out is I carry myself with more confidence. This will show and you will find that the energy you project is strong and not passive. You wont even have to say anything, its just an ... (read in full...)
Should I let her past bug me?
Q. I found out that the women that i am dating for 6 mths has had 22 men in her past,some where relationships of 1 to 2 yrs in length but most where only a few mths in length and then she tells me that she has had 4 one nite stands.She is 35 yrs old ...
A. 30 October 2009: Well..she actually knows the number of men she has been with, first good sign. She was mostly monogamous even if it was short, second good sign. She was honest with you about it, third good sign (and most important). My friend, I would say that i... (read in full...)
To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 29 October 2009: "Guy gene"?? Ouch!! That one smarts a bit, but after reading up on it a bit you do have a point. From what I learned men do cheat more than women based on the statistics (and we all know that statistics never lie right?) Take a look at one link I ... (read in full...)
I can't shake these feelings!
Q. I have been in a relationship for two and a half years. My BF has a kid. I don't want to be around her nor do I want him to bring her to my house. It really hurts him and I know it. I know what I'm saying is wrong but I can't shake my feelings about ...
A. 27 October 2009: You did not say why you feel the way you do. Is the girl really crappy to you? Do you just hate kids? I am a single father and you can guess my opinion on the whole thing but to be fair, maybe you could clarify the situation for us even if it is not ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair on my husband?
Q. Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...
A. 27 October 2009: This is one of the most difficult questions I have ever seen. I will not pretend to have any insight or tell you right from wrong. Despite the conflicting and painful situation you have a very good head on your shoulders.
Here is what I can prom... (read in full...)
Started as a purely sexual relationship. Now she has feelings and I want to bail!
Q. I'm in a sexual relationship with a woman that had stated from the beginning that all that she was looking for was for fulfilment. OK, with me. What man will turn a foxy woman down? Not many!! Anyway we have been having our weekend get together-s at ...
A. 27 October 2009: Despite my inexperience with purely sexual relationships I have observed that they never seem to end with the same mutual understanding they start with. AuntyEm was right about it being the woman who tends to get emotionally attached.
If I may be... (read in full...)
Why has my husband stopped being affectionate with me?
Q. I wonder why my husband stopped being affectionate with me. He never looks at me,or touching me. He also losing his erections,but no medical problems. I asked him why is that, but he says ,he loves me,and I have no reason to worry. But I do ...
A. 27 October 2009: I feel that there is some information missing here. Do you have kids and a demanding home life? Is he in a high stress job or situation? Is there some unresolved tension between you guys?
Try thinking about this stuff first before you personal... (read in full...)
How long on average does a guy last in bed?
Q. Just a quick question, for guys or girls, probably mainly for the guys but, how long on average do you last in bed? I haven't had sex for a while and it's getting to the point I'm avoiding it because I'm afraid I'm going to be premature and get ...
A. 27 October 2009: You can also use all your other talents (oral, hands, sensuality, pillow talk, etc) to please her. You are focusing on performance and I do understand that, but this is not meant to be a sport my friend. I think the ladies are trying to get a really ... (read in full...)
Husband angry because while seperated I slept with someone else
Q. My Husband and I were separated. While separated I slept with someone else. I now am trying to get him back. How do I keep my husband. He read some stuff on my computer and got very angry. Again we were separated. What do I do ?...
A. 27 October 2009: I was in a very similar situation once. Even though we were not married we got pretty close. Not to down you but I must be dead honest with you from a pretty well experienced position on this one. Its a deal breaker, and most men and women I know ... (read in full...)
My step father pushed me into having sex, should I tell my mother? It could give her the strength to leave him.
Q. I have a serious question that needs your opinion. Was I raped or sexualy abused by my step father? It started when I was 15. He and my mother were dating for just a few months at the time and he sorta slept over alot. One day It snowed so much ...
A. 19 September 2007: Yes you were raped and, yes you should tell your family. The way you were manipulated and emotionally blackmailed doesnt change what happened. The fact that you arnt sure if you were violated only shows how much damage has been done to you. This man ... (read in full...)
How many times a week should a guy in my position masturbate in a week?
Q. Am really wondering how often somebody without a partner especially a boy(20-25yrs) should mustarbate in a week if its right at all...
A. 18 September 2007: Clearly you arnt going to get a solid answer here. There just isnt a formula for this my friend. If you come up with one, it will only apply to you. Everbody is different.
I can only suggest that if you are fondling your Johnson many times a ... (read in full...)
She laughed of my body as we were getting intimate. What should I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were "getting in the mood", but when I dropped my pants she laughed and said I was small. What should I do?...
A. 18 September 2007: I think you could find more warmth and depth in a mud puddle than what this girl has to offer.
Try not to let the sting of this one last too long my friend. Another girl will come along and put you fears to rest. There are plenty of them out ther... (read in full...)
Why do some girls judge on the size of the penis?
Q. Does penis size reallly matter to girls? I have heard that medium to smaller is better, but then how poeple make fun of the small ones? Why do some girls judge on the size of the penis? its not like men have control over what size penis we get. Its ...
A. 18 September 2007: Ahhhhh yes, the penis size issue once again!
You did pose your question quite well and far more articulate than others Ive seen. You really should try a site search on this subject if you dont feel that the advice youve gotten here is enough. ... (read in full...)
Is sex really a part of a relationship?
Q. sex?is that part of relationship?...
A. 18 September 2007: Sex is a fundamental part of a relationship in my opinion. When you are totally in love its somthing more that just sex though. The physical interaction when you make love to somebody whom you are in love with makes sex seem like childs play.
... (read in full...)
My wife of 27 yrs wants us to live apart. Can I reverse this situation? I don't know what to do anymore?
Q. I'v been married for 27 years which has been good but with the normal up and downs you get. My wife told me she does not love me any more and wants to live apart. We have adult children, both live away from home and they do not know of the ...
A. 18 September 2007: Obviously there were some things being left unsaid. Im sure if you reflect on the past a little more you will see some hints as to how your marriage got to this point. Werent there some conversations, arguments or ongoing problems?
I believe ... (read in full...)
How can I balance between disciplining my bf's daughter and being liked by her at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter (age 7) from his previous marriage. She lives with her mom and I get to see her every other weekends. His daughter likes me a lot, but sometimes I don’t know how to say no to her. She likes to play rough with my boyfriend ...
A. 12 September 2007: What you are dealing with is very important and I can see that you understand the gravity of setting patterns in behavior with children. Its really good that you can see that. Many people lack that foresight.
First of all: Have you discusse... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 12 September 2007: Your right to steer clear of this girl. Sorry dude, but I havnt yet seen any redeeming qualities in her yet. At her best of times she seems tollerable.
Theres so many great women in this big 'ol world. Get out there and meet one!
Duce ... (read in full...)
What do men think about a women asking them out?
Q. I am 36, female and single. I got chatting to this great guy who's single and 38, i felt that he liked me. I then asked him out on a date and he said Yes. What do men think about a women asking them out? ...
A. 12 September 2007: I personally dont care for the classical ideas of dating and the whole male in control thing. I like a woman who knows what she wants and isnt afraid to ask for it. It doesnt sound like Im alone here either. Like others said, that book you are ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be sexually involved with his sister!
Q. im feling totally diasturbed! i have a boyfriend of 4 yrs who has a sister that is 3 yrs older than him ( she's 24 ) and i think they are sexually involved. no. 1 they sleep in the bed together and thinks its totally okay! shes totally okay with ...
A. 11 September 2007: I agree, that sounds creepy. Theres some weird dysfunction going on there for sure. Hard to say if its actually incest but I dont think its healthy. I dount think I could ever feel comfortable in your shoes. I also dont think this is a situation ... (read in full...)
My guy seems to have no emotion and I always feel like sex is a one night stand with him. Does he love me?
Q. i love him but i feel sex doesnt mean anything to him as it does me he was my first and i was hes 14th that he had been with like its no big deal i ask him to make love then he gets into it saying aww i really cant wait to get u off as i...
A. 9 September 2007: Sorry, but it may be that you are learning a hard lesson here. Getting used for sex. Thats what it sounds like to me.
Your not the first to deal with this. Theres alot of folks here who now the story well. The same advice applies to you.
RESP... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for my girlfriend's daughter! What should I do?
Q. I'm 29 and have strong feelings for my 33 year old girlfriends 17 year old daughter. I keep trying to forget about these feelings, but I can't! What should I do?...
A. 9 September 2007: If you were happy with your GF this wouldnt be an issue. Her daughter is just the target for your wandering eye. Frankly I think you need to get out my friend.
If there ever was a problem between you and the daughter the wrath of her mother c... (read in full...)
We all played spin the bottle and I ended up having sex! Help!
Q. i had a birthday party yesterday, well it was my mums birthday party and all my family came and all my mums friends came. me and my cousin got very drunk and we went upstairs out of the way, we was playing spin the bottle and the things where gettin ...
A. 9 September 2007: That sounds like a really rough experience. You asked about how to forget what happened and Im sorry but my advice is to REMEMBER what happened. You have learned a very good lesson here and your lucky that the incident didnt leave you in bigger ... (read in full...)
My cross dressing partner and I made love and it blew me away! In fact it was the single most exciting sexual experience I've ever had in my life!!!
Q. hi, Could I get some advice about my current relationship with my cross dressing partner? I've just come to terms with his female side alicia, at 6ft 5inch tall and 6ft8ish with his heels fantastic legs and a figure even us women should be jealous ...
A. 8 September 2007: If you are in a happy relationship and he gives you the love and respect you deserve, then I'd say SO WHAT!
Sure you feel awkward and you have some issues with abuse in the past but that shouldnt be a reason to feel bad about your love life any more... (read in full...)
My bloke is moving away and someone else has asked me out. Should I go?
Q. Hi everyone I really hope you can help. I have been seeing a guy from work for a few months, we get on great and I really enjoy spending time with him but it has been fairly casual as he is moving away in a few weeks for a new job. I have hinted ...
A. 8 September 2007: Your situation isnt really complicated. It may not be easy but it IS simple.
You shouldnr be dating somebody new until your out of the last relationship. I know everything is "casual" right now but you need to treat these guys the way YOU would wa... (read in full...)
My husband left last night. Its our daughters christening on sunday, how do I tell the family whats happened?
Q. My husband left me last night. We had a furious row where lots of things in the past were dragged up. He says he's going up north. I am left here with four children, his business to run and I don't know how I'm going to cope. On Sunday it's our ...
A. 8 September 2007: Maybe this is the best time to tell your family. I didnt say it would be easy though. While I dont know the content of your argument I dont agree with walking out on your family like that under anything but the absolute WORST circumstances. It takes ... (read in full...)
Since I started college, I find it hard to make new friends and feel that people judge me over the clothes I wear, any advice?
Q. Hi I started college last week and it didnt go amazingly well.The other girls seem to have grouped off already.Being a shy person anyway I find it hard to make new friends and I don't know what to do. I really would like friends because at breaktim...
A. 8 September 2007: Sorry your feeling blue right now dear. I have been transplanted and had to build up a new base of friends before too. Its not easy, but like your boyfriend said it takes time.
The school girls who may be looking down theyre noses at you right now ... (read in full...)
Condoms turn me off but my new girl insists I wear one. How can I get my erection to last longer with one?
Q. after about six months of dating me and my girl stopped using a condom, we have just stopped dating after about a year and a half. after not using a condom for that long i cant get back in the swing of things and the new girl im interested in ...
A. 7 September 2007: Condoms just suck, I agree. There are herbal supplements like L-arginine and yohimbe that can help youre erections and arousal. Ive tried them and they were good but not dramatic. Do some homework on those they arnt hard to find. Also check into a ... (read in full...)
I can no longer satisfy my wife... Will THIS help?...
Q. my wife no longer enjoys intercourse with me because i can no longer satisfy her.i am getting older and started taking medication.my penis is no longer big enough to satisfy her .we both like other forms of sex but she still needs intercourse once ...
A. 7 September 2007: Sorry to hear about your troubles. They are not uncommon as Im sure you know.
First off, you didnt say erectile dysfunction, you mentioned size. I got a little confused because if you are getting erections but the meds make you smaller then its... (read in full...)
If a man is exposed to attractive females, will he value his girlfriend less? Answers from men please..
Q. If a man is exposed to a lot of attractive females or is exposed to the constant media of actresses, lingerie models, porn stars, etc, will he see his girlfriend as less attractive and/or value her less? The article below seems to say that this is ...
A. 7 September 2007: Interesting article,
I would say there might be some truth to it but its still not a thorough study. Its probably accurate like crime statistics are. The numbers dont tell the whole story.
Can you imagine what happens to the guys who are "ch... (read in full...)
I'm trying to leave him, but he won't let me go. What do I do?
Q. I AM TRYING TO LEAVE HIM ALONE BUT HE WANT LEAVE ME ALONE WHAT DO I DO?...
A. 7 September 2007: TRY TO USE LOWER CASE FIRST OFF!!
It feels like your shouting at us when you use all caps. See how much nicer reading this text is? Ahhhhhh
Sorry dear, but despite our best efforts we lack the psychic ability to understand problem with out... (read in full...)
Is my mum's doctor coming onto her?? Is this normal??
Q. please could i get some very much needed help and advice regarding my mum and her doctor ,for a month now my mum who is a good looking woman for her age 59,has been visiting her doctor,regarding feeling low and down and finding things a bit tough ...
A. 7 September 2007: This is difficult. The easiest thing is to just get a different doc. If you mum wants to file a complaint she can but he may just as easily fight it and say there was some kind of confusion. Here in the states a doctor can loose theyre liscense to ... (read in full...)
I want to marry her, but she's always breaking my heart. How can I keep her?
Q. i have a bab which i love her so much and i want to marry her but she is alway break my heart, what do i do to stay with her?...
A. 7 September 2007: We need a little more information my friend.
People can get theyre hearts broken alot of different ways. Is she unfaithful? Does she yell at you? Is she a drug addict? Or does she just hate your favorite soccer team?
See, we have no idea wha... (read in full...)
How can I rid myself of this jealousy before I kill our relationship?
Q. I separated from my husband almost 18 months ago but have to remain in the same house due to financial pressures. Just after we separated I became more than friendly with a man I'd known from a distance, he told me he too was separated although I ...
A. 7 September 2007: So you love a man who is living with his ex? You are living with your ex? And your worried abut your new man having an affair at work? Wow, that is complicated!
There seems to be only one answer to this. Both you and your ex need to be free of ... (read in full...)
How can I get over his affair?
Q. Hi, I sent you email months ago when I was told my husband was having an affair, I got a lot of help from your answers, but I'm still in doubt... we have decided to try and build our marriage, my husband told me everything, he is not seeing her ...
A. 7 September 2007: You have definately got alot to process. Rebuilding trust takes time. I was talking to another aunt about some of my trust issues. She passed on a site and Im passing it on to you. It made me reconsider some things but it also focuses on infidelity ... (read in full...)
My girfriend has a small gap in her front teeth, and when she gives me head, my frenulum gets trapped there and it tugs, and it hurts!
Q. This might sound really stupid but it's a serious problem for me. My girfriend has a small gap in her front teeth, and when she gives me head, my frenulum gets trapped there and it tugs, and it hurts! I don't want her to think she's bad at oral sex ...
A. 7 September 2007: Communication dude!
Just tell her the same thing you told us. Maybe lay off the gap in her teeth as the high point in the conversation though. Focus on letting her know tht you like her blow jobs "except fo one little thing".
Blow jobs sho... (read in full...)
Do girls enjoy giving oral sex?
Q. Do girls actually like giving oral sex to guys or what? So many girls seem to have a real issue with it, like feeling subservient or degraded or something. But they don’t have any problem getting it!? What is all this double standards? I...
A. 6 September 2007: Great question and great responses!
I am choosing to focus on the "double standard" comment.
Its not totally uncommon to encounter lovers who are somewhat selfish. Ive had a couple. This may be the case for you. Theres usually some indicators ... (read in full...)
I never really enjoy oral sex...how do I approach my partner??
Q. I've just started dating a really nice guy and our relationship is progressing to a more intimate stage. My problem is oral sex. I've suffered with various ailments around that part of my body since I had my son 14 years ago and I've never really ...
A. 6 September 2007: There are two things here. The psychological and the physical. The wise and well learned women here have covered both quite well. I will only add onto the psychological aspect.
When the time comes and if your both ready just take it slow. Gu... (read in full...)
How can I change how my erection behaves?
Q. I tend to lose my erection after I cum. It comes back if my g/f gives me head, but I wanted to know Is there anyway to change this?...
A. 6 September 2007: Thats pretty normal, but it sounds like you want to be "better than normal". OK, thats easy. Dont cum so quick and make your girl cum at least twice before you do. Your dick will still need a rest but she wont usually mind. Start the whole thing ... (read in full...)
Just before he's ready to "cum" he pulls out and finishes up himself. Why???
Q. I need a mans word on this. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We have sex about 5 times a week and great sex, but just before he's ready to "cum" pardon the language, he pulls out and finishes up himself. We talked about ...
A. 6 September 2007: Hmmm...Im thinking it could be a couple things. None of them have to do with you so dont feel weird.
The somewhat silly but first thought is he just likes to see himself cum on you. Maybe its from watching too much porn or somthing. Its somthing... (read in full...)
Why can I never orgasm during sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have just recently started having sex. He's the first person I've slept with, so the experience is still kinda new to me. I enjoy having sex with him and he's very sweet and loving the whole time and really tries to please me. I ...
A. 6 September 2007: This has been a rather common question lately, dont feel alone. I will just give you some direct experience that may help.
My last girlfriend was quite similar. No orgasm without clitoral stimulation its just how she was wired, it had allways been... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 4 September 2007: Ok, some elaboration on what I meant by "finding out for her self".
It is my opinion and experience that looks dont count for very much all by themself. Infact, women who are stunning to look at are often less than interesting to talk to or be ar... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 4 September 2007: There has been more than one question along this line of thinking lately. Im with hlskitten and probably most other people that will read this. What matters is how the chemistry is.
For example: My last girlfriend got over the strange hump on ... (read in full...)
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